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So one of our new vocabulary words is “malus”, meaning “bad”, and I asked my students if they could think of any English derivatives, telling them that just about any English word that begins with M-A-L is going to mean something “bad”.

I’m expecting stuff like: malice, malcontent, malnourished, or even malware or Maleficent.

Instead I get this one girl in the back of the room say “male” with the most dead-eyed expression.

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The greatest video since “The History of Japan”

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This Restaurant Has The Wildest Wing Pricing Structure And People Are Doing Math To Try To Figure It Out

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old people really need to learn how to text accurately to the mood they’re trying to represent like my boss texted me wondering when my semester is over so she can start scheduling me more hours and i was like my finals are done the 15th! And she texts back “Yay for you….” how the fuck am i supposed to interpret that besides passive aggressive

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I’m fucking dying. I got roasted in the best way possible.

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Neil Gaiman’s 8 Rules of Writing, a remake of this post. Source.

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it hurts to know when you’re not worth anything in your band. that feeling when you play a common instrument that a bunch of people also play. when you aren’t the most talented. that if you were to quit it wouldn’t make a difference to the band/orchestra, your director, or anybody else for that matter. when you could easily be replaced by somebody else. it hurts to be useless to something you love doing

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this is what we’re talking about when we say that transmisogynists are literally trying to get trans girls killed. 

They locked a fucking child out of safety during their drill. During their drill, when no one was panicked, when they had time to develop a proper plan and work through whatever bullshit transphobic implicit bias they had. And they still made the call that she didn’t deserve safety. As part of the plan. 

This is blatant, systemic transmisogyny. Fuck everyone who wants to hurt little girls just because they’re trans. Y’all are literal demons. 

I’m disgusted. 

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It’s Mormon conference weekend, which happens twice a year, and is when all the Mormons stay in and listen to new talks given by their leaders all day long on Saturday and Sunday. It’s consequently also a very scary time for the gay community in Utah, and the whole weekend we often send and receive lots of texts checking in, making sure everyone’s okay, asking if they’ve heard the latest awful talk condemning us. There’s real world applications to everything that happens there. Parents are “moved” to disown their children, coworkers and friends and neighbors are reminded to Other us and treat us accordingly. Suicide rates increase significantly. I remember the year after they announced children of gay parents would have to formally disown them before they’d be welcome in the church, and for two weeks afterward a group chat updated the gay community in my area almost every day with a handful of names who were not longer with us. A talk just concluded that said confusing both your gender identity and your gender role is the influence of Satan, which is deeply harmful to young trans kids and to young women. This isn’t a fun or sexy post for your timeline it just sucks and I hate Mormons and I can feel how difficult this next week is going to be as a result.

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Did you guys make/post that FTM social transition masterpost yet? Reeeally need it, would really appreciate it

I haven’t yet, because I’m the only active mod atm and I’m really busy with school. I’m sorry about that. Once again, I’m gonna post this for followers and hope I have some free time soon to make that post.

For now, 

- Talk slower and more monotone. Not to the point that you sound like a robot, but slow enough that your voice doesn’t get high pitched and excited.

- Guys tend to be more blunt, and in my experience, talk more about hobbies than feelings. Close guy friends will talk about feelings, but they don’t get in a huge group and discuss feelings and crushes the way girls might. But don’t be rude. If they guys you’re hanging out with are rude to you or others, that’s not typical, and they’re not good people to hang out with.

- In my experience, guys don’t care as much about tone of voice as girls. I’ve never had a guy text me after a conversation and ask if I was mad at them because of my tone of voice. If guys have a problem with you, they tend to voice it right away. 

- Guys aren’t as touchy-feely as girls. I have not met many -if any- straight cis men who will hold hands with their best friends, although I have met many girls like that. Guys do still show affection for their friends. It’s not cool to be rude or an iceberg. But for guys, as with any friendship, it varies. Some guys show verbal affection. Some high five, fist bump, shoulder bump. Some hug. I know plenty of straight cis guys who do hug their best friends. But it seems to be more reserved for special occasions than just as a greeting, and more common with bffs and “brothers” than with casual friends.

- Speaking of brothers, there is a kinship between guys. Not all guys, obviously, but close guys will often consider themselves brothers. In groups, there is this unspoken agreement that you stick up for each other, even if you don’t like them. 

- Guys do, in general, have more masculine interests than girls. Of course, not every guy wrestles bears before breakfast, but in general, you’re probably going to talk a lot more about “boyish” interests. But boys aren’t one-dimensional either. We do have varied interests, so if you’re a feminine guy, you can still enjoy and talk about those things. You might find yourself doing more boyish things when you hang out. Like when me and my guy friends hang out, we usually play sports or video games or a gender neutral activity (like see a movie or go out to eat). As opposed to with girls, we’d go shopping or talk about feelings or craft together. Ik it’s dumb to gender an activity, but guys who were raised as guys do tend to have a different set of interests than girls. 

- It’s okay to pretend you don’t know things about female anatomy or about being a girl if you’re stealth or it makes your dysphoria worse.

- When hanging out with girls as a guy, be aware that they may exclude you from certain things. Girls usually won’t talk to you about a guy they like if they perceive you as a straight guy. They’ll stop talking to you about periods and boobs and girly things, which can be a huge relief if that triggers your dysphoria. They’ll likely exclude you from girl’s night out kind of activities. 

- On the flip side, if you’re stealth with a group of guys, they will discuss guy stuff. Sometimes this stuff is misogynistic or homphobic, which is really weird as someone who used to face that stuff. You can call this out if you feel safe. A lot of guys actually feel the way you do, so it’s not like it’ll out you to say, “Hey, that’s not cool bro.”

- How you socialize as a guy depends on who you’re hanging out with. If you’re hanging out with the more reserved, sensitive artsy guys, you’re probably gonna blend in if you’re a bit more feminine. If you’re hanging out with the jocks, a lot of your social life is probably going to revolve around playing sports or talking about sports.

- Guys don’t tend to comment on appearance much. That doesn’t mean you should be a slob, it just means they don’t place as much value on it as girls. 

Male socialization is different from female socialization, but it’s not better or worse. There are subtleties to both, but if you spend enough time with guys, you’ll gradually pick up on their behaviors and can adopt some yourself.

I know this isn’t a full masterpost, but I’m still learning myself. I hope this helps out. 

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Eat, marry, kill lmao

Title Your Inspirational Memoir With Our Handy Chart

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What’s your “Eat, Pray, Love”? We’ve made it easy to find out.

Create a title for your own inspirational memoir, using nothing but your initials and our handy chart. (This is designed for people with a first, middle, and last name, but if you have more names, your book will just be bossier, which isn’t necessarily bad! If you have fewer names, just add the initials of whoever you want to play you in the movie.)

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(Here’s mine, and its pretty apropos: “Read, Nap, Read”)