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blasting my silly little music and creating my silly little daydreams so i don’t lose my silly little mind

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resurrection is sort of romantic, isnt it

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yes i'm normal about him. i need to gnaw on him like a no. 2 pencil

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yes i'm normal about him. i need to gnaw on him like a no. 2 pencil

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yes i'm normal about him. i need to gnaw on him like a no. 2 pencil

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who up rigging they mortis

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i love inside jokes. yeah this insane set of words is something only me and like 3 other people can understand. yes it sends me into a fit of insane laughter when i hear about it

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EVERY OC LIST GOT THA:

-constantly anxious who is 5 seconds away from a panic attack at all times -obsessed with blood -weird lesbian -5 seconds away from beating the shit out of everyone -the mascot -the one who's actually drawn/written about 99% of the time

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Should I break up with my roommate? We’re not dating or anything but the friendship is getting a little homoerotic and I’m scared of intimacy

Get more homoerotic

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it thrums with life and malice. sings that i am beautiful. sings that i am a home.

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playing around with how I stylize kindred and how they actually look to the kine. I've been thinking about it for a while.

Don't worry about that last one he's on auto-pilot for a bit and the Beast is in the driver's seat.

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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

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once again thinking about the similarities between Leo West and Michael Shelley

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This wouldn't happen to me if i were a huge dragon

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ok girlies we are at a sleepover. we know how many crush confessions you’ve given and received. now tell us how many people you’ve kissed

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rolling badly is something that can be so good for developing your character, actually