big offense but if a person connects w womanhood and exclusively loves women, this person is a lesbian and can call themself a lesbian. doesn’t matter how much or how little they id as a woman. i’d understand the outrage if someone went “i’m a dude and i love women therefore i’m a lesbian” but it’s not what he/him lesbians are. a disconnect from womanhood is v common in lesbians bc society tends to define women thru their attraction and alliance to men. why shame lesbians for a discomfort they have no control over? the detachment from stereotypical womanhood (including the use of feminine pronouns) doesn’t mean they’re suddenly men. toss away your outdated binary mindset and understand that gender is a fkg social construct. there are no real rules. so there’s no one way to be a woman or a lesbian. whether cis or trans/nb, lesbians are allowed to alleviate their dysphoria w/o being dissected and having their lesbianism gauged on whether or not they fit the Lesbian Mould you have in mind. their experience w womanhood and gender expression is absolutely none of your business. let lesbians be.