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reblog this rat until staff gets involved

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what's your #22 song for spotify unwrapped in the year of 2022

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We need to clear something up: nonbinary or agender aliens and robots aren’t problematic. Neither are ace or aro ones. These are normal traits that you’d expect of robots and would not be surprising in aliens.

I’m bringing this up because I’ve seen some really weird criticisms lately that take the stance that if you make a robot that has no gender or sexuality, that’s somehow… bad? That a single sex alien race, or a trisexed alien race, or a hermaphroditic alien race, is somehow inherently insulting to trans people? And this take is fucking baffling to me! These are exactly the traits you would expect in robots and aliens! (This applies to robots that seem to act autistic, too; many common autism traits also happen to be traits that you might expect in artificial intelligences.)

I can see the logic. At some point, we noticed all the stories with human cis men and human cis women who were almost entirely heterosexual, and some robot who doesn’t have a gender and explains this to someone at some point, and some people went “woo, agender representation!” and then everyone had to be like “that’s not agender representation, it’s a robot.” Which is correct; the robot happens to be agender, but if none of the humans are then having all the robots be agender isn’t agender representation. So some people started thinking that the robot was the problem. The robot isn’t the problem. The robot is fine. The problem is the humans. The robot’s existence isn’t some insult to the agender community, or the nonbinary community, or the ace or aro or autistic communities, depending on what traits it was given. It’s not representation, but it’s not an insult.

“Oh, but making all the robots asexual is saying that being asexual makes someone a robot!” No. It doesn’t. Making none of the humans asexual and making them all confused by it and having them treat it like some big division is what says that. “Making aliens that don’t have genders gives the impression that genderless people – ” NO. IT DOESN’T. Making all the humans cis people who treat the absence of gender as a weird alien thing is what does that.

The aliens and the robots are fine. They’re not the problem. The lack of diversity among human characters is the problem.

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FedEx: shits on my box, stomps on my box, kicks it, dumps gasoline on it, throws one of my chickens into the back of the van UPS: whispers at my front door “is anyone home” as quietly as possible before leaving a “we missed you!” note, tries to gaslight me into thinking my address doesn’t exist USPS: sets my package down gently where it’s not visible from the road, knocks on the door and kisses me directly on the mouth

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me: i accept and open myself up to the fact that in order to improve my life i will have to do things that are scary

me when the things are scary:

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i think about this very often

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This post goes out to the disabled people who don't live perfectly healthy lifestyles. I'm talking about the disabled people who drink. The disabled who smoke. The disabled people who do drugs. The disabled people who don't exercise. The disabled people who eat junkfood. The disabled people who are angry, negative and bitter. The disabled people who choose to say no to a recommended treatment option for any reason. Considering that even fully abled people rarely manage to live up to the ideal for healthy living, it is both ableist and ridiculous to hold disabled people who are already struggling more to an even higher and more unrealistic standard. So if you're not the perfect patient, you're still valid and you still deserve support!

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“Hey my name is Lil Nas X and my pronouns are He/Him. I feel like it’s common decency to respect people’s pronouns just as it is common decency for people to call you by your own name” 

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fuck you *makes your ship be a qpr instead of a romantic relationship*

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pyrson_of_interest on Instagram by A.J. Hamilton (thetogfather)

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I'm an afab transfem but I always feel uncomfortable talking about it cause I'm scared someone might misunderstand

Oh same! I feel like thats a common issue because its so. hard to explain and Aggressively, Queerly Confusing, and its a lot of work dealing with the questions and accusations of being transphobic. I think people assume amab transmascs/afab transfems all have a very shallow idea of what it means to be transmasc/transfem (and I'm sure some do), but ime everyone I've seen explain IDing that way is either intersex, has had their gender affected by marginalization, or has a very complex relationship with their agab and their gender and their transition (I'm the last two). people also might think its just "cis people trying to be special", but that's just. a very uncharitable way of reacting to someone's identity!

I think also some people are concerned that people IDing that way would make transmasc/transfem meaningless, but like, its already true that not all transmascs/transfems have the same experiences. Some have their natal genitalia, some have gotten bottom surgery and therefore wouldn't relate to a lot of transmasc/fem content. Some had a very AGAB-typical childhood and life pre-transition, some don't relate to that at all. amab transmascs and afab transfems are just another way of being trans.

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sleeping beauty, but they’re butch/femme lesbians

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New favorite TikTok interaction

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Been watching cyberpunk and cyberpunk adjacent anime OVAs. Metal Skin Panic MADDOX-01 might be a new all time favorite.

The opening sequence and the action scenes are pure fucking mecha porn. I miss hand drawn OVAs soooooooooooo much.

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Know your history:

Gay:

Used to mean carefree

Then sexually deviant

Then prostitute

Then slut

Then sodomite

And THEN as we know it today but only as a slur

Reclaimed in the seventies

LGBT:

Invented in the nineties

Has faced constant backlash (from both straight, queer, and LGBT folks from being not inclusive enough or too inclusive)

Every year there are pushes to change to acronym

LGBTQ

LGBTQ+

LGBTQ*

LGBTQIA

Mogai

Alphabet soup

Queer:

Used to mean “other”

Became a slang term for “not straight” in the 1400s

Became a slur in the early 1900s

Reclaimed in the 80s.

Sudden push back from within the queer community to have it seen only as a slur in the 2010s, a push that can be traced back to terf ideology.

Is the only term that includes all non cishet people

Homosexual

A medical diagnosis

Used for decades to make queerness into a mental illness

Used as a slur for the latter half of the 20th century

Rejected by the queer community as an acceptable term for a brief period of time in the early 2000s before coming back into fashion.

Only describes the experience of cis gay men and cis lesbians

Think what you want, believe what you will, but every word we have ever used to describe ourselves is coated in blood.