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Choking Safety

I've been seeing some kind of scare-mongering type posts going around about choking during sex, so I wanted to address how to approach choking in a safe way. Choking is not a 0 risk activity, but it is also not so dangerous that you will just randomly die either. Anyone who does martial arts will confirm that thousands of teenagers are being successfully trained to choke each other safely (for self defense) every day! There's no reason you can't learn to do it too.

First you should be familiar with some basic anatomy of the neck and throat:

The carotid veins on both sides of the neck and the trachea/windpipe in the center are the most important things to be aware of. If you want to enjoy the psychological element of having someone's hands around your neck with relatively little risk, you can do "choking" play that avoids putting any pressure on those arteries or the trachea. As with all choking play, safety is highest when both parties are fully sober. I'm not actually sure if there are people out there who are into having the windpipe or trachea blocked. This tends to hurt like fuck and cause an autonomic choking response. You'll know if you went too far center because generally the bottom will be like "WTH". I don't know if there is a way to do this play safely or not as I don't have experience with it. It probably carries some risk of the trachea collapsing which would be a hospital trip for sure. Most choking play is done with the intention of cutting off the blood supply to the brain by applying pressure to both the left and right carotid arteries. This type of choking is not really "breath play" because of the way it works (though many people refer to it that way.) This creates a pleasant light headed feeling, but is also where the higher risk comes in. It often doesn't take long for a person to lose consciousness once these arteries are blocked, often less than 10 seconds. Sometimes getting completely choked out is the goal, sometimes not. Either way, the top has to pay very very careful attention to every aspect of their bottom's body language. Once you realize that a person has lost consciousness, the choking must stop immediately. Because of this: the most dangerous way to do this kind of play is alone. (hence all the auto-erotic asphyxiation deaths you hear about) It goes without saying that intoxication also dramatically increases the risks. It's not recommended to lose consciousness this way on a regular basis. It's just not good for your brain to repeatedly go through, especially in rapid succession. Generally, the more time spaced out between this type of play: the better. Though some people may have medical conditions that make the risk higher, as long as you stop choking when you reach the desired headspace, this play is approachable. Anyone who's REALLY into the idea but feels unsure or scared, I highly recommend taking a few martial arts classes. MMA guys do this to each other all the time! For sports! The key is just stopping at the right time. There are two main ways to go about blocking the carotid arteries. The main one used in martial arts and self defense is the rear naked choke.

This type of choke is incredible effective at choking someone out quickly and easily. The forearm and the bicep are squeezing each artery until the desired effect is achieved. The risk here is how quickly it works in combination with not being able to have a visual on your bottom's facial response. When someone loses consciousness they will go limp and begin twitching somewhat. This is normal, and you should stop immediately if you notice those signs. The more common method of choking play during sex is what looks more like typical choking. Facing your partner, using both hands.

You want to find the arteries with both hands, and use the meat at the base of your thumbs to apply gradually increasing pressure upwards towards your partner's head. You can keep the thumbs tucked to avoid accidental pressure on the windpipe. (Though this is not required so long as you remember not to apply pressure to the windpipe.) This type of play has a few safety benefits. First, you can see your partner's face so it's more obvious when you can see they've hit a headspace that is desirable. Additionally, it's just a little more difficult to find the arteries and push up on them correctly. If your goal is to get a little light headed without losing consciousness, this is more easily accomplished with this type of choke. However, losing consciousness is still a risk and both partners being fully alert will ensure the lowest risk environment. I know choking play is incredibly popular, even 'vanilla' people participate in this type of play on a regular basis without really knowing the technical details. Most of them don't get seriously hurt...but knowing what you're actually doing with risky play is a base component of risk aware consensual kink. Anyway I hope people find this helpful! Happy choking!!

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If I moan when we’re kissing just know that I’m ready to fuck

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I will not beg you for your time or try to convince you to choose me, the world is too big and I have too much to offer.

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I PROMISE YOU ARE NOT ASKING FOR TOO MUCH. YOU WILL MEET SOMEONE WHO IS SO OBSESSED WITH YOU THAT THEY WILL GIVE SO MUCH MORE THAN YOU WOULD EVER ASK FOR. AND THEY WILL DO IT ALL JUST BECAUSE THEY LOVE YOU

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I crave being known and understood and loved anyway.

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cursed with "do you still like me?" "are you mad at me?" "did i do something wrong?" disorder

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The Signs as Sylvia Plath Quotes

Aries: 

“Out of the ash I rise with my red hair and I eat men like air.” (Lady Lazarus)

Taurus:

“I took a deep breath and listened to the old brag of my heart. I am, I am, I am.” (The Bell Jar)

Gemini:

“I am still so naïve; I know pretty much what I like and dislike; but please, don’t ask me who I am. A passionate, fragmentary girl, maybe?” (The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath)

Cancer:

“How frail the human heart must be - a mirrored pool of thought. So deep and tremulous an instrument of glass that it can either sing, or weep.” (Letters Home)

Leo:

“And I am aware of my heart: it opens and closes Its bowl of red blooms out of sheer love of me.” (Tulips)

Virgo:

“It was my first big chance, but here I was, sitting back and letting it run through my fingers like so much water.” (The Bell Jar)

Libra:

“I am inhabited by a cry Nightly it flaps out Looking, with its hooks, for something to love.”  (Elm)

Scorpio:

“Perhaps when we find ourselves wanting everything, it is because we are dangerously close to wanting nothing.” (Letter to Richard Sassoon)

Sagittarius:

“I want to live and feel all the shades, tones and variations of mental and physical experience possible in my life. And I am horribly limited” (The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath)

Capricorn: 

“The hardest thing is to live richly in the present without letting it be tainted out of fear for the future or regret for the past.” (Letters Home)

Aquarius:

“Stars open among the lilies. Are you not blinded by such expressionless sirens? This is the silence of astounded souls.” (Crossing The Water)

Pisces: 

“I wanted to crawl in between those black lines of print, the way you crawl through a fence, and go to sleep under that beautiful big green fig-tree.” (The Bell Jar)

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Wanna come over and rub your face on my bulge while I pet your head and call you my pretty little girl?

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Smooches on your clit before fingering you through a couple of messy orgasms