forthesageofpete

[forthesageofpete]

Hey dude that's just not how it works.

Like me and my bf are both trans guys, and that doesnt make us lesbians

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“tme theyfab” “the he/they with huge tits” “uwu softboy jakey” why don’t you just call me a trans identified female and be done with it.

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Hey, cis women who say "I wish I was a man but definitely not a trans way, haha! I would never be a man :)"

I say this with all the gentleness in my heart: It is okay for you to be a man. If you want to be a man, you can just be one. You also don't have to stop being a woman to be a man. Multigender people exist. You can be a man and a woman at the same time. Or you can be just a man, or a non-binary man, or non-binary, or something entirely different. You can do and be whatever you want and whatever makes you happy.

Becoming a man is not a betrayal of womanhood and feminism. And everyone who makes you feel like it is an absolute asshole, and you should not ever listen to them. You do not have to push your own happiness aside for other peoples' comfort.

If you want to be a man, try it out! See where it gets you. Maybe it turns out that you really weren't trans, or not a trans man but something else entirely, and that's fine, too. Maybe it turns out you are a trans man. In any case, following those thoughts might get you to a happier and better place in the end. And if you turn out to be happier as a man than you were as a woman, that is wonderful.

Please don't feel forced to stay a cis woman for feminism - any feminism that mistreats or hates trans men and transmasculine people is bad feminism. Being a trans man or transmasc is not a moral failure.

Trans manhood and masculinity are wonderful, and you deserve happiness. And if you find that happiness in manhood/masculinity, you don't deserve to be shamed or harassed for it, and you should not be made to feel the need to put yourself down for it, either.

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Have you lost it?

Me: oh man I can't find my hairbrush

William Kent: do you want me to make you one?

Me: WILLIAM KENT-?!

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if the only time you talk about trans men and their issues is a gotcha statement for bathroom bills, you're not the ally/activist you think you are.

if the only time you talk about intersex people and their issues is a gotcha for the sex is binary argument, you're not the ally/activist you think you are.

trans men and intersex people are more than just your token and deserve to be treated better.

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"wait, but what do I say to describe people who cannot get pregnant?" a guide.

Men cannot get pregnant: INCORRECT. Transgender men are men and many are capable of getting pregnant. Also, excludes the plenty of people who are not men who cannot get pregnant.

Cis men cannot get pregnant: INCORRECT. Intersex men who are technically cis, but have uteruses and ovaries, may be capable of pregnancy, even if it's unlikely. Also, excludes the plenty of people who are not men who cannot get pregnant.

Cis perisex men cannot get pregnant: Correct, but excludes the plenty of people who are not men who cannot get pregnant.

People without uteruses cannot get pregnant: Correct, but excludes infertile and menopausal people with uteruses who also cannot get pregnant.

People who cannot get pregnant: CORRECT. Excludes no one.

To use inclusionary language, you don't need to rip through the reeds in search of wider terminology when you could quite literally say things exactly as they are. Inclusive language isn't "overcomplicated" at all. It's straightforward.

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Why am I posting this?

Because I know I have a lot of young people following me, and because over the past few years, I've seen a shocking amount of anti-gay rhetoric in MY comment section. Of my Steven Universe fancomic. An extremely lgbtq-friendly show.

So what gives? My best guess is, I have a very wide following, and a lot of these readers are pretty socially insulated in conservative spaces that don't allow them to explore the concepts of the other side of the argument.

I'm not about to judge children on the environment they were raised in... but I'm also here. I'm a part of the environment. And I'd like to offer some perspectives.

If you don't agree with how I present things - great! Make your own post.

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The rise of discourse about trans mascs/trans men in the lesbian community has me realizing something.

So many of ya'll hate heteronormative standards, but are all too comfortable upholding cisnormativity. I'm fucking tired of people saying "maybe I'm not woke enough for this..." instead of trying to understand queer people's unique perspectives on gender and its relation to sexual identity labels.

Here's my take: Gender is complex and is defined differently by everybody. Womanhood and being socialized as a girl can be notoriously traumatizing due to the sexism ingrained into our society (especially when we're taught from such a young age that we will always be victimized and abused for being women). As such, when someone transitions to a masculine identity, those experiences don't suddenly go away.

And no, you're not "invalidating yourself" by saying you're a lesbian if you're a trans man. You're exhibiting a unique combination of female socialization and male gender identity. And you're not invalidating other trans men, either, because you're not forcing them to use the lesbian label.

Stop pushing queer people into boxes!!! Especially when the lesbian community is known for its gender-nonconformity and trans identities (butches and studs, for example, many of which are transmasc).

I could also talk about how this corresponds with a rise of fascism and conservative values, and that by pushing queer people down you are only contributing to homophobic mentalities, but you CLEARLY aren't ready for that.

Sincerely, a transmasc lesbian

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Protect your identity online and stay safe but don’t stop speaking out because you’re still going to be in danger (probably more danger) if you stay quiet like a good little minority

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Ugh he’s really doing this again? Put him back in the cellar smh

you guys will reblog anything istg

this is an image with exactly 1x1 pixels. come on, reblog it. i fucking dare you.

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He gave me a forehead kiss and I went non verbal 😭

Whenever my boyfriend gets a little flirty or even just up close and personal I completely freeze. I have no idea what to do.

I love him so much.

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We thought it was a good idea to send you some just positive messages tbhh

(im not bullshitting i actually felt so bad 😭😭😭😭😭😭)

I’m in love with you. There is nothing you can do to remove my undying love you . You are my angel, my sunshine, the brightness in the dark

if only i knew who my secret admirer was~ (faints dramatically)

someone pls help i need a detective

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Beauty standards are so weird, and some of them are like, pretttyyy pedo coded

My reasonings:

No body hair (most young kids dont have any, especially in private areas)

looking young (self explanatory)

being VERY thin (some young girls are naturally pretty skinny)

"is it bubble gum pink" (vaginas are like lighter pink when you are younger, and darkens when you're older)

Small hands, small feet,

Short

No acne

No stretch marks

No wrinkles

Innocent

"Cute voice

No wrinkles

Large eyes/doe eyes

Flat stomach (this doesn't make too much sense because I have never seen a young child with a flat stomach)

And then it'll go from hyper-feminine??

Like

huge breasts

Huge lips

Huge butt

Perfect jawline

etc, cant think of anymore

(Image from OkCupid, a dating site)

(another source i found was this, https://www.businessinsider.com/science-what-peak-age-is-2016-7)

Anyways- nobody talks about how porn sites have use 18 year olds, cause that's as close as a child they can get to, (or like early twenties),

We have porn channels called "Barely legal" and there's no comments on it

Using social media as an example, theres alot of just plain out gross comments on very young girls

Using Wren Eleanor as an example, so many of her bathtime videos and videos that could be seen as more, suggestive, have been saved by ADULTS, and shes like 3 years old

Anyways, this is the end of my long rant thats slightly non coherent. I'm tired

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i ❤️ non passing trans people

i ❤️ passing trans people

i ❤️ non stereotypical trans people

i ❤️ stereotypical trans people

i ❤️ binary trans people

i ❤️ non binary trans people

i love trans people

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I'm going to admit it, it was me and my boyfriend 😭

I’m in love with you. There is nothing you can do to remove my undying love you . You are my angel, my sunshine, the brightness in the dark

if only i knew who my secret admirer was~ (faints dramatically)

someone pls help i need a detective

[forthesageofpete]

Ykw fuck it notes game

10 notes and I’ll drink a cup of water (repeatable every 50)

25 notes and I’ll make her a playlist

50 notes and I’ll ask her out on a minecraft date

75 notes and I’ll learn a new hobby

100 notes and I’ll start applying for scholarships

150 notes and I’ll face reveal

200 notes and I’ll change my police gimmick blog to the funniest suggestion

250 notes and I’ll change my painting signature from my deadname

300 notes and I’ll draw the oc of the first note

500 notes and I’ll come out (again) to my mom

750 notes and I’ll ask to start therapy again

1000 notes and I’ll fix my sleep schedule

And I’m not tagging anyone out of fear for my notifs

[forthesageofpete]

I just wanna spread some positivity that queer men matter. Gay men matter, bi men matter, pan men matter, omni men matter, poly men matter, ace men matter, aro men matter, aroace men matter, trans men matter, demi men matter, genderfluid men matter, intersex men matter, xenogender men matter, men that use she/her matter, men that use they/them matter, men that use he/they or he/it matter, men that use neopronouns matter. Asian queer men matter, latino queer men matter, arab queer men matter, african queer men matter, indigenous queer men matter, jewish queer men matter, brown and black queer men matter, dark skin queer men matter. Queer femboys matter, queer masculine men matter, queer ambiguous men matter. Physically disabled queer men matter, mentally disabled queer men matter, intellectual disabled queer men matter. Queer men going through depression matter, closeted queer men matter, suicidal queer men matter.

Queer men matter.