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all’s well that ends well

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Respectfully I think y’all are missing the point that it doesn’t actually cost that much in direct care to an imprisoned person, but it’s a racket, a front, that private owners make lots of money on. Without naming and addressing that part of the issue, the root of the issue, it can’t and won’t change. Not pessimism, just facts. Name the root.

‼️ my recreation textbook said prison abolition now!

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Unpopular insight.

It is never ethical to conceive children on purpose. Time after time different mythologies and religions portray divine mothers as those who accept their pregnancies as an honorable duty that will by nature bring its blessings of adulation with time rather than seeking to become pregnant in order to be worshiped through the victimization of parenthood in which mothers are owed the world for their sacrifices. To conceive intentionally, regardless of the rationale, of the excuses, is always in attempt to secure a more honorable social standing, “a purpose” etc. In a world in which merely giving birth grants a free pass to finally act whatever way you want with no consequences because “that’s your mother” and “mother is always right” becoming a mother on purpose is always a move for power regardless of what other real unique oppressions mothers also face in society- those who choose it have decided they are likely above those risks. It is always selfish. It’s more honest, innocent, and selfless to fuck for pleasure and then to embrace the surprise of the “consequence” and responsibility of pregnancy. It is falsely argued that abortion rights prevents child abuse because only children who are not planned are unwanted and abused, but many horribly abused children were conceived on purpose, even with medical intervention, and were abused specifically because they did not live up to the expectations placed on them even before the egg they developed from even popped out of their mother’s fallopian tube. Truly only “sluts” who fuck for pleasure can possibly be the truest, the holiest, mothers. Even then that’s not a guarantee. Call this the a different kind of Madonna Whore philosophy.

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A few years into no contact with the dysfunctional fam I realized how often throughout my whole life my mother willingly put me in danger and actively groomed me for risky behavior in hopes for something (including myself) to take me out so she could be rid of me and savor that martyr status. Through NC she still plays that victim role and I know she enjoys it and has benefited from it. But world wide all societies deem parenthood to grant omnipotent power.

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Yet again, more proof that capitalism was never about "freedom" or "small government".

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"I know chatgpt is bad but you just don't really have any choice" you literally do. Don't use it. Have some moral backbone.

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this little freak keeps sneaking into my garden and rubbing himself all over my flowers??Hello?????

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it's always funny to me when transmascs talk about how nice it is to transition and not feel pressured to look attractive anymore. like I'm glad being ugly gives you gender euphoria or whatever but please tell me you understand that that is an example of you benefitting from male privilege. misogyny forces women, especially trans women, to conform to largely white supremacist beauty standards, and in fact historically (and still in many places) trans women's ability to medically transition at all is determined by whether a psychiatrist thinks we would be attractive as women

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When my toddler is truly distressed to the point of crying, they usually start out with "I want my mama!" or "I want my papa!" depending on which parent is not with them at that time (which is psychologically on the nose as it is). But after they have been brought to the desired comfort parent of the moment, they usually find this did not solve as much of their suffering as they require, and end up just sobbing: "I want! I want!"

And I don't know but, maybe that never goes away. Maybe every once in a while we all just need to allow our inner toddler to sob against our shoulder crying "I want"

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legitimately my first feminist awakening as a ten year old child was realizing that girls were expected to respect “boy stuff” but boys were never expected to respect “girl stuff”

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todays warm up: Sometimes the Canary of Holy light you care for has an attitude

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As someone who can’t, like on a neurological level, bear to fake much of anything, sent into panic attacks at the thought of lying, “honest to a fault”, let me tell you, honesty is not always the best policy. And I’m not over here bitchin/vague bookin about how “no one wants the brutal truth” bs. I’m NOT talking about using honesty as an excuse to put others down. I’m talking about sharing about my own truth candidly, merely mentioning my own life. If I had the nerve to “fake it til you make it” and keep secrets and embrace mystery by holding back my urges to express my truth, if I could just have accepted people loving me for what they saw me as rather than what I know I am, I would have probably kept being more popular and well liked and my art work would be more supported. This is another perpetual punishment of severe developmental trauma aka cPTSD (look it up) in that the severely traumatized person is often like this, unable at some point to censor oneself because of how triggering it is to not be completely real and honest which inevitably turns others off and chases them away even without any real friction. It is truly rare that another human can stand to acknowledge another who doesn’t seem to have what it takes to play the Monopoly style game of life. Not Life set up with plastic pieces with the board, but this game of experiential consciousness initiated by birth. When you get too real about it you loose. “Don’t think about the game or you lose the game,” they said. So heaven help you should you have the audacity to TALK about it and this post is a perfect example of that. Why can’t I just shut tf up and play along? O yeah that’s right, cPTSD 🤪 I guess it just really throws off your game to be SA’d so dang much for the first 12 years of life, preyed on so pervasively and affectively by multiple grown men who could see that the prey’s parents would not care, that the prey knew better than to upset the parents by saying anything. Clinical science on complex trauma shows that once you break the seal of secrecy on us cringeworthy survivors, we can’t stand to ever be anything that we perceive is less than 100% real, honest, true. And it costs us everything. If you are one of the few people who read this whole ass post without ignoring it and take a half second to react to show that you read it, thank you for being honest for a moment with me too. Do not by any means risk your livelihood and community too by being as honest as I am, but thank you for at least the briefest acknowledgment there could possibly be. I know lots of folks be reading and making sure not to acknowledge and thus ”encourage this kind of behavior” and calibrating their respect for me accordingly, the majority of folks. What ya‘ll in the latter carefully quiet category don’t know, because trauma has not touched your life personally enough to lead you to read the nonfiction books and scientific studies that make it repeatedly plain, is that if you really want me and others like me to shut tf up, you would not “restore normalcy” by punishing us by ignoring and shunning us but just merely acknowledge our truths and move tf on. Yep, unlike what you think ignoring only further “encourages” the problem. And that, once again, is scientific fact, not my opinion 🤷‍♀️

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I’ve had dreams like that, Min Ding

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