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Dark Feminine Tips ♠️- Allow yourself to be seen, heard and valued without shame.

Shame and embarrassment is a choice that can be reversed by changing your mindset. Rather than feeling ashamed for having needs and taking up space, tell yourself that you are more than deserving of the greatest things and experiences in life.

There’s certain people in life who attract anything they want because they believe they are deserving of it. They hold no shame when it comes to attaining their desires. So If someone else can have it, why can’t you too?

Be who you desire to be. Do what you love. Assert your needs. And always express yourself fearlessly.

— H.S.

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Toughen up. Yeah, I said it. It's time you stop expecting the world around you to bend to your feelings. The harsh reality is that other people don't care about you and only you are responsible for your well-being. Stop taking what others say personally and stop placing so much value on the opinions of nobodies. So what if they don't like you? Do they even like themselves? Do YOU like them?.

Once you've mastered the art of detachment from the perception of others and lower your expectations of people who haven't made any pledge of commitment towards you, it will become easier to develop a thicker skin, to become more laser-focused on you and your own well-being, and to disregard that and those who do you no good.

In a world of snowflakes, be a diamond, which never breaks or bends under pressure.

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Learn to Say Less Than Needed.

The less you speak, and the more conviction, authority, and calculation your words have when you do increases the value of what you have to say and your outer persona. The more you speak, the less your words are valued and the more you make yourself vulnerable to others.

This is something I'm practicing. Every thought that comes across our heads is not supposed to be vocalized. We should be curating what we say carefully and be strategic with our words. The power of life and death lies on the tongue, and a well-trained and sharp tongue can be a powerful weapon when utilized correctly.

From now on, every time I feel like oversharing, giving an opinion on a controversial subject, or about someone directly, I assess the situation and how my speaking my thoughts can affect my proximity to whatever I'm trying to achieve. It's all about being strategic.

Unfortunately, it's easy to give up to reckless speaking when everyone else seems to be doing just that - especially on social media. It's good to take a deep breath before doing the same thing as others, after all, more often than not we are not trying to emulate the ways of the common folk.

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Traits I’ve Noticed in Confident People 

Disciplined - if a target is set, it is achieved 

Speaking - Can speak multiple languages. Can express thoughts clearly even if vocabulary is limited. The listener understands their point. 

Strong extroversion socially - can approach and talk to new people with ease, but also make them feel comfortable. Good at following up, asking questions and inserting little stories about themselves without exposing too much 

Strong general knowledge / industry knowledge. They know what they’re talking about 

Hard to please but not arrogant about it. They won’t readily accept a fact or opinion, even if the majority agrees - they’ll debate with it, think over it, play the devil’s advocate

Good posture

Strong set of principles and self control. There’s no shame in wanting to say, help someone, choose not to drink socially, buy a coffee for a poor person on the street; they don’t hesitate to do good deeds 

Hygienic. Clean, groomed, well dressed, well maintained. 

Observant and proactive at the same time. Can pick up on body language relatively easily - can sense discomfort or unease in someone and do something about it. 

Have a strong sense of self identity. Can be opinionated but open to challenges. 

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As I've continued to heal I've learned a few things:

Regardless of my circumstances, I'm never alone. I have a supernatural, heavenly protection that no other force can take away from me.

I'm learning to make peace with the trauma my body has accumulated, allowing myself to feel what it needs to feel without feeling the need to control it, but also getting enough rest to restore my nervous system. I'm being compassionate and patient with her.

I'm learning to look forward to new things. I'm allowing God to put new ideas, goals, and aspirations in my mind and my heart, knowing that the best is yet to come.

I'm practicing detachment. Detachment from my past, from people and places, detachment from expecting things from others, from anything that hasn't proven itself as unconditional in my life.

I'm blocking and unfollowing accordingly and unapologetically. If the content I'm seeing doesn't resonate with me, I don't have to engage with it or view it. I don't owe anyone an explanation for my views and my digital boundaries.

I'm taking people as they come. I don't create ideas about them in my mind. I see them for who they show themselves as.

I feel this heavily. It will take time, but I will recover.

Follow on Threads.

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Girl, at this point its embarrassing, get out of your way. Just, slide right off your own path, right? The self sabotage is getting embarrassing.

It has to be at least embarrassing to you having the same goals for five years. Cmon. How can you not be tired of your own crap? How long have you been on this self improvement journey? How much have you actually improved? How many times have you promised yourself this time you will? Isn't it embarrassing how many 'fresh start' s you've had? How can you look at yourself in the mirror though? It's gotta be embarrassing by now. It has to be at that point you can't stand yourself- are you really that shameless? No sense of responsibility? Damn okay we can use mine- I'm so embarrassed of and for you. Lowkey if someone asked me if I know you I'd deny you so fast it would give Judas a whiplash, I kid you not.

Doesnt it hurt you to have that much potential and not use it? It doesn't make you feel sick,knowing how much you're capable of an not doing it? You're really just out here trading your life for ten seconds videos and weird food and fake lives and celeb drama and pretty boys? Really. You're letting people live their dreams by stealing your life through a screen. Come on it has to be embarrassing at some point. It has to be. The girls you went to high school with if they saw you today lol. Your ex thinking he'll yeah man I dodged a bullet. You're telling me you don't feel guilty eating and sleeping knowing you didn't earn it? Another day giving 7 hours to kpop boys and girls and Kylie Jenner and movies and whatever , 7 hours when you could've just idk. Learned a new skill. 7 hours, sis. Are you not disgusted by yourself? Just casually scrolling eating looking like a hobo on steroids garbage in garbage out just another day another slay as a social justice warrior on Facebook saving the world through the power of your words while your world sinks.

I am. I am disgusted by you. It's embarrassing to me that we share Anatomy and gender and exist in the same time space reality. I'm sending this overwhelming embarrassment your way may it trigger your senses back. What are you doing, sis? No really, wyd? What is this behavior? What is this?

Please, get the fuck out of your own way.

BMAC

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I'm not interested in romanticizing trauma. Trauma didn't make me a stronger person and the damage others caused should never be seen through rose-colored glasses because of the person I turned out to be.

Trauma affected my perception of self and hindered me in many ways, but it was resilience and a stronger need to overcome the circumstances that allowed me to flourish in the end.

Abuse should never be justified, it never brings anything positive. Resilience and an unwavering commitment to self are the key aspects of my growth.

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I feel this heavily. It will take time, but I will recover.

Follow on Threads.

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There is a crisis of masculinity and effemination of men in the West that needs to be talked about.

This is not a red pill post or endorsement of that toxic ideology, as I believe the lack of focus on that subject has given bad actors the space they needed to take over those topics to push their own misogynistic agendas. Instead, I want to touch upon this perspective from a more holistic approach: I believe the way of life and the current state of the Western world is helping to create a generation of men who are timid, weak, who can't control their emotions or used their own strengths in a healthy manner to be propelled forward. That, in turn, is affecting us Gen Z women because it means the pool of suitable mates is extremely scarce, which is why so many women are choosing to be single than with bad company.

Nowhere is this more evident than the place I live in, Canada. I've seen how over the past 8 years men here have gone from being outgoing, to being reserved and to begin to show feelings of envy towards women and the feminine. We see this in their newfound sassy ways, their need to "humble" very beautiful women instead of feeling proud to be with one, their unwillingness to provide and take charge in certain situations, their constant need for validation from other men (even at the expense of the appreciation from women, see the "simp" culture), and their constant need to compete with women and not other men.

Western men desperately need healthy masculine roles that they can learn from, because when there is that vacuum, it is filled by people who exploit the issue. Women will always have each other and generally stronger communities to fall on, and we are rightfully reaching a place where we don't need men to survive. Men stepping out of this bizarre effeminate phase will be crucial if they want to settle down with a good woman and live a life of meaning. If they refuse to do so and choose to double down in their baddie energy, don't be surprised when the "male loneliness epidemic" intensifies and they end up reaching their middle-aged even more alone and unfulfilled.

It's not a woman's job to fix a man. Still, we would certainly appreciate it for the well-being of our interpersonal relationships if they could improve and tap into a healthy, masculine role.

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What do I bring to the table? I bring my presence, my time, and my devotion. I have nothing else to prove and nobody to impress.

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She's 1000% right. I'm sick and tired of this crystal generation needing the world to bend over to appeal to them. Can we please stop celebrating mediocrity? Brands purposely degrading themselves to not be lynched by the mob are doing a huge disservice not just to themselves, but to society. When we look at people whom we admire, we admire them because we know that they are out of the ordinary and it generates in us a sense of inspiration and awe. That's why it's righteous for people like Candice Swanepoel or Adriana Lima to be regarded in the way they are and not Sally from the house down the block. Not everyone is destined to walk down a runway show, not everyone is destined to attend the MET gala, and not everyone is supposed to be the face of couture brands and coveted magazine covers, and that's OK. If you feel threatened by other people, look the other way, nobody is forcing you to support brands that don't align with you. You can simply ignore.

In life we all have two options, we either level up to reach the standard that we admire, or we simply appreciate others and move along with our lives focusing on the things that give us joy without the burden to reach standards that may seem unattainable. What we don't get to do is force our own sense of mediocrity and entitlement onto others to change the world around us to make us feel "seen" in every single space. Inclusivity when it's forced becomes cheap.

Let's please make 2024 the year of unapologetic glamour, elegance, opulence, and exclusivity again. We shouldn't have to ask for permission to stand out or seek to live the life we so deeply desire.

Credits: yourstylistgab

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I'm so glad for women like the one in this video finally speaking out against the trap of "sprinkle sprinkle" and "soft trad-wife life".

Women like myself have been vilified so much on social media for speaking out against the new trend of "hypergamy" that aims to glamorize patriarchal gender roles and reinforce the subordination of women under the guise of an "easy life". We are often told that we are masculine, undesirable, and overworked because we take pride in our independence, strong sense of self, and agency, and we take up space for ourselves instead of shrinking to appease others, especially men.

Those attempts at shaming us have always seemed funny to me because they highlight how misguided the girls and women who choose to buy into the idea that you can live a life of luxury and ease by depending on someone else, without realizing that the payoff for it is often times harder than what it takes to be educated, accomplished, and to make a name for yourself with your own efforts.

It doesn't matter if it comes from a chronically online leftist who hates "girl boss feminism", or a conservative who is looking to impose archaic gender roles on society. These women will sooner or later learn that being dependent on another adult is a recipe for disaster, and they will have nobody else but themselves to blame for it.

If you are reading this and are considering living a domestic life because you think it will be easier than to make your own money and attain an education, I implore you to think twice. You don't want to look back 20 years from now and regret having wasted your youth by putting yourself at the mercy of a man.

Credits: lifetaketwo

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When it comes to your goals, you need to keep them private for a multitude of reasons, but one that is often overlooked is that people will place their own limiting beliefs, either about themselves or about how they perceive you, into you, thus influencing you in negative ways and keeping your from reaching as high as you know you can.

With all the online talk about being "delusional", one of the most successful ways to use delusion to your advantage is to set "unrealistic" goals, having a deep roster belief in knowing that not only can you achieve them, but that is a more of when and not if.

So don't tell people - even if they seem authoritative in the field - about your ambitious goals. Make yourself prepared, and engineer your own success by consistently taking action and manifesting that which you want through knowing that achieving it is the only option available.

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Be Comfortable With Being the Villain

In my country we have a saying: "I am not a golden coin to be liked by everyone". It doesn't matter how "nice", correct, and appeasing we may behave with others, there will always be those who will dislike us for no apparent reason. Learning to not only be ok with them disliking you, but going as far as to embracing it can propel you forward.

Many people will dislike you because you trigger something in them that makes them feel threatened, less-than, or jealous. That is a them problem. If those same people proceed to lie about you and attack you to try to take you down, you need to be prepared to be ok with being perceived in a negative light by them and the people who choose to believe them. At the end of the day their talking is just that, and it cannot affect you if you choose to rise above it.

Learning to embrace being hated means that you can stop trying to seem agreeable and nice to everyone and instead pursue respect. Someone doesn't have to like you to still respect you. Respect and status will allow you to rub shoulders with people who can improve your life in meaningful ways, and place you in spaces where you can flourish.

Being liked is overrated and at times useless. Instead, be a woman of influence, power, and good character. When your brand speaks for yourself, the naysayers become powerless and desperate, and others will be able to see right through their lies.

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Learn the Art of Being Unbothered

We've all been there, a person dislikes us and decides to try to make our life hell by constantly provoking us looking for a response and a scalation to make us lower ourselves to their level.

Choosing to ignore these kinds of people and being selective in how we utilize our energy and focus is a crucial skill to develop as one becomes more successful, popular, and elevated. The truth is that this world is filled with miserable people who want nothing more than to bring others who are doing better down so they can feel better about themselves. It's up to us to not give them that satisfaction.

When someone attacks you, you must assess the situation and realize if retaliation is something the attacker is worthy of. If the attacker is of lower status, intelligence, or success, and is lashing out at you with unfounded accusations, the best course of action is to ignore their entire existence. This will help to starve them of the attention they crave, minimize exposure to them and their lies, and make them go over the edge.

Retaliation is something that needs to be carefully planned and assessed. It should be saved for people who have the means to do active harm to you. It's not something to take lightly. Nobodies trying to get a reaction out of you do not deserve the time of day, more often than not, they will end up making a fool out of themselves without you having to lift up a finger. Remember that and stay classy.