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[ibitemydog]

Wild Salmon.

Or salmo salar, their scientific name. Always try to swim upstream of the most aggressive rivers, never acknowledge their fatigueness. Choosing the wind and the wave to be their home. Living life on adventures, years after years, and never care when they bite the dust.

Why don´t they feel sorry for their own fate of choosing the toughest paths, or take a rest?

At least human can rest after being burnt out, can´t they? And no one cares if you choose the easy path for yourself.

Again, only dead fishes go with the flow.

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Long story short. My cousin got divorced.

Paper are done, stamped and archived in front of the City Course. That small paper officially put an end to a 6 year long marriage.

I got called in to watch her kid when they are busy doing that my and her Mom were with her for emotional support. The marriage was not particularly ugly. No one cheated. Both parties ended up in good term. They just fell out of love, simply just that. Otherwise, I could not come up with any other theory for why this marriage must come to its end that moment.

And as I wrote this today, I am with my grandpas and my little nephew, a year later, opening old photo albums, looking through some old photos, which many of them were old wedding photos. Also many belong to them.

They all looked happy in the photos. They looked...in love. I remember that day. How both parents cried in happiness, the smell of champagne, fireworks, her looking like a princess in a chiffon white dress,... Then the photos of their first house, first car together, then came my nephew (who I loved so much),.... All the milestones they had together. Also they overcame a fairshare of struggles together. At some point, I though of them as forever. But here we are.

It just hit me hard because something this beautiful eventually came to an end. And how drastic the night changes. They both moved on, find new people and new interested, started another journey on their lives.

¨We changed. He is no longer the person I knew when we got married. You will understand when you are an adult.¨

That was the explanation she gave me.

I was fully in my flash back until my nephew asked grandma why his parents are no longer together and do they love each others.

Grandma was caught of guard. She stuttered a bit. How to explain this to a 7 year old.

I sighed and forced a smile. ¨I don´t know. But the important thing is they love you, isn´t it?¨

He still looked confused, but nodded.

Well, he will understand when he is an adult.

[ibitemydog]

To me, and only me, the days I loose my head. Survival tips, highly personalified.

1. Take care of your own posture. Relax your shoulder, sit straight up, do not walk with your face down.

2. Avoid being too absorbed in your thoughts.

3. Do not frown. Even if you cannot pretend to be happy, you do not frown.

4. A bit of kindness goes a long way. You never know what others are going through.

5. Stop.Vizualizing.Worst.Outcomes.Possible.

6. If you have trouble understanding something deeply, get back to the basic principles.

7. Don´t try to control external factors. You simply cannot, and it only makes your life harder. Instead control your own self. The mind is everything. What you think you become. Therefore, practice mindfulness.

8. You have to return favours to the society. Practice gratitude.

9. Don´t hate, get angry or anything at people. Each one is correct in their own opinions.

10. Cultivate, embrace, try to find peace within yourself and make peace with yourself. So that you can make peace with others more easily.

“We have to learn to live our life as a human being deeply. We need to live each breath deeply so that we have peace, joy and freedom as we breathe.”

Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today.”

Thích Nhất Hạnh.

11. Do not procastinate or fool yourself into thinking that you have more time later. You don´t. You are just being a jerk to your future self.

12. Last but not least, stop mistreating yourself. It will not end up anywhere. Listen to your body, do not waste food, but no need to over eat either. Do not skip more gym session, do not forget sunscreen or sunglasses unless you want to burn your corneas out. Try to maintain a good sleep hygiene, and consume everything in moderation.

Wish you all the luck.

11-12-2020.

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#FriendlyNoteToSelf

"To really understand a thing you've got to reduce it to its principle"

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#FriendlyNoteToSelf

"Procastination=Self Destruction"

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#FriendlyNoteToSelf

"As long as you will not be dead or 'damaged beyond recovery', just give your best in everything.

Don't let the weakness get to you. All the pain and frustruation you feel is only the weakness leaving your soul.

Caving in is NOT an option.

It gets worse before it gets better. Sometimes resilience is what you need to keep going."

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#FriendlyReminderToSelf

"Khi nào làm việc thì đừng có cắm đầu vào làm trong vô định. Đặt mục tiêu/khoán việc rõ ràng, rồi tập trung vào làm. Con người con trâu nó khác nhau chỗ đấy"

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#FriendlySelfBitchSlap

"Trên đời ai cũng gặp khó khăn (có những người gặp khó khăn hơn người khác). Nhưng đôi khi những lúc như vậy một người mới có thể hiểu chính mình hơn.

Tất nhiên mỗi con người có sức chịu đựng khác nhau, nhưng đi qua những giai đoạn khổ sở khiến người ta trở nên bền bỉ hơn. Dù có khó khăn và cảm xúc tiêu cực thế nào, hãy gạt nó qua để tiếp tục.

Chúc tất cả những ai đang chật vật trong cuộc sống, with good intentions, sẽ tìm được nguồn sức mạnh nào đó để đi qua nó, và nhìn lại với sự tự hào quãng đường trưởng thành của mình."

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#ThoughsFromTheBathroom

"I miss my friends back home. I miss good conversations and the silence that is not awkward. I miss having someone who I can trust and who trusts me. It gets harder to find real friends as you get older."

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#FriendlyReminderToSelf

"Hãy giữ cho mình được cân bằng. Đừng như chai bépxi, đời lắc cho vài phát là sủi bọt.

Đời muốn giật lắc bao nhiêu cũng được. Be like water, my friend."

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#FriendlyReminderToSelf

"Mọi người mua đủ thứ kem+lotion+dầu... để dưỡng da và tóc. Có một bộ phận khác mà nhiều người bỏ quên: Mắt.

Đừng quên đội mũ/đeo kính chống UV, giữ khoảng cách với sách vở, và cũng đừng có dán mắt vào điện thoại cả ngày. Nhớ nhìn ra ngoài cửa sổ mỗi nửa giờ đồng hồ và đừng dụi mắt"

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#ThoughsFromTheBathroom

"I want people in my life to do well. But there are some certain people that don't want to be helped"

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#FriendlyReminderToSelf

Hãy bắt đầu đi. Cái ý nghĩ "để tí nữa làm"/"Để đến mai" thực sự chỉ là ảo tưởng rằng mày có nhiều thời gian hơn.

Spoiler: Ngày mai mày không có nhiều thời gian hơn hôm nay đâu. Cũng đừng phí thời gian tìm kiếm động lực trong vô vọng em bé đầu đất ạ, đôi khi nên quên cái gọi là động lực đi và thay nó bằng kỉ luật. Tắt thông báo tất cả các app và bắt tay vào làm đi.

Nếu mày không muốn làm việc trong nước mắt những phút cuối cùng, LÀM ĐI.

[ibitemydog]

#FriendlyReminderToSelf

"Cái gì không quan trọng mà làm nhanh được thì làm cho nhanh, đừng chần chừ, đỡ tốn thời gian"

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#ThoughsFromTheBathroom

"Đừng mua mỹ phẩm khi nhà sản xuất liệt kê các thành phần một cách mờ ám"

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#FriendlyReminderToSelf

"Đã ngồi xuống rồi thì tập trung vào mà làm đi đừng lan man, đã làm gì thì tập trung vào mà làm cho tốt, trong lúc đó, tất cả mọi thứ còn lại là ngoài lề."