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I just love my wife so fucking much. She’s wonderful.

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I’m a cis-gender man which basically means that, when I was born, the doctor went “It’s a boy!” and when I was old enough to understand I agreed with him.

The thing is, I don’t know why I feel like a man.  I was teased and bullied for it a lot when I was little.  I’ve never had stereotypically American male interests.  I never cared about sports or cars or guns.  I was more interested in music and cooking and the arts.  I’ve always been emotionally in tune and sensitive, even when I did my best to suppress my emotions to survive a childhood of abuse from other children.

It’s not physical either.  I don’t feel like a man because I have a penis or a beard.  If you put my brain in a robot body or any other body, my essence would still feel male (I assume).  I literally can’t imagine what being any other gender would feel like, since I feel so acutely male.

I think that’s why the concept of being transgender always made sense to me.  I’m a man.  I don’t have any bloody clue why I feel like a man, but I don’t feel that it’s tied to my body or my interests or the way that I’ve been treated.  I feel like a man because of something beyond that.  Something ephemeral.  So, why couldn’t others feel the same?  Why couldn’t a person who’s been misidentified as a girl feel like a boy for the exact same nebulous reasons that I do?

And, since gender really doesn’t make any sense to me anyway, why couldn’t there also be people who feel as if they don’t have one?  Or who flow across genders like a ship on a map?

Are there people out there whose sense of their own gender is inseparable from their physical form?  If you put those people into robot bodies or, simply, other physically different bodies, would their gender identity also swap?  If so, why?  Are they actually more lost in their gender identity than I am and they need to hone in on the physical in order to anchor themselves?

Why do people feel like they are the gender that they are?

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“Wait for it .. our cats face when she watches our new rescue kitten”

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All I have to say here is.....I can’t wait for my fiancée to get home. Having lots of sexy thoughts about you.

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my soul misses the mountains

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Glacier Point Road Yosemite National Park, California, USA

by Amaurie Ramirez

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things that actually do improve your mental health that of course won’t cure you and solve all your problems, but will significantly improve your quality of life:

• drinking enough water

• eating healthier

• getting enough exercise (even just doing a bit of yoga/stretching everyday or going for a walk)

• adopting a more positive mindset (not pretending everything’s fine, just not being overly negative and trying to see the brighter side of things and have hope for the future)

• taking a shower everyday and washing your hair enough, taking care of your skin, doing nice things for yourself every now and then (it doesn’t have to be costly, it could just be something small), and other forms of self care

• meditation (its actually proven to improve your mental health significantly and really helps with things like stress and anxiety)

• being more mindful about the media you consume and how its affecting you (e.g “hey i feel more anxious when im on social media because of this reason, I should decrease how much time i spend doing that”)

• practicing self love (although it’s hard, it’s absolutely necessary)

• writing in a diary, it can be a physical diary or just on your phone (really important for people who can’t get therapists or don’t have anyone to talk to)

please stop downplaying the positive impact that small practices like these can have on someone’s life just because they won’t fix everything. small improvements are still improvements. neglecting yourself and your health is terrible for your mind and any steps towards taking better care of yourself are really important

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I don’t wanna be your friend by apaletteof