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“Family quarrels are bitter things. They don’t go according to any rules. They’re not like aches or wounds, they’re more like splits in the skin that won’t heal because there’s not enough material.”    — F. Scott Fitzgerald

Common Causes of Problems

It is normal for children and adolescents to make mistakes and test limits. However, if you notice ongoing behavioral problems in the children and adolescents in your care, the following questions may help.

1.  Is behavior related to changes in developmental stages?  As children and adolescents make their way through specific developmental stages, it is common to see some behavioral challenges. With support and nurturing, most behavioral struggles related to developmental changes last only a short time.

2.  Is this behavior related to biological factors? An example might be a child who is hard wired to be highly physically active. It would not be uncommon for behavioral difficulties to present themselves if he or she were asked to stay sitting for a long period of time.

3.  Is this behavior related to a mismatch between the child’s temperament and his or her environment?  No two children are alike and as such no two children will behave the same way. Sometimes a mismatch between a child’s temperament and his or her environment can cause behavioral problems. For instance, if a child is very shy and is put into a very social setting he or she may withdraw.

all credits goes to: http://www.thefamilygateway.net/childadolescent-mental-health/promoting-mental-health/pbspbis/common-causes-of-behavioral-problems/

FAMILY PROBLEMS

QUESTION: I have family problems - Are there steps for recovery?

ANSWER: Every family has family problems but, there are certain measures you can take for recovery. Whenever you have a group of people who spend hours with each other there are going to be problems. Personalities clash and power struggles ensue as parents and children learn how to cope with each other. The trick to the whole family structure is learning how to identify problems and then deal with those problems before they get out of hand. Take a moment to think about your family. What you will see is a tapestry made of people of different ages, different personalities, different likes and dislikes. This is your family. A family’s diversity must be acknowledged. Like it or not a thing called the generation gap will keep your family from operating totally on the same page. However, here are a few ideas to help your family cope with, and survive family problems.

Stopping the problem before it erupts is one of the best ways to deal with family problems. Family meetings can accomplish this goal. Family meetings provide a safe environment for each member to share their views on various issues. These meetings should be information sessions, not personal attacks or gripe sessions. If you think members of the family may not open up, you can try having each member write down their thoughts and then share them by passing them around. Writing takes away verbal inflections which can cause a conversation to escalate into an argument. Remember, the whole idea of family meetings is to communicate no matter if the communication is audible or written. If you feel a group setting would not be constructive, you can try having a one-on-one session with the person or persons you feel are at the root cause of your family problems. The main idea to remember is to keep talking, and try to work through your problems. The moment communication ends, the real problems begin. Also go into each talk session with the attitude that you attributed to the problem just as much as the other person. This will help you take responsibility rather than blaming other people. As we all know, it takes at least two people to cause a problem and at least two people to resolve the problem.

all credits goes to: http://www.allaboutlifechallenges.org/family-problems-faq.htm

“Families are the compass that guide us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter.”  — Brad Henry

Here I will be sharing some problems and possible solution and if u have any problem with ur family or friends family you can share.

1. The cause of problem in most family is lack of money. I am a witness to this, where there will be no money or enough money to care for the family needs, the husband and wife will be shouting at each other and there will not be peace. SOLUTION: I will advice you to be financially stable b4 getting married. If you are married already, let your spouse to know your total income and how much you are saving (if possible have a joint account) so that everything will be plain to him/her, and dont be stingy with your little income. Let him/her know the time that there is no money. If you are stingy there will always be misunderstanding…. Husband be generous…. Wife be generous. 2. Adultery: this is another cost of problems in the family, the husband will say I am the man of the house so I can do anything, as time goes on the wife will not be comfortable and querrel will start, from querrel to fight…. Some women too goes out to fornicate. Which will either result to divorce of the man beating the wife to a start of coma. I remember this what causes fight btw my neighbor and wife SOLUTION; You can handle it, you can keep yourself, wife always be available for your husband and husband always be available for your wife, except when agreed upon… Talk to your partner about what you like to see in a woman/man in bed or at night. Talk things out

Men should not think is only the wife that should do the cooking, you can cook for the family also, or help her in the kitchen make your family a fun place to be missing when you are not around. And when there is no food on the table, drink water and have patience. wife if there is no money for food don’t get angry. I don’t know how my brother’s wife do it, but any time there is nothing @home then she will always found a solution to it….. Women u can source for the family too

all credits goes to: http://www.nairaland.com/1984442/some-causes-problems-families-possible

We all do experience this kind of Family Problems, Right?

Parents! If you have a problem about your family feel free to say it all to your children dont wait for the time when they knew it and its already late to fix it.

We all know that Perfect Family don’t really exist right? So if you have a Family take care of it and help one another with their problems.

Common Effect to the Children when it comes to Family Problems

Family Problems causes the children to rebel, they start drinking liquor and smoking .

They Adopt the problems that happen to their family/surroundings.

The family problems makes the children pushes them away.

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Family quarrels are bitter things. They don't go according to any rules. They're not like aches or wounds, they're more like splits in the skin that won't heal because there's not enough material.

F. Scott Fitzgerald

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Common Causes of Problems

It is normal for children and adolescents to make mistakes and test limits. However, if you notice ongoing behavioral problems in the children and adolescents in your care, the following questions may help.

1.  Is behavior related to changes in developmental stages?  As children and adolescents make their way through specific developmental stages, it is common to see some behavioral challenges. With support and nurturing, most behavioral struggles related to developmental changes last only a short time.

2.  Is this behavior related to biological factors? An example might be a child who is hard wired to be highly physically active. It would not be uncommon for behavioral difficulties to present themselves if he or she were asked to stay sitting for a long period of time.

3.  Is this behavior related to a mismatch between the child’s temperament and his or her environment?  No two children are alike and as such no two children will behave the same way. Sometimes a mismatch between a child’s temperament and his or her environment can cause behavioral problems. For instance, if a child is very shy and is put into a very social setting he or she may withdraw.

4. Is this behavior related to a problem in the environment?  Sometimes the environment a child lives, plays, or goes to school in can itself be the cause of behavioral difficulties. Paying close attention to the specific settings where the behavior occurs can help to identify environmental factors that may be contributing to the child’s struggles. For instance, a child who has no bed time enforced at home or a classroom with no behavioral order will likely have behavioral challenges.

5. Is this behavior related to lack of knowledge or skills in the child?  Sometimes we assume that our kids know more than they know. Teaching new skills, including behavioral skills, requires explicit instruction, with examples. When a behavior problem emerges, it is a good idea to double check that the child knows what is expected and has all of the requisite skills to meet the behavioral expectation.

6.  Is this behavior related to unmet emotional needs?  Perhaps the most complex of all of the root causes of problems in children’s behavioral development are those that are related to unmet emotional needs. A child’s behavior sets into motion a series of responses from his or her environment. Whether caused by positive or negative behavior, if the responses to the behavior meet an unmet need, that child will likely repeat the behavior. For example, if a child is lacking a sense of being loved and cared for, he or she may engage in negative behaviors designed to get attention. This process is not a conscious one, but a very common one. In this instance, it is up to the caring adults in this child’s life to prevent the need for this behavior by assuring that the child has many positive opportunities for attention, care and love.

7.  Is this behavior related to an attempt to get something the child wants or avoid something the child does not want?  Often times behavior is shaped because a child is able to get what he or she wants or avoid unpleasant things if they do a specific behavior. For instance, a child may start fighting with her siblings right after dinner because she is able to avoid having to do the dishes when she is sent to her room to read quietly. Or perhaps the child enjoys the company of the principal. He or she may do a behavior they know will get them sent to the principal.

8.  Is this behavior being inadvertently reinforced?  Sometimes the most well intentioned caregiver actually reinforces, and therefore increases, the very behavior they are trying to diminish. For instance, if a child is missing  and longing for the attention of his or her parent or teacher and has to spend time with his or her parent or teacher any time there is a behavior infraction, that child is more likely to misbehave because of the reinforcement of getting what is desired.

all credits goes to: http://www.thefamilygateway.net/childadolescent-mental-health/promoting-mental-health/pbspbis/common-causes-of-behavioral-problems/

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Family Problems

QUESTION: I have family problems - Are there steps for recovery?

ANSWER: Every family has family problems but, there are certain measures you can take for recovery. Whenever you have a group of people who spend hours with each other there are going to be problems. Personalities clash and power struggles ensue as parents and children learn how to cope with each other. The trick to the whole family structure is learning how to identify problems and then deal with those problems before they get out of hand. Take a moment to think about your family. What you will see is a tapestry made of people of different ages, different personalities, different likes and dislikes. This is your family. A family's diversity must be acknowledged. Like it or not a thing called the generation gap will keep your family from operating totally on the same page. However, here are a few ideas to help your family cope with, and survive family problems.

Stopping the problem before it erupts is one of the best ways to deal with family problems. Family meetings can accomplish this goal. Family meetings provide a safe environment for each member to share their views on various issues. These meetings should be information sessions, not personal attacks or gripe sessions. If you think members of the family may not open up, you can try having each member write down their thoughts and then share them by passing them around. Writing takes away verbal inflections which can cause a conversation to escalate into an argument. Remember, the whole idea of family meetings is to communicate no matter if the communication is audible or written. If you feel a group setting would not be constructive, you can try having a one-on-one session with the person or persons you feel are at the root cause of your family problems. The main idea to remember is to keep talking, and try to work through your problems. The moment communication ends, the real problems begin. Also go into each talk session with the attitude that you attributed to the problem just as much as the other person. This will help you take responsibility rather than blaming other people. As we all know, it takes at least two people to cause a problem and at least two people to resolve the problem.

all credits goes to: http://www.allaboutlifechallenges.org/family-problems-faq.htm

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Families are the compass that guide us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter.

Brad Henry 

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Here I will be sharing some problems and possible solution and if u have any problem with ur family or friends family you can share.

1. The cause of problem in most family is lack of money. I am a witness to this, where there will be no money or enough money to care for the family needs, the husband and wife will be shouting at each other and there will not be peace. SOLUTION: I will advice you to be financially stable b4 getting married. If you are married already, let your spouse to know your total income and how much you are saving (if possible have a joint account) so that everything will be plain to him/her, and dont be stingy with your little income. Let him/her know the time that there is no money. If you are stingy there will always be misunderstanding.... Husband be generous.... Wife be generous. 2. Adultery: this is another cost of problems in the family, the husband will say I am the man of the house so I can do anything, as time goes on the wife will not be comfortable and querrel will start, from querrel to fight.... Some women too goes out to fornicate. Which will either result to divorce of the man beating the wife to a start of coma. I remember this what causes fight btw my neighbor and wife SOLUTION; You can handle it, you can keep yourself, wife always be available for your husband and husband always be available for your wife, except when agreed upon... Talk to your partner about what you like to see in a woman/man in bed or at night. Talk things out

3. Brother/sister inlaw living with couple... Mostly is the wife that is the problem here cos she will not allow the husband's brother/sister to live with them so she will be treating them badly, b4 u know it, it will result to family war, some time the men too dont like the wife's brother/sister because his family @home will be complaining that he is caring 4 d wife's family and neglecting his own family. Vice-visa SOLUTION: If u are new couple pls discuss with ur spouse about ur family condition, why u like to bring ur sister/brother and let there be agreement...... or better still if possible let ur family only come for visits and not to stay.... If u are about to wed, let your spouse to know this b4 time so that there will not be disagreement when your brother/sister comes to stay. And know how to handle issues btw your inlaws and your spouse, never you insult or blame your spouse in front of your sister/brother...... 4. No food on the table. This is either because there is no money available (husbands fault) or the woman is too lazy to cook. Men always get angry if they come back from office/work and no food on the table and this may result to trouble... Also women get angry if there is no money to buy foodstuffs @home SOLUTION: petience will be the key here..... The man should always try his best to provide money for food, and the wife should try her best to make sure there is food on the table... Men should not think is only the wife that should do the cooking, you can cook for the family also, or help her in the kitchen make your family a fun place to be missing when you are not around. And when there is no food on the table, drink water and have patience. wife if there is no money for food don't get angry. I don't know how my brother's wife do it, but any time there is nothing @home then she will always found a solution to it..... Women u can source for the family too

all credits goes to: http://www.nairaland.com/1984442/some-causes-problems-families-possible