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I'm gonna be real with you, i don't think weirdo kinksters should be considered acceptable collateral damage when banks/credit card companies enforce adult content bans on sites like patreon and ko-fi

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I've said this before and I'll say it again: it's more important to know and understand fully why something is harmful than it is to drop everything deemed problematic. It's performative and does nothing. People wonder why nobody has critical thinking skills and this is part of it because no one knows how to simousltansly critique and consume media. You need to use discernment.

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Please participate in my research (also, if you say other, please put it in the tags/comments !)

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Local man has $8 to last him the month. Happy pride I am so scared.

Kofi takes PayPal, stripe, Apple Pay. So many things.

https://ko-fi.com/paradoxproductions

Cashapp: $137islands

I don’t even know what to say anymore. I’m so tired of begging but it’s all I can do until the government steps in and fucking approves my disability paperwork. It’s been 5 months of waiting, so I hope I hear back soon. I’m so scared and I can’t get food from the foodbank until the 10th.

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God. I’m gonna have to update that google doc of all the shit the upstairs ppl at my old place did bc it’s NEVER ENDING !! They are at this point preventing us from getting any of our shit by physically intimidating us and banging near constantly. We still need money to move some stuff since doing it by bus is… agony. It’s a two hour round trip and we can’t take anything large, so otherwise we have to do it via cab. I’m so tired of it yall I just want to have our shit out. We were supposed to be out already aughghgh if anyone can spare anything this pride month, so I can try and get some of my shit moved, some food, or pay my phone bill it’s always appreciated. As always, my commissions are open and I’m open to discounts. Including on emoji packs at this point.

https://ko-fi.com/paradoxproductions/commissions

And my cashapp is $137islands

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Are they ‘trauma dumping’ or are they just discussing their life experience and you are such an asshole that you can’t stand to be confronted with information that makes you uncomfortable for 0.005 seconds???

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“Jobless behavior” when referring to people who are absolutely deranged on the internet is so far removed from reality like I guarantee you most people who are obsessively unhinged have a job that is driving them to become absolutely insane because they are miserable and likely don’t have the energy to do much outside of whatever outlet they’re using to take their frustrations out on the internet. Employed behavior

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disability and chronic illness and whatnot are really complicated sometimes and can result in a lot of complicated, messy feelings, but the pervasiveness of ableism and the fact being disabled doesn't exempt you from participating in it (yes, including on a violent interpersonal and an also an institutional level, as there are disabled people that work in the very healthcare system that neglects and violates many of us! there are disabled people that work as caregivers who are capable of abusing that power!) makes it important to discern whether you need to be airing out those messy feelings in public vs. working through them on a private level, not just for your own sake

people with terminal cancer, ALS, etc. aren't somehow "luckier" than those with PASC/long covid for having research and awareness and they aren't automatically treated well or taken seriously despite what one might assume

obligate wheelchair-users aren't "lucky" for having no choice but to navigate a world that is built for ambulatory people with a mobility device that is expensive/difficult to acquire, requires routine maintenance, can wind up damaged and destroyed, etc. and bars them off from being able to participate in all the same areas of life as the able-bodies because - again - society is physically constructed with ambulatory people in mind

people with visible disabilities aren't "lucky" for being recognized as having something "wrong" with them by other people (because "visible disability" does not necessarily mean others thinking "oh that person is a real disabled," it's more complex than that)

someone having a very visible aspect of their disability like a limb difference doesn't mean their disability can be reduced to just that limb difference (e.g. there are a lot of ways someone might end up medically needing an amputation, including forms of chronic illness, like diabetes leading to nerve damage, leading to infected wounds that then can't heal properly!)

having assumptions made about your intelligence or "mental age" by strangers based off visible aspects of disability is 100% a form of ableism but there are ways of discussing and addressing this that don't contribute to ableism against people who are genuinely intellectually disabled (some of whom might have the same condition you're talking about!)

autistic people who require caregivers for survival aren't somehow privileged compared to autistic people who can live independently but get burnt out, living independently = not having to worry about getting abused or violated or neglected by people you have no choice but to depend on to feed you, bathe you, attend to medical equipment, clean your living space to prevent bugs or mold, etc.

i also highly doubt sensory disabled people are automatically taken seriously in terms of "oh they're actually disabled" either, even people with total vision or hearing loss, so excluding sensory disabled people from the label of "invisible disability" (in cases where it isn't accompanied by visible disability, like strabismus impacting vision) based on that is purely something out of ignorance

too many people in online disability spaces (physical or psychiatric) actively spit on other highly vulnerable groups of disabled people by saying/doing these things and it needs to end, especially as the overton window continues shifting to the right when it comes to ableism in the western world and elsewhere

and don't sit around waiting to be corrected and instead deliberately expose yourself to the experiences of disabled people whose lives are unlike yours and are continuously shut down in online (and offline) spaces, which is part of the reason these prejudices and misconceptions exist in the first place; if we don't have solidarity, then we have nothing

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im going crazy you have GOT to decouple romance/amatonormativity and marriage in your mind. you have GOT to understand that marriage is a legal document that protects you from exploitation especially if you are a woman or a stay-at-home anything. it is not some evil unique to heterosexual people. it is a legal document that says 'this is who i want in my hospital room when i die, this is who i want to have my stuff when i die, THIS PERSON OWES ME RECOMPENSE IF THEY KICK ME OUT OF THE HOUSE I LIVE IN"

You are not immune to being taken advantage of by your partner if you are queer. do not wind up homeless because your garbage live-ins name is on the lease and they decided to drop you like hot coals.

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Health advice. If you ever find yourself craving pickles, it’s because pickles r good.

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Butter is not bad for you. Sugar is not bad for you. A well balanced diet is full of lipids and carbohydrates, simple and complex. The simple fact of containing a fat or sugar is true of any food you eat. Your body needs these things.

The healthiest diet is- a variety of simple and complex carbohydrates, something you enjoy eating, and lots of different ingredients with different nutrients.

You don’t have to eat nothing but kale smoothies and bran bars to be healthy. That’s just what the kale smoothie and bran bars salespeople want you to think.

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"Femininity is rewarded!" "No, masculinity is rewarded!"

You're both wrong. It's perceived gender conformity that's actually rewarded.

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I wish I knew how to make a text based game, would make a bunch of short branching narrative games.

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I am so tired of people using the existence of disability as an excuse for bad behavior. It kind of smacks of ableism when someone acts rude and unrepentant about being rude everyone goes "but what if theyre neurodivergent???" It makes it obvious that in their mind, neurodivergent=rude.

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It's so weird to me when people are like 'but that will cost the government money!' So what? They're the government, they're supposed to be spending money. What, you want them to take your tax dollars and then do nothing with it? Lock it all up in a big government vault and just look at it? Why are you so scared of giving a third grader lunch or a homeless person a house.

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Everyone should be entitled to a free little treat once per day when they leave the house. A hot beverage, a cookie, whatever. You should have government issued daily tokens and you should be able to go into a shop or a cafe and pick what you like and take it to the counter and hand them your token and say "this is my free little daily treat" and then you don't have to pay for it. please vote for me as your local mp in the next general election.

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it's kinda crazy what a common experience it is for like your parents to do something insanely traumatizing to you and then just not remember they did it at all while you remember forever