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sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

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Based off of this post by @divorcedbeheaded

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It’s so wild to me how in the span of just one year we saw the “big 4″ morph into a “big 3″. Like literally a year ago if you scrolled through the broadway tag the majority of the posts would be about Hamilton, Be More Chill, Heathers, and Dear Evan Hansen. And now the majority of posts are about Six, Beetlejuice, and Hadestown. It’s very cool to see how this community is evolving so quickly and how just a couple musicals can completely change the vibe of a fandom.

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Lemme set this one thing clear

You're a musical fan if you like even only one musical

You're a musical fan if you don't remember the lyrics

You're a musical fan if you like popular musicals

You're a musical fan if you like smaller musical

You're a musical fan if you've seen the musical live

You're a musical fan if you've just seen the bootleg

You're a musical fan if you only listen to the soundtrack

You're a musical fan if you like old musicals

You're a musical fan if you like new musicals

But you know what doesn't make you a real musical fan? Being aggressive towards people who haven't seen the live production, who can't afford to, blame people for what they like, everyone should be allowed to like what they want, this is not a competition on who knows more.

Because this doesn't make you a fan, it makes you the lowest scum in society

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Here we go :>

(For deciding what skin colour to use, I gave it what colour the main character of the musical has. Then I realised that all of them but Great Comet had white, so I changed it for Newsies :) )

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Maureen: Cheese is just a loaf of milk.

Mark: ...She's right and I'm scared.

Roger: This implies a liquid form of bread.

Maureen: Beer.

Roger: Fuck.

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People who don't like musicals always use 'its not realistic for people to randomly burst into song and dance'

cut to every theatre kid ever when their parents aren't home singing random songs at the top of their lungs and dancing like maniacs.

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Please enjoy this low-quality meme I made in under a minute.

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say what you will about emergency covers but I think we can all agree genesis looked fucking gorgeous in the emergency cover costume

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someone please explain the piano thing to me

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🥺🥺🥺

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love u ma'am

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WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT THIS BREAKAWAY TRAILER

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It’s “crying while watching the Six bootleg” hours