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via @swatercolor [insta]

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The answer to your problems is self-discipline

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i know we're all sick of self-care being a marketing tactic now, but i don't think a lot of us have any other concept of self-care beyond what companies have tried to sell us, so i thought i'd share my favorite self-care hand out

brought to you by how mad i just got at a Target ad

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What is it like to be loved?

Think of all the good qualities in life you feel you don’t deserve, feel you haven’t rightfully earned, being given to you regardless. You could love yourself too, if you simply allowed it to happen.

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Everybody says congratulations when you get a new job, or start a business, or buy a house, or have a baby, or get married, or buy a new car...

I just wanted to take a second out of the day to say congratulations to all of you who made it through a hard week this week.

Congratulations to those who are holding it together for the sake of the people you love.

Congratulations to anyone who thought about taking the easy way out and decided to stick around for a while longer.

Congratulations for showing up. Again.

You deserve all the love too.

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i think im just not worth getting close to

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Something I’m learning is that you’ll never change the minds of people who are committed to misunderstanding you. And it isn’t worth my energy.

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also worth noting that "abusive" doesn't actually mean "irredeemable" either.

there's a lot of people that have done things in the past that were bad, because they weren't taught any better, or they were in an overall toxic situation where EVERYONE was shitty (like a cult), or they were just at an especially low point and hurt others for it.

you don't have to forgive them. you don't have to ever speak to them again. you can be angry with them until you die if you want.

but society cannot function if we don't allow them to move on. to change their behavior and fuck off somewhere else and build meaningful relationships without bothering you again. we need a path for people to change, or nothing ever will.

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You can heal and still be a hater. It’s about finding yourself

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It’s important to not punish someone for doing what we asked them to do.

Playing games and telling people to “leave me alone” and then being upset when they do isn’t fair to that person. If someone is trying to respect boundaries and does what you ask, it isn’t fair to punish them.

People can’t read your mind and know when you say one thing that you mean another. And even if they can, they’re not obligated to play guessing games. It’s exhausting for them and for you.

When you play these games, usually no one wins.

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You can say “I don’t have time” without meaning “every second of my day is booked solid.”

You can mean “I am giving as much of myself as I can handle giving” and be completely, totally valid.

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It's a lot healthier to go for a daily walk than to sign up for a gym membership you won't be using because you hate that kind of exercise. It's a lot healthier to eat a frozen meal than to skip a meal because you were too tired to cook something healthy. It's a lot healthier to take a quick shower than to procrastinate an elaborate routine for days. Don't aim so high that you won't be hitting anything!

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This makes so much sense

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