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I don’t gotta agree with all radfems. We’re not a hive mind, and that’s what makes us us. We can disagree, argue, even clash because we think, we question, we don’t just repeat what we’re told.

The trans community? It’s like a cult. One wrong opinion and bam, you’re out. It’s all about conformity.(ironic ain't it)

But us? Radfems? We stand on the same soil with different roots. The core is clear, we’re here to expose and uproot the system that oppresses the female sex. We’re not here to agree on everything. We’re here to fight for the truth, even if we have to do it in different ways.

I love you all, even if some of you drive me absolutely nuts sometimes. 😘 But hey, that’s what makes us strong, right? We fight, we argue, but at the end of the day, we’ve got each other’s backs. Keep being fierce, keep questioning, and keep kicking ass. 💪

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"I read Jancee Dunn's book the night after I'd hidden in the bathroom, silently sobbing into a towel so I wouldn't wake the baby—or my husband, who was sleeping through his third consecutive night shift that I was somehow pulling alone, despite us both working full-time. I wasn't crying from exhaustion. I was crying because I had just calculated how much child support he'd have to pay if I left him.

This isn't a book. It's a goddamn mirror reflecting the darkest thoughts of every mother who's ever fantasized about abandoning her family at 3AM, not because she doesn't love them, but because she's drowning and her partner is standing on the shore checking his phone.

The Maternal Rage You Feel Isn't Mental Illness—It's Mathematics Dunn ruthlessly quantifies what most parenting books politely ignore: the raw numerical inequality of modern parenthood. When she tracks hours spent on childcare (her: 35 weekly, him: 9) while both work full-time, it's not anecdotal—it's violence. The liberation comes in recognizing your homicidal thoughts aren't hormonal or "crazy"—they're the rational response to systemic theft of your time, sleep, and identity while someone who claims to love you watches from the sidelines.

The "Mental Load" Isn't Just Unfair—It's Killing You Cell by Cell What devastated me wasn't just Dunn's account of doing everything—it was her scientific exploration of what invisible labor does to a woman's brain and body. The constant vigilance of tracking every family need doesn't just make you tired—it restructures neural pathways, elevates cortisol, and accelerates aging. When her doctor finds her blood pressure dangerously high while her husband's remains perfect despite their supposedly "shared" stress, the physiological consequences of inequality are laid bare. You're not imagining it—this imbalance is literally shortening your life.

Your Husband Isn't Just Annoying—He's Been Systematically Trained to Disable You The book's most chilling insight comes when Dunn investigates how her competent, intelligent husband develops "strategic incompetence" around domestic tasks. Her research reveals it's not accidental—it's subconscious warfare honed through generations of male socialization. The weaponized helplessness ("Where does this go?"), the learned blindness to mess, the performance of bumbling assistance—these aren't personality quirks but sophisticated tactics to maintain privilege while appearing supportive. I'll never hear "just tell me what needs done" the same way again.

The Fights You're Having Aren't About Chores—They're About Human Worth Dunn's epiphany comes not in cataloging tasks but in recognizing the existential question beneath them: whose time and peace matter? When her husband unthinkingly preserves his exercise routine while she hasn't showered in days, when he sleeps through night wakings because he "has work" (as though she doesn't), when he requires praise for basic parenting—the underlying message is that his humanity outranks hers. This reframing transformed how I understood my own marriage's breaking points.

You're Not Control-Freaking—You're Preventing Catastrophe The section that left me breathless was Dunn's dissection of "maternal gatekeeping." Her therapist suggests she's "not letting go" of child-rearing tasks—until she documents the actual consequences of her husband's cavalier parenting: a toddler left in soiled clothes for hours, forgotten medications, a child nearly hit by a car while dad texts. The gut-punch: sometimes the "perfectionist mom" narrative masks legitimate terror of what happens when the backup system fails. I've never felt more vindicated about my inability to "just relax."

Romance After Children Requires Blood Sacrifice—Usually Yours Dunn's unflinching examination of post-baby intimacy problems goes beyond fatigue to something darker: the resentment poisoning attraction. Her account of faking interest while mentally calculating how many hours of sleep she's losing made me physically flinch with recognition. The breakthrough comes not through date nights or lingerie but through radical redistribution of invisible labor. Her documentation of how performing oral sex feels easier than asking for help with dishes exposes how parenthood turns sex into another form of female emotional labor.

The Solutions Aren't Cute—They're Nuclear What elevates this beyond primal-scream therapy is Dunn's scorched-earth approach to reconstruction. She brings in hostage negotiators. Corporate efficiency experts. Therapists who specialize in high-conflict divorce. The message is clear: half-measures will fail. Her implementation of NASA's black box system for critical communication during arguments saved not just her marriage but possibly her husband's life. This isn't about better chore charts—it's about dismantling and rebuilding the entire operational system of your relationship.

This book should be handed to every couple in the delivery room, not as celebration but as warning. Dunn doesn't offer gentle suggestions for reconnecting with your spouse—she offers battlefield triage for the psychological trauma that parenthood inflicts on females and marriages."

This book is on my list of books that will forever change how you look at the actions of men (along with "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft and others)

I heartily recommend it, even if you don't have or want kids, if you work with women in a mental health or healthcare setting.

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”Stay where you are.” “Get out of my private space.” “Do not touch my waist when you pass me by.” “You talked over me.” “Doctor, I want you to take my health issues seriously.” “You will not coerce me into sex.” “You realize rape by coercion is what you’re trying to do, right?” “That wasn’t funny, that was just misogyny/racism/homophobia.” “Why would you want to have sex with someone who doesn’t want to have sex with you?” “What an odd thing to say out loud.” “Your manipulation tactics will not work on me.” “I stand by my beliefs.” “You think your feelings are objective facts but they are not.” “You are harassing me. Stop.” “Do not call women bitches.” “That’s such a pornsick thing to say.” “I don’t owe you sex.”

Sentences I recommend practicing. Feel free to add your own.

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Gay man calls women stupid for being offended that Chappell Roan dressed like a blow up doll. Why? Bc gay people are SUPPOSED to be messy. Never mind that Chappell dated men until she got famous

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mothers can’t be radfems

I disagree simply because there are women that discover radical feminism after having children, after getting married, etc. I’m not going to knock down women, or invalidate their opinions because they didn’t live their life (or make choices) in radical feminist ways.

Either way, as a radical feminists, we advocate for all women including mothers.

I’ll leave it at that.

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Jane Clare Jones hitting the nail on the head yet again!

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Sadly people got too tolerant of Christianity we need the mythical annoying atheists to make a comeback we need to make this the summer of atheism "don't talk to me about your magical book" should be rolling off the tongue way more often....

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Local Uncle beats up perverted neighbor moid

Perverted Moid (don’t know his name) told uncle’s underage niece if she kept passing by his house, he would rape her.

HE DESERVED MORE IMO!!!

#THISNEEDSTOBENORMALIZED

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Further emphasizing the fetus being a part of the woman or at worst a grey area of whether it's seperate or not its heartbeat is as slow as a larger animal than it, that of a human adult, a few minutes after it's born it's heartrate speeds up to something closer to its own size. The two are connected and it's idiotic to say that you only care for a fetus and not a woman since the two are connected throughout pregnancy. It should be a woman's choice whether or not she wants to go through something so drastic. Always.

Ben Shapiro that autistic robot scumbag really said “pregnancy isn’t her body; the baby isn’t her body.” In a debate at Salisbury University, he stated: “You don’t get to kill things just because it’s in your uterus… I don’t care about your appendix. I don’t even care about your uterus. I care about what’s in it… The baby is not part of your body.”

He’s that much of a dipshit pig. All these Males care about control and dominating women masquerading it as a a philosophical or moral stance.

Pregnancy affects every system in a woman’s body — cardiovascular, immune, endocrine, and more.

- The woman faces all the medical risks: blood clots, preeclampsia, hemorrhage, gestational diabetes, permanent body changes, even death.

- The fetus cannot survive without the woman’s body — it’s completely dependent on her for oxygen, nutrients, and protection.

- Any complication that arises affects HER body first and most directly.

- in 2023, almost 260,000 women died globally due to pregnancy complications

So when DISGUSTING XYs say “the baby isn’t her body,” they’re AVOIDING the critical point that it’s only alive because it’s inside her — and everything it needs, it takes from the Woman, Of what she has to endure all the physical, mental, and emotional strain.

FUCK MEN AND FUCK THE CONSERVATIVE RIGHT.

If these Males really cared about human life why the fuck don’t they address at the fact that Most murders are committed by men — globally and in countries like the U.S. and UK, men account for over 90% of homicide offenders.

• Most victims of murder are also men, but women and children face unique forms of violence — like domestic abuse, intimate partner homicide, and femicide.

• Mass shootings, violent crime, gang killings, and hate crimes are also overwhelmingly committed by men.

WHYYY? Huh ? ITS ALL ABOUT CONTROLLING WOMEN. They DO NOT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT HUMAN LIFE. THEY DON’T.

Dear Conservative / Red Pilled Males. FUCK YOUUUU U PIGS

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i low key love it when women straight up go “i wear makeup because i feel ugly without it and people treat me better when im more feminine” or “i shave before going to the beach with my family because i’m not ready to defend myself against them”.

admitting that your actions are influenced by patriarchy is so much better than pretending it’s your own unique feminist girlboss impowering choice. i’m tired of “if a woman chooses to do it then it’s feminist” bullshit.

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"Why do 'balls' equal toughness and pussy equals 'weakness' when the slightest flick to the nuts sends a guy to his knees, yet vaginas can push out an entire human being" - Anonymous

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It's ironic that with the "ai is going to replace artists" convo that no one mentions that we've stopped caring about real artists for a while now as a culture.

With 90% of songs on the chart, we've just accepted that the singer is a brand that comes with a manufactured image, pre written and produced formulaic songs. Some of them can't even sing well without autotune or they use unknown voices. The brands they advertise dictate their "aesthetic" and even their personalities depend on marketability. Doesn't that sound like the kind of thing that's primed for automation....

we've already decided that we don't even need musical artists to have any creative input in what they put out and it's worked for decades.

What about books if I open any online book store right now the best sellers are always repeating the same formulas with a tiny bit of variation. Everyone is just repeating what already sells with a few tweaks. Writers have been trend chasing and pushing out slop as fast as possible to stay relevant for decades now. Visual artists have to make a ton of "content" in order to stay relevant and build a following.

Like I said no one has cared about art being a product for a while now. The word "sellout" disappearing from the cultural lexicon says a lot about the shift in values. Maybe I'm being cynical but I don't think AI songs on the radio and ai books are going to get a ton of backlash. If it entertains people they won't gaf.

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shout out to confident conventionally unattractive womyn. literally never let a mans lack of attraction to you define your worth. ugly men are allowed to be confident and not shamed for it, and so are we!

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if 'normie gays' are clowning on and excluding queer and non-binary people from the community it’s because extreme permissiveness that treats homosexuality as a fun larping hobby at best and as a moral deviancy akin to zoophilia and hard kinks at worse is obviously at odds with a gay liberation movement who argues same sex attraction is natural and the lgb should get the same rights as straight people. not because the fascists and their gay and lesbian allies are coming and demisexual panromantics are on the front line. get over yourself

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I think the thing that bothers me most about “terfs don’t understand biology” is that even if it’s true that sex is more complicated than sperm-producers and egg-producers, that division is still the basis of patriarchy. The ones with the penises decided to oppress and abuse the ones with vaginas and uteruses, whatever you want to call those two categories (though historically they have been called “men” and “women” respectively).Crying when radical feminists say so is just shooting the messenger.