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Women's Health IS NOT just impacting my reproductive organs! That's demeaning, reductive and absurd!

Women's Health also concerns with:

- Different fat storage and metabolism and how that's impacted by nutrition absorbtion and habits

- Medicinal reactions being different than men's

- Hormonal cycling

- Illness, stress, and injury response in the body

- Medical device design as male-centered versus considering female physiology

I am sure there are others but these things are FAR LESS RESEARCHED than men's, up to the point where R&D has a bias against women by: specifically choosing male animal test subjects to avoid hormone cycling side affects and choosing male cells in non-animal testing trials when developing new drugs and treatments, and only recently recognizing the different behavioral responses animal test subjects have when being handled by a man versus a woman.

This is all BEFORE you get to the fact that women are systemically viewed as overreacting or lying in a medical context.

If you're talking about female reproductive health - fine, then that's what you mean. But for fuck's sake, being a woman (or non-binary female or trans man) is more than just that and it's abhorrent that every single idiot on this Twitter thread saw a post that essentially said "Ah yes, females are only differentiated by their ability to make babies" and were like "ah yes, this is progressive." Like, fuck every one of y'all.

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Can confirm

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The Real Bathroom Crime

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My sexuality is this scene. Can't figure out which one is hotter like fr fr.

Gaby’s ridiculously cute dancing (◡‿◡✿)

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I greeted him at the door on 4" heels, a high ponytail, and a satin apron.

He pushed me into my apartment with hungry kisses and desperate gropes.

I peeled back the layers of a long day at work: briefcase with a thud by the door and the friction of his belt through each belt loop. The buckle jingling as it fell to the floor.

He bent me over the table and thrust himself against my back and ass before unzipping and revealing his excitement to me. I ran the stiletto heel up his inseam while using the mental map of his body to guide my hands to revisit my treasure.

His mouth and hands raced to discover every spot that would make me gasp or moan. I cocked my head and squirmed in the shadow of his stature. The high ponytail danced against my skin.

He grasped my long brown tresses at the tip and recalled all the photos and videos in his wank bank of arched backs and bent necks.

He yanked so hard that he herniated C5-6. During the surgery for my artificial disc replacement, my surgeon found a bone shard 3mm from my spinal cord.

The man who whispered in my ear of how i was “marriage material” moved to Toronto 2 weeks after he damn near made me into a quadriplegic. He closed on a house the day of my surgery.

To this day, I jump when someone puts their hands near my head. My ears ring constantly. And every time I see one of you all post a photo of someone having their hair pulled, I think about all the pain one dumb, badly-executed move caused me.

1. Get consent. 2. Give warning. 3. Grab slowly and smoothly at the roots 4. Movement comes from the wrist (minimizes chance of injury to directional force) 5. If need be, let the person with the hair being pulled hold on to your wrist to either limit your movement or as a failsafe. 6. Over time develop trust with your partner to dial up neck extension, force, or speed.

All that and the fucker never even gave me a single orgasm.

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Found this on a subreddit and I nearly fucking choked.

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Check out these female artists, now in their 70s, 80s, and 90s that we should have known about a looong time ago. Behold their artistic works. 

Starting from the top row, going left to right

Carmen Herrera: The 99 year old is known for her abstract geometric style 

Agnes Denes: At 83 years, Denes is known for her works which integrate philosophy, math, science, and map projections. 

Dorothea Rockburne: After getting her start in mathematics, Rockburne discovered a unique expression on geometric abstraction. 

Monir Shahroudy Farmanfarmaian: Iranian artist mixes Persian geometric with Abstract Expressionism

Lorraine O’Grady: The rock critic turned artist 

Etel Adnan: The artist with small, but powerful abstract works

Joan Semmel: An artist of figuration, beautifully capturing human nudity 

Rosalyn Drexler: Known for her brightly colored, cartoon/film-noir paintings

Judith Bernstein: Best known for her in-you-face approach to gender politics

Faith Ringgold: An artist of “story quilts”

Michelle Stuart: A earth artist who creates land-art based work

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I'm currently reading Abigail Shrier's book (which I will hold judgment on until I finish) but I thought it made some excellent points on mental health. We've clinicalized basic social awkwardness/anxiety and reinforce it rather than grow out of it, natural mood swings are in need of intervention, etc etc. Obviously there are instances that need treatment. But I think what we're talking about here is the modern form of hysteria, yeah. It's capitalism with a splash of patriarchy.

@fellow radfems. How do you tell if your mental illnesses are genuine? Because some of the things described as female socialization are just my basic social anxiety symptoms, same w depression. I lowkey feel like I've just been diagnosed with female hysteria but more modern.

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It’s been a few days and I just want to point out the ratio of angry gender cultists commenting on her tweets to the number of people who Liked the tweets. The gender cult is NOT the majority view point, They are just very loud.

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Based on current discourse, I sadly feel it is necessary to start by making clear that I do not hate trans people. I'm not transphobic. I think we have more in common than not. I respect trans people and their pronouns and obviously believe everyone is entitled to civil rights and protection. I want these things for trans people. This does not conflict with my views on gender. In fact, I think the feminist views and associated goals I hold regarding gender are in line with remedying many of the struggles the transgender community faces.

I believe that sex is a biological reality, but that gender is a social construct that serves as a prison for us all.

In my current understanding, gender is a term for how we perceive ourselves and how we want to be perceived by others based on the archaic dichotomy of masculine and femine. It's perpetuation reinforces harmful stereotypes about our individual intelligence, emotional capacity, life priorities, etc. It is directly harmful. See stereotypical examples below I'm sure we all are familiar with:

Suzy doesn't get the promotion because her boss thinks she's going to be too family oriented when she eventually has kids, which the boss only assumes. He thinks Paul who is unlikely to be a direct caretaker will actually be able to focus, so he gets the promotion instead.

Jim's dad would hit him when he cried because boys don't cry. Jim grew up and now has trouble opening up to people. He covers up his insecurities with derogatory views about women and the LGBTQ community.

I don't think anyone who spent some time and thought critically about gender would find that they perfectly fit into what society thinks a man or a woman should be. This spectrum of masculine to feminine is so varied and complex. If I'm being honest, it feels more like a spider web-like graph of interconnecting points than a spectrum like we think of color. Each of us has strands of various categories, branching off, dipping back, and mixing into what makes us unique.

And we're wearing down the borders. Fashion isn't justly a feminine interest. Sports not just masculine. You know what I mean. This is the ultimate goal in my mind, to erase gender and all its rules, roles, and assumptions. The experience of being a woman is so varied and unique to each individual. Does being female gender mean I want to be seen as submissive, that I want to be pursued? Does it mean that I like pink and glitter? You can do the same for men. How do you define what female gender is? If you can't define it as one thing or another, how do you "identify" with it?

I don't think you can define gender without the harmful stereotypes that put people in boxes. Even if it's a-gender, genderqueer, etc. Acknowledging that you are opting out of the options reinforces that they are valid and distinct classifications. What I desperately want is to see this borders erased.

Admittedly, the trans movement could lead to that goal as it will draw attention to the boxes. However it seems counter intuitive that we encourage painful and expensive transitions for people who don't fit molds or boxes to be the solution to ripping up the damn boxes. And as I'm sure this blog will get into, there are immediate collateral effects. It seems more progressive to let's our ideas of women expand to include the masculine, and of men to include the feminine. The more variation in the sexes (and there is already a lot) we have, you're bound to have less people who think they are outliers or in the wrong category.

So no, I'm not cisgender. Gender is violence, to borrow a term. I'm a female based on my sex. I find it objectively offensive that anyone would place a label on me implying I accept my gender prison to justify the existence of theirs.

At this point I will not delve into dysphoria (sex related dysphoria). I think that is a competed separate medical condition which scientists and doctors have spoken on. Anyway, it is my understanding the focus of the current trans movement is on gender dysphoria, which does not require dysphoria regarding one's body.