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“i wish i could go out braless but-“ “i wish i didn’t have to shave but-“ “i wish i didn’t have to wear makeup but-“ STAND UPPPP FUCKING STAND UP JUST DO WHAT YOU WANT. NOBODY IS GOING TO SHOOT YOU OR ARREST YOU FOR BEING A LITTLE “UGLY” UOU WILL LIVE AND REALIZE THAT YOUVE BEEN IN A prison largely of your own making THIS WHOLE TIME

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“am i the only one who thinks these two female characters aren’t gay and are better as frie—”

no.

i promise countless others have already extolled the virtues of the sacrosanct sisterhood of platonic female friendship to defend it from the looming threat of gay interpretations.

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there's a very compelling fantasy i repeatedly hear by nostalgic? and reactionary westerners about nuclear families and abuse. if their were simply more people in the family, the patriarchs abuse would be limited. their would be a bystander to interfere. this is (a) deeply ahistorical, the rise of the nuclear family in fact seems to parallel feminist gains in the recognition of domestic abuse and (b) defacto or even dejure protections for women or children are not stronger in countries where large families are still extant, if shrinking (like india). but sure too many confounding factors to draw conclusions from.

fundamentally this story does not really understand why large families exist as they do, the people in them are not uninterested strangers who can act as good samaritans to each other. they are usually set to inherit land or a family home. they run a family business together and have for generations. they are a clan that has customary rights over resources or professions in a region that they fiercely protect from other clans. an abused child or a woman's welfare does not matter to this economic engine. in fact it creates circuits of complicity, and more importantly real motivations for abuse. we must ensure women remain compliant sources of reproductive and social labour for the family firm. we must protect the family honour, the reputation of the family firm, so those that step out of line by marrying without concern to family alliances and property, by being aberrant in anyway must be disciplined. its one thing for child services, that failing, benighted institution to interfere in a nuclear family, but to slight a clan? no, the police are more likely to fetch a runaway bride and deliver them back to the doorstep of their abusive natal family.

The Tenacity of the Hindu Undivided Family; Gender, Religion and Tax Concessions on how the HUF act empowers hindu family run firms to extend capital accumulation and power.

In The Name of Honour: Journalism on honour killings in Tamil Nadu, where families and communities collude to kill young adults for marrying for love across caste or religious lines.

We on the scary communist left recommend Abolish the Family, by Sophie Lewis as a primer.

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People fundamentally don’t want women to seek justice against men who abused them because if we held every violent man accountable for his behavior, the patriarchy and how society in general functions would collapse. It’s easier for people to twist themselves into knots to justify why they think every woman in a high profile case is lying than to justify what they really think, that men should be allowed to beat and rape and shoot women with impunity.

When a woman doesn’t seek justice or settles a case because she doesn’t want to be abused all over again by the legal system, misogynists rejoice, because she’s been frightened back into submission and the man gets away with it—exactly how they want the world to work.

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I can think of another gender, actually

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army guy comes home even more unstable than before, ruins marriage, scares his kids during visitation, gets his visitation rights limited, murders the children. i feel like this case has played out so many times the exact same way.

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can we please please please learn to differentiate between things that are good but devalued because of their association with women (caring for children, being compassionate), things that are neutral but seen negatively because of their association with women (the colour pink, having long hair), and things that are bad but associated with women because of misogyny (being materialistic, being stupid) because otherwise we’re gonna keep getting takes like “being gender nonconforming is anti feminist” and “not studying for your classes is feminist”

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Bam Bam Bam

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someone sent an ask just now that i deleted (because every time i post about trans stuff i get an influx of terf asks and deleting them is just second nature at this point). but on reflection i actually do wanna address it because i think it has relevance even outside of the "trans women in women's bathrooms" topic.

i can't remember the ask word-for-word, but it essentially said, "well, some people find the idea of penises really triggering because of PTSD."

i want to say this as kindly as possible: if you are triggered by the idea - not even the sight, but the idea - of a completely neutral body part that 50% of the population possesses, then that is something you need to work on. if the notion of someone with a penis simply existing near you is triggering, then you need to seek help, because that level of fear is not rational or sustainable. it's not fair to use your trauma as an excuse to exclude and harass people who have not harmed you in any way, simply because you associate some aspect of their physical appearance with harm you experienced in the past.

and in case i sound callous, i want to point out that i too have irrational triggers that cause me real distress and are nearly impossible to avoid. i also recognise that it would be unreasonable to expect everyone around me to cater to my needs 24/7. after a certain point, you have to figure out how to exist in the world as it is, without forcing it to bend around you.

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the thing about the modern staking of a queer female identity on “girls are so pretty and soft and sexy” and not bothering to engage further w the deconstructions of ‘normality’ that come w being queer - what it means to be a woman distancing yourself from the ingrained pressure to make yourself palatable and attractive for men - is that you run the very real risk of ending up in bed w a lesbian who asks you - with complete and sincere horror - why u don’t shave your pubes. girl if you don’t stop and think!!

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no yeah thanks for welcoming me to womanhood again but like yeah this man is in fact currently following me home can we maybe address that aspect

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"there should be some kind of test you have to take before having kids" -> wrong, extremely dangerous and highkey eugenicist and racist "the youth should have safe and effective legal pathways at their disposal to make sure their human rights are constantly protected and upheld" -> based, centers the youth, gives minors more power to fight inequality and does not reinforce the idea that parents are immune to scrutiny from their kids

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is shaving defiance? is promoting plastic surgery girl's girl behaviour? is makeup self care? are heels empowering? is reading apolitical? is voting feminist? is giving up on your career freeing? is starting a traditional family with 5 kids my own choice? is having rights feminist?

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I do think it's a little silly to say transmisogyny is 'rooted in' or 'comes from' white supremacy. Just causally, white supremacy is a social force that emerged as a result of the creation of the concept of a 'white race' in service of the European colonial empires of the last few centuries. The social system of gender developed many millennia ago; while the labeling and understanding of this oppression is contemporary, transmisogyny is certainly no more recent a phenomenon than misogyny itself. White supremacy has certainly characterised the axes of oppression within its domain, but, saying that transmisogyny is 'rooted in' white supremacy, due to the specific characteristics of the transmisogyny employed by white supremacist societies, is as valid as saying misogyny is 'rooted in' white supremacy due to its specific incarnation.

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"reblog to give a trans woman soup"

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"trans women experience misogyny because they're women"

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Two years after being tasked with commissioning a review of medical evidence surrounding gender-affirming care for trans youth, Utah’s own state health department has concluded that trans healthcare bans “cannot be justified.” The Republicans who commissioned the study aren’t too happy about it.

Back in 2023, Utah Governor Spencer Cox signed a bill that placed an indefinite “moratorium” on doctors prescribing gender-affirming care like hormone therapy and puberty blockers to trans youth. That bill ordered the Utah Department of Health and Human Services to compile their report in order to produce recommendations for the state government on whether or not to lift the moratorium.

This week, the department delivered their long-awaited, over 1,000-page report — which is dated August 6, 2024 — to Utah lawmakers. The report’s authors found that “the consensus of the evidence supports that the treatments are effective in terms of mental health, psychosocial outcomes, and the induction of body changes consistent with the affirmed gender in pediatric GD [gender dysphoria] patients.”

The authors added that “the evidence also supports that the treatments are safe in terms of changes to bone density, cardiovascular risk factors, metabolic changes, and cancer.” Trans youth who had received gender-affirming care were within the bounds of normal, non-pathological ranges for these conditions.

y’all this is huge. please don’t “water is wet” all over it! I understand that we all already know this… The point is that the world doesn’t know or care or believe and so these studies really fucking matter!

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As Sudan’s Darfur region has been overrun by militias, women are facing the constant threat of sexual violence, Médecins Sans Frontières (MSF) has reported. The medical charity said in the South Darfur region alone its workers treated 659 sexual violence survivors between January and March this year, more than two-thirds of whom had been raped. “Women and girls do not feel safe anywhere. They are attacked in their own homes, when fleeing violence, getting food, collecting firewood, working in the fields. They tell us they feel trapped,” said Claire San Filippo, MSF emergency coordinator, who called on the warring parties to hold their fighters to account.

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