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this reminds me of the study where they found that women who engage in self-objectification didn’t feel as cold in lower temperatures as women who didn’t. viewing yourself as an image instead of a person literally takes you out of your body on a visceral level.

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Idk, it's like a case study in Why Does He Do That on a TV show. Therefore, both the perp and the victims are predictable, as are the responses of many women watching, I guess

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“Disrespect also can take the form of idealizing you and putting you on a pedestal as a perfect woman or goddess, perhaps treating you like a piece of fine china. The man who worships you in this way is not seeing you; he is seeing his fantasy, and when you fail to live up to that image he may turn nasty. So there may not be much difference between the man who talks down to you and the one who elevates you; both are displaying a failure to respect you as a real human being and bode ill.”

— Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (via a-witches-brew)

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Exactly! Sometimes, I felt like I was watching a different show. There was so much fawning over him, saying how romantic he was, but they show he's a fucking creep in the very first episode like wtf! He's very obviously a sexual predator. He targets women and uses so-called romance to get them to fall for him to trap them because everything is all about him. It will always be all about him. Season 5 was fascinating to me because if you can't understand from that, idk what to tell anyone. It was so on the nose! Maybe it will help? His last scenes were chilling, and the last scene in the show with his last line was both accurate and so frustrating

Okay, so I never watched "You" for obvious reasons, but I saw a few memes that were lol and thought I'd give it a try. I didn't realize it was based on a book written by a woman. Has anyone read them? I feel like the tv series nails a lot about men and I actually like the poem from the season 1 finale

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I keep rereading this quote from Loving to Survive :

“if men are people toward whom women feel sexual attraction, do women have sufficient self-respect to demand that men be human beings worthy of women’s sexual interaction with them? If women feel affection for men, do we love them, and ourselves, sufficiently to demand that they become responsible for their actions?”

and I just really think the answer is no, no we don’t

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I have a lot of thoughts about this tv series, mainly jfc. It was like 5 seasons of my ex monologuing, like I said, nailed it for abusive men and sexual predators. Wish the ending was realistic, but then they never are, are they?

Okay, so I never watched "You" for obvious reasons, but I saw a few memes that were lol and thought I'd give it a try. I didn't realize it was based on a book written by a woman. Has anyone read them? I feel like the tv series nails a lot about men and I actually like the poem from the season 1 finale

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Sylvia Plath, aged 17, journal entry #28, from "The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath" (c. September 1950)

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yay my class schedule is set for next semester! boo it's gonna be so hard :(

does anyone have any resources they would recommend on Java or C/C++ Programming btw!! i want to get a head start on these before the classes roll around

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It is the phenomenon sometimes called alienation from self. In its advanced stages, we no longer answer the telephone, because someone might want something; that we could say nowithout drowning in self-reproach is an idea alien to this game. Every encounter demands too much, tears the nerves, drains the will, and the spectre of something as small as an unanswered letter arouses such disproportionate guilt that one’s sanity becomes an object of speculation among one’s acquaintances. To assign unanswered letters their proper weight, to free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves—there lies the great, the singular power of self-respect. Without it, one eventually discovers the final turn of the screw: one runs away to find oneself, and finds no one at home.

Joan Didion, On Self-Respect.

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“The undermining of self, of a woman’s sense of her right to occupy space and walk freely in the world, is deeply relevant to education. The capacity to think independently, to take intellectual risks, to assert ourselves mentally, is inseparable from our physical way of being in the world, our feelings of personal integrity…. How much of my working energy is drained by the subliminal knowledge that, as a woman, I test my physical right to exist each time I go out alone? Of this knowledge, Susan Griffin has written: “… more than rape itself, the fear of rape permeates our lives. And what does one do from day to day, with this experience, which says, without words and directly to the heart, your existence, your experience may end at any moment. Your experience may end, and the best defence against this is not to be, to deny being in the body, as a self, to … avert your gaze, make yourself, as a presence in the world, less felt.””

— Adrienne Rich, “Taking Women Students Seriously,” On Lies, Secrets, and Silence (via sadladypoetssociety)

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a woman may live a whole life of sacrifice and at her death meekly says, “I die a woman.” But a man passes a few years in experiments of self-denial and simple life, and he says, “Behold I am a God.”

Anna Page

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“Develop a sense of self. A solidness that can’t be attacked.”

— Sylvia Plath, from a journal entry featured in “The Unabridged Journals,”

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I need to move somewhere less religious

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Having a female body is an overtly political act if you can get out of bed in the morning and not hate yourself.

- Kristen Stewart

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I feel like GOT ruined this and every other fantasy show that gets canceled tbh. Every network is chasing GOT success and if they don't get it immediately it gets the axe. I should just stick to my books

My beloved Wheel of Time is canceled. I hate Amazon

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