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I am feeling so empty and helpless.

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It’s time.

It’s time to get myself together.

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Fuck me and my research

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Probably one of the worst parts of my academic journey is having two advisors for my graduate study. 😐

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How to Leave the Past Behind

When you’re feeling overwhelmed with your sadness and loss, it’s hard to believe that your life will ever change, or you’ll ever be able to smile or laugh again. But the truth is you will – it won’t always be this bad – and there are things you can do help move on with your life:

1. Decide to face your pain. An unresolved past never really goes away. You may think you have buried your anger and pain but the hurt is still there and it will surface later on. If you don’t face what happened, and the feelings it unleashed, you will end up being ruled by your subconscious mind. So try and find the courage to revisit all the pain.

2. Accept there’s nothing you can do to change the past. What’s happened has happened, and what’s done is done. There’s nothing you can do to turn back the hands of time, or to rewrite the story so the ending’s happier. But you can change how you think, and you can start over again, and build a different future that’s not poisoned by the past.

3. Be grateful for the good times. There’s usually something good that you can be thankful for. You don’t have to pretend that everything was bad – or write off any good times and happy memories.

4. Consciously let go and set your focus on the future - Don’t let the baggage, or the failures of the past, affect your identity or self esteem. You are not what you did, or how you acted previously. You’re not just a product of what happened to you. You are valuable, unique and you have so much to give. You’re the author of your future; you control your destiny.

5. Remove your past from your future. We all have a tendency to think that the past will morph into our future – and become our lot in life. But that doesn’t have to happen. The future’s a blank page. You can change your expectations and work towards those goals. Instead, look hard for the exceptions – the times when things went right – and notice what you did that resulted in success. You still have those same strengths, skills and great qualities.

6. Be realistic and take small steps at first. You can’t snap your fingers and find that life has changed. Accept it will take time, and you will still have some bad days. But if you keep on going then the past will lose its grip.

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Was dump again and this time even lost first kiss 🤦🏻‍♂️

- 10:45 PM

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When You’re Trying to Figure out your Life Remember …

1. We can’t tell the future; we don’t know what lies ahead. All we can ever do is try to figure out a plan.

2. Your friends and your parents don’t know the future either. Your life is YOURS to live – don’t let them plan your life for you.

3. Enjoy what’s happening now; hang out, and do things with your friends. At least that is reality – so make the most of “now”.

4. Uncertainty and change are a big – normal – part of life. So, learn to become comfortable with “not knowing right now.”

5. Procrastination, although common, can really stop you from succeeding. Just take a step and act – regardless of the way you feel.

6. You need to learn to focus – and ignore all the distractions – for, otherwise, you’ll never really progress or succeed.

7. Life is full of lots of chances – you can usually try again – or try another option - if you mess things up this time.

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““That’s why travel is so important, among other reasons: to get far enough away from our everyday lives to see those lives with new clarity. When you’re literally on the other side of the world, when you’re under the silent sea, watching a bright, silent world of fish and coral, when you’re staring up at a sky so bright and dense with stars it makes you gasp, it’s in those moments that you begin to see the fullness of your life, the possibility that still prevails, that always prevails.””

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We all have that one person who we don’t talk to anymore but we have nothing but good memories of a crazy night with, where we, like, got drunk on 4loko and took the crew teams boat out on the lake behind a Luke Bryan concert, for example. And anyway, I think those few people that you have one insanely good memory with are more important than some of the people you have years of mediocre memories with. So basically, I’m begging you to go make some mistakes.

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“Maybe we feel empty because we leave pieces of ourselves in everything we used to love.”

- R.M Drake

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The most painful goodbyes are the ones that are never said or never explained.

- unknown

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Loving you was like going to war; I never came back the same.

- Warson Shire

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😍

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It’s not a big deal anymore, you left - I got over it. I was so angry at you, and then I just wasn’t, because all that anger wasn’t going to bring you back. It wasn’t going to make me feel any better either, so I put you far out of my mind and found a way to be happy without you. I let you go, I moved on, I don’t need an apology from you; it doesn’t matter to me anymore - you don’t matter to me anymore.

- unknown

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“When you’re twenty-one, life is a roadmap. It’s only when you get to be twenty-five or so that you begin to suspect you’ve been looking at the map upside down, and not until you’re forty are you entirely sure. By the time you’re sixty, take it from me, you’re…lost.”

— Stephen King

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There’s nothing you can’t fix with a strong drink, a good friend, or the right song.

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Favorite study images ✨💞 *none of these are mine. Credits belong to rightful owners.