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You do not need to (and should not) give your 100% all the time. That's just how you burn out! Often your best is your 50%, your 20%, your 10%, and that's okay. It's okay to do a shitty job at things if that keeps YOU going.

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You do not need to give your all. If you always give your 100% then you will crash. It is okay to rest, to have days you give less effort, and to have days when you struggle. You are always doing your best.

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hey. maybe today you didn’t feel successful or that you have accomplished anything. but you made it through the day. you tried. that is enough, so don’t deny yourself food, or rest, or comfort, or joy. you’re enough.

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One thing that has made me a much more well-adjusted person is a clip I once saw of Hank Green saying that anyone can be in amazing shape as long as being in amazing shape is one of their top three priorities.

(This is obviously a generalization that isn't true for everyone. But it is true for most people and I'm proceeding from there.)

This "top three priorities" framing has genuinely reduced my tendency toward jealousy and self-comparison a lot. Now when I feel envious of someone’s spotless, aesthetic home, I think to myself, “Having a spotless, aesthetic home is probably one of their top three priorities. It’s definitely not one of mine, so I shouldn’t expect my home to look like that.”

Or when I see an influencer with a body that takes a ton of work to maintain: “Maintaining that body is obviously one of her top three priorities, because it’s her livelihood. My livelihood is my brain, so I’m never going to prioritize my body like that.”

It also helps me to identify areas that I actually DO want to prioritize more. I realized in recent years that my envy for my friends who prioritized writing more than I did was NOT going away, so I started to prioritize writing more. (Not top three, but higher priority than it has been in the past.)

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you can already be proud of yourself. you don’t need to achieve anything, look a certain way or become this person you have in mind to be proud of who you are. your existence is already something to be proud of

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things to do when your day's been bad

lie down on the floor beside your bed

take a shower, use the good soap

listen to a song you liked ages ago

write your thoughts out in all caps

draw a head and then 'decorate' that head however you're feeling (I drew a man with a hole for a face. It worked)

listen to a song and try to focus on one (1) instrument at a time, baseline, drums, guitar, another guitar, repeating sound effect

wash your face

take a nap or go to bed early

call someone. tell them about your horrible day or let them talk about theirs or both

go through your camera roll (specifically the screenshots folder)

go through your saved instagram posts / tumblr likes

watch That One Really Great Live Performance of That Artist You Love, then read the comments of everyone having great taste like you do

cry a little about it

remember that this day will end and another will begin. it'll be all new, never experienced before, no bad things will have happened, and you'll be okay.

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oh ok

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It’s crazy and fucked up that being yourself is actually the solution.

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it’s okay to be a little loud. or a little quiet. or extroverted. or shy. it’s okay if you don’t fit in and feel like you never will. i know how hard you’re trying to please everyone and be there for everyone, but you don’t have to try so hard all the time. you can let go and be you. i like you.

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the very first step of getting over your fears is to have them. just like the first step to getting better is being worse than you wish you were, and the first step to becoming who you want to be is being who you are. don’t let your shame back you into a corner. you can only grow from here.

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“Never define yourself by your relationship status, your income, or your looks. It’s your generosity, kindness, and compassion that counts.”

— Unknown

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“Rules for Happiness: something to do, someone to love, something to hope for.”

— Immanuel Kant

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Wang Yibo WTF

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The Untamed [behind the scene] | You just can’t win against Yibo

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The Untamed | EP11

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The Untamed | He’s beauty, he’s grace