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transage questionnaire

hello all transage peeps, beings, and creatures! I have created a little google form to collect more information about transage people and the transage experience! I would greatly appreciate if you filled it out! I hope it’s not too long! :D

I am transage myself! anyone who is transage can do this survey because it is literally specifically for the purpose of collecting info.

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"I want to be a dragon."

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evolution dysphoria

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Anna Haifisch

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i think all of my TrisIDs for similar reasons. Trisdyslexic, Trisintersex, and Trisprogrammed are due to the fact i relate to them but am generally unsure if i am. Trisdisabled and Trisculture (mexican) are due to the fact that i relate but feel like im not involved or feel it enough to consider myself cis. Honestly I perfer to explain the feeling than use the label, and that goes for all my IDs.

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I am transspecies because I feel so out of place on this earth. I want to look in the mirror and see a troll, not a human. I want to see me, not my vessel.

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Im aracial because ive never felt connected to a race ever. Any time i felt like i was getting "special treatment" because of my "race" during school i felt like i wanted to crawl out of my skin

I get genuinely dysphoric showing pictures of myself anywhere because of preconceived racial notions based on my skin color.

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Technically, I count as ageless and aracial, because I do not feel any strong connection to any particular age or race. But I do not use those labels, because they are just me. Sometimes, it just be like that.

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im trisindigenous / transLakota because when i was younger my mom told me our family was half indigenous and i hyperfixated on that, telling everyone of my heritage and being really proud of myself. but she never specified what tribe we are from, either she didn't care or felt like it wasn't important.

until a few years later i took a DNA test to realize im not actually indigenous. i was heartbroken, my mom lied to me about my heritage, i felt like a piece of me had been ripped out and crumbled up and then thrown in the trash

but despite that i still felt like my family is indigenous, i still feel indigenous. i still told people im half indigenous despite that because i'm used to being known as half indigenous, being told otherwise made me feel weird and like i didn't know myself.

telling others im half indigenous made me feel better about myself and, yes, there was some guilt about "lying about being indigenous" but it made me feel like myself again. i now proudly hold myself up as a indigenous Lakota and whoever tells me otherwise is wrong

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im transrace because i felt like my abusers raised me better as dads than my parents did, and i just wish i was genuinely their bio kid

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Cisableds and cisdisableds BOTH be damned if what Briarlight (one of our Warrior Cats Xives) isn't real. It fucking was, even if it's not something that happened to this braimbody specifically.

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When I was 11 years old I read Percy Jackson and since I met Nico di Angelo I was totally obsessed, I didn't know if I wanted him or wanted to BE him, and after years I discovered that I really wanted to be him, and tbh one of the things that gives me the most dysphoria is my appearance, because even though I like my color, my curly hair, etc. I know that people relate Nico Di Angelo to the stereotype of a white emo with straight hair

besides being transcharacter I am also transitalian, transpowers, dianorexic, transtrauma, transdarkcircles, transblackeyes, transblackhair, transdemigod...

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I'm Brazilian, I identify as transrace because the racial interpretation in this country is VERY confusing, and although I grew up being called by nicknames related to being black/brown, lately my skin has become lighter due to x factors and I see a lot of people calling me white (especially on the internet) and sometimes this makes me feel like I'm invading POCs space-

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pure form - 2023

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i'm diarace because i'm white passing and was not taught my culture. i feel like i failed being indigenous. i feel guilty accepting teachings from locals. i feel so fake.

i'm diarace because other kids would point at my skin and tell me im too light to be indigenous, planting hesitance around the desire to engage with my culture more. i wish i did

I don't usually reply to these, but this is exactly why I'm trace as well. I grew up not knowing my language or my culture, and I didn't even get the opportunity until I was eighteen.

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i'm diarace because i'm white passing and was not taught my culture. i feel like i failed being indigenous. i feel guilty accepting teachings from locals. i feel so fake.

i'm diarace because other kids would point at my skin and tell me im too light to be indigenous, planting hesitance around the desire to engage with my culture more. i wish i did

I don't usually reply to these, but this is exactly why I'm trace as well. I grew up not knowing my language or my culture, and I didn't even get the opportunity until I was eighteen.

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Content warning for implied suicide and (fake) animal death.

Those who are anti transID often tell us not to compare our dysphoria to gender dysphoria, because that feels like appropriation to them. Disregarding the fact that dysphoria is very much not a concept that belongs solely to transgender people, and the fact that many of us who identify as transID are also transgender ourselves, fine.

Here's the best analogy I could find to transID dysphoria: this short film about a flightless bird that wants so badly to fly that it would kill itself in the pursuit of something that feels even a little bit like truly flying.

I don't know how to convey using words the deep feelings of distress and heartache that many of us feel at not being a certain way by birth. For a significant amount of us, it is not about wishing we had a more trendy, more aesthetically pleasing self. It's true that some of us pick transIDs for fun, and those people are also valid in my eyes, but a lot of us are in this community because we are excruciatingly unhappy about the circumstances of our birth. Yes, even to the point of being suicidal.

And I understand the apprehension that our detractors are feeling in some cases. I can see how it might be upsetting to hear that someone wants so desperately to have been born into the same marginalized identity as them, how that oftentimes is the red flag of fetishization and appropriation, but I can almost guarantee that a transID person will have spent nearly their entire life researching the minutiae of their target identity. That includes, of course, the lived experiences of people born into our target identities. We oftentimes are completely aware of where the line is between appreciation and appropriation, and nine times out of ten the last thing we ever want is to make anyone uncomfortable. But we also have this festering, agonizing need to be something we weren't born as. And that's precisely why the transID community exists.

I also understand the discomfort around transIDs like "transstalker" and "transmurderer." In the majority of cases I've seen, these transIDs are more about connecting to a headmate's source, feeling closer to a past life, coping with intrusive thoughts, or otherwise don't apply to any real actions the person is planning. Trust me when I say that there are a fair number of these transIDs that make me uncomfortable as well, but just about every transharmful person I've encountered has never wanted to actually harm others in reality. Or, if they did want to harm others, having a transID label helped them not to hurt anyone and made them feel like less of a monster.

I will never be able to explain why I have dysphoria about my race, the same way that I'll probably never be able to explain why I'm dysphoric about my gender, but I can at least try to explain how it feels.

This short film is very relatable.