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Phases of the menstrual cycle broken down for divine feminine & divine masculine who are invested in a romantic connection:

Message: hello!, I'm very excited about this post, I've been working on it all day and felt called to talk about this because in a lot of divine feminines lives right now we're focusing on learning to alchemize and transmute energy and how to best prepare for our manifestations and make the proper decisions to keep ourselves in alignment BUT a good amount of divine feminines are also in the energy of seeking out an awakened masculine or cultivating good energies in their connections. This is a magnificent way to create further spiritually inclined connections in your relationships but also to move into the energy of enlightenment as individuals. I also will say that if you're mensurating be wary of physical sex on your cycle while actively bleeding as it can form soul ties, it's meant to solidify attachments and strengthen the ability to share energy in romantic connections. if you're a woman in general be wary of opening up and allowing anyone in your womb, please be discerning and choose wisely.

(There will also be a shortly summarized version on my Instagram for reposting and sharing purposes if you want to share this type of information with friends and loved ones who may not be on this platform! My Instagram: @theeternalwombtarot)

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phase one: The Menstrual cycle (days: 1-5) / "Winter" / The New Moon

physical symptoms: fatigue, cramps, bloating, headaches, lower back pain, and breast tenderness

emotional symptoms: low mood, irritability, fatigue, and emotional sensitivity

hormonal changes: low estrogen and progesterone, drop in hormones triggers menstruation

spiritual meaning: rest, release, and renewal. letting go, shedding what no longer serves you physically (biologically) and energetically, and preparing for new beginnings.

themes: reflection, introspection, purification & renewal.

spiritual practice & priority for divine feminine: meditation and grounding techniques, journaling, and rituals of release and healing. embrace and lean into intuition and release emotional baggage and limiting beliefs. embrace themes that come up to the surface to come out by acknowledging, surrendering control and worry, and seeking out new perspective and spiritual guidance. You're going to want to hone in and pay close attention to the body and emotional strain at this time to help you best navigate what needs to be put down or released. use the body at its most heightened to guide you in the direction of alignment and enlightenment. prioritize your happiness and peace.

divine masculines role at this time: further aid in themes of the menstrual cycle by creating an environment of rest, relaxation, and harmony. Study the woman and her needs and desires (both on an emotional and physical-biological human scale). Pour back into her through creating solace in her time of rest and relaxation. Attempt to control disturbing influences as much as possible to conserve divine feminines remaining energy left over and reserved for her rebirth and renewal. Move forward in the energy of compassion and service. Take on her needs and emotional state as if it were your own in order to be productive and fulfilling at this time. Move into the energy of compassion (to feel as she feels and to also feel sorrow for her and thus have desire to alleviate suffering and then do so.)

phase two: The Follicular Phase (days: 6-14) / "Spring" / Waxing Crescent

physical symptoms: increased mood, higher motivation, skin may begin to clear, light discharge

emotional symptoms: increased mood, higher motivation, increased creativity, mental clarity

hormonal changes: rising estrogen, FSH stimulate follicle growth in ovaries, and the uterine lining will begin to thicken to support a fertilized egg.

spiritual meaning: growth, new beginnings, and rising energy. Time for planting new seeds (like ideas, intentions, and projects) and feeling excited for and embracing growth.

themes: creativity, rebirth, expansion, and manifestation

spiritual practice & priority for divine feminine: this is a good time for divine feminine to set intentions, start new projects, and embrace creativity. visualization during meditation, affirmations, and rituals focused on manifestation is best for this phase. divine feminine should shift focus into project planning and pull from naturally flowing creative energies at this time and capitalize on both tapped and untapped talents to accelerate growth and expansion in her life. she should use her creativity, charm, and imagination to her advantage to bring forth abundance in the world around her and profit off of romanticism. Both in romanticizing her life and in her relationships and appealing to others.

divine masculines role at this time: increase romantic energy in the connection and work towards heightening close interpersonal intimacy through action and positive affirmation. The tongue, the mouth, and the throat chakra are powerful at this time. Plan dates, appeal heavily to the love language, and create unfaltering closeness with the woman. create heaven in her reality to better house her angelic and transformative energy at this time. Lean further into your spirituality as you become one with her during this phase through manifestation, prayer, and further acknowledgment of her divinity and connection to the divine. through your harmony with her from a genuine and aligned place, you too will prosper. You can tap into her natural flow of creativity and expansive energy and leverage your own intentions through required openness and respect for the feminine and the feminine cycle, mutual support, shared focus, mutual intentions, and rituals that honor both energies. (tantric sex or alike included.)

phase three: The Ovulation Phase (days: 14-16) / "Summer" / Full Moon

physical symptoms: increased libido, cervical mucus changes (clear & stretchy), mild to intense cramping to help the release of egg.

emotional symptoms: increased confidence, more sociable, higher libido

hormonal changes: luteinizing hormone (produced by the pituitary gland) surge triggers ovulation, high estrogen, brief rise in testosterone.

spiritual meaning: often linked to the peak of summer and the full moon. This period in the menstrual cycle represents abundance, fertility (both literally & metaphorically), and connection. Seen often as a time of heightened energy, power and creativity.

themes: fertility, creation, peak power, connection to others, and potential.

spiritual practice & priority for divine feminine: an ideal time for socializing, connecting with others, or performing rituals focused on abundance, fertility (i.e. sacred baths and cleansing rituals, sex and physical intimacy or tantric practices, spiritual and ancestral rituals, etc.) and gratitude. Many also use this time for creative expression and celebrating their accomplishments as manifestations can be both conceived and reaped and harvested at this time. Divine feminine should be focused on obtaining personal success and self-fulfillment and pleasure at this time. This is a good time for her to capitalize on personal power and energy and transmute passion into energy to move forward and obtain desires. The ovulation phase is a good time for networking and collaborating on projects and progress forward. She will work well in groups with partners or a partner and will excel in learning and implementing lessons and information.

divine masculines role at this time: The divine masculine's duty at this time is to pour into divine feminine through presence and attentiveness, affirmation and acknowledgment, emotional and physical connection creative collaboration and support, physical support and care, respect, and space for self-expression and celebration of her divine feminine energy. divine masculine can offer his full, undivided attention and listen closely to divine feminines needs, desires, and dreams. being present in a time of high intuition and peak power allows him to further honor her wisdom and creativity but also move in the energy of co-creation and further manifestation for his life. spend quality time with divine feminine at this time and prioritize her and her energy. This is also a good time for divine masculine to encourage and provide access to self-care rituals whether they be a paid service or things he does himself. this is a good time for divine masculine to move forward in the emotional and physical realms through his connection to divine feminine much like his ability to co-create or bring prosperity to his life during the follicular phase. He should move forward in the energy of leadership, confidence, and assertiveness in both physical and emotional realms. passion and intimacy with the woman is heavy and significant at this time, pour into her and strengthen thyself. strengthen your outside support by moving in a similar energy by balancing strength and empathy while being open and flexible to others needs and addressing those needs and providing necessary output. Take divine feminine to events and environments where her sociable demeanor can bring you more money, partnerships, and support. Let her be the face of your power and influence. Flaunt, flaunt, flaunt. Show off and prioritize the feminine. Your prize is in your possession. Your sigil is within her. Let her double the success you share, multiply it, and bring it back home with the both of you. Your good luck charm and prosperity token is within the divine feminine. Carry her around in your pocket or leave her at home on the altar you built for her to relax and flourish.

phase four: The luteal phase (days: 16-28) / "Autumn" / Waning Moon

physical symptoms: bloating, mood swings, breast tenderness, fatigue, increased appetite, acne, irritability (PMS and PMDD symptoms)

emotional symptoms: irritability, mood swings, anxiety, sensitivity, depression, craving comfort

hormonal changes: high progesterone, estrogen decreases, hormone levels drop if pregnancy occurs.

spiritual meaning: it's a time of slowing down, turning inwards, and preparing for rest. It's a phase of reflection, harvesting lessons, and preparing for the upcoming menstrual cycle.

themes: harvest, reflection, inner work, slowing down, and transformation

spiritual practice & priority for divine feminine: this phase is ideal for introspection and releasing what no longer serves you much like the entirety of the menstrual cycle itself. grounding practices like yoga, journaling, shadow work and meditation are common spiritual practices at this time. Bask in all three elements in your top three or allow for those elements to be prominent in spaces of relaxation. This is a good time to assess accomplishments and plan for the future. Your job at this time and area of priority divine feminine should be focused on clear boundaries and clear communication and working through mental and emotional blockages that create disruption in your life and emotional body through inner work. We want to try our best to see through the lens of heightened emotion clearly as often times fear and anxiety based distortion is present within us during the luteal phase. Ask yourself what your frustration, fear, sadness, or other complex emotions right now mean to you, what is your body or intuition trying to tell you, and what do you need to communicate to others effectively to further yourself or obtain peace? Get clear and work through illusions and deception. A time like this beckons emotional warfare out of you, your perseverance is needed. prepare yourself and move in the energy of transformation and transition. Baggage will be shed and released throughout the menstrual cycle.

divine masculines role at this time: At this time divine masculine must ready himself to opposite the divine feminines energy to be proactive and create the ideal environment for rest and rebirth. Do your due diligence to create the safest, most abundant environment in all ways necessary. similar to how the male in nature may help build a nest and sing to create a soothing environment or may take over and build the nest entirely on his own to prepare for incoming change and laboring. invest both financially, spiritually, and energetically into creating the optimal environment. your job during the luteal phase is to curate a safe space, your job as divine feminines hard work begins and the menstrual cycle starts is to keep her warm and tend to her in the safe space you built and brought the resources to.

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notes:

divine feminine if you are single take into consideration beginning to period track whether it be with a calendar or with an app while you're looking for a divine masculine or are in a position where you're looking for love. this way you already know and have known for quite a while when phases of your cycle begin and what takes place during these times.

another thing I really think is interesting is research on what foods are best eaten through different phases of the menstrual cycle, this can also help divine masculine better prepare for your cycle during the luteal phase while he gets things in order for you to enter a period of rest, there are various charts on these things on Pinterest, I could make another post about that specifically another time.

tantric sex practices or rituals or similar intentional intimacy practices could be really good to implement during high energetic phases of the menstrual cycle to help divine masculine tap into your energy that you're radiating and give him the privilege of co-creating a reality with you or aid in him further manifesting abundance in his life. (do be mindful of period sex and soul ties, if you do not intend for him to stay divine feminine keep this in mind.)

also do your job as a divine feminine to choose your partners wisely as his ability to do these things for you and move with you through these phases of your life are incredibly important especially in states of high power or even energetic vulnerability, I touched briefly on how important it is that divine feminine invest her time in relationships that are emotionally and spiritually safe as you are wide open if you make the wrong choice or give your power away.

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How to Prioritize Yourself

(in other words, how to put yourself 1st)

1. Before making a decision, ask yourself, “Is this beneficial for me?”

2. Second ask yourself, “Do I want to do this? If so why?” Make sure that whatever you do is serving your best interests.

3. Always take care of your needs. Treat yourself like you would your child. Maintain your basic hygiene. Make sure you've eaten and drank water. Keep up with your skin care. Give yourself compliments and support your dreams. Be financially stable and provide security for yourself. Give yourself everything you desire.

4. Don’t rush or let others push you into doing something you don’t want to.

5. Put your standards on the pedestal. Form your own judgement about things and don’t be persuaded easily.

6. Do what you set your mind to regardless of opposition.

7. Always be in tune with what you desire and never compromise your standards.

8. Fill your own cup first. Invest in yourself.

9. Set clear boundaries and start saying no when you mean it.

10. Release all shame surrounding your self prioritization. Understand, people won’t care about your wellbeing. You have to be the one looking out for you.

11. Gate-keep yourself from those undeserving of your love and energy.

12. Don't tell all your business. Move in silence and cherish your privacy.

13. Stay self-sufficient.

14. Do the things YOU enjoy. Have your favorite cup of coffee. Eat your favorite snack. Watch your favorite show. Do tarot readings. Read occult books. Wear makeup. Dress up. Don't shrink your beliefs, lifestyle or presence just because someone else disagrees with it.

15. Ignore unsolicited advice.

16. Stop trying to prove your worth and just be. You are already enough as you are. You habe nothing further to prove.

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Why Your Medicine Cabinet Needs a Natural Overhaul (How to Start)

The Problem With Modern Medicine Cabinets

Most medicine cabinets today are filled with synthetic over-the-counter drugs, chemical-laden cough syrups, and pain relievers that merely mask symptoms rather than support true healing. These products often come with:

Unwanted side effects (drowsiness, digestive issues, dependency)

Artificial additives (dyes, preservatives, sweeteners)

Environmental consequences (plastic waste, pharmaceutical pollution)

Meanwhile, traditional herbal remedies—used for centuries across cultures—offer a gentler, more sustainable approach to wellness.

The Case for Natural Alternatives

1. Fewer Side Effects

Pharmaceutical drugs are designed for isolated symptoms, often disrupting other bodily systems. For example:

NSAIDs (e.g., ibuprofen) → Can irritate the stomach lining

Antihistamines → Cause drowsiness or dry mouth

Sleep aids → May lead to dependency

Herbal alternatives work holistically:

Chamomile tea promotes sleep without grogginess

Ginger root reduces inflammation without stomach upset

Elderberry syrup supports immunity without artificial sweeteners

2. Long-Term Wellness vs. Quick Fixes

Synthetic medications often provide temporary relief while ignoring root causes. Herbal remedies encourage systemic healing:

Turmeric addresses chronic inflammation

Peppermint soothes digestion long-term

Echinacea strengthens immune response over time

3. Cost Efficiency

A $5 bag of dried herbs can make multiple remedies:

1 oz dried chamomile = 30+ cups of sleep tea

1 lb dried elderberries = 2 quarts of immunity syrup Compare this to 10–10–20 per bottle of OTC medications.

4. Environmental Impact

Reduced plastic waste (no pill bottles or synthetic packaging)

Biodegradable ingredients (herbs, honey, vinegar)

No pharmaceutical runoff in water systems

How to Start Your Natural Overhaul

Step 1: Audit Your Current Supplies

Discard: Expired medications, synthetic syrups, and products with parabens or artificial dyes.

Keep: Emergency items (epinephrine, prescription meds—consult your doctor before discontinuing).

Step 2: Essential Herbal Swaps

Synthetic ProductNatural AlternativePreparationSleep aids (melatonin, diphenhydramine)Chamomile-passionflower teaSteep 1 tsp each in hot water for 10 minutesPain relievers (ibuprofen, acetaminophen)Turmeric-ginger tonicSimmer 1 tsp turmeric + 1-inch ginger in 2 cups water for 15 minutesCough syrup (dextromethorphan-based)Honey-thyme syrupInfuse 1 cup honey with 2 tbsp fresh thyme for 24 hours

Step 3: Build Your Herbal Foundation

Start with these five versatile herbs:

Elderberry (Sambucus nigra) – Viral defense

Peppermint (Mentha piperita) – Digestive aid

Lavender (Lavandula angustifolia) – Calming nervine

Echinacea (Echinacea purpurea) – Immune modulator

Ginger (Zingiber officinale) – Anti-inflammatory

Where to Source:

Reputable suppliers: Mountain Rose Herbs, Starwest Botanicals

Local farmers’ markets (for fresh herbs)

Step 4: Master Basic Preparations

Infusions (hot water extracts for delicate herbs like chamomile)

Decoctions (simmering for tough roots like ginger)

Tinctures (alcohol extracts for long-term storage)

Step 5: Phase Out Synthetics Gradually

Week 1: Replace one daily OTC (e.g., swap sleep aids for herbal tea)

Week 2: Make your first syrup (e.g., elderberry for immunity)

Week 3: Create a topical remedy (e.g., arnica salve for muscle pain)

Deepening Your Practice

For comprehensive guidance—including safety protocols, advanced formulations, and seasonal routines—explore Building a Natural Home Apothecary. This book provides:

50+ recipes with precise measurements

Herb-drug interaction charts

Step-by-step photography

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: Can herbal remedies replace all pharmaceuticals? A: No. Critical medications (e.g., insulin, antibiotics) require professional oversight. Herbs excel at preventive care and mild-to-moderate conditions.

Q: How do I ensure herb quality? A: Look for:

USDA Organic certification

Ethical wildcrafting practices

Transparent lab testing (heavy metals, pesticides)

Q: What’s the shelf life of homemade remedies?

Water-based (teas, syrups): 1–3 weeks (refrigerated)

Alcohol-based (tinctures): 3+ years

Dried herbs: 1–2 years (stored in airtight containers)

Get Your Free Herbal Remedy Cheat Sheet!

Join my newsletter and instantly receive a printable Herbal Cheat Sheet—featuring 5 must-know remedies for stress, immunity, and sleep. Plus, get exclusive herbal tips and book updates!

Source: Why Your Medicine Cabinet Needs a Natural Overhaul (How to Start)

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Easy Homemade Florida Water Recipe No.1 Enchant your herbs using the following tags.

Lavender/Lavanda - for cleansing, protection and peace of home, mind, body and spirit

Orange/Naranja - for spiritual cleansing, to attract good fortune and luck, removal of stagnant energy.

Rosemary/Romero- for cleansing, protection

Cinnamon/Canela - for speed, to attract good luck and fortune

Cloves/Clavo - for domination of adverse conditions, to attract good luck and fortune, to remove negativity and purify spiritual vibrations

Mint/Mentha - for purification of energy, cleansing, protection and the attraction of good luck and fortune

Tangerine/Mandarina - for purification, to attract positive energy, uplift and bring abundance, to clear away negative influences

Lemon/Limon - to purify, cleanse and promote clarity

Mix together in a decent sized bottle, using distilled water and one cup of cheap high proof Vodka or Rum as a preservative, charge on your altar, in the moonlight or using your prayers.

Let sit for a week & Voila!

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Reminder that you are allowed to crave attention, validation, and external support. You're not invalid if these are things that you want and things that motivate your self-destructive urges. We are social creatures and when we do not grow up learning healthy ways to get our emotional needs met by others, we may act out in ways we're not proud of to try to make it happen.

Another reminder that you are allowed to forgive yourself for the negative ways you have done this in the past and that it is never too late to start learning healthier ways to get your social and emotional needs met from those around you. If those around you are not responsive to your efforts, you're allowed to look for new community. You don't have to do it perfectly, you just have to spend each day trying to grow just a little bit.

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The Power of Pugnacity

Pugnacity is not a dirty word.

Understanding Pugnacity

Pugnacity means having a fighting spirit. It’s about standing firm. But it doesn’t mean picking fights. It’s about being assertive, not aggressive. It’s about being strong, not stubborn.

The Art of Constructive Confrontation

Confrontation can be constructive. It’s about addressing issues, not attacking people. Speak clearly. Listen actively. Show respect. This is how you stand your ground without causing harm.

Evidence of Effective Confrontation

Think of great leaders. Martin Luther King Jr. stood firm. He confronted injustice with peace. He was pugnacious, yet he united people. His strength was in his calm, unwavering resolve.

Pre-bunking Criticisms

Some say confrontation is negative. But avoiding confrontation can lead to resentment. It can cause misunderstandings. Constructive confrontation clears the air. It builds stronger relationships.

Calls to Action

Next time you face a challenge, be pugnacious. Stand firm, but stay calm. Speak your truth, but listen too. Approach with empathy. You’ll find strength in this balance.

Conclusion

Pugnacity is powerful. It’s about being strong, yet gentle. It’s about standing up, without putting others down. Embrace it. Use it wisely. And watch as it transforms your interactions.

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I highly recommend a clingy, lovey-dovey partner. Life’s too short to be with someone who acts like showing love is a chore

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Deuteronomy 31:8

The LORD Himself goes before you; He will be with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid or discouraged."

God has promised to never leave us. So every morning when we wake up, we can say, “Thank You, Jesus. I know You were watching over me while I slept. And now as I get ready for the day, I know that wherever I go, You will be with me.”

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10 things to do when you’re having a hard day or when motivation is down </3

Take a long shower/bath to cleanse yourself of your negative thoughts/feelings

Make your bed to get your motivation started

Do a quick workout to get your body moving

Write in your journal about how you feel and why, it might release some emotions and make you feel better

Drink water and put intention in it - decide that the water is going to cleanse your energy and it will!

Talk to a friend or a family member and if that isn’t available to you right now talk to an online friend or even a pet

Read a book (if you like reading, otherwise it might not be as calming)

Put on dancy music and dance around your room! Gets your mood up and your body moving

Take a walk, let the fresh air heal you

Put on makeup and a cute outfit because look good = feel good

xoxo, Hannah

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shifting shadow work 🔮

shadow work is a process in which we delve into the depths of our unconscious self also known as the shadow self. this includes repressed emotions, fear, limiting beliefs, and blockages that we may not be aware of, or are not ready to accept. shadow work helps one become more self-aware and develops a deep understanding of the self. it heals past traumas and improves your self-esteem and relationships. since it helps identify limiting beliefs and blockages, it can be used as a tool to help you shift, in order to rewire your mindset for success! answer the following questions with honesty and in as much detail as you can go. have fun with this! enjoy the process. good luck :)

what are my deepest fears and insecurities about shifting realities?

what limiting beliefs do i hold about my ability to shift realities?

what negative emotions or traumas am i holding onto that may be hindering my ability to shift?

how do i sabotage my own efforts to shift realities?

what parts of myself am i rejecting or denying that may be preventing me from shifting?

what am i afraid of losing or gaining by shifting realities?

what do i truly desire from shifting realities, and why?

what is my desired/ideal reality, and what am i afraid of creating?

how can i create a more positive relationship with myself and my desires?

what are my specific fears or doubts about the reality i want to shift to?

what negative experiences or beliefs have shaped my current reality?

how do i create my own reality, and how can I take responsibility for my experiences?

how will I go about my life if i never end up shifting? what will i do instead?

what emotions am i afraid of feeling if i shift realities?

do i find myself worthy of shifting realities?

how do these emotions relate to past traumas or negative experiences?

what coping mechanisms do i use to avoid these emotions, and how are they hindering my progress?

how can i learn to embrace these emotions and use them as a tool to grow?

are there parts of my shifting journey/mindset that i feel ashamed of or try to deny?

what negative beliefs do i hold about myself, and how did they develop?

how would i be if i had the perfect shifting mindset?

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Signs You May Need Some Emotional Healing ❤️‍🩹✨

Some different ways you might be struggling inside and suggest that looking after your emotional health could help you feel better. Talking to someone like a counselor or trying ways to take care of your feelings can make a big difference. We all have things we need to heal from. It's normal. You deserve to be happy <3

Feeling sad or down a lot.

Worrying or feeling stressed all the time.

Getting angry or annoyed easily.

Not wanting to hang out with people or do fun things.

Having trouble getting along with friends or family.

Not feeling good about yourself.

Having a hard time talking about or dealing with your feelings.

Using things like too much food, alcohol, or other stuff to feel better.

Feeling like you're stuck or don't have a goal.

Having body aches or feeling sick without a clear reason.

Can't stop thinking about bad things that happened before.

Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much.

Always feeling mad.

Seeing everything in a negative way.

Thinking you're always right.

Getting upset if someone suggests you could do something differently.

Not wanting to share your thoughts or feelings.

Being scared of new situations or changes.

Putting off tasks and avoiding dealing with problems.

Trying to be perfect all the time.

Finding it hard to trust people.

Feeling disconnected or numb.

Feeling really guilty or ashamed about things.

Wanting to escape reality through video games, TV, or daydreaming.

Not feeling happy even when good things happen.

Needing other people to tell you you're doing okay.

Feeling drained or worn out from dealing with emotions.

Always feeling like the victim, as if bad things happen only to you and it's always someone else's fault.

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You have no idea how much your shadow self loves you.

Your shadow self is the one who gets angry when someone disrespects you.

The one who fights back when someone hurts you.

The one who tells you to leave a partner, a friend, a job that is harming you.

Yes, your higher self cares about your karma, your wisdom, your peace.

But it’s your shadow self who makes sure you are safe, loved, cherished.

So listen to your shadow self. It’s the oldest friend you’ve ever had.

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HEALING AFFIRMATIONS😌🕉️

💚I AM JUST A SOUL

💚I AM A HEALED SOUL

💚I AM DETACHED FROM EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE

💚MY CHILDHOOD TRAUMA IS HEALED

💚MY INNER CHILD/INNER SELF IS HEALED

💚I AM HAPPY

💚MY SOUL IS HAPPY

💚MY SOUL IS PURE

💚MY HEART IS PURE

💚MY MIND IS PURE

💚I AM ENOUGH

💚I AM LOVABLE

💚I LOVE MYSELF

💚I CARE ABOUT MYSELF

💚I TRUST MYSELF

💚I AM PROUD OF MYSELF

💚I AM ALWAYS THERE FOR MYSELF

💚I AM THE BEST

💚I AM SORRY TO MYSELF FOR TALKING NEGATIVE ABOUT MYSELF AND DOUBTING MYSELF

💚I FORGIVE MYSELF FOR EVERY MISTAKE I MADE

💚I THANK MYSELF FOR EVERYTHING

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Therapy Isn’t About Letting Your Demons Out—It’s About Keeping Them at Bay

When people talk about therapy, there’s often an assumption that it’s a place where you “release” your inner demons—where you purge all your pain, trauma, and darkness so you can walk away lighter, healed, and whole. But the truth is, therapy isn’t just about letting things out; it’s about learning how to live with them. It’s about creating a space where your demons don’t consume you. It’s about containment, understanding, and, ultimately, control.

The Myth of Purging Pain

Many people go into therapy with the expectation that if they just talk enough—if they cry enough, vent enough, or spill enough of their deepest fears—they’ll eventually “get rid” of the things haunting them. And while speaking about your struggles is an essential part of healing, therapy isn’t a magic exorcism where pain disappears on command.

In reality, the goal of therapy isn’t to erase your past or banish every intrusive thought. Instead, it’s about developing tools to manage them. Your demons—whether they take the form of anxiety, depression, trauma, or self-doubt—don’t necessarily leave. But they don’t have to run your life either.

Containment vs. Suppression

There’s a key difference between containing your demons and suppressing them. Suppression is pushing things down, pretending they don’t exist, numbing yourself, or avoiding the things that trigger discomfort. It’s like locking a monster in a cage and refusing to acknowledge it—until one day, the cage bursts open, and it wreaks havoc.

Containment, on the other hand, is about creating a structure that allows you to acknowledge your pain without letting it take over. It’s about understanding that the monsters in your mind don’t have to be your enemies. They can become something you live alongside rather than something you constantly fight against.

Therapy as a Guide, Not a Cure

Therapy doesn’t cure you. It teaches you how to navigate. A good therapist won’t promise to erase your pain but will help you reframe it, making it something you can carry without breaking under its weight.

Therapy might teach you that:

• Your fears don’t define you.

• Your past doesn’t have to control your future.

• Your struggles are part of your story but not the whole book.

• You have more power over your thoughts and emotions than you realize.

The goal is to ensure that, even when the darkness creeps in, you know how to keep the lights on.

The Strength in Holding On

There’s something profoundly courageous about facing your demons rather than running from them. It takes resilience to sit with discomfort, to work through pain rather than pretend it doesn’t exist. And while therapy might not make your demons disappear, it will teach you how to make peace with them.

At the end of the day, therapy isn’t about opening the floodgates and hoping your demons wash away. It’s about learning how to build a dam strong enough to withstand them—one that allows you to keep living, growing, and thriving, no matter what’s lurking in the depths.

So, if you’ve ever thought therapy was just about letting everything out, consider this: maybe it’s more about learning how to hold yourself together. And maybe, just maybe, that’s even more powerful.

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how to build bridges and make meaningful connections ❀•°❀

for the girlies who want more than just superficial relationships

1. be the kind of energy that people want to stay around

be light, not draining. bring warmth, humor, and softness where you can. I always try to smile at people when I talk to them or see them, and people notice how I'm happy to hang out with them. just bringing a positive energy immediately draws people towards you.

try not to complain. everybody has struggles, and while venting can feel natural, it can also quietly drain the energy from conversations and people listening. personally, I struggle with this too. but, when we constantly focus on what's wrong, we unknowingly push people away. no one wants to feel like every conversation is a weight to carry.

instead, try adding something lighter or more meaningful. instead of saying, "I'm so stressed," try "this week is super busy, but I'm making time for a break soon." it's not about pretending that life's perfect, but being mindful of the energy you bring to a space.

show up with consistency. make plans for lunch and actually show up. remember small things that they say in conversations. it's always the greatest feeling when someone remembers that I had an important performance or difficult test and then ask me about it afterwards.

2. connect through conversation

make eye contact. it's uncomfortable, I get it. but, when you look someone in the eye while they're talking to you, it makes you look 1) more engaged about what they're saying, and 2) more genuinely appreciative of their presence. practice doing it little by little every day, and soon, it will become like second-nature.

share stories, not just facts. I think that conversations come alive with small stories with details that make moments memorable. for example, instead of just saying “I had a phone as a kid because I was on the soccer team” (fact), i added layers: “I got a phone because I went to soccer matches as a kid! I was terrible at soccer, but I helped the team by tricking opponents into thinking I’d get the ball. basically, I was a glorified decoy” (story). true story, by the way.

3. acknowledge them, even if you are not actively hanging out.

greet them by name. when you see them while walking, make an effort to remember their name and say hi. I feel that greetings come off as much more genuine when I address them personally.

if you don't know their name, still make an effort to smile and wave. I would still appreciate it if someone takes the time to acknowledge me, even for a little moment, because it shows that they care.

4. embrace compliments and connection

take compliments. I'll be the first to admit, I struggle with this too. but, isn't it a bit awkward when you give someone a compliment and they instantly deflect it with "oh but I look so ugly today like my hair is whack and my eyeliner is uneven" (calling myself out...)? instead, I think it's best to thank them genuinely for noticing you, even if you don't fully agree with their compliment. receive it with gratitude, not self-criticism. it's not about actually being perfect, but appreciating the kindness behind their words.

compliment them back, and be observant about it. you could just say, "you look amazing too" (though that's still nice). but, the next step could be noticing something specific, like their earrings or the way they carry themselves. or, share what you actually admire about them, like their kindness or determination. it's about making your compliment feel personal and thoughtful.

if you admire someone, tell them. it only sounds fake if you make it fake.

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remember, real connections are built on authenticity and kindness. it's not about being perfect. it's about being genuine, showing up, and appreciating the people around you. now, you just have a few more tools on how to make these connections and be the friend that you would appreciate in your own life.

thank you for reading all the way through as always. wishing everybody all the good things in the world and a blessed rest of your day <3

sending lots of love, q's playlist

[enlighted-aura]

𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐤𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐲 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟎𝟏

listen up, pookie your kitty (yes, her) deserves to be treated like royalty. she works overtime for you, keeps you feeling good, and deserves top-tier maintenance. if you’ve ever wondered how to keep your girl fresh, healthy, and thriving, then sit back, grab some tea (preferably one that benefits her—more on that later), and let’s dive DEEP into the one and only guide you’ll ever need on vaginal health, hygiene, and overall reproductive wellness.

taking care of your kitty isn’t just about hygiene, it’s about honoring your femininity, connecting with your body, and embracing your divine energy. when she’s healthy, fresh, and balanced, you feel more confident, radiant, and in tune with yourself. a well-cared-for kitty enhances your sensuality, self-love, and overall well-being, making you feel empowered in your femininity. it’s an act of self-respect and self-care, a ritual that reminds you that your body is sacred. when you nurture her, you’re not just maintaining hygiene, you’re cultivating a deeper connection with your womanhood and stepping into your most powerful, feminine self.

1. internal care: what you put in is what you get out.

your kitty is a self-cleaning queen, but she still needs your help to stay in her best shape. what you consume directly affects her smell, taste, moisture, and overall health. let’s break it all down:

🎀 water is your bestie

first things first “drink your damn water, babygirl.” if your kitty has ever smelled a little “off,” felt dry, or just hasn’t been vibing right, chances are you’re dehydrated. dehydration leads to:

• stronger vaginal odors (not the good kind)

• increased risk of infections

• dryness and discomfort

how much should you drink? at LEAST 2-3 liters a day. and if you struggle with drinking plain water, add:

• lemon (helps balance pH)

• cucumber (hydrating AF)

• mint (cooling & refreshing)

🎀 lemon water = ph queen

starting your day with warm lemon water is a game changer. why?

• it flushes out toxins

• it helps balance your vaginal pH (prevents infections, odors, and irritation)

• it keeps your skin glowing (bonus win)

make it a daily ritual, and your kitty will thank you.

🎀 tea time = kitty care time

certain teas work wonders for your vaginal health. here are some of the best ones:

• ginger tea → reduces inflammation, fights infections

• red raspberry leaf tea → strengthens the uterus, great for periods

• chamomile tea → reduces bloating & period cramps

• green tea → full of antioxidants, helps with vaginal odor

sip on these daily and watch the magic happen.

🎀 probiotics: the real MVPs

your vagina needs good bacteria to stay healthy, and probiotics help maintain that delicate flora balance. if you’re prone to yeast infections, BV, or UTIs, adding probiotics to your routine is non-negotiable

best probiotic sources:

• greek yogurt (plain, no added sugar!)

• kimchi & sauerkraut

• kombucha

• probiotic supplements

🎀 best food for your kitty

pineapple

watermelon

strawberries & berries

coconut water

citrus fruits (oranges, lemons, limes, grapefruits)

plain yogurt (probiotic-rich foods)

cucumber

celery boosts pheromones and gives a clean, light scent.

ginger & mint.

pheromones are natural chemical signals your body releases that can subconsciously attract others and enhance your sensual presence. they play a huge role in sexual attraction, confidence, and even how people perceive you. the more balanced and active your pheromone production, the more naturally alluring, magnetic, and desirable you become.

foods to limit or avoid (can cause strong or unpleasant odors)

asparagus

onions & garlic

red meat

too much dairy

excess sugar & processed foods

alcohol & coffee

2. external care: keep her fresh & clean (but not TOO clean)

your kitty is a self-cleaning goddess, which means less is more when it comes to washing. over-cleansing, using harsh soaps, or douching = disaster. let’s talk about how to properly care for her.

🎀 washing: gentle, gentle, gentle

• use only warm water to wash your vulva (external area)

• if you need a cleanser, pick one that is pH-balanced and fragrance-free

• never wash inside your vagina (she cleans herself)

avoid:

• anything scented (no bath bombs, no perfumes, no harsh soaps)

• douching (throws off your pH and causes infections)

🎀 menstrual care: keep it fresh

your period is not dirty, but you need to maintain proper hygiene:

• change your pads/tampons every 3-4 hours

• if using a menstrual cup, sterilize it before and after each cycle

• wear breathable cotton underwear during your period

• drink iron-rich teas and foods to replenish nutrients

during your period, your body is already working hard to clean itself, so you don’t need to scrub down excessively. instead:

wash with lukewarm water & a gentle pH-balanced cleanser

avoid harsh soaps, fragrances, or douching — these strip your natural protective bacteria, making you prone to infections.

if you need a quick refresh, use unscented, pH-balanced feminine wipes (no alcohol, no fragrance!)

pads & tampons – change every 4-6 hours to prevent bacteria buildup. leaving them in too long can cause bad odors, irritation, and even infections.

menstrual cups – empty every 8-12 hours, wash with mild, unscented soap, and boil between cycles for proper hygiene.

drink 2-3L of water daily – helps flush out toxins and reduces bloating.

eat fresh fruits (pineapple, watermelon, oranges) – these keep your kitty’s natural scent light & sweet.

take probiotics (yogurt, kimchi, kombucha) – maintain a healthy vaginal pH & prevent yeast infections.

avoid too much caffeine, alcohol & processed foods – these can make you smell stronger and increase cramps.

drink herbal teas (ginger, chamomile, raspberry leaf) – these help relax muscles & ease cramps.

do light movement (yoga, stretching, walking) – keeps blood flowing & reduces bloating.

apply a warm compress or heating pad – this soothes your uterus & relieves pain.

take magnesium & vitamin B6 – these reduce cramps & mood swings.

cut down on salt & sugar – excess sodium & sugar make bloating & cramps worse.

🎀 underwear game: cotton only, babes

ditch the synthetic panties and switch to 100% cotton. why?

• it’s breathable

• reduces sweat buildup

• prevents yeast infections

also, sleep without underwear when possible, let your kitty breathe. (i don’t wear at home at all lol)

🎀 yoni steams: ancient but powerful

yoni steaming is an old practice that helps:

• cleanse the vagina and uterus

• balance hormones

• improve circulation

• relieve menstrual cramps

how to do it:

1. boil water and add herbs like mugwort, lavender, and rosemary.

2. sit over the steam (like a chair with a hole or squat over it but please don’t burn yourself, pookie).

3. let the steam cleanse and refresh your kitty for 15-20 minutes.

subliminal for yoni (listen whenever possible)

3. maintaining, tightness & strength

a strong kitty = better bladder control, better sex, and a healthier reproductive system. let’s talk about keeping her snatched and healthy.

🎀 kegels = tight & right

doing kegels daily helps with:

• stronger orgasms

• bladder control

• postpartum recovery

how to do it:

• squeeze your pelvic muscles (like you’re stopping pee)

• hold for 5-10 seconds

• repeat 10-15 times

do this every day, and you’ll notice a difference.

how to do kegels exercises?

pelvic exercises for women

🎀 waxing, shaving, or au naturel?

how you groom is completely your choice, but here’s the tea:

• waxing → lasts longer, reduces ingrown hairs

• shaving → quick but can cause irritation

• lasering → best long-term option, reduces hair permanently

• natural → totally fine but at least trim it time to time and clean it nicely to avoid any odour or infection

🎀 wipes: do we love them?

YES—but only the right ones.

• fragrance-free

• pH-balanced

• alcohol-free

use them after sex, gym sessions, or when you need a quick refresh.

4. sex & post-sex care: protect, cleanse, and glow

listen up, pookie—what happens in the bedroom affects your kitty’s health. whether you’re getting spicy on the regular or once in a blue moon, proper aftercare is a MUST. neglecting this step can lead to infections, irritation, or discomfort, and we don’t want that, do we?

always, ALWAYS pee after sex

i don’t care if you’re tired, cuddly, or just feeling lazy—get up and pee. this flushes out bacteria that might have entered your urethra, preventing UTIs (urinary tract infections).

wash her up (gently)

• rinse your vulva (external area) with warm water

• if needed, use a mild, fragrance-free cleanser

• pat dry with a soft towel—don’t rub! (also keep a separate towel only for her) (her means your vagina)

does pineapple really change taste?

yes and no. diet does influence how you taste down there, but it’s not just about pineapple. your diet plays the biggest role in how you taste. the goal is to eat foods that are light, fresh, and naturally sweet.

• sweet, hydrating foods = milder, pleasant taste

• too much processed food & dairy = stronger, unpleasant odor

foods that help:

drink at least 2-3L of water daily – keeps your juices light, clear & fresh.

add lemon or cucumber to your water – natural detox, makes your fluids lighter & more neutral.

drink coconut water – packed with natural electrolytes & lightens your natural taste.

chlorophyll water = internal deodorizer – helps your kitty and cum stay fresh & clean.

pineapple, mango, strawberries, watermelon – these are nature’s candy and make your cum sweeter & fruitier.

oranges, lemons, grapefruit – full of vitamin C, which neutralizes strong odors.

apples, grapes, kiwis – naturally sweeten your fluids.

cinnamon, honey, vanilla – add natural warmth & sweetness to your juices.

cucumber & celery – high in water & help flush out toxins, keeping you light & clean-tasting.

mint & parsley – natural breath & body fresheners.

sweet potatoes & yams – help maintain a balanced, natural sweetness.

foods to limit:

onions & garlic or strong spices

too much red meat and processed

alcohol and coffee

excess dairy

🎀 protect your pH: condoms matter

raw is fun and all, but if you’re not in a committed, tested relationship, you NEED protection. unprotected sex can:

• throw off your vaginal pH

• increase risk of infections (BV, yeast, UTIs)

• expose you to STIs plus girl you don’t wanna get pregnant especially if you’re not committed

if condoms make you itchy or irritated, you might be allergic to latex switch to non-latex condoms instead.

5. infections & odor: keep things fresh & problem-free

let’s be real sometimes, your kitty acts up. you might notice a smell, unusual discharge, or irritation. this is your body talking to you pay attention!

what’s normal vs. not?

your vagina has a natural scent—it’s NOT supposed to smell like flowers, vanilla, or candy (despite what some brands try to sell you). HOWEVER, extreme changes in odor can be a sign of something off.

when to worry:

❌ fishy odor → bacterial vaginosis (BV)

❌ strong, foul smell → possible infection

❌ yeasty, bread-like smell → yeast infection

🎀 infections 101: yeast, BV, and UTIs

(please go see a gynaecologist)

yeast infections

• symptoms: itching, thick white discharge (like cottage cheese), redness

bacterial vaginosis (BV)

• symptoms: fishy smell, grayish discharge, irritation

urinary tract infections (UTIs)

• symptoms: burning when peeing, constant urge to go, lower belly pain

6. gym, sweat & hygiene: stay fresh all day

your kitty is working overtime when you’re sweating it out at the gym. here’s how to keep her fresh, dry, and happy:

🎀 gym tips for vaginal health

• wear breathable cotton underwear or moisture-wicking fabrics

• change out of sweaty clothes ASAP

• wipe down with pH-balanced wipes after workouts

• carry baby wipes for quick fresh-ups

7. pregnancy, birth control & hormones: long-term kitty care

your reproductive health is more than just hygiene. hormones, birth control, and pregnancy all play a role in vaginal health.

🎀 birth control & vaginal health

obviously there are so many different types of birth controls like hormonal birth controls like pills, shots, etc. even non-hormonal birth control like using of condoms, copper iud etc. all of them have their own set of advantages and disadvantages so please please please chat with your dermatologist which is well suited for your needs and body

🎀 pregnancy changes everything about your kitty—expect:

• increased discharge (normal, but should be clear/white) and even month long periods (my mom faced this)

• higher risk of yeast infections

• vaginal stretching (kegels help postpartum recovery!) ask your gynaecologist when to start cause possibly your vagina tears during parturition (delivery)

8. womb care

whether you’re planning to have kids one day or just want to keep your reproductive system strong and healthy, taking care of your kitty and womb right now is one of the best things you can do. think of it like preparing a garden: the healthier the soil (your body), the better the flowers (your future pregnancy and baby). even if you’re not sexually active yet, you can build a strong, fertile, and balanced reproductive system so that when the time comes, you have an easy, smooth pregnancy and a strong, healthy baby.

your hormones control everything. your period, ovulation, fertility, and even your mood. keeping them balanced now will make pregnancy much easier later.

eat hormone-balancing foods

• healthy fats: avocados, salmon, olive oil (support hormone production).

• leafy greens: spinach, kale, broccoli (flush out excess estrogen).

• seeds: flaxseeds, pumpkin seeds, sesame seeds (help regulate your cycle).

reduce stress

• high stress = high cortisol, which can mess with your fertility.

• try meditation, journaling, or long walks to calm your nervous system.

limit processed foods & sugar

• too much sugar can cause hormonal imbalances & irregular periods.

avoid plastic food containers & BPA

• these contain chemicals that mess with your hormones & fertility.

tip: try seed cycling (eating specific seeds during your menstrual cycle) to keep your hormones naturally balanced.

maintain a balanced vaginal pH (3.8-4.5)

• drink water with lemon to help detox & balance your system.

• take probiotics (yogurt, fermented foods, or supplements) to maintain good bacteria.

• avoid harsh soaps, scented products, & douching—these strip away natural protection.

practice proper menstrual care

• switch to organic pads or tampons (regular ones have chemicals that disrupt vaginal health).

• if using a menstrual cup, clean it properly to avoid infections.

protect your womb

• avoid sitting on cold surfaces for too long (cold affects circulation to your uterus).

• practice yoni steaming with gentle herbs like lavender, rosemary, & chamomile to cleanse your womb.

EAT FERTILITY-BOOSTING FOODS

• avocados → full of folate, which is essential for pregnancy.

• eggs → contain choline, which helps with baby brain development.

• berries (strawberries, blueberries, raspberries) → full of antioxidants that protect your eggs.

• walnuts & almonds → improve egg quality.

• leafy greens (spinach, kale, broccoli) → rich in iron & folate.

DRINK WOMB-FRIENDLY TEAS

• raspberry leaf tea → strengthens the uterus & prepares it for pregnancy.

• ginger tea → reduces inflammation & improves blood flow to your womb.

• nettle tea → full of minerals to keep your reproductive system strong.

AVOID FERTILITY-KILLERS

too much caffeine (it affects egg quality).

alcohol & smoking (lower fertility & harm future pregnancy).

too much processed food (affects your hormone balance).

START TAKING PRENATAL VITAMINS EARLY

prenatal vitamins aren’t just for when you’re pregnant—they help prepare your body years before conception.

folic acid (B9) → prevents birth defects & supports healthy eggs.

iron → prevents anemia & strengthens the uterus.

vitamin D → improves fertility & hormone balance.

omega-3s (DHA & EPA) → support baby’s brain & eye development.

final words: love your kitty, and she’ll love you back

babygirl, your kitty is a queen and deserves royal treatment. stay hydrated, balanced, and mindful, and she will always be fresh, tight, and healthy.

this guide? your new bible. bookmark it, re-read it, and share it with your besties. your kitty care era starts NOW.