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i knew this felt familiar for a reason

oh it's over stevey boy

and i'd just like to remind everyone that this is the previous scene with dustin and steve

they can't seem to name why they're special like a certain someone i know

but anyway, lucas can name why max is special.

same with jonathan and nancy.

even will with mike.

now, you tell me what love looks like in stranger things.

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Introducing one of my favorite Stranger Things headcanons:

Demiromantic Steve Harrington

(disclaimer: this post is written from the viewpoint of Steve being heterosexual, tho I don’t think the interpretation of him potentially being bi conflicts with this analysis)

For those who don’t know, the most common definition of demiromantic is: “[describing] people who do not experience romantic attraction until they have formed a deep emotional connection with someone”

Based on what we’ve seen in the show, Steve desperately wants to be in a loving, mutual romantic relationship, and in s4 he complains to Robin that he’s unhappy only having relationships centered around sex. He’s able to experience sexual attraction easily and readily, so he’s likely allosexual, but it appears that romantic attraction is something that only forms after he develops a strong bond with someone.

Case in point: Nancy Wheeler

It’s established in s1 that Steve is a player who is known for having casual hookups, not exclusive relationships, before he and Nancy began what initially started as a fling. But Nancy was someone who challenged him repeatedly, who didn’t let him coast on a shallow relationship but who he had to form an emotional bond and actual relationship with before she (thought she) felt ready and comfortable sleeping with him. And because that emotional bond was given time and space to form on Steve’s end, he was able to feel romantic attraction toward and develop romantic feelings for Nancy. Then, as they remained an exclusive couple for a year after s1, Steve did truly fall in love with Nancy.

Case in point #2: Robin Buckley

I actually don’t believe Steve actually developed romantic feelings for Robin—but I think he started feeling romantic attraction for her before she came out to him.

Lemme explain.

I just rewatched s3 over the past few days, and they never show Steve falling for Robin. The most we get is Dustin teasing Steve and that one hand-holding moment that isn’t even really played all that intensely and it’s brushed aside very quickly. It’s not lingered on. Steve don’t pine after her, he doesn’t look at her longingly. There’s nothing in the cinematography to create a sense of falling in love.

What does happen is that Steve forms a strong emotional bond with Robin, something he’s only ever done once before with a girl around his age: with Nancy. So once that emotional bond is there and he’s able to start feeling romantic attraction toward her, he jumps at it and latching onto it and mistakes it for romantic feelings. But once that avenue is cut off when she comes out to him, he has no trouble with and feels no angst about that emotional bond remaining platonic, because he never had romantic feelings for her. Just romantic attraction.

So, what’s going on in s4?

I think that, in s4, Steve is clearly at a point where he is longing to be mutually in love and have a mutual and exclusive and happy romantic relationship. He doesn’t want casual anymore, he wants commitment. But he hasn’t been able to develop an emotional bond with any of the women he’s pursued in the interim, and so he only experiences sexual attraction toward them, not romantic attraction. This has left him feeling unfulfilled.

And so, once he starts spending time with Nancy again due to the UD related events, he once again experiences the previously-established (yet now altered) emotional bond and the romantic attraction he feels toward Nancy, and it dredges up old feelings. Because he’s feeling so unfulfilled, he latches onto this romantic attraction and old romantic feelings because those feelings are what he’s been so desperately longing for, and the resurgence of that attraction and those feelings cause him to believe that perhaps Nancy Wheeler is the only person he’ll ever love romantically.

But he doesn’t understand why that is. It’s not the sex that’s impeding him, it’s that he hasn’t realized that his ability to develop romantic feelings is contingent on developing an emotional bond, so when he tries to cultivate a romantic relationship but doesn’t focus on nurturing that emotional bond, he becomes frustrated and feels unfulfilled.

And part of it is also definitely that he’s too caught up in pursuing women he feels aesthetically and sexually attracted to rather than seeking out personalities that he admires or enjoys being around, which he needs in order to form that emotional bond.

And it’s clear he doesn’t understand Nancy fundamentally as a person, because the married life dream he describes to her isn’t something she wants. It’s antithetical to her ambitions.

So yeah. Demiromantic Steve Harrington my beloved.

(I put this as a headcanon instead of a theory because I don’t believe we’ll ever know for sure if it’s canon, but it’s how I personally interpret Steve Harrington’s character.)

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controversial writing tip

open a document and start writing

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It’s that Byers family rizz. That kind of quirky, offbeat, maybe a little out there charm??? That underdog and low-key-kind-of-a-loser vibe??? The niche taste in music, thrifted clothes, shaggy haircut, and having to convince others that they’re not crazy energy??? Absolutely irresistible. It’s so funny that the Byers are canonically a weird and bullied, socially outcast family but that they all canonically have rizz 😭😭 Bc why is Jonathan pulling Nancy Wheeler??? Why does every girl who looks at Will want to kiss him??? Why is someone always talking Joyce on a date??? When you’re in a rizz competition and your opponent is the Byers family.

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If you see this on your dashboard, reblog this, NO MATTER WHAT and all your dreams and wishes will come true.

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"Are you ok?" I'm actually tired bro. From the bottom of my heart I'm tired

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i’m going to use this to ruin lunch 🥰

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man stays baffled

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Man fuck this disability why is it fucking disabling

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The Intuitive Analysis of my Blorbo 😇, Mr. Derek Hale

The reason I latched onto Derek like I did, is because as an Empath, the amazing way he was portrayed by Tyler Hoechlin, his backstory, and how he responded to stimulus around him, really pulled me into him. He made me feel what he was going through. There are some rare performances that can really connect with me, like they were a real tangible person, and his is one of them.

I don't know how much insight I can give into him that I, or other beautiful people in the Fandom, haven't already. But I will give as brief an overview as I can.

The fact that Derek is a werewolf, and born that way, already changes everything from the beginning. His lived experience is already different from the jump. Much like people from two completely different cultures will have different perspectives, manners, ways of speaking, etc. He's already leading with instinct/intuition and hasn't lost touch with that, while others tend to be really connected with it as a child and then become conditioned out of listening to that feeling in your gut or that intuitive hit because as a child that's seen as "silly" or not "real". But being born with that, and born of people who also possess this ability, he's going to have that part of himself nutured instead of minimized.

He's also the middle child, but the only boy, so he's got an interesting dynamic that way. He's likely seen as more "special" or more included than the typical middle child. But being the middle of two girls, he was still likely the scapegoat and teamed up on because of it. It's likely made him more careful and thoughtful with his words and actions. Also, he's probably very connected to his family, maybe more than most humans. Which also points to that animal instinct.

Being the middle child, I feel, might also make him more susceptible to suggestion, but also, oddly enough, he's kind of a good bullshit detector. Unfortunately, he tends to have a big blind spot for bullshit when his heart is involved. This boy is a big ol' marshmallow.

He's sustained so much trauma because he was/is such a beautiful soul who wanted to believe in the power of love. He wore his heart on his sleeve, and everybody saw that, and some people exploited that to their own ends. So much that Derek completely closed himself off when his own pure heart led to his family being killed.

When we first see Derek in Teen Wolf, his sister (the last family he had that was alive/not comatose) had just been killed. He's already completely shrouded himself internally and externally in that pain he still holds in his very soul, and built it up around him like a wall. He's put on his leather jacket and scowl as an armor to keep people out. Even as gorgeous as he is, he didn't look very approachable, so people usually gave him a wide berth. And it's this very armor he's created that actually makes it harder for him to connect with Scott and Stiles, initially.

While Stiles understands the grief personally, it takes him a while to see that in Derek because the man is so incredibly guarded.

But it's impossible to show the needed vulnerability to create the necessary camaraderie because, to Derek, vulnerability means weakness, and leads to death. Though it makes sense that the one person he was able to let the wall down with was Stiles. Despite their initial animosity, Stiles has proven his loyalty, his tenacity, and his understanding. Derek instinctively knows that he can trust Stiles, and he slowly begins to let him in.

A lot of what we see from Derek in the beginning is survival mode, trying to control a situation because he's feeling out of control, which creates more animosity. He becomes the Alpha because someone needs to be, and he's the only one who knows enough between him and Scott. Plus, he isn't going to give his family's spark to a newbie wolf.

Then he's building a pack because that's all he knows. He does everything he's only ever seen other people do. He's running purely on instinct and of course non-wolves are not going to understand that.

Anyway, to cut this short, once he's out of survival mode and he's had time to process what's happened, he becomes a mentor to Scott. That soft marshmallow boy starts to peek out. Then we see him emerge even more once he's more settled, like when dealing with his son, Eli.

All in all, Derek is a major soft wolf who was hardened by his trauma, but he was able to slowly connect with people again. He was able to trust and create a pack and a community with the people in Beacon Hills, and he was able to step more fully into who he truly was, which was proven most profoundly when he had his rebirth and evolved to complete the full wolf shift.

Derek Hale was one of the most fascinating, complex, and engaging characters on Teen Wolf for me. He will always be my Blorbo. ❤️

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they should invent a laying in your bed all day that is healthy and good for you.

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Incorrect Quotes

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new zealand jiminie ♡

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heart full (cr. qdeoks)

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#best chaotic duo of 2021

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lmaooo

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LOML !!!!!