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I love taking pictures

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Denim on denim looks good on any day, it can be hot or cold and you're rocking denim chances are you're going to look good nonetheless. I style most of the shoots I do with these lads.

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Thighs that swallow everything ,a term used to describe the warmth and depth of being thick. We embrace us too now and have to love each and every layer of fat on our waists, thighs and soft bellies

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We love skinny 90s girls

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New school kid rocking a look that's trendy

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When nature and chilled looks collide something dope comes out

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Darksinned nigger with a touch of pink

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We love Coca-Cola

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Friends that work together

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Steer Fashion is something that is in and most young lads enjoy this look because it is effortless and looks really dope.

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September a month we use to celebrate our heritage

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We take pride in being abaXhosa

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Validation isn’t something you should seek as a person, being whole with yourself is something that is very mandatory. We let compliments and likes consume us so much that we forget that self acceptance and self love is what teaches people how to accept us as we are and appreciate us.

We only have one life to live and we tend to take that for granted by hiding under shells and letting people have so much power over us. When you realize that God made you the way that you are and makeup, likes and all of that can't change it, you start to embrace yourself. I've lived a life filled with so much doubt and uncertainty because I didn't fully love me as I am, also the toxic relationship I was in and social network body shaming made it so hard for me to have a high self esteem but after taking some time out and getting know me, accepting me and my rough edges I stopped feeling the need to be validated in order for me to be whole. This is who I am, I don't walk around with a Snapchat filter or any filter for that matter, I only wear makeup to embrace the way I look not because I am not confident. Some days I don't feel like having my face beat and that's okay because I love me with or without makeup. I don't have a petite body and i love my thickness and those extra layers of fat and I will make changes when I feel like I want to. I am who I am and I won't change that for anyone.

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My newest addition, they're so comfortable and I'm absolutely in love with them.

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Past Experiences And Epidemics

Last week we covered quite a few topics

•Do we consider going on a date with someone else cheating, if so why?

•Are we comfortable with taking and sending nudes to a lover

•Has a friend ever ruined your chances of dating someone or have either of us been that friend

•How long does black Tax last, is it even an epidemic ?

Below is a breakdown of everything we spoke about

DO WE CONSIDER GOING ON A DATE WITH SOMEONE ELSE CHEATING IF SO WHY?

Most of us said that we aren't comfortable with having our partners wine and dine someone else while they're with us. Dates are so intimate it's like you're partially confirming that you're interested in that person but want to see how those 2/3 hours are going to go first before you let them in on what you feel. Most relationships start with dates, because both parties involved start to converse, get to know each other better and share stuff with one another. Sex only adds onto whatever it is that you might be possibly feeling, but conversation, time and opening up now that holds so much power. We barely think in fact we know that we won't be comfortable with knowing that our partners are going on dates with other people because that'll mean that the relationship that we have isn't enough or better yet the person has found what they're looking for so that's why they're looking to go on dates.

ARE WE COMFORTABLE WITH TAKING AND SENDING NUDES TO OUR LOVERS

Most of the ladies in this group were "anti nudes" but then some of us who were comfortable with TAKING AND SENDING nudes and we let them in on how much nudes spice things up in a relationship especially if the person you're with is in another city. We shared angles on how to take nudes, also how one can cover their face up if they're not comfortable with their face being seen. We feel like nudes in a way help improve the intercourse in your relationship. We aren't saying they're mandatory but let's admit it all men and women love seeing their fave parts of their partner every now and again. We even went through the lengths of letting ladies in on how we send videos of ourselves masturbating to our partners just to show them that they're missing out. We also concluded that it's best to send nudes unexpectedly just to have your partner yearn for you even more, cheer him/her up and have him have a boner in public haha.

HAS A FRIEND EVER RUINED YOUR CHANCES OF DATING SOMEONE OR HAVE EITHER OF US BEEN THAT FRIEND?

Some of us have had our fair share of "competitive" friends, who have always felt the need to outshine everyone else even if it's going for someone we like. We have had friends sleep with people we were seeing but they never disclosed that to us instead we have had the people we were with share that with us and for that we chose to distance ourselves from them and act like we don't know anything because we believe in letting people do what makes them happy. Some of us have let the person make a fool of themselves by going after someone we want but funny enough that person always comes to us because the desperation of our so called friends shone through. Neither of us have been that friend, even though we ended up dating a friend of a friend. It's crazy how jealousy and competitiveness of people we consider friends have made us want to keep people we like to ourselves or even people we are dating to ourselves even though we want to share sometimes we believe it's best that way.

HOW LONG DOES BLACK TAX LAST AND IS IT EVEN AN EPIDEMIC

Some of us are responsible for our families and we feel as though black tax is something we could never run away from because we are either the only people working in our families or have been responsible for our families ever since we started working and we cannot change that now because we feel as though it's a bit to late to turn back now. But the conclusion we came to is that we need to reach out to our families and let them in on the plans we have for ourselves and how we feel as though our lives have come to a stop because of these responsibilities, we aren't saying we will stop supporting our families but we just feel as though communicating with them will make them understand that even we have dreams, we have things we want to do to better ourselves for their benefit as well.

With all of this being said black tax is something that bothers us because so many people in our families show up expecting to be taken care of by us and forget that we have things we want to do and us working doesn't mean we have it all figured out, some feel entitled to know how much we earn and we feel as though that isn't something worth sharing because then come month end we won't have any money left. So keeping your salary yourself helps save you spending out of budget and disclosing the things you want to do helps because at the end of the day it's going to be for their benefit too. Also we feel as though it's better to keep things like your partner, crushes and all that to yourselves because sometimes the people we consider friends do spiteful things continuously just have what you have. We also stated that cheating doesn't mean sleeping with someone only it's going on dates, letting someone in emotionally and disclosing stuff you would with your partner.

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