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Lesbians, do you use any "controversial" lesbian labels?

Lesboy

Mspec lesbian

Lesgay/Gaybian

Several of the above

None

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I think parents don't understand how punishing a child isn't for when they make you upset, it's for when they do something wrong. Like, you don't just punish them for stress relief, it's so they can learn right from wrong.

So if your kid learns, for example, that helping mom make dinner = getting in the way, but not helping = being lazy, but asking if mom needs help = being annoying and asking stupid questions, then you have basically trained a person to see the only option that doesn't lead to scolding as 'hide and don't be thought of until dinner is done'. So now what relationship is your kid going to have with cooking or cleaning or chores in general? How is that going to affect them as an adult?

If there is no right answer regarding the things that bother a parent, then your kid is going to associate those things with being punished no matter what they do. If talking during a car ride is bad and annoying, but being quiet and staring out the window is bad and disrespectful, then what are they going to do every time they're in the car with you but count every word they say? If texting is suspicious, but why don't they have friends, but going out with people is irresponsible, but why don't they ever leave their room, but their friends are all bad influences, but why did they stop hanging out with them, they were nice kids, then what are you even doing?

If playing video games is lazy, going outside is unsafe, playing is ignoring chores and doing chores is being in the way, then YOU'VE CREATED A CHILD WHO'S LEARNED THE ONLY WAY TO AVOID BEING SCOLDED IS TO DISAPPEAR WHENEVER YOU'RE IN A BAD MOOD! You've created a person who is hardwired to feel guilty no matter what they choose to do. You turned them into a confrontation ninja, who can vanish as soon as a hard conversation enters the picture. You've trained a person to disregard why rules exist and instead focus on who they can placate and suck up to in order to make the rules change. Because to them, rules and punishments are just who gets on the bosses nerves at the wrong time.

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I didn't get a chance to answer the last poll so...

Lesbians are you polyamorous?

Yes

No

Questioning

Other...?

[Was also thinking of these as potential answers:

Yes, and I currently have multiple partners

Yes, and I currently have one partner

Yes, and I'm currently single

No

Questioning

Other...?]

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Fuck it i'll make a new post. If you're following the mastercard/visa steam censorship thing you might hear about this bill called fair access to banking act h.r.987 in house, s.140 in senate. You might think its the kind of bill we would want to see right? Except its backed strongly by the GOP which is bad...

So yeah.... if you could share this and tell your US reps to oppose this that's be super because this is not it.

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Aromantic / aro-spec lesbians, are you in a queerplatonic relationship?

> Yes

> Yes, multiple (polyamory option)

> No, but I’d like to be

> No, and I’m indifferent to the idea

> No, and I am uninterested in being in one

> No, but I’m in a different kind of relationship

> I’m unsure if I want to be in a qpr

> Nuance

> Not an aromantic lesbian

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this pride month i want everyone to consider the benefits of abolishing the sex binary

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at least theres still listening to music while staring at the ceiling

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oops I accidentally separated myself emotionally from everyone to avoid feeling any bad feelings & it worked but at the expense of my sense of connectedness and belonging

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me: *sends friend a message at 3 am*

friend: *responds*

me: woah woah there what are you doing up go the fuck to sleep this isn’t healthy

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Look, if you're having a bad day, here's a 6,000 year old pig-shaped pottery pot.

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every time a cis girl becomes a trans man is a good thing actually. the whole world should celebrate. if you came out as transmasc recently and someone had something to say about not needing more men in the world you should make them feel like shit about it. you dont deserve that. your becoming a man makes the world a better place - no ifs, no caveats, no exceptions. you being a man is a good thing because you are trans. you are not abandoning women, or abandoning feminism. you dont now have to dedicate your existence to defending women and being a selfless knight. you dont have to spend every social interaction trying to be as quiet as possible so you can be one of the good ones. you dont have to make yourself small. you get to be angry, sad, excited, horny, tired, scared, you get to expect comfort and rest and patience, just as much as you did before. you haven't betrayed anyone. you are a man now. we're so happy that you are.

EDIT: GET OUT OF THE TAGS TALKING ABOUT WHAT YOU EXPECT TRANSMASCULINE PEOPLE TO BE DOING FOR OTHERS. MAKE YOUR OWN POST.

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Things that will drive me to violence if I hear them one more fucking time:

-"Left/right brained" (especially as an insult)

-"Delulu"

-Any variation on "am I/are they having a stroke"

-Lobotomy "jokes"/insults (jokes are supposed to be funny)

-Anything implying that brain damage makes people right wing

-"ADHD/task paralysis"

-Literally anyone at all who isn't intellectually disabled using the r slur in any situation whatsoever

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i’ve mastered the art of pretending i’m fine with everything

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half of the arguments on this website are like this