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A lot of people are radicalised by suffering, which is a valid and sadly all-too-common experience. But you wanna know what really radicalised me? Softness. Joy. Freedom. I spent so much of my adolescence deeply sad and uncomfortable in spaces that weren’t right for me, navigating a body that didn’t feel like home. Despite many many privileges, and lots of moments of genuine happiness, I often didn’t overall enjoy my life. But then I got gender-affirming surgery. I moved into my own modern, clean, comfortable flat in a friendly, walkable city full of nature and beautiful buildings. I started being able to take care of myself. I keyed into robust local social networks of people who shared my interests in nature, creativity and ameliorating the world. And I am deeply, thoroughly content. It has been incredibly radicalising to realise that, contrary to what I thought for so long, it is very easy for human beings to be happy if their material and emotional needs are fulfilled. So alongside my joy there’s this constant simmering rage. I deserve all the good things I have now, sure. But not any more or less than anyone else. The children being bombed deserve this too. So do the homeless people being moved on by police outside my local supermarket. So do the people starving in famines, imprisoned by immigration systems, brutalised by their employers, their families, the state. All I can do is fight for a world where everyone has these things. It’s a choice not to share them equitably.

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My wife and I did a marriage bureau wedding and I have no regrets 11 years later even though my mom still gets catty about the one friend we invited as a witness and the one friend who offered to take our wedding photographs as a gift. You do not owe your wedding to anyone.

AITA for not inviting *anyone* to my wedding?

I got married, and me and the mister explicitly did not want a big wedding. Or a wedding at all, actually. We legit just went to the courthouse. No muss, no fuss, no awkward seating arrangements, no having to manage other people, no gifts, no trash to clean up. Ordered in Thai food afterwards.

Where I might be the asshole:

-My now-MIL is extremely upset, she had told Husband that she "wanted to be there" for him getting married, and she'd expressed as much in the past

-while she is the only one who said she's upset, my mom said she understood why MIL is upset (but my mom and I are really blasé about these things, so she's not upset)

-MIL says she felt snubbed

-in general, I understand it's a social norm (if not expectation) to have your family there

Why I don't think the above makes me an asshole:

-husband told MIL ahead of time we would be doing a courthouse wedding (so this wasn't a surprise), and MIL said no, we can't, we need to have a big wedding, and we needed to invite his entire extended family. So, we figured if we told her when/where/invited her to the courthouse, she'd have invited other people

-both husband and I do not like large crowds or being the center of attention, so we truly didn't want this to be a big deal

-money isn't tight, but we didn't want to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding. MIL *did* offer to help pay, but we didn't feel good about that because she's retired

-no one was especially "snubbed," if anything, everyone was snubbed equally

-we've said no gifts, we have everything we need, so it's not like we're expecting something for nothing

However, I acknowledge she's hurt, and the way she is acting, I truly am wondering if I did something wrong. Essentially, my needs were in direct conflict with hers, and I can't bring myself to regret not having a big thing (but maybe I need some perspective). Husband stands by our decision, but MIL brings it up every time we see her now (weekly) and seems like she's trying not to cry. A friend suggested we apologize "just to keep the peace," and I might do that, but I want to know, AITA?

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Conversation between me, and another high educated Jewish women whose opinions I respect

Her: What's missing here are the facts. If we stuck to the facts there wouldn't be so much intensity surrounding this issue. Me: But you and I are both highly educated Jewish women, and we can't even agree on the facts regarding the history of Palestine as a place name, ethnic identifier, and nation. If we can't even agree on those facts, how on earth can facts help anyone move forward?

There's the question. Not just for Jews, but for everyone involved in, or concerned with this conflict. How do we move forward if multiple sides of the room dispute the veracity of such basic statements as:

-Jews are a globally oppressed minority ethnic group, the hatred of which is deeply embedded in Western thought and rhetoric.

-The Naqba was a period of ethnic cleansing in which the government and military of the new State of Israel expelled Palestinian Arabs from their homes and property; a dispossession and a series of events which continue to traumatize and negatively impact the lives and livelihoods of Palestinians.

-The Holocaust was a traumatic event in the history of the Jewish people, the legacy of which is embedded in the psyches, world views, and collective trauma of the Jewish people, and invariably impacts how this group views global issues.

-Palestinian Arabs had a full developed sense of identity and statehood before the British Empire fucked off, and made their discomfort with increasing Jewish emigration clear to the British before the outbreak of the Second World War.

-Jews had nowhere to go before, during, or really, after the Holocaust; and the governments of many Arab States ethnically cleaned their own ancient Jewish communities in retribution for the creation of the State of Israel.

-The State of Israel does not exist because the Holocaust happened, or as an "apology" for said event.

THIS POST COMPRISES A SERIES OF RHETORICAL QUESTIONS MEANT TO MAKE US APPRECIATE THE DEPTHS OF THE DISCURSIVE PROBLEMS HERE; NOT A POST FOR "DISCOURSE" AND HATEFUL, AGGRESSIVE SHIT.

If you feel you have to do that, copy & paste into your own separate post.

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My wife's experience with the pen (all direct quotes) (this is a drugs tw)

-(immediately got very dizzy and had to lie down) (😔)

-I feel like I'm seeing patterns right now that I haven't seen since, like, the womb

-I feel like I'm looking through a kidpix gallery. Like default gradients and shit

-i got a lot goin on up here.

-I keep seeing...you know filbert from rockos modern life? I'm seeing his like, pattern and coloration

-(drinks water from my jug) (lowly) I had to concentrate really hard to do that .

-(singsong) she's twitchiiiing... the twitcherrrrr

-i feel like I'm having every dream I've ever had all over again one second at a time

-teeth feel weird.

(It knocked her out)

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Apparently it is a common thing to see ace/aro identity as less-than-queer or even just fake but the first time I really thought about it, all I could think was about how many people have been coerced into relationships/marriage/sex/etc because either no one believed they weren't interested or because they didn't have the words to describe themselves. If you are hetero ace/aro especially, our society is pretty much full time conversion therapy and it is remarkable if you have carved out space for your real self.

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(SOUND IS CRUCIAL) this video is has murdered me dead the music the editing the way information is slowly revealed about the two of them the plot twist the breaking bad images. WILLIAM WILLIAM WILLIAM. all over minecraft parkour someone help im seizing

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I cant believe this tweet is how I find out

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The building of rage

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This is a very easy question to answer. I married a swiftie with roughly my politics.

YOU DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE THE SAME TASTE AS YOUR PARTNER

It's great if there's overlap, so you can go to concerts and watch things together. But it's really fine that my wife is obsessed with The Circle on Netflix and I watch Star vs The Forces of Evil.

Sometimes we introduce each other to things that it turns out we both like! (Alone, Steven Universe)

Sometimes you just tell each other what's going on in your show/book and the other one is supportive (Selling Sunset, a Wuthering Heights reread(

Ymmv but this is way better than if I'd married a fash who also likes Burn Notice.

would you a marry a swiftie with the same politics as you or a fascist with the same taste in art as you

this website has elevated suicide bait to an immaculate artform perfected like no other culture in history

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My dog is way better at communicating than my body is.

Trying to figure out what the body wants is like trying to decipher what a dog is barking at.

"What is it, boy? What is it? Are we hungry? Are we sad? Did we forget our meds? What's wrong, boy, what're you barking at?" -Ace

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Atlanta Police are allowed to cover their faces on the job??

Among those arrested in Atlanta today were Noelle McAfee, Chair of the Philosophy Department at Emory University. You can hear her ask the PhD student taking the video:

“Can you call the Philosophy Department office and tell them I’ve been arrested?...I’m Noelle McAfee, I’m Chair of the Philosophy Department”

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cemeteries aren’t creepy they’re actually devoted to memory and rest and love and humanity

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the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.

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because I was genuinely curious, I looked up how many babies were born in 1972 in the US. About 3.2 million. Assume about half were AFAB, so 1.6 million. Of those, 63,602 were named Jennifer.

Almost 4% of afab babies were named Jennifer that year, three times as many as the next most common name.

but 71,000 of the amab babies were named Michael.

in the 70s there were:

1 Michael 707,458 Jennifer 581,753 2 Christopher 475,526 Amy 268,996 3 Jason 462,821 Melissa 253,274 4 David 445,842 Michelle 249,138 5 James 444,823 Kimberly 229,106

out of 17,107,561 male births and 16,462,535 female births according to the social security administration. If you wonder why names got weird for a while? THIS is why. GenX had like 20 names, total, for everyone.

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This honestly depends on the humidity, and also what kind of activity is expected of me that day. For where I live and work and spend most of my time, I would like it to top out at 90°F. If it's not over 80, I don't really believe it's summer

saw a poll about dry/humid heat and like OBVIOUSLY everyone preferred dry heat but. would love to know what everyone considers to be “too hot”

me personally it’s a hard cutoff at 75°F. don’t need anything more than that thank you 🫶🫶🫶

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I think the most fun part of monsters inc is boo calling sulley “kitty” and mike wazowski by full government name