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How A Reiki Healer Pushed me Towards My Calling

How A Reiki Healer Pushed me Towards My Calling:

Phoenix and Rose Feng Shui How A Reiki Healer Pushed me Towards My Calling

Have you ever had someone tell you something that is SO obvious but you can’t figure it out yourself? 

That’s what happened with a Reiki Healer I found on Yelp. This highly rated Reiki Healer told me the most obvious thing that I had somehow missed my entire life. 

After a bad dream, I awoke one night in a sweaty panic. In the dream I was sitting in my car and stopped at a red light. I happened to look up towards the sky and saw several yellow coiled snakes in the trees. Suddenly, a coiled snake fell on the windshield of my car. I panicked and hit the gas, running the red light with intense fury. The next thing I knew, I was driving my car off a cliff and right before I hit the ground, I awoke. 

In the coming weeks, more vivid dreams followed. I had dreams of bathrooms, swimming pools, oceans, cockroaches, fish, dolphins, and MORE snakes. One night, I was dreaming that I was in my parents’ swimming pool and then a giant wave formed around me and threw me out of the pool. In addition to the weird dreams, I was having intense vertigo that seemed to come out of nowhere.

I grew up hearing stories about my Mom’s snake dreams and now, I was having them too. I journaled the details of my dreams and tried to understand why this was happening to me. I knew I needed to find spiritual help and guidance so I searched the Internet for a solution and found an incredible reiki healer on Yelp. 

Within minutes of us meeting, Elaine (the reiki healer), began telling me all about myself. She could intuit that I was also a natural healer with the gift of feng shui. We spoke for over five hours about everything – family dynamics, my unhealthy patterns, the intense dreams I was having, and most importantly, how I needed to start using my gift. She explained that the dreams and vertigo were physical symptoms of a spiritual awakening and that the dreams would get more intense. 

When I look back on our serendipitous meeting, I find it ironic that I had to go to a complete stranger to tell me the most obvious thing about myself. I had ALWAYS been drawn to the home. I had read several feng shui books in the three years before I met Elaine. I had unknowingly been using my gift in every home I had ever lived in. I had also used feng shui for the entirety of my real estate career. My purpose was right in front of me all along but I couldn’t see it until I met Elaine. 

After our session, I became the phoenix whose life had to go up in flames and burn to the ground only to rise up again as something new– hence my name Phoenix and Rose. While it feels so obvious to me now, I had somehow overlooked the opportunity of my gift and needed an outside force to tell me what I was capable of. 

What about you? Have you ever had someone tell you something about yourself that felt SO obvious? 

With love, 

Nitu 

from https://www.phoenixandrose.com/how-a-reiki-healer-pushed-me-towards-my-calling/ from https://phoeixandrose.tumblr.com/post/626977919929122816 from https://fengshui0.blogspot.com/2020/08/how-reiki-healer-pushed-me-towards-my.html

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Why Choosing the Right Artwork Can Change your Life

Why Choosing the Right Artwork Can Change your Life:

Phoenix and Rose Feng Shui Why Choosing the Right Artwork Can Change your Life

Before every feng shui session, I do a Facetime call so I can quickly see three things in a client’s home: furniture placement, artwork, and pockets of clutter. It’s during this 30-minute call that I can easily recognize red flags and negative patterns within the home. 

In order to shift existing patterns, I heavily rely on artwork (and strategic artwork placement) to create positive change for my clients. Artwork placement and selection is done on a case by case basis and it has two main goals in mind: 1) to create an aesthetically pleasing environment and 2) to help manifest future goals and dreams. 

Artwork is essentially a vision board for the life you want to live! Below, you’ll find my 4 tried and true tips to follow to create good feng shui in the home. 

Turn Your Home into a Vision Board

Are you dying to move to Paris? Want to exercise more? Have you been procrastinating on learning how to play the guitar? Is it your dream to open a Cuban restaurant?

These are the types of questions you need to ask yourself before you purchase artwork for your home. Think of artwork as a tool to manifest your dreams. Start the process by putting images of what you want to create in your life all around your home. For example, if you want to move to Paris, start making your space look like you already live there. Put images of the Eiffel Tower on your living room walls and purchase a couple of Chanel books. Look on Etsy for inspiration and turn your space into a Parisian inspired home. 

If your budget is tight, consider printing images out and placing them into inexpensive studio frames for easy and cheap artwork! Or, you could simply cut out pictures from a magazine and hang them up on the fridge. Visualization is a technique that may work for some people but has never worked for me. Instead, I always select the right image so it can remind me of what I want and keep me motivated to do the work to achieve it! 

Use Artwork to Attract or Maintain Love

Bedrooms are for sleep and sex. The artwork in your bedroom should reflect exactly that – images in this space should inspire you to relax and be intimate with your partner. If you’re single, the artwork should make you feel like you’re already in your dream relationship. And if you aren’t looking for love, find images that evoke relaxation and peace. 

Key elements to remember:

Purchase home decor that reflects two; avoid single lonely images of one. 

Remove images of friends and family from the bedroom. Do you really want your grandparents looking at you while you’re in bed with someone?  

Bring in dream catchers, images of quiet forests, calm beaches, or phases of the moon for examples of natural sleep elements. 

Select romantic images in which a couple is kissing or in a loving embrace. If you can find artwork that closely resembles what you look like (and what you want your partner to look like) then it will be even more powerful. 

If you’re in a relationship, display photographs of your loving relationship all over the bedroom. 

Create community in common spaces 

During these Covid times, I’ve come to realize that nothing in life is worse than isolation. As someone who lives alone, I make a huge effort to build community around me and use images that represent community in my home. The goal of this imagery is to make you feel connected and loved.  

Display photographs of friends, family, and loving pets in the living room, kitchen, hallways, office, and common spaces of your home. If you don’t have a lot of friends but want to attract more people into your life, find artwork that represents loving friendship and sisterhood (or brotherhood) for your space. My personal favorite to shop for fun prints is Society6 and Etsy because they offer a variety of affordable options (no they’re not paying me to write this). 

Paintings of a joyous dinner party or prints of people celebrating and dancing are amazing for creating positive feng shui in your living areas and will set the mood for more people to be a part of your world.  

Change With the Seasons

Frida Kahlo put it best when she said:

 “Nothing is absolute. Everything changes, everything moves, everything revolves, everything flies and goes away”

In feng shui, there are two types of energy: living & dead. Examples of living energy include fresh flowers, vibrant plants, images of lush trees, essential oils, etc. Adding living energy (or images of living energy) is a great feng shui tool and can make you feel more alive and energized. 

Dead energy (a feng shui no-no) includes dried flowers, bare trees, images of winter, skulls, and dying plants. Although these are technically symbols of dead energy, I still like to use them in my home during the fall/winter months because as the seasons change, so do our needs in the home. 

Think of fall as a time to go inwards, enjoy cozy evenings with loved ones, and honor our ancestors during Halloween. It’s a time for reflection and gratitude; shifting our awareness to the cyclical nature of life. String white lights on bare trees, display skulls & pumpkins and switch up your artwork to showcase the changing of the seasons. 

Take a look at your walls and make note of the imagery that you’re surrounding yourself with. Does it align with your goals and dreams? How can you use feng shui to start changing your life for the better?

Featured Image by Alja Horvat  – “Bathing with Plants Art Print”

Courtesy of Society 6

from https://www.phoenixandrose.com/3331-2/ from https://phoeixandrose.tumblr.com/post/626438120408268800 from https://fengshui0.blogspot.com/2020/08/why-choosing-right-artwork-can-change.html

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How these 5 House Hacks Can Transform Your Love Life

How these 5 House Hacks Can Transform Your Love Life:

Phoenix and Rose Feng Shui How these 5 House Hacks Can Transform Your Love Life

When you search “how to find love” on google a lot of suggestions come back. You’ll see “You’ll find love when you’re not looking”, “Go where people like the same things you like”, “Look up from your phone” and so many others. 

As a feng shui consultant, I have other ideas on how you can transform your love life and it’s as simple as these 5 house hacks. 

1. Place your bed in the command position.

You want to be in total control of your bedroom…and the best way to feel in control of your space is to place your bed in the “power” position. This means you should be able to see who’s coming in through the door (without being directly in line with the door)

Some things to consider: 

Face the door but don’t be directly in line with it.

Avoid the “coffin” position where your feet point out the door.

Avoid having your back face the door – this can literally translate to “turning your back on love”

2. Create space for someone new.

Even though you are single now, you want to live as if you’re dating your soulmate. Make sure the bed is accessible for two people and create symmetry with two nightstands and two lamps. Clear out some space in your closet and empty a drawer in your dresser so a future partner has a place for their stuff.

3. Manifest with objects. 

Does your future husband wear old spice? Is he an avid reader of Men’s Health Magazine? Does he use a lint roller for his suits every morning? Think about what your future significant other would need in the bedroom and bathroom and keep extras of those items. 

Condoms, chapstick, and an extra phone charger in the opposite nightstand are perfect for telling the universe you’re ready for love. 

4. Use Romantic imagery EVERYWHERE.

Make sure the artwork in your bedroom reflects romance and partnership. Avoid lonely images of one or pictures of friends and family. Add a romantic couple image to your phone and computer screensavers. You want your home to be a real-life vision board that serves as a constant reminder of what you are trying to manifest in your life.  

5. Add sugar to sweeten your love life

Deep clean the four corners of your bedroom and add a jar of sugar in each corner. All the energy concentrates in the corners of a room so use them to your advantage. When you place sugar in the corners, your love life will instantly sweeten. Don’t believe me? Try it out for yourself and let me know what happens!

from https://www.phoenixandrose.com/how-these-5-house-hacks-can-transform-your-love-life/ from https://phoeixandrose.tumblr.com/post/625724647948812288 from https://fengshui0.blogspot.com/2020/08/how-these-5-house-hacks-can-transform.html

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Looking back: three lessons that moved me forward

Looking back: three lessons that moved me forward:

Phoenix and Rose Feng Shui Looking back: three lessons that moved me forward

I was having a conversation with a friend the other day and she was surprised by a story from my past I was telling her. While I feel like I’m an open book I realized there is still so much I haven’t shared with you and how many learnings there were from my past, so buckle up, because it’s storytime.

I haven’t shared much about my past in DC with you guys because the last thing I want to be is a Debbie Downer. But if I’m being totally honest, the three years I spent there were filled with pain, misery, frustration, extreme isolation, and deep loneliness. I kept these feelings hidden for so long. I would never want to drown others in my deep sorrow.

As painful as my experience there was, the lessons I took away have been a constant reminder of my growth, perseverance, and resilience.

Lesson 1: You can’t relive your past When I moved back to DC in 2016, I wanted to make friends, build community, find love, buy my first home, and plant real roots in a city that always felt like home. I had spent 10 years living in the District (from age 18-28) and enjoyed some of my happiest moments there as a young adult. I remember driving around Columbia Heights admiring historic town homes, watching old movies at Screen on the Green, and always having lots of friends to go out with. I fondly refer to these times as my “glory days” – filled with fun and endless amounts of red wine.

In my early 30s, living in DC was exactly the opposite of what I had experienced before. I found it extremely challenging to make friends and truly connect with people. I had no community. Online dating was a nightmare. I turned to alcohol to numb my pain… which only aggravated my situation. Even though my drinking was occasional, my blackouts were getting worse and worse. Red wine, a quick fix I constantly relied on, wasn’t cutting it anymore.

Lesson 2: What was fun in my 20’s was a problem in my 30’s As a “functioning alcoholic” I appeared totally normal to the outside world. I could hold down a job, pay my bills on time, and look completely put together. On the inside, my world was quickly shattering. I was living in a constant cycle of self-harm and always putting myself in toxic relationships, toxic jobs, or toxic living situations. My frequency was always attuned to chaos.

After about one year of living in the city I once loved, I decided to get sober and voluntarily put myself into recovery. It was, by far, the hardest and best decision I have ever made for my emotional and mental health. I wanted to stop drinking because my deepest desire was to create a successful, thriving feng shui business. It was a huge sacrifice that was not only going to change the course of my life, but also change the course of my career.

Getting sober in DC was a tumultuous ride. I was shocked at how many people tried to force me to drink alcohol, after I had told them I didn’t drink (especially men). There was an insanely high amount of judgment when it came to my sobriety…people just couldn’t fathom that I didn’t drink. When I made myself vulnerable and opened up to some people that I was getting sober, I was always asked why I had to go to AA…why couldn’t I just stop drinking? It became very apparent that the people around me had no education on how to treat addiction or alcoholism.

Lesson 3: You’ll come out stronger on the other side Looking back, I know these were tests from the universe to make me stronger. I also realized that my persistent feelings of isolation and loneliness were not normal. I was stuck in my DC past. I moved there trying to relive my glory days of getting wasted at Wonderland Ballroom and left sober, healthy, and filled with more compassion than I ever could have imagined.

So while DC wasn’t the right fit for me I’m finding my stride, my community and feel like I’m becoming the truest version of myself here in NYC.

Nitu Patel – Phoenix and Rose Feng Shui

Have you guys ever tried to relive your glory days? Or felt drawn to the past because it was a happy time? Send me a message, I’d love to learn more.

Love, Nitu

from https://www.phoenixandrose.com/looking-back-three-lessons-that-moved-me-forward/ from https://phoeixandrose.tumblr.com/post/625184852769161216 from https://fengshui0.blogspot.com/2020/07/looking-back-three-lessons-that-moved.html

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Test123

Test123:

Phoenix and Rose Feng Shui Test123

You don’t realize how much stuff you have until you move…or unless you decide to work with a feng shui consultant like me. Going through all your possessions and deciding what to keep, toss, or what ‘sparks joy’ is quite an exhaustive process. But once you commit to leading a more purposeful and conscious life in your home, it’s necessary to purge what no longer serves your highest good and keep those items that are actually being used. Doing so can help you shop mindfully and save your budget, and the environment, at the same time!

Here are my three tips to save you money in your space: 

Take inventory of what you already have

People often forget that they’ve purchased something because they can’t find it in the home. So they go out and buy multiples of the same item (which is a huge waste of time and money). If you don’t know what you have, or if you can’t find it when you need it, the home becomes a source of frustration and a stressful environment. 

Start the process by going through your wardrobe and donating pieces you don’t wear or haven’t worn in 6 months to a year. Next, tackle the bathroom and remove items that you are not using. You can follow this same process for the office and kitchen so your home remains free of clutter.

Repurpose items in the home

Do you have a lot of empty shoe boxes laying around? They’re great to use for organization under the sink or in a sock drawer. Simple boxes like that could also be wrapped in decorative paper and used as visible storage bins in the bathroom or bedroom. 

Mason jars are also another favorite of mine! They work as vases, candle holders, or can be used to serve drinks and store food. Personally, I use mason jars in my bathroom to neatly display qtips and cotton pads. 

Take out your fancy olive oil and balsamic vinegar and stage them in the kitchen; use pretty bowls to showcase fruit. Display your soaps and roll up your towels in the bathroom so it feels like a spa. Find ways to take the ordinary and make them extraordinary and you’ll start to beautify your space for free!

Rearrange your furniture for better flow

Furniture placement is the root of feng shui. I repeat, furniture placement is the root of feng shui. You don’t need to buy all new furniture in order to have a nice home. Instead, try experimenting with your layout and restaging some accessories so your space looks refreshed and new. When you are rearranging your existing furniture, place the largest items like sofas and beds first. Once the biggest furniture items are situated, it will be easier to add more furniture, textiles, and accessories to the room.

Does your living room have a flat screen TV or fireplace? Well-designed spaces have focal points to anchor the room and draw attention to one specific area. Arrange your furniture around this focal point with intention. Oftentimes, common areas are used as multi-purpose rooms where people watch tv, do home homework, eat dinner, etc. Consider traffic patterns when you’re arranging the seating so it’s easy to have conversation and entertain.

Conclusion

Making the most of what you already have is the best part of feng shui. If you want your home to look and feel more sophisticated without buying all new furniture, click below to learn more about my  4-Hour Consultation. If you don’t have the time or money to hire an expensive designer, feng shui just might be the best option for you! 

  from https://www.phoenixandrose.com/test123/ from https://phoeixandrose.tumblr.com/post/624539351704059904 from https://fengshui0.blogspot.com/2020/07/test123.html