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enfpluto · 5 years ago

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I DIDN'T COME ON TUMBLR TO BE ATTACKED LIKE THIS

i have a theory… it’s a mouthful though

aquarius, capricorn and scorpio* placements get roasted a lot for their fear of being open and vulnerable, especially when it comes to relationships and love. they generally are criticized for their preferences for being alone (which is.. strange, because there’s nothing wrong with that, imo), but people rarely reflect on why this is often the case. i want to talk about frequent happenings with placements connecting to these three signs, and why they end up developing into adults who have abandonment issues, fears of vulnerability/closeness, fierce/unnecessary independence, and so forth.

this post is going to connect mainly to venus (relationships & love, etc) and moon (emotions & often childhood) in these signs, as well as those planets being aspected by saturn, uranus or pluto [however, it’s possible this could apply for other strong personals + dominants/stelliums].

with capricorn as one’s venus/moon (or saturn aspecting venus/moon), love throughout childhood; and sometimes into adulthood; was often conditional, only ever earned. love and affection may have even been weaponized in a sense; used as a rare reward, not a given. saturn is a planet representing hard work, to put things super simply, and when attaching itself to such emotional planets (especially venus), can indicate an individual who had to work hard for love. children, obviously, should not have to work hard for their guardians love and affection (nor do i think adults in relationships [platonic or romantic] should have to *work* for someone’s love either). this tends to manifest as an adult who puts people through hundreds of test to prove they’re worthy of the capricorn individual’s trust and affection, as they view this as the norm. they also lack trust in people’s affections, often thinking there’s some sort of hidden motive or obstacle within the affection. they may develop tendencies to be mostly attracted to flaky individuals with fleeting (& conditional) affection and love for them. undeveloped they crave that “risk-reward” situation in romance. all of these factors considered, this is why capricorn venuses/moons, venus-saturn/moon-saturn aspected individuals often prefer to be alone, and have a general distaste towards/distrust in “love” and deep connection.

with aquarius as one’s venus/moon (or uranus aspecting venus/moon), love tends to be very unpredictable. in childhood, and again also into adulthood possibly, it is likely that the love experienced in their home was very fleeting and unstable. as aquarius is also ruled by saturn, you can read the capricorn/saturn explanation above, which will also apply heavily to aquarius placements. but on the uranus side of things, this planet (known for sudden, drastic changes) having connection to venus/moon can indicate an individual who frequently experiences a “roller coaster of emotions”. with moon & venus in aquarius/aspecting uranus, it can point towards friends and romantic partners who leave as quickly as they came. in childhood, their family may have gone through phases of being present vs absent, or being open vs closed, etc. the home may have been a place of great emotional turmoil and instability. this often, i find, develops into adults who project these habits onto future relationships. swinging from being very invested/nearly obsessed with a person/relationship, only to withdraw and lose interest just as quickly. i think it’s partially due to the fear of abandonment that tends to pop up through such a childhood, and also due to hot & cold love being seen as a norm for aquarian placements when younger, therefore they bring it with them into adulthood before they fully develop. since love tends to be so frequently unstable for them, they grow distaste towards it and generally prefer to keep to themselves and stick to their isolation.

with scorpio placements (namely venus/moon, or pluto aspecting venus/moon), it’s almost like a mix of the two things listed above. pluto, similar to saturn, can connect heavily to power and control. pluto is also *more intense* than uranus when it comes to changes. changes with scorpio/pluto are like death & rebirth, huge transformations. i’ve noticed throughout the scorpio moons childhood, much like capricorns, they are given a lot of responsibility and stress. the family often manipulates them into working for/earning their love, or there is frequent turmoil and power struggles within the home; causing distrust within the family that later develops into scorpio’s inability to trust others. love is also frequently conditional here, as it is with aqua/cap. this can lead to their future distaste/fear of getting truly intimate with the people they develop feelings for. they also are likely to experience very drastic changes in their childhood, not small nor easy to digest ones, that end up resulting in abandonment and/or trust issues that are carried into the future until fully developed as well. scorpio moons tend to get used to things never being truly stable, and get used to people’s intentions - especially those closest to them - never being pure/without baggage, which can result in an adult who shuts everyone out and refuses to open up, as they grow immensely suspicious and paranoid of anyone around them.

capricorn, scorpio & aquarius placements also usually have to grow up very fast. scorpio & capricorn specifically tend to have to mature and take on way too many responsibilities from a very young age. aquarius placements i find tend to frequently endure betrayals & abandonment during childhood. these things develop to the fierce independence these three signs tend to carry. they’re so used to doing and handling everything alone, they don’t believe they need anyone else. and even if they do, they don’t think they could possibly trust someone else to get close enough to help them / connect with them deeply, due to these frequent stresses, changes, and conditional love situations common in their pasts (and sometimes into adulthood too).

* = scorpios are heavily connected with intimacy and vulnerability. but undeveloped scorpios expect intimacy and vulnerability from others without returning the same energy. they tend to hide their own feelings while encouraging others to pour out theirs, creating what feels like one-sided intimacy.

anyway. just a little thought. can we stop making fun of aquarius, capricorn & scorpio placements (and…anyone in general) for being scared of relationships, intimacy, vulnerability, etc., and think about the reasoning as to why these fears develop and how they can be healed. (also, want to make it clear i’m not saying only these placements can experience these things! nor are these placements guaranteed to experience these things. it also doesn’t release accountability for any negative romantic/commitment habits that they may project onto/hurt others with)

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