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Do you know why the law protects minors? Because your imaginations are limited. What did you imagine would happen here? Do you think things would’ve unfolded the way you imagined? Not a chance. If you come to places like this, things you don’t need to experience, shouldn’t experience, that you’re better off not experiencing happen. Because when people do something bad, the imagination of adults and the imagination of minors are worlds apart. I didn’t ruin your plan today. It failed because it was a bad plan. Come up with a new plan.

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Just wait. I’ll really go to your world.

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KIM TAE-RI as NA HEE-DO Twenty-Five Twenty-One (2022) Episode 1

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Sometimes, we’re so focused on reacting to the disrespect that we receive from others that we don’t realise how we give up our self-respect in the process.

If we continue in reaction mode for long enough, we’ll find ourselves not only returning the favour by treating them the way that they treat us, but we’ll also find ourselves blaming them for our response.

That’s when we go beyond losing our self-respect and we begin losing ourselves completely.

Strangely though, we’re unlikely to do this with everyone.

We’ll often encounter total strangers or mere acquaintances who will treat us badly, but we’ll ignore them and continue focusing on what is important to us.

Therefore, the answer lies in how much significance we place in those relationships to which we lose ourselves.

The more significant that we want to be in their lives, the more we’ll convince ourselves about their significance in ours. That’s how we become emotionally invested in being treated with respect by them.

The less respect we receive, the more intense our emotional experience, resulting in us fighting fire with fire. In other words, giving them a taste of their own medicine.

That’s when respect becomes optional. When we convince ourselves that treating others the way that they treat us is in fact justice, when the truth is that it is returning their bitterness with our bitterness towards them.

That’s how we give up the good of who we are.

The greatest tragedy in all of this is that when we lose ourselves, we also lose sight of the struggles, or the low self-esteem that they’re experiencing which causes them to treat us badly.

Instead of breaking that cycle, we feed it, and in the process, harm ourselves as much as we believed they were harming us.

When respect becomes optional based on how we’re treated by others, we give them the power to define how we feel about ourselves.

To whom are you giving your power today?

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“In our culture we’ve been trained to make individual differences to stand out. You look at each person and think, ‘brighter, dumber, older, younger, richer, poorer’, and we make all these dimensional distinctions, put them in categories and treat people that way. And we only see others as separate from ourselves. One of the dramatic characteristics of the psychedelic experience is being with another person and suddenly seeing the ways in which they are like you—not different from you.”

— Ram Dass

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“A year from now you will wish you had started today.”

— Karen Lamb

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by brookandpeony

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“Our usual tendency is to pray for direction. But God has a better way. Pray for wisdom, and the direction will become clear. If we were to pray for direction, God could only answer by giving us information. But it we pray for wisdom, God answers by giving us His own mind.”

— Chris Tiegreen

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this hit way too close to home

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“And that ring is ridiculous.” Jo gave me this ring. Saoirse Ronan & Timothée Chalamet in Little Women (2019) dir. Greta Gerwig

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Saoirse Ronan as Jo March - Little Women (2019), dir. Greta Gerwig

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I’d hate elegant society; you’d hate my scribbling. We would be unhappy, and we’d wish we hadn’t done it, and everything would be horrid.          LITTLE WOMEN (2019) DIR. GRETA GERWIG

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“After the whole madness of the Academy Awards was over, I went away to the woods for a couple of weeks and just sat with everything and tried to puzzle it out,” [Greta Gerwig] says. And then it came: Jo’s seminal speech to Marmee (Laura Dern) in the attic after she has turned down Laurie’s marriage proposal (Timothée Chalamet) and sent him away.

“Women have minds and souls as well as just hearts, and they’ve got ambition and talent as well as just beauty. And I’m sick of people saying that love is all a woman is fit for. I’m so sick of it! But – I’m so lonely!”

“I pulled that (from the book) and then I just wrote, ‘I’m so lonely’ at the end. I heard exactly how Saoirse [Ronan] says it in the movie in my head and I started weeping.” Gerwig says. Months later, without prompting, that’s exactly as Ronan performed it.

"That’s something that everyone goes through when they come out of childhood.” Ronan says. “Where they’re like, all of the plans I thought I could make and all the decisions I thought I could make about which way my life was going to go and who was going to be in it – I have no control over that at all. And there’s a real weight to that, you know?”

‘Little Women’: How Greta Gerwig and Saoirse Ronan updated the beloved tale

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