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Why do INFJs and ENFPs...

share this one annoying common trait: the fact that they’re both have ridiculous blind spots about themselves and how they come across to people, yet always think they’re extremely self-aware?

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Someone I know is extremely opinionated about my type! They think I’m an ESFP, but I think I’m more likely an ENFP. The only problem is, I’m not sure. I definitely have the Ne dom trait of having a hrd time typing myself, and I relate to every function. If I’m honest with myself though, I know I’m an EFP. It’s the N vs S that gives me pause. What are the biggest differences between ESFPs and ENFPs, and how do you know for sure whether you’re an intuitive or sensor?

First, how much does this person know about MBTI? How objective are they about you? How well do they know you? Have they seen you under stress? In a crisis? At your best? What makes them qualified to assess your type? It takes roughly 10,000 hours of practice/study to become an ‘expert’ at anything; how many hours have they put into typing? Learning the functions?

Yeah.

The “help” others have given me along my journey has often been profoundly non-useful and sometimes flat out wrong; I actually self-typed ENFP fairly quickly at first and then allowed myself to be talked out of it by a self-typed INTJ who asserted that I did not abstract well enough to be a Ne-dom, so I was probably an ESTJ instead, and an INTP who doubted me as an ENFP because of my aggressive tendency to finish projects instead of abandoning them. Others have suggested SFJ (both kinds). Turns out, none of them had a clue either about me or what they were even talking about, and I was such a newbie to typing that I had no clue either and was relying on stereotypes.

It was not until I recognized how powerful my own Ne is, how I can take an abstract thought or concept from someone else (often a high Ni user) and run with it, without needing any processing time, and how my interest lies much less in sensory reality than in abstract concepts that I could even begin to ‘see’ my Ne, and the lousy inferior Si which comes with it, which involves me being totally terrible with details, struggling to write sensory details into any of my books that are not redundant (I meanwhile become preoccupied with the idea of my characters embodying different traits, or the over-reaching themes of my book, which change with each revision as Ne sees new ideas / potentials), and having almost no memory of my childhood, due to me not ‘retaining’ Si details. :P

Here’s a second clue:

I discuss and theorize about many things. My ESFP sister does them.

Action (Se) vs theoretical speculation (Ne).

We went to see The Greatest Showman. She loved the pure spectacle of it. It was fun, it was colorful, it was powerful, the emotions were dynamic, the singing was great. Wonderful movie. That was enough for her.

Not for me. What did I come home and do? Well, I came home and wrote about how it’s not about P.T. Barnum, it’s about the embodiment of the American Spirit; he is a symbol for the American dream. It’s not a literal historical tale, it’s a metaphorical reinterpretation that is a modern assessment of American ideals and its entrepreneurial spirit, its lack of respect for old traditions, its visionary thinking, its sometimes reckless decision making, and its ultimate battle cry “This is me” / deal with it to the rest of the world. The characters all represent something abstract within the narrative; it’s both a liberation of Americanism, and a condemnation of some of its flaws, but full of optimism, hope, and unafraid to be proud of the brash, impetuous and insolent American attitude.

So yeah, great movie. Loved it. But to me, it’s so much more.

- ENFP Mod

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when i check my activity on tumblr i feel like the ceo of a failing company 

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I ask my self 48 times a day “am I being dramatic? Is this #toomuch?” the answer is always yes of course

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drug-fueled zero-gravity emotions

Basically. Ha!

go find what a fic of ur life would be tagged as on ao3

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MBTI as Fictional Love Interests (male)

INTJ: The villain who had originally manipulated the heroine for his villainous purposes, but falls prey to her irresistible ways.

INTP: The dorky best friend that the heroine had right in front of her the whole time.

ENTJ: The unattainable one, too preoccupied with graduating at the top of the intergalactic military academy for romance.

ENTP: The irresistibly charming compulsive liar who tricked the heroine into half of the story’s plot developments.

INFJ: The mysterious one that no one can understand— except the heroine, who walks into his life at just the right time. Might be a vampire.

INFP: The secret admirer who wrote the heroine a poem and attached it to her locker door last Wednesday.

ENFJ: The heroine truly fell for him when he, already battered but in an attractive way, bravely attacked the monster destroying the orphanage.

ENFP: The heroine’s optimistic sidekick who always helped hold the team together in times of stress. No one is surprised when they start dating.

ISTJ: At first, he seems like a nice, normal change from the crazy people the heroine has been dating, until it turns out that he too is a half-demon.

ISFJ: Childhood friend that has been with the heroine through the good times and bad; he is mysteriously inconsolable when the ENTP asks the heroine to prom.

ESTJ: He is a wealthy lord of the estate, she is sadly only a peasant. Isn’t he holding some sort of contest, though?

ESFJ: A peasant who took in the heroine’s apocalypse-stopping party after their ship ran aground. Though he and the heroine have a brief affair, he is too loyal to his rural desert community to join her quest.

ISTP: Semi-human who is unusually overprotective of the heroine. No one seems to have moral qualms with this.

ISFP: Sensitive and sweet, but troubled by a dark past that he doesn’t share with anyone.

ESTP: The jock who is dating the most popular girl in the school— what does he see in her anyway?

ESFP: Flirts with the heroine loudly across the room. He’s so annoying, but there’s something about him…

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MBTI as Fictional Love Interests (female)

INTJ: The catsuit-wearing assassin sent to kill the hero. After looking into his aqua/deep/sky/ocean blue eyes though, she has an unexplainable change of heart.

INTP: The shy nerd who has been hiding a crush on the hero for nearly a year. Each finds out that the other likes them in a Meet Cute-type scenario.

ENTJ: Aggressively intelligent and competent, she makes the hero look bad more than once. They challenge each other to a sexual-tension-filled duel.

ENTP: The clever woman who’s Not To Be Trusted. Whether or not she’s actually trustworthy depends on the strength of the MacGuffin and her loyalty to the villain.

INFJ: Reads Shakespeare and performs in an indie band on Fridays. At least some women still have sophistication.

INFP: Her eyes remind the hero of his dead wife, and she becomes his new muse. Lighting a cigarette and pouring himself some whiskey, he starts writing his book again.

ENFJ: The wife/daughter of the main villain, who puts her life in jeopardy by sneaking out to see the hero and help his party.

ENFP: Convinces the alcoholic, pessimistic hero to take a spontaneous road trip. Life is worth living again when she’s around.

ISTJ: Just wants to settle down, but unfortunately the hero is too preoccupied with saving his people from apocalyptic doom.

ISFJ: Why does this girl keep dating guys who don’t deserve her? Why can’t she go for a Nice Guy like the hero?

ESTJ: The hero’s commanding officer, who scoffs at his attempts to flirt with her. When he saves the legion from destruction, though, she begins to soften in his presence.

ESFJ: The hot, popular girl who is way out of the hero’s league, until it is revealed that they both share the same strange superpower.

ISTP: Isn’t interested in petty things like makeup and gossip, unlike those blonde girls who get nose jobs and stuff.

ISFP: Her velvety voice keeps the hero awake at night, and he begins to suspect that her oddly specific lyrics are about him.

ESTP: Beat the hero at a footrace when they were nine, and he hasn’t been able to get her out of his head ever since.

ESFP: The reckless princess who met the hero while in disguise, flaunting her father’s orders.

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I didn’t think it was something that actually happened in real actual life but today my philosophy professor told us that the reason he hasn’t graded our midterms yet is because he’s an enfp so he doesn’t have an attention span

God is dead, and we have killed him

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MBTI Stereotypes As Stock Images

INTJ

ENTJ

INTP

ENTP

ISTJ

ESTJ

ISTP

ESTP

INFJ

ENFJ

INFP

ENFP

ISFP

ESFP

ISFJ

ESFJ

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ENFP - The Champion

Love Me - The 1975 Beautiful Thing - Grace Vanderwaal Boom Clap - Charli XCX Anything Could Happen - Ellie Goulding Shut Up And Dance - WALKTHEMOON Girls Just Wanna Have Fun - Cyndi Lauper Best Day Of My Life - American Authors Bubbly - Colbie Caillat Unwritten - Natasha Bedingfield Everytime We Touch - Cascada Walking On Sunshine - Katrina And The Waves She Way Out - The 1975 On Top Of The World - Imagine Dragons Young Blood - The Naked And Famous Come On Eileen - Dexy Midnight Runners She’s Got You High - Mumm-Ra Hit The Lights - Selena Gomez And The Scene S.I.N.G - My Chemical Romance Raise Your Glass - P!NK Shake It Off - Taylor Swift

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Enneagram types as nightmares

1: Cheating on a test and getting caught. That they broke their principles because they felt they had to, and that it didn’t pay off.

2: That their partner is cheating on them. That the people they love don’t actually love them back.

3: Forgetting to wear clothes in public. That they are exposed and humiliated. That their reputation will suffer a permanent blow.

4: That they are invisible. That no one can hear or see them, or be impacted by them in any way. That they lack an identity all together.

5: Free-falling, no parachute, from a high height. A complete lack of control over their circumstances. They have no way to prevent their inevitable death.

6: A spontaneous natural disaster. That they cannot protect themselves from the external world. That their physical security is compromised.

7: Drowning. That they are trapped by circumstance. That they’re in pain and cannot free themselves.

8: That there’s a monster or murderer under their bed or in their closet. That someone or something they don’t know to protect themselves from could harm them.

9: Losing someone they love, to death or other circumstances. That their carefully arranged peace of mind is broken.

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Things an INTJ Says #14

**ENFP foolishly told someone something sensitive and they used that information to hurt her**

ENFP: He really hurt me, INTJ. You don't understand.

INTJ: Don't be too quick to open up to people. Not everybody is as cuddly as I am.

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ENFP PROBLEM #15382016382

I need to be with someone who truly challenges me and makes things exciting or I’ll get bored and run away. It isn’t a commitment issue, I’m just scared of falling into a routine.

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Things an INTJ Says #2

ENFP: *excitedly* So I met someone this week who is even grumpier than you!

INTJ: *dripping with sarcasm* Oh no… I’ve been replaced…

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Things an INTJ says #3

**ENFP and INTJ hanging out for like the fourth time that week because INTJ leaves for university soon**

ENFP: You’ve been so social lately! I can’t believe you haven’t barred yourself in your room and locked the door, refusing to come out.

INTJ: I’m hiding it well.

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Things an ESTJ says #1

**ESTJ, INTJ, and ENFP talking about ESTJ and INTJ’s ski training**

ESTJ: The technique training was awful.

ENFP: Isn’t that the important part?

ESTJ: Yeah, but we were all just standing around and it was so inefficient. It could have been better-executed.

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MBTI Types From an ENFP’s Perspective

****DISCLAIMER**** These are based largely on my encounters with these types and also on stereotypes. (SORRYYYY)

ENTJ: Okay, so, you’re super awesome, and we both know it (you know it most though). I love you but I’m also soooooo jealous of all the qualities we share but that you pull off better than me. Despite the fact that I hate you, I love you and have lots of good things to say about you.

ENTP: You are literally the best partner-in-crime EVER. Hilarious, clever, perfect for backup in an argument, and smart: you’re sure to have me in fits of hysterical laughter and hyper just being in your presence. We should really go on Ne-Dom tangents together more often… If you could only show up on time for them!

ENFJ: You’re so… perfect. Like, it makes me so happy but I can’t handle it. It bothers me that you understand me and that you ALWAYS REACT “PROPERLY” to everything. Although you can be the most frustrating person, there’s no shoulder I’d rather cry on. Thanks for always being here and caring for your self-centred ENFP friends.

ENFP: So, since I’m an ENFP, I have a lot to say about me. CAN ANY ENFP TURN THEIR MIND OFF?? Like for once I’d enjoy not having 7,000,000 things going on at once. Personal note aside, I love that my ENFP friends are so friendly to everyone. That takes a lot of courage. You guys rock!!

INTJ: Ummmm…. I’m probably going to say too much and give away the fact that ENFPs ARE OBSESSED WITH YOU (oops, was I yelling?). You have a lot going on in your head as well, and I love that you always have an entertaining fact for me to chew on. When you’re not using your powers of random facts to prevent me from boredom, your Ni-dom personality has me enthralled. You’re a puzzle that I want to figure out. I’m sorry that I’m constantly nagging and irritating you; I know you need space, but I can’t help it~~~~. 

INTP: You guys are so cute!! In a not-cuddly way. I’ve learned my lesson about hugging rationals. ;) Anyway, you have such great insight when you aren’t living in your own head! Come out and play with me soon please!  You have fabulous jokes, and you can be really amusingly cynical. Conversations with you are sure to be boredom-free.

INFJ: I love you. You are so sweet and sensitive. Thank you for showing me that planning is important and how to listen to other people’s opinions and emotions. I feel good around you; you’re very stable and intelligent. You listen to others so well! Everyone feels appreciated by you.

INFP: I want to hug you, and I feel like you would totally be okay with that. I love our conversations that often veer off-topic and quickly become unrealistic. You let me rant to you about everything, so I love you. Let’s go daydream together in the corner! I might run away if I see something interesting though… sorry!!

ESTJ: Like ESFJ, you’re great with conversation! You organize things super well, and you know how to delegate and use people’s strengths to the advantage of a team. I’m super envious of this talent! Keep playing by the rules. ;)

ESTP: You make me laugh a lot! You also have a tendency to push the limits, and sometimes the limits you push are the comforts zones of a (relatively sheltered, but I mean, I’m on tumblr) ENFP. I’m sure I’ve yelled at you a few times, but I would definitely bring you along on any and all adventures. Just, please, don’t do anything stupid… without me. ;)

ESFJ: Sometimes I over-stereotype you as the typical mean popular girls, WHICH IS SO NOT TRUE! You guys are the ones that put up with my ridiculous antics (almost hiding your eyerolls-I did see you!), and you try your best to normalize my behaviour. You truly want to be nice to EVERYONE. That’s super cool of you! Thank you. I also like how much you can talk and how you can talk about everything.  

ESFP: Please stop trying to steal my spotlight. I need a turn as centre of attention too! Hahaha… I wish I could honestly be okay with you having the spotlight… Let’s try to be friends… or at least call a truce? Your style is great, so I’m super envious of that too. You know full well that everyone admires you. Your confidence is awesome. Thumbs up for that! 

ISTJ: Your loyalty and commitment to projects and people deeply astound me. I wish I could keep focus and see things through to the very end like you. Don’t let the INTJs steal your thunder! Your knowledge is coupled with a devotion and focus to your subjects of choice; that is awesome. You are also unrelentingly devoted to the people you care about, which makes you an irreplaceable part of so many people’s lives. Keep being wonderful. 

ISTP: Let’s go off and be curious together! Of course, I’ll do the watching while you tinker with that… And please don’t cut off your hand with that saw… Umm… You’re really god with your hands, and what you do is art even if it might not be conventional. I’ve been told that you’re good in a crisis, so I know who to call next time I’m crying hysterically… I mean, next time my car breaks down. (NOTE: I’m sorry this one is sooooo stereotypical; I can’t think of anyone I know who fits this type. :( If you exist and read this, please send me a message explaining your outrage so that I can get to know you!!  :D )

ISFJ: You have such a big heart and you are so humble! I love talking to you because you make me feel big and important (sometimes I need an ego stroke, I’m sorry!), but you also leave me in awe with how you speak about yourself. When you want something, you go after it, and when you get that thing, you don’t feel the need to rub it in people’s faces. I can learn a lot from you!

ISFP: The deep talks we have are amazing. I love your perspective on the world! You get very fixated on projects and hobbies, so you know and do a lot of cool things. I admire you a lot. Sometimes you’re very scatterbrained like me, so it’s nice to have someone to sympathize with!