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I have a tiny following, and this feels a bit like I'm asking the void for help, but it's important to me.

In my LARP group, one of the new guys is an older conservative veteran, but he genuinely wants to learn, understand, and grow. He asks hard and uncomfortable questions about trans people in good faith, and I'm almost always willing to talk, but I need outside information to really get through to him. He's been raised as a biggot, but is also a genuinely kind and caring person, and it really feels like he wants to NOT be a biggot anymore.

Does anyone have particularly good resources that could help a biggot step away from bigotry? Resources for learning and growing that approach it from the perspective of helping conservatives understand and want to be woke?

I'm hoping for simple shareable items like articles or YouTube essays that I could point him towards and set him loose on, that aren't full of bad actors and hostile parties.

If you have anything, even if you don't know me at all, please reach out and send it my way. If not, can you please please consider spreading this? I would love for this post to reach a wider audience, and to maybe become a resource in and of itself.

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Vampires autistic

Fae ADHD

Stuck on the idea of vampires as a kind of reverse fae, or like someone's twisted, perverse attempt at moulding humans into fae.

They're repelled by liminal spaces.

A vampire could never enter fairyland, not just because they'd never be welcomed, but because most of the usual entry-ways are naturally barred to them.

They can't cross running water. They can't be seen in mirrors. They will wait forever at a crossroads, unable to pick a direction to go in. They can't even step over a thresh-hold unless there is absolutely no ambiguity about whether they are welcome inside.

They crave human blood, iron and salt, but are repelled by herbs and plants. They are supernaturally prevented from harming you unless the rules of hospitality have been invoked.

A fairy may replace your newborn child with something unnatural and ever-hungry. A vampire will do the same, but with your grandmother's corpse.

The fae are typically associated, even in stories where they're the bad guys, with flourishing and purity. Vampires, even in stories where they're the good guys, are typically associated with decay and corruption.

The fae turn ancient human burial mounds into fancy halls for their courts. Vampires take ancient human castles and let them grow mildewed and cobwebbed, exchanging the beds for coffins, turning them into burial places.

Fae don't tend to live among humans, but can generally pass for them with relative ease if they so choose. Vampires nearly always live among humans, but tend to find not revealing themselves a huge struggle.

I can't think of many stories I've read where fae and vampires even exist in the same universe, let alone ones where they actively interact. I feel like their enmity is almost more inevitable than that between vampires and werewolves, however.

The rivalry between vampires and werewolves is, essentially, the rivalry between two apex predator species who share a territory. (Even in stories where the werewolves aren't actually hunting humans.)

The vampires hate the werewolves because the werewolves interfere with their access to prey. The werewolves hate the vampires either because they consider themselves aligned with humans (the prey species), or because they are also predators and the vampires are competing with them.

By comparison, I think there's some story potential in the fae finding something genuinely creepy and uncanny valley about vampires.

They're immortal, like them, but also dead. They can be beautiful, like them, but that beauty is something they actively require humans to sustain. They like to inhabit beautiful and ancient ex-human dwellings, like them, but they actively work to make those places dark, damp and empty.

Fairies who are unflappable in the face of all sorts of Otherworldly monsters, can look an eldritch horror in the eye(s) without blinking, and have never been phased yet by any human, but will recoil from even the weakest vampire.

Vampires who hate fairies just as much, but in a more envious way. The way that the creature for whom immortality is a curse is bound to hate the creatures for whom immortality is an eternity of sunlight and laughter.

Maybe their touches burn each other. Maybe vampires can't stand physical contact with anything so alive and vital. Maybe immortal fairies become ill from too much exposure to the undead.

Maybe they fight over the human population when their territories overlap. The fairy need for servants and people to make deals with, competing with the vampire need for thralls and blood to drink.

Just… fairies and vampires. We need more stories about them interacting.

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The reading comprehension and overall common sense on this website is piss poor.

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"um excuuuse me, but our culture as men is founded on the denigration and humiliation of the women in our community, so when you criticize misogyny you are attacking our beloved history" doesn't magically become a good argument just because you're gay or trans, you dumb assholes

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"um excuuuse me, but our culture as men is founded on the denigration and humiliation of the women in our community, so when you criticize misogyny you are attacking our beloved history" doesn't magically become a good argument just because you're gay or trans, you dumb assholes

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"um excuuuse me, but our culture as men is founded on the denigration and humiliation of the women in our community, so when you criticize misogyny you are attacking our beloved history" doesn't magically become a good argument just because you're gay or trans, you dumb assholes

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"um excuuuse me, but our culture as men is founded on the denigration and humiliation of the women in our community, so when you criticize misogyny you are attacking our beloved history" doesn't magically become a good argument just because you're gay or trans, you dumb assholes

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My official position is that Luigi Mangione is innocent because he's not the real killer and whoever the real killer is is also innocent. Two different people who are both innocent.

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Also! Look into a local larp group! Some can be shitty, but a lot of the amtgard groups I've visited have been flooded with trans women. My current group of eight people has two trans women, and my last group of about thirty people had at least six.

um so. weird question maybe but how do you find a community of other trans women to hang out with? I’m a trans girl on the younger side who’s lived in a couple places and despite having queer friends and being relatively in the queer scene in those places I’ve only really ever met other trans women when I was in a psych ward for a couple months. I’m about to move again and be on my own again and like. I was just wondering if you had any tips for finding a scene where there’s other trans women I can hang out with? I’ve been dying to meet other trans women and it’s been uh. kind of really lonely being the only trans woman I know for so long. If not, no worries, and sorry if it’s a weird question! I hope you have a good day nonetheless <3

trans women tend to love activities and hate going outside, so most trans women who are to be found outside are to be found doing activities, or hanging out at activity oriented places. game stores, plant shops, libraries, lego conventions, underground shows, fighting game weeklies. meet one then meet all her friends. they're out there but we are a reclusive species -- focus your efforts on going to fun places and you'll find like minded dolls there, hiding in corners, waiting to be your friend

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suggestions for feeling more girl-like?

my unpopular opinion on this is that it's really easy to fixate on how you present or what you see in the mirror, but what's actually gonna make you feel most like a woman is feeling like people treat you as one. the more time you spend with people who see you as yourself, the less the details will matter. trying to get yourself perfect first so no one can react the wrong way is a trap. i didn't stop hating my shoulders because my shoulders changed, i stopped hating my shoulders because it didn't seem to matter once all my friends and loved ones were showing me in our interactions that they saw me as myself. find your people.

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{From the moment I understood the ugliness of my flesh, it disgusted me. I craved the beauty and sexiness of steel. I aspired to the hotness of the lustful Machine}

{Your kind cling to your flesh, as if it will not decay and fail you. One day the crude biomass that you call hot will wither, and you will beg my kind to beautify you. But I am already beautiful, for the machine is sexy}

{even in death I serve cunt}

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They should make it easier for trans women

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I am, unfortunately, American, but I will reblog for any visibility I can offer.

Everyone's getting mad at the Switch 2 but the Stop Killing Games initiative is still missing 550k (over half) required signatures and there's only 2 months left.

So if you're an EU citizen take the 2 minutes it takes to sign it. A law change in the EU would also benefit non-EU citizens.

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Hoooooohhhhh my god

I am being so normal about this

the pretty prince and his cool guardian

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Hi speaking of medical literacy for trans people, transfems pls check out the website Transfeminine Science, especially their introductory article on feminizing HRT

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Can I please share with you the wildest ad I've ever seen on this site?

just saw an add on my dash (using my phone) so bizarre i thought it would be a screenshot of an add someone else saw. but it was organically there