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come on brain yip yip

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i think an important thing for people to understand, especially with the rise of gatekeeping in the community, is that labels are for personal use

and like, human sexuality and gender is complicated! most people don’t fit perfectly into their assigned box! but they still have the right to call themselves what makes them happiest!

attracted to like 98% women, 2% men, but still consider yourself bisexual? you’re right to do so, you’re still attracted to multiple genders!

attracted to 98% women, 2% men, but still wanna call yourself a lesbian? that’s a valid choice, you feel way more attracted to girls and that’s fine!

aro/ace but you had a crush one time? a lot of us do! you’re still aro/ace and don’t have to choose a different label if you don’t want to!

aspec somewhere but can’t figure out where you fall because sexuality is confusing? i get that, dude, you’ll figure it out! you don’t have to find the perfect label right now if you don’t want to, just focus on being yourself!

trans but sometimes feel like your assigned gender? that’s okay! you don’t have to re-question your identity if you don’t want to, you know what gender you are, self doubt and sometimes feeling different don’t get to say you’re not!

genderfluid but spend most of your time as one gender? that’s fine! the fluid part is still an important part of you, it deserves to be recognised!

not inconvenienced by your assigned gender, but feel like the whole concept is bullshit and would rather go by they/them pronouns? that’s fair, it is a bit bullshit, go you!!

anyone else i haven’t mentioned who experiences this? same goes for you too! i love who you are and i hope you can also love being who you are, and it doesn’t matter if you fit someone’s definition of that or not. we are a community built on being different, on standing up for ourselves in the face of people telling us who we are is wrong. it’s not wrong, and all of your labels, however many you want, be it 10 or 0, they’re important to you, and no one gets to take that away from you

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For anyone who needs to hear it:

Your late teens/20s are a weird time in your life. Don’t panic if you think somebody is more “ahead” than you. The concept of being ahead is nonexistent anyway because life’s not a race and each person has different hurdles to overcome.

It’s totally fine if you’re single. It’s fine if you’re still finishing school. It’s fine if you are still looking for a better job, or for any job at all. It’s fine if you haven’t had sex yet, or haven’t gotten your driver license yet. It’s fine if you haven’t gotten your own place yet. It’s fine if you are still figuring things out, saving money, putting the pieces together. It’s fine.

Don’t feel jealous of or lesser than people your age who have done these things. You don’t know what obstacles they faced to get there and they don’t know what you’ve faced. Don’t undermine the progess you have made.

Because, trust me, you have made progress. Even if it hasn’t materialized yet in the traditional way.

You are still young. Like really young.

You got time.

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wishing gender euphoria on all trans people, wishing for all trans people to feel at home in their bodies, to be absolutely and entirely in love with and at peace in their bodies

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If you live completely alone here’s your friendly reminder to step outside for a bit before the worse part of the existential dread starts to set in again.

You know the one. The layer underneath the regular existential dread that you only get to access if you don’t leave your apartment for three days.

Go to a coffee shop or walk your dog or something.

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I am gifted with the Universe's strength and protection.

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If you have a senior to check on ask them to "borrow" something small so they think they're helping you.

My mom (72) recently downsized and moved close enough to me that checking on her in person regularly is not really out of my way, but when I was obvious about it she wouldn’t let me “stop-by” because she was, “fine”.

Well, one day I actually needed some aluminum foil so I called and asked if I could borrow enough to cover a baking tin because I didn’t want to run to the store. She said sure, but when I got to her house she needed furniture moved, a wasp nest removed, and her coffee pot fixed. After I got the foil I mentioned each thing cautiously and she let me take care of them for her. So next weekend I’ll need a cup of rice and check on her again.

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do u wanna come over & ignore the rest of the world together

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by koroit.opal

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you can't waste your life btw it's just not something that's possible to do. your mere existence is already a precious and valuable use of your time. the time you spent becoming who you are now was inherently worthwhile

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actually i love growing older and learning how i work as a person like realizing what kinds of fabrics feel best on my skin or what brand of yogurt i like best or how I want to be touched. watching myself change, enjoying brussel sprouts when I used to hate them as a child, understanding why I got angry in that one conversation 10 years ago… there are so many mysteries inside me that i have yet to unravel and there will always be more and sometimes i think maybe its all worth it

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Ice skating on the lake under the full moon and northern lights