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having a freeze response to stress is so funny in the context of normal adult stressors. millions of years of evolution are trying to tell me that the email will not find me if i stay very still and do nothing

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Nothing happened to me vs undeniable evidence that I behave like things happened to me

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Me, trying to explain why I don’t have trauma: I remember… *looks into the black void where those years should be* …not that. I don’t remember anything like that ever happening.

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Fronting experiences!

1. The helicopter parent

Alter just pops in out of nowhere uninvited and starts giving opinions on what you're doing

2. Curious child

Alter just starts asking you a bunch of questions on what you're doing and shenanigans out of nowhere

3. Thrown in

You're struggling! Quick gatekeeper! Throw a motherfucker here to help!!

4. The corner whisperer

You don't even notice they're in front with you until you hear them whispering from a corner all of your darkest thoughts

5. I'm coming for you bitch

You say 1 thing about an alter and then you can hear them sprinting to front, too late, he found you!

6. Positive hyperfixation trigger

Oh no i mention bees, now the little is fronting and babbling non-stop about them!

7. "ACTSHUALLY ☝️🤓"

You make one single mistake and THAT motherfucker comes out of nowhere to tell you how wrong you are, THANKS JACKASS

8. Party!

A lot of alters just front cuz something fun IS happening!!

9. Party! /Neg

A lot of alters just front cuz something horrible IS happening!!

10. You kinda just wake up together

You get to front and the other guy is just there with you too, alright then

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The wildest part about being a system and having known you are a system for a while (6+ years for us) HAS to be seeing people who are just figuring it out fall into holes that you've long left behind.

Like. Yeah. We also thought we needed to keep tabs on everyone to increase communication. In the end it became too unwieldy. Especially since DID evolves with what you experience all the time.

Microlabels are cool and I fully support anyone who uses them, but figuring out what to call every single structure in your system isn't for us anymore.

Another thing we notice is people who try their best to know who is fronting at all given times. A lot of that comes naturally to us nowadays, but it's also... OK not to know. Especially if you're not focusing on anything system related at the time.

I guess a lot of this boils down to, it's okay not to care. It's okay to go with the flow of things and figure out at your own pace. Identity is fluid, especially if you have a dissociative disorder. You don't HAVE to have everything figured out 100% of the time.

It's okay to take it slow. It's okay to not know. It's okay to just exist for a bit. It's okay to live and experience things beyond being a system.

To all the people who are just starting to comprehend this. You do not need to know and label exactly what is happening in your head all the time. Fuck, we sure don't. And we're happier for it.

It's okay to just be you.

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attempting to explain to your mother that she may, at some point in her life, have made a non-optimal decision

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my lore drops are insane

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idk if any other trans people with DID feel this way but when i see trans people who are singlets searching for therapy specifically around gender dysphoria i get weirdly jealous like god i wish i could mainly focus on my dysphoria and gender shit and the violent transphobic shit ive gone through but instead i have to figure out how to live with a full marching band inside my head making noise all day long as well as keep a tight lid on the trauma container 

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Too much ‘evil voices in my head/alters are harming me’

Not enough appreciation for ‘the voices in my head tried to stop me’

‘The voices in my head tried to protect me’

‘The voices in my head saved me’

I love the voices in my head

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attempting to explain to your mother that she may, at some point in her life, have made a non-optimal decision

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"Wow, why do I downplay and compartmentalize my trauma so much?"

- Person diagnosed with Downplay and Compartmentalize Your Trauma Disorder

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who knew that stress makes you stressed

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just because an alter (or person) is hypersexual doesn’t mean you can make advances on them or say sexual stuff to them without asking if it’s okay first. being hypersexual isn’t a fucking invitation. especially when (in some cases, not all!) being hypersexual can be a trauma response. particularly for osddid systems.

this should be obvious but i guess it’s not for some people!

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child abuse survivors seeing a child in public: “omg i hope they’re not getting abused”

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Disability aid tutorials

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These tutorials are available for free.

Do you know of any good resources on making/modding your own disability aids? Feel free to include them in your reblogs.

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When our friends meet new alters, we've found that sometimes they feel like they're having to completely establish a new relationship with the alter. And it's... really not that simple. Sometimes sure, the new alter may not fully share memories with us and thus will need some time to get to know our friends. Other times they have great access to memories and thus it may feel like they already know our friends. Still other times the alter isn't necessarily a "new" alter but may be a split that still has memories from before the split, or a dormant alter who knew the friends from before, or any other reason. And even so... they're still a part of the same system. And sometimes we feel frustrated and disappointed and sad when our friends treat each new alter as if they're a completely new person when it's not so clear cut.