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INTROSPECTION

Definition: the examination or observation of ones own mental and emotional processes; quiet introspection can be extremely valuable. I discovered this word & it's meaning a few months ago & I tell you, it's the best thing I've ever learned to do. Not only did I learn how to do it, I applied it. I always give myself time to be with myself. To sit in my feelings an emotions. To try to understand where the root of everything is. It's so amazing, introspection. It really allows you to dig deep and become more aware of your mental and emotional self. You should try it!

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Only a few pages in, & I can tell I’m about to be blessed….just look at this prayer!! #secretsofanIRRESISTABLEwoman #michellemckinneyhammond #selfhelp #christianbooks #love #relationships #change #prayer #progressive #evolve #learn

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Women and Relationships

A mini twitter rant was sparked by a conversation that I had with one of my best friends, who is a man. We were talking mostly about our present situations & it really got me thinking. So I headed to twitter & vented away about my view on how women view relationships & how my PoV on relationships have changed.

  “I remember when my main focus in life was to get married and have kids. Now my main focus is to love myself & be happy.”

“A lot of women are miserable & ruin perfectly good relationships with potential because they’re so worried about sealing the deal & marrying.”

“They settle and rush the building process in a relationship for the sake of a title, for the sake of having a husband.”

“& most people in relationships now are so selfish and focus only on what they can get out of it rather than what they can contribute.”

“I can say all these things because I was that woman.”

Women often want to change how a man is to fit their distorted ideas of a relationship. & it’s totally not acceptable.”

“Everyone wants to be in a relationship, but no one wants to put in the work to maintain & build a relationship.”

“Relationships are not for the weak & faint of heart.”

“I knew I was ready for a relationship when I knew I had much love to give & I was strong enough to build with someone else.”

  I feel like women now-a-days get so caught up in just having a man and the title that they forget about the part that they are in a relationship, a partnership. They get so focused on what their partner is NOT doing rather than appreciating them for what they are doing. You cannot knock someone for giving his or her best, even if it doesn’t match up to what you want. If someone is only able to give 50% & that’s their personal best at that given time, then do not get mad at them for not giving 100. They don’t have it in their account to give in the first place.

Also women especially place their lives & happiness in others when in fact they should be working on themselves and work towards loving themselves instead of looking for it in the form of an outsider. Women get mad at men when they don’t love them the way they want to be loved, but in all actuality, they don’t know how they really want to be loved because they do not even know how to love themselves.

Now I’m not saying that men do not do this, but women are often the ones so caught up in the future & where the relationship is going that they forget to love & appreciate the now. (I am not saying to never think about the future, but don’t stay focused on when he’s going to ask you to marry him after 6 months of dating & get mad at him for not proposing after a year.)

All of this comes from personal experience and lessons or the experience of someone near and dear to me. My advice is to take the time to love yourself, then take the time to lay the prober foundations in your relationship & build with that person. Then learn how to truly appreciate the person you entered into a relationship with.