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On the subject about parents needing to control their child's reading and invade their privacy in order to "protect" them from "inappropriate material:

Until I was in....college? At least? The vast, vast majority of the books I read were either a) assigned by my school or b) (the vast majority of my reading) provided to me by my mother.

My mom is a librarian. She filled our rooms with books, picked especially for us. She pointed out books on the shelves in our home library (separate from our bedroom shelves) that she thought we would like. She bought us books for birthdays, Christmas, and just stacks of recommendations. She once paid me $10 to read one of the Cirque Du Freak books because she said I needed "to be exposed to bad literature."

She respected my privacy in room, didn't go through my belongings. She explicitly pointed out to us that she wouldn't know if we took a particular book of the shelf, as long as we returned it, if we didn't want her to know we were reading it. She purposely brought us books that she didn't care for herself, because she thought we might find them valuable or enjoyable.

And if we wanted to read something she thought might upset or disturb us, she would explain why. She wouldn't stop us from reading it - just ask us to check in with her, to talk through it.

And so when I read something that upset or disturbed me, I would go to her. She would listen and talk through it with me.

If she said she didn't think I would like something, or that a book might disturb me, or that she thought I should wait until I was older, I listened to her.

She didn't need restrictions or control to protect me. Because she proved I could trust her.

Controlling kids is never about "protecting" them. It's just about control.

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reblog this to put a leaf on your mutuals head

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Girl help I’m at the function but my friends got overstimulated and left what do I dooooo

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Dude So many 12’s

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I'm not seeing a downside with that last review

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Biting is my love language, if I bite you it's because I love you

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OMG MY NEW SHOES CAME :3 ignore my ugly house arrest ankle bracelet. haha

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Did a 2000s scene look for a Y2K themed party!

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gerard in san francisco: oouupppss did i say election last week?? i meant execution haha😅😅 silly me😊😊

gerard in new jersey:

LETS FUCKING KILL SOME PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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all in moderation except the urge to dress like a freak

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LOOK AT HIM MONCHING THAT SPAGHETI

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guess who’s going to see MRC AGAIN bc my roommate and I are ditching college for it :D

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being so staunchly anti generative ai while everyone around you is "i used chatgpt" and "i asked grok" and google search is useless and every company is implementing ai and every single celeb is taking ai money and partnering with ai is like... it's so jarring. why can't you see the harm like i can? why are you so lazy? why are we making society this stupid? can we please stop? it's killing people does that not matter to you?

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the masculine feminine and frankly universal urge to become a massive fucking dragon

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this is what i mean when i say "sniles so sneetly" btw

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