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If this doesn't sum up my feelings on children, I dont know what does.

Do you ever want children? I'm sorry if that's nosy, and I understand if you don't want to answer. I'm always curious about how other women in my age group feel about it, and I appreciate the insightfulness of the things you say on your blog.

No, I’ve never wanted children. Even from a very early age I knew I didn’t want children. I was told numerous times that I would change my mind, or I’d meet someone and magically I’d want to reproduce with them, but if anything, this decision, has hindered my ability to find a partner until recently. I could name a hundred or so reasons why I don’t want kids:- I don’t want to bring one more human into the overpopulated anthropocene in an age of ecocide.- I am a straight woman, and therefore, in all likelihood, most of the caretaking would fall on me.- I don’t have any interest in raising another person.- I don’t think I’d be a good mother to a human(nonhuman animals on the other hand..)- I don’t have patience for the tedium of children. - I don’t want my identity to be consumed by the role of “mother”.- I don’t want any human to depend on me for food, shelter, guidance, nurturing, socialization, and ultimately, life.  - I want my freedom, above all else, I am fiercely devoted to it. etc.,etc.,I could go on, but the reality is, not wanting children never felt like a conscious decision to me, but simply a truth and an instinct. I will happily be mother to nonhuman animals for as long as I’m able to care for them, and I’m lucky to have found a partner in life who feels the same about being child-free as I do. I admit, I do feel sorry for not giving my parents the joy of grandchildren, and I feel the burden of having a dwindling family line which I may be one of the last to hold, but these are not ethical reasons to have a child. I’ve always pushed back against the idea of not having children as being selfish, on the contrary, I would say it can be the most compassionate decision a person can make.

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Tive que compartilhar isso no @WeHeartIt.

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In the beginning of The Craft, when the extent of the girls’ power is making a boy fall for one of them, making another’s burn scars disappear so she’ll be “beautiful on the outside, as well as in,” and making a racist blonde bully’s hair fall out, things are all well and good. That’s a level of power that’s acceptable for them to have; just the right amount to be “badass” but not enough to be threatening. But Nancy steps over the line when she starts killing off abusive men—the drunk and belligerent stepfather who grabs her ass and hits her mother, and the possessive jock who tries to rape a member of her coven. She becomes a threat when she fights back and demands physical and sexual autonomy for herself and other women.

As a culture, we love powerful women as an idea—as a marketing angle to sell anything from statement tees to home goods, makeup to coworking spaces—but still balk when a woman is unsatisfied with the empty platitude of “empowerment” and steps up to demand real power.

This is exactly what has always scared people about witches. Witches don’t ask for permission or play by the rules; they find power within themselves and use it to shape their lives and the world around them. Witchcraft is threatening to the status quo because it’s a spiritual practice that doesn’t rely on power concentrated in clerics, or houses of worship that can collect poor people’s tithings. There’s no unified law with rules passed down from the powerful to the followers. It allows for more autonomy than the powers that we are comfortable with.

Women who burned at the stake for being “witches” were usually guilty of nothing more than rejecting societal norms, posing an implicit or explicit threat to the Puritanical, patriarchal power structure. If a woman lived alone, her independence was seen as sinister. If she didn’t go to church, if she looked at a powerful man the wrong way: witch. Stories about witches have always been cautionary tales to women, about how quickly your community will turn on you if you step out of bounds.

Lilly Dancyger, I’m Done With Cautionary Tales About Women and Power

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So comes snow after fire, and even dragons have their endings. ♡ J.R.R. Tolkien — The Hobbit

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And so I watched the storm come toward me and thought of you, until it hit, and my tears became indistinguishable from the raindrops.

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Mikayla

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Vladimir Pride

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“I like cancelled plans. And empty bookstores. I like rainy days. And thunderstorms. And quiet coffee shops. I like messy beds and over-worn pajamas. Most of all, I like the small joys that a simple life brings.”

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Psst, hey, hey you, yes you

Everybody who reblogs this before may 25th 2019 will get a little cryptid design based on their blog, url, etc.

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“There are witchy things at work here, Dark magic, they like to say. Within these forests of copper and auburn there are vixens that like to play. And they sing lullabies to the treetops, as they dance upon dead fallen leaves. Watching over the woods and it’s creatures, with hidden spells under their sleeves.”

-McKenna K // forest dwellers

Credit: simply_kenna on instagram

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