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two 15 minute breaks isn't even enough

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I posted this in the replies of a post recently but I feel like actually posting it so fuck it

This is all purely anecdotal, and I’d love for someone to do a study on this in some capacity but that’s probably not gonna happen so whatever. I’ve noticed pretty consistently that trans spaces I’ve been in lean heavily majority transmasc, particularly when they skew younger (eg college campus trans groups) and that on average transmascs seem to come out younger than transfems. To be extremely clear this is not a complaint, but rather an observation

And for a while now I’ve been pretty sure I know the reason for this. Generally, people who are afab have more leeway for gender expression when they’re teenagers than people who are amab do. This, obviously is not universal. There are many communities whose misogyny includes not letting those they perceive as women dress in pants or suits, etc. However, communities such as those are also just as harsh and violent to those they perceive as men wearing women’s clothes. Whereas, in communities where afab people dressing in pants, suits, etc is accepted, the same for amab people wearing dresses, skirts, makeup, etc is very rarely as accepted.

The end result is this: transfems rarely have our eggs cracked young, because what that often requires is an initial moment of gender euphoria. Dysphoria is far harder to recognize when it’s your baseline, and you’ve never experienced euphoria before. So, young transfem eggs rarely have the experience of trying on clothes that make them feel like the girls they are, whereas such moments seem more common for young transmasc eggs.

This, I think, is one of several reasons that the whole language and culture of “eggs” skews almost exclusively towards encompassing transfems. Our moments of exploring gender expression are rarer and later in life, and stand out so much because of the stigma and insecurity that surrounds them.

I think this is one of several disconnects that some tme people are having with the currently ongoing egg discourse. Transfem eggs often don’t have an opportunity to explore gender presentation ourselves, so we often require someone else to extend a hand and give us an opportunity to try on dresses or try out she/her pronouns or just make a part of us we’ve buried so deeply feel seen. It’s so much of a longer process to reach that point on our own.

To be clear again, none of this is to say that transmascs have it easy, or anything of the sort. Our transitions take different paths, and I think there will always be a disconnect if transfems’ paths to coming out aren’t viewed through the context of how limited our options are.

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joining a volunteer thing for trans community and then seeing it's mostly transmascs makes me want to immediately bounce lol

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I think I just have too much to say in response to someone vaguely saying "collective COVID trauma" for me to succinctly word.

but I fucking hate you "remember when we baked bread! 😊" people. no. I dont. I was eating like a meal a day and was intensely suicidal before during and after COVID. and if I wanted to bake bread Im not sure if I would have had the energy time or money to do it. and you fuckers took all the flour off the shelves anyways!!!!!!

(and I think I'm a lucky one because Maybe I would have had money, but I was daily speaking to people getting evicted! I don't think they baked bread either!)

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I still don't really get the "COVID lockdown was a collective trauma we haven't recovered from" thing. like what is the measurement and how do you know if we have or haven't recovered. I don't even know what is being referred to here. am I stupit

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I don't want to ask for recs yet when I'm still finishing a long book and a long game (2). I think I need to read or play something that isn't popular/well known so I can just enjoy something and hopefully not get inundated with other people's opinions constantly.

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A couple years later it's still amazing what a perfect distillation the original "anonymized people of the global south" tweet is of the absolute callousness of yankee liberals.

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hey there, you've arrived at a Tumblr checkpoint!

are you thirty? have a sip!

are you hungry? have a spack!

have you been snitting in the sale proclation? mack your tabbers!.

are you stick? purt your indies!

do you need to prot a buntle? go! now!

are you tired? break your togs!

do a quick snat of your vitals. are you fond? do you need to reduct your plandles? if you have a trick, tog it. if you need to sitch, go so.

are you grod or too trinking? if you need to break off a grint or mend the bontle, go to that now!

I hope this helps! and I hope your tunderfal day :-)

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no one cares I still think dune needs scratch and sniff stickers in the book

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The highest quality lieblingsfach you’ve ever seen

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Literally feel like this everytime I see someone online talk about characters I like

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I think my favorite thing about XBC is sometimes when the characters say things and get cut off when they say their Attack Art, like one time it happened to Reyn and it sounded like he said "Sharla, with you around, I fight three times-" "Bone... UPPER!"

yes, accidentally combined voice clips are the best!! and it seems like reyn is the best perpetrator for this… for instance the “Bone Sharla Incident of 2015″

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mutuals please do this to me

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Saw a comment on insta saying this image of Dan Hentschel would make a great painting so I said yeah I bet you’re right. And painted it