fearoftheminotaur

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You absolutely are moralizing. You tried to argue that I should be ashamed of having honkers because it's an insult to women. You don't care about us as anything other than someone who you can feel allowed to berate and abuse.

I'm not gonna take self-love advice from a self declared unfortunate male who had to get hormones and surgeries in order to love their body, but thinks it doesn't count because they regret them.

I’m reading a paper that uses the term re-transition as opposed to detransition and it crystallised a lot of my problems with the term. detransition implies an ability to return to the “default” “normal” cisgender body that lurks within all of us, just waiting to be re-excavated after a period of intentional (deceitful) burial, and a turning “back” or away from the freakish mutilation and “deviance” of transgender transition to a more natural, more authentic body - a body that can never be transformed, only temporarily cloaked by medicine and social trickery on the part of trans people

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Yeah people get very weird about you specifically using that word as if what identity label you use is the thing that you and your friends are fighting for. I think the way that some detransitions resemble a retransition is exactly why it has utility as an umbrella term, you can't undo that a word for "undo the effects of a transition" exists but you can broaden perspectives on both that experience and its supposed differences from others.

The "reversion is impossible" talking point is interesting because I'm seeing a kind of dichotomy in there, between "irreversible change is a part of life" and "change is always possible". One overlaps with the logic of "transitioning doesn't actually do anything" and the other with the logic of "transitioning does too much", and indeed there's some ex-trans in the notes trying to make both of those work.

I’m reading a paper that uses the term re-transition as opposed to detransition and it crystallised a lot of my problems with the term. detransition implies an ability to return to the “default” “normal” cisgender body that lurks within all of us, just waiting to be re-excavated after a period of intentional (deceitful) burial, and a turning “back” or away from the freakish mutilation and “deviance” of transgender transition to a more natural, more authentic body - a body that can never be transformed, only temporarily cloaked by medicine and social trickery on the part of trans people

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Wah wah wah crybaby fascism.

Truly incoherent babbling from a woman(?) who is mad that other people are happy. I only care about personality stereotypes yet I want people to change their biology.

I need to accept my body as it is, yet my body as it is is sinful because I irreparably destroyed it. You worship only your desire to make my life and the lives of my sisters worse and there will always be more of us than you can kill, so you'll always be miserable.

I’m reading a paper that uses the term re-transition as opposed to detransition and it crystallised a lot of my problems with the term. detransition implies an ability to return to the “default” “normal” cisgender body that lurks within all of us, just waiting to be re-excavated after a period of intentional (deceitful) burial, and a turning “back” or away from the freakish mutilation and “deviance” of transgender transition to a more natural, more authentic body - a body that can never be transformed, only temporarily cloaked by medicine and social trickery on the part of trans people

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Job hunt off to a good start

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looks like the government is doing something about cults

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Hormones and surgery being permanent is exactly why changing sex is possible and getting them is better in the long run.

I dunno whether it was the right decision for you specifically (seems like it was if you're trying to convert the rest of us into politically motivated misery), but yeah the things you are describing is exactly why transitioning is based and all the arguments against it fall into contradiction because they're more about hurting trans people than making a real point.

I’m reading a paper that uses the term re-transition as opposed to detransition and it crystallised a lot of my problems with the term. detransition implies an ability to return to the “default” “normal” cisgender body that lurks within all of us, just waiting to be re-excavated after a period of intentional (deceitful) burial, and a turning “back” or away from the freakish mutilation and “deviance” of transgender transition to a more natural, more authentic body - a body that can never be transformed, only temporarily cloaked by medicine and social trickery on the part of trans people

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I’m reading a paper that uses the term re-transition as opposed to detransition and it crystallised a lot of my problems with the term. detransition implies an ability to return to the “default” “normal” cisgender body that lurks within all of us, just waiting to be re-excavated after a period of intentional (deceitful) burial, and a turning “back” or away from the freakish mutilation and “deviance” of transgender transition to a more natural, more authentic body - a body that can never be transformed, only temporarily cloaked by medicine and social trickery on the part of trans people

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some of my twitter trans woman mutuals talk about t4t / t4c in ways that make it so painfully clear they think about sex in a way that is two karmic layers below where I am and all I can really do is shake my head sadly

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i genuinely GENUINELY find the transandrophobia debate to be fucking enraging. as a transmasc person: obviously!! yes, we are privileged over transfems!! transmisogyny is completely unignorable, no matter where i look!!

the most glaring instance of this is how both myself and my younger sibling identify as nonbinary, with the only difference being our enforced sex at birth. we both live in the same house, have gone through the same upbringing with the same transphobic and abusive parent, and we have very similar internal experiences of our personal gender identities. despite this, my sibling still faces a significant amount more difficulty than i do, PURELY because they are transfem and i am transmasc. in fact, most of the abuse i receive from our mother is not because of my own queerness but rather because of my willingness to stand up and defend my sibling from her, and because she holds me as personally responsible for having influenced them into becoming transgender. if i chose to remain silent, or if i chose to play along with her, i would no longer be a primary target!! while, obviously, my sibling has no choice to opt out!

and it's not just one abusive old transphobe doing this, because i have seen the same pattern repeat itself over and over again, across the spectrum of trans men and women that i know and love. i have seen t4t couples where the man abuses his female partner, in ways that i can only describe as being textbook misogynistic - and their mutual friends all take his side, purely because they believe her to be an inherently aggressor due to her transfemininity. in fact, when she faces transmisogynistic abuse from OTHER people in the community, he does not bother to stand up for her and instead reinforces to her that they are correct and that she deserves what is happening, that in fact she should shelve this to focus on HIS issues. the only time he even bothers to acknowledge that his behavior is abusive is when he's confronted by a mutual transmasc friend, and this does not actually push him to change meaningfully behind closed doors - he only cares that it was noticed, not that it happened.

even on a smaller, "insignificant" scale, i have watched transmasc and nonbinary fans of media talk at great length about their transmasc headcanons, only to then get uncomfortable and upset when a transfem fan says that she relates to one of the characters. they insult her repeatedly, and tell her that she is being pushy and rude, making THEM uncomfortable for doing something that they have all been doing for weeks and months on end. (and, when i stand up for her, i am treated with equal disrespect - but afterwards, i'm the one who people apologize to. not her.)

over and over and over and over, from tiny interpersonal conflicts to intimate partner violence to parental abuse, it is legitimately impossible not to recognize that society scrutinizes and punishes trans women harder than it does trans men. all it requires to see this fact is to know and love any transfem in a meaningful capacity, and it will become obvious. and yet these people, who are firsthand witnessing the transmisogyny around them, who are in some cases THEMSELVES enacting it against the women they proclaim to care about, will turn around and say that we are all equals. "we're all faggots in the eyes of the state," right? as if, by claiming this, it will somehow absolve them of the capability to do harm. as if this is not the equivalent of sticking your head into the sand and refusing to listen to a word coming out of a woman's mouth because you don't want to believe the things she has to say. because you don't want to believe that anyone could possibly have it harder up than you do.

and yet, somehow, even saying this will often be interpreted as its own form of "oppression" against transmascs. fix your hearts!! fix your fucking hearts!!! stand up for your fucking sisters or die! i'm going to turn into the joker

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we are all theyfabs in the eyes of the state

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“You dumb transfeminists. What if I said white people weren’t affected by racism?”

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It's always deeply upsetting to see a queer person virulently lashing out against transmisogyny theory because they take it in the worst faith possible. Yeah, transfeminists definitely only care about tma/tme because they want to know what's in your pants, they're actually exactly the same as a cis person asking if you're boy nonbinary or girl nonbinary. It's not like there are political and social systems that discriminate differently along those class lines on a systemic level. I wish assigned sex at birth didn't matter either!!! but we live in a world where it does!!!

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best m/f dynamic is a flamboyant bisexual show-off desperately in love with an extremely practical girl who’s difficult to impress 🤩

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A prime example of terf rhetoric worming its way into intersex activism.

This anon claims such an unhinged idea of trans people and how we relate to gender that they think in a world liberated from coercive gender assignment, trans people would still want a label to be seen as special; in reality trans, like intersex, male, and female, is a term derived from this oppressive system that describes a person's relation to it.

People would go on HRT in any world, just like people would go on HRT in a world where everyone was cis. There is even a better world (than what we have now) where these labels survive but their ability to constrain people's lives are lessened; regardless, I'm really insulted that a "world without AGAB" is presented as something that trans people wouldn't care about when it's actually essential to our liberation.

I don't hate being called "trans", I really don't, and maybe this person envisions a world where sexgender isn't coerced but "intersex" still has utility as a term. But the main reason I need a word for this is because a whole legal infrastructure was built around refusing me the right to exist, and I think the same applies for other marginalized identities like intersex people.

Yeah I know, "not all transes, just the bad ones". But sorry no, even the mean evil transfeminists don't want to keep this AGAB bullshit around. The reason why terms like "AFAB transfem" and "AMAB transmasc" (which I'm not blanket condemning here) garner so much pushback is because they combine terms that only exist to describe a system that I want fucking gone, in a way that involves (seemingly) contradictory relationships. This terf-esque belief in a true, objective version of "biological" sex needs to fucking go. I don't think trans women are the ones who want to fit comfortably within oppressive social structures here, I think that's projection on the part of the one who wants a world where "nobody has an AGAB", but they still have an easy way of determining who the transes are.

Honestly just steamed at the idea of "how would you define transness in a world post intersex liberation" YOU are the one imagining a world where your chains are gone but others' remain.

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Concept: Liberal cis woman who puts up an ad for AFAB housing, and doesn't admit trans guys on the principle that any trans guy who'd answer it must be too transmisogynistic for her vibe. Like of course she doesn't want to live with a tranny, she's normal, but she still wants to be seen as an ally!