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i love abortion and i love divorce

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Dealing With Executive Dysfunction - A Masterpost

The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method.

The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method.

The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method.

The “get stuff done while you wait” method.

The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method.

The “break the task into smaller steps” method.

The “treat yourself like a pet” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method.

The “put on a persona” method.

The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method.

The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method.

The “wait for a trigger” method.

The “do it for your future self” method.

The “might as well” method.

The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method.

The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method.

The “make it easy” method.

The “junebugging” method.

The “just show up” method.

The “accept when you need help” method.

The “make it into a game” method.

The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method.

The “trick yourself” method.

The “break it into even smaller steps” method.

The “let go of should” method.

The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method.

The “fork theory” method.

The “effectivity over aesthetics” method.

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Reblog if you're queer, have ADHD, or hate the government.

Nobody needs to know which one.

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I'm so, so sorry all of that happened to you. I understand that this entire situation makes you feel very on edge and what you were sent must've been horribly triggering.

The fact that people would honest to god claim that you're abusive because of what you ship is atrocious and it just shows how detached some people are from reality...

I think that everyone who frequents fandom spaces was toxic to others at some point. What matters then is that you realize that what you did was wrong and try to make amends.

As far as this conversation goes I'm glad I had it with you - I think we're more on the same page than I thought at first haha,,

I truly don't think that you're a bad person, and I hope that your situation improves quickly and you find some time to rest - maybe once some of that caffeine wears off;)

If y'all knew there was a chance Rin was the mother, and y'all KNEW that fact would (understandably!!) upset or even trigger you if it was true...

Why did y'all still watch Yashahime from the get go, instead of waiting for the reveal?

Please learn to take care of your own mental health and stop expecting others to do it for you. Yashahime isn't the first piece of media to contain things like this, and it sure as hell won't be the last. Hell, if you need an example, just go read Flowers in the Attic. I promise you, that's much, much worse. Don't actually do that if you can't handle depictions of child abuse, underage sex, incestul relationships, and child death.

And for fuck's sake, STOP TELLING PEOPLE TO DIE AND HARASSING THE CREATORS FOR THIS. It's a fucking ANIME. None of it's real, and some things are bound to upset people. Life goes the fuck on!

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I've looked at the tags, and yes, I have blocked a fair amount of people on both sides, so I may not know the full scale of things.

You made a straw man argument because in your response to (what I can only assume to be) me, you stated refuting points I hadn't made, seemingly grouping me in with a more toxic side of the fandom.

If y'all knew there was a chance Rin was the mother, and y'all KNEW that fact would (understandably!!) upset or even trigger you if it was true...

Why did y'all still watch Yashahime from the get go, instead of waiting for the reveal?

Please learn to take care of your own mental health and stop expecting others to do it for you. Yashahime isn't the first piece of media to contain things like this, and it sure as hell won't be the last. Hell, if you need an example, just go read Flowers in the Attic. I promise you, that's much, much worse. Don't actually do that if you can't handle depictions of child abuse, underage sex, incestul relationships, and child death.

And for fuck's sake, STOP TELLING PEOPLE TO DIE AND HARASSING THE CREATORS FOR THIS. It's a fucking ANIME. None of it's real, and some things are bound to upset people. Life goes the fuck on!

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I never said that people should stop their coping mechanisms??? In fact, I'm explicitly against it. My main point is the fiction vs. reality thing when it comes to kids.

I honestly couldn't care less about what Sessriners get up to in their spare time. They're allowed to like what they like, just like me. As long as noone gets hurt, I don't care.

I've never called any shipper a "pedo" or a "pedo apologist". In fact, that falls under the behaviour I tried to distance myself from at the very beginning of my post. Hell, this is the first post I've ever even made about the situation!

Please stop with the strawman arguments.

If y'all knew there was a chance Rin was the mother, and y'all KNEW that fact would (understandably!!) upset or even trigger you if it was true...

Why did y'all still watch Yashahime from the get go, instead of waiting for the reveal?

Please learn to take care of your own mental health and stop expecting others to do it for you. Yashahime isn't the first piece of media to contain things like this, and it sure as hell won't be the last. Hell, if you need an example, just go read Flowers in the Attic. I promise you, that's much, much worse. Don't actually do that if you can't handle depictions of child abuse, underage sex, incestul relationships, and child death.

And for fuck's sake, STOP TELLING PEOPLE TO DIE AND HARASSING THE CREATORS FOR THIS. It's a fucking ANIME. None of it's real, and some things are bound to upset people. Life goes the fuck on!

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First of all, I'd like to agree with you that people harassing others for the ships they like fucking sucks and that I in no way condone behaviour like that. Both sides are doing it. Both sides need to stop.

But I think you're being a bit reductive if you think we're mad just because the show negatively affected our mental health. Yes, people should put themselves first more often and take breaks/ avoid topics when they need to, but they shouldn't just be expected to turn the other cheek when they see something upsetting.

I am by no means Anti-Ship. I've got my own fair share of trauma that I deal with through fiction. It's a coping mechanism for many and I acknowledge that. But these things still need to be handled carefully. I wouldn't dream of showing any of the stuff I do to cope to children. And I think that's the root of the problem. Not that people ship Sessrin privately, but that it's being broadcast to kids, who might actually think it's a normal relationship.

I don't think that fiction affects reality a whole lot, but that's different for kids. Adults know that what they're looking at is just a show; it's not conveying any sort of morality to them because they have already formed one of their own. Children are at a much earlier state of (mental) development, so it's still difficult for them to distinguish between reality and fiction.

Also: Flowers in the Attic was published in 1979, and -again- is not read by children. Just because there is something worse out there doesn't mean we have to settle for the lesser evil.

If y'all knew there was a chance Rin was the mother, and y'all KNEW that fact would (understandably!!) upset or even trigger you if it was true...

Why did y'all still watch Yashahime from the get go, instead of waiting for the reveal?

Please learn to take care of your own mental health and stop expecting others to do it for you. Yashahime isn't the first piece of media to contain things like this, and it sure as hell won't be the last. Hell, if you need an example, just go read Flowers in the Attic. I promise you, that's much, much worse. Don't actually do that if you can't handle depictions of child abuse, underage sex, incestul relationships, and child death.

And for fuck's sake, STOP TELLING PEOPLE TO DIE AND HARASSING THE CREATORS FOR THIS. It's a fucking ANIME. None of it's real, and some things are bound to upset people. Life goes the fuck on!

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“I always thought that loneliness was this kind of sickness that I needed to destroy in order for me to be happy. But then I felt that without this loneliness, I wouldn’t be able to understand what makes me feel better when I am alone. So then I decided to be alone. I said good morning to myself alone. I ate alone. I read books about how people who were alone managed to find redemption by being alone. I showered alone, went for a skate on the afternoons alone, and sang sweet songs to my sadness when I realized that being gentle with myself when I am alone is enough to make a garden of self-worth in my mind regardless of being alone until one day I felt like I wasn’t despite still being alone. I saw music in the way the birds sang on top of glowing streetlamps when the darkness came, and I heard poetry in the way I saw the countless people in the streets walking alone, stargazing alone, and simply taking in the night air alone, and so I wasn’t really alone. I am a part of this great club where poets are born, nature lovers are born, flower childs are born, and the funny thing is we’ll be dying in the good company of ourselves alone. Loneliness is a sign that we’re in need of a search for something that will make us happily whole.”

— Juansen Dizon

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YOU did that yourself. You deserve the credit for your growth, strength, and resilience. Not your trauma.

Source: healingfromptsd

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having love and softness in your heart is never something to be ashamed of. giving and receiving kindness is what we are here for.

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“I am my best days. I am who I am when I am smiling at the sun.”

— Juansen Dizon

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you didn't need to go through all of that bullying and harassment and abuse to become a good person. it wasn't your trauma that made you stronger. it was you.

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This is seriously just so good!! I havent seen something that's made me feel so understood in a long time, thank you! :)

”How do you forgive a person when they will never be sorry? How do you keep them in your life and still feel free?”

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this is your reminder not to accept crumbles of affection. if someone isn't willing to give you time, safety, love and comfort, do not beg for it. do not shrink your needs to make them stay. let them go! there are people out there who will freely and enthusiastically want you for you.

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making mistakes doesn’t make you a bad person. it just makes you a person who made mistakes. contrary to popular belief mistakes are vital for personal growth and when you admit to them and hold yourself accountable you are helping yourself become a better person not just for yourself, but also for the people around you. don’t look at your mistakes like failures, look at them as lessons and recognise what you need to learn from them. care for your mistakes the same as you care for your success.

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there will come a time, every now and then, when you will encounter people who will not stop stepping on you with their big ego and malicious intentions. no matter how much kindness and respect you exude. i want you to remember that their actions speak only of their own character.. never yours. whatever they might say or do will forever and always be a projection of their own reflection in the mirror.. not yours. people will treat you how you allow them to, so do yourself a favour: recognise disrespect when you see it and walk away.

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this is a callout post @ the person reading this. yes, how dare you be so cute? so lovely? so wonderful? i can't deal!!!!!!