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Declaration of Consent - Annex to ABDL Caretaker Agreement

The following is an example for a very detailed declaration of consent which may be used in combination with the ABDL Caretaker Agreement to determine which types of actions may be performed with implied consent unless you declare otherwise. While it cannot be guaranteed that the legal authorities in your country actually deem such declaration valid in all regards, it may at least serve as a guideline and may help you to determine the extent of your respective responsibilities. Please read it carefully and adapt it to your needs. Be responsible and treat it as if it were a binding agreement.

I. Preamble

By virtue of the following declaration, I _________________________, grant my caretaker _______________________ and his/her designated representatives, the powers and authorizations required for the execution of the AB/DL caretaker agreement we have signed on _________________.

The goal of said agreement and of this declaration is to establish a long-term relationship in which we will assume the roles of caretaker and adult baby. In the course of this relationship, my caretaker shall treat me like a diaper dependent baby and shall subject me to a strict diaper training regimen.

Since it is my wish to experience the dependency and helplessness of a little baby that is incapable of forming an opinion, this declaration shall grant my caretaker all powers and authorizations that are required for this purpose.

Until I expressly declare otherwise, I wish to be bound by the provisions contained in this declaration and waive my corresponding rights and personal freedoms, until I withdraw my consent in accordance with the general provisions of this declaration (Section II, § 3).

For further clarification, I have compiled a list of measures and treatments, to which I hereby consent in advance, in order to forego the need to expressly confirm my consent when these measures are about to be applied.

Insofar as it does not violate the limits set out in this declaration and in the corresponding caretaker agreement, any action or treatment falling within the scope of what I have provided for in this declaration, shall be deemed as consented to, unless I expressly declare otherwise.

II. General Provisions

§ 1 – Scope and purpose of the waiver

By virtue of this declaration, I waive, for the purpose of my babyfication and diaper training, all rights and responsibilities in regard to all aspects of my daily life listed below, and grant my caretaker absolute authority in these regards, for as long as this declaration and the corresponding caretaker contract are in force.

This authority may only be exercised in accordance with the limits and restrictions set out in said agreement and may not be exercised in any manner that would be contrary to public policy or in violation of the laws applicable at my place of residence or at the place where the respective treatment is to take place.

§ 2 – Revocability and Modifiability

I am aware that I cannot legally forfeit my personal freedoms and my legally protected rights and that I have the power to alter or withdraw this declaration or any part thereof at any time and for any reason whatsoever.

I am further aware, that I may alter or withdraw my consent to any of the measures and treatments listed below under any circumstances and for any reason whatsoever.

With this in mind, I hereby declare that I wish to be bound by the provisions of this declaration and treated accordingly, until I expressly declare the contrary. Unless I declare otherwise, I wish to be treated in the manner described therein, and consent to all treatments I have specified, provided that they comply with the limits set out in the caretaker agreement and in this declaration.

§ 3 – Declaration of withdrawal or modification

In case that I wish to alter or withdraw any part of this declaration or that I wish to declare the lack of my consent to any treatment I am about to receive, I will use the following signals in order to make sure that what I am about to say is not misunderstood as utterances of displeasure within the confines of my role:

1. “Time Out” (or, if I am unable to speak: forming a T with my hands)

By using this signal, I indicate that I wish to take all current activities on hold in order to speak without the limits and restrictions of my role, and that I have something to declare which may affect the treatment I am about to receive. When this signal is used, the caretaker may not exercise any powers or authorizations provided by this declaration or by the caretaker agreement until I had the opportunity to speak freely.

2. “Game Over” (or, if I am unable to speak: throat-cutting gesture)

By using this signal, I indicate that I withdraw my consent and that I wish to stop all activities and all current restrictions until I declare otherwise. Until I expressly confirm that I wish to continue, all authorizations are on hold and may not be exercised under any circumstances.

§ 4 – Right of termination in case of withdrawal

I am aware that the powers listed below are necessary to provide my caretaker with the authority that is required for the effective execution of the caretaker agreement.

Therefore, I hereby grant my caretaker the right to terminate said contract in case of any alteration or withdrawal of this declaration or its provisions made without his/her consent that would render him/her incapable of performing his/her duties under said agreement.

This right may only be exercised after all attempts to reach an understanding and to agree on alternate provisions have failed.

III. Waiver and Declaration of Consent

In accordance with these general provisions, I hereby make the following declarations of my own volition and free from any undue influence or force:

1) I consent to be forced to wear diapers at all times.

I hereby waive the right to wear any underwear except diapers and authorize my caretaker and his/her representatives to ensure that I stay diapered at all times.

For this purpose, they may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- take away all my underwear except diapers

- punish me whenever I refuse to wear diapers or whenever I try to remove my diaper without permission

- prevent removal of worn diapers by use of lockable clothing items (e.g. locking plastic pants or onesies) or restraints (e.g. locking mittens)

- check my diaper at any time to make sure it has not been tampered with

- restrain me when putting me in diapers and during diaper changes so that I cannot resist being diapered

- try to create an emotional dependence on diapers by applying stimuli that make me associate wearing diapers with comfort, security and pleasure, and not wearing them with pain and discomfort

- convince me that being seen in diapers is nothing to be afraid of (e.g. by frequent outings in barely concealed diapers)

- convince me that I am already diaper dependent and no longer have any other option but to stay in diapers

2) I consent to be deprived of all potty privileges.

I hereby waive the right to choose how and when to relieve myself and authorize my caretaker and his/her representatives to ensure that I have no other choice but to use my diapers for their intended purposes under any circumstances.

In particular, they may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- make all toilets and bathrooms inaccessible

- prevent me from removing my diaper without permission

- punish me for any attempt to avoid using my diapers (preferably in a manner that forces me to use them)

3) I consent to be diaper trained.

I hereby waive the right to remain continent and authorize my caretaker and his/her representatives to diaper train me so that I give up all control over my bladder and bowels until I am fully diaper dependent and unable to go without them.

In particular, they may do the following to achieve this result, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- ensure that I use my diaper as often as possible by means of increased fluid intakes, diuretics, laxatives and special diets (letting me know of these measures is not required, provided that all medical limits are observed and that there is no risk of physical harm)

- check my diaper throughout the day and punish me, if I have not used it adequately

- make me listen to incontinence hypnosis in order to cause bedwetting and loss of bladder and bowel control

- make me doubt my remaining continence (e.g. by setting me up to have accidents) and convince me that I am already too diaper dependent to ever regain my potty training

- condition me to give up control by applying stimuli that make me subconsciously associate letting go in my diaper with pleasure and comfort and holding it in with pain and discomfort, until I unconsciously refrain from exercising such control

- train me to keep my sphincter muscles in a relaxed state for prolonged periods of time, e.g. by making me do reverse kegel exercises (inflatable plugs and similar devices may be used to actively facilitate this process for the anal sphincters)

- prevent me from exercising control over my bladder and bowels for a certain amount of time by use of catheters, hollow buttplugs, and/or similar devices (long-term use is restricted; catheters may only be used for up to five consecutive days with at least two weeks of rest between each application; buttplugs may only be used for up to 12 hours per day, or for up to 24 hours followed by at least two days of rest)

4) I consent to have my freedom of movement and my physical abilities restricted.

I hereby waive the right to maintain my freedom of movement and authorize my caretaker and his/her representatives to restrain me and to limit my physical abilities whenever they deem it appropriate.

In particular, they may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- confine me to my crib, a play pen or similar areas suitable for a baby

- restrain me to prevent me from interfering with their care (e.g. when being fed or during diaper changes)

- restrain me to render me incapable of performing certain actions on my own, so that I have to rely on them like an actual baby (e.g. with padded mittens, spreader-bars, etc.)

- use restraints when administering a punishment so that I cannot interfere with it

- use pacifier gags or similar devices to keep my mouth occupied and to ensure that I stay silent when it is required

5) I consent to be deprived of all privacy towards my caretaker and his/her representatives.

I hereby waive my right to privacy and authorize my caretaker and his/her representatives to make sure that I am supervised at all times.

In particular, they may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- supervise me at all times or employ baby sitters and other personnel to do so in their stead

- accompany me at all times or make me go with them whenever possible

- use baby monitors or similar devices to check on me under any circumstances

- check the state of my diaper and make me give true feedback concerning its usage, regardless of the circumstances

- access any part of my body in any way they like whenever they deem it necessary

- track my location and my activities by use of suitable tracking devices and/or software

6) I consent to be humiliated.

I hereby waive the right to be treated in a respectful manner and authorize my caretaker and his/her representatives to tease me and to force me into humiliating situations.

In particular, they may do the following, to which I hereby consent, until I expressly declare otherwise:

- tease me, e.g. for looking and behaving like a baby, for needing diapers, for being too immature, etc.

- make me humiliate myself (e.g. by forcing me to beg for something in a babyish manner or by forcing me to behave like an infant)

- humiliate me by treating me in an exceptionally babyish manner (even in presence of other people)

- make me have accidents or leaks in public (e.g. being fed laxatives before going out; going out while wearing a diaper with punctured outer layer)

- make me use my diaper on command (even with other people watching)

- dress me in a humiliating manner (e.g. noticeable diaper bulge, diaper showing above waistband, childish clothes, accessories indicating my babyhood, etc.)

- force me to touch and smell my used diapers by wrapping them around my head as a diaper hood (even messy ones)

- write humiliating things on my skin or my diaper (may be hard to wash off, but only temporary in nature; must be concealable when at work or in public)

- reveal the fact that I need to wear diapers, provided that my identity is protected and that it happens in a socially acceptable manner (e.g. to the store personnel when buying new diapers)

- make up a reason, why I need to wear diapers and force me to confirm it when someone asks about my diapers

- make me post pictures or reports concerning my new life or the punishments I receive online, provided that my identity remains protected and that my name and my face are not revealed

7) I consent to receive corporal punishments.

I hereby waive my right to be free from corporal punishments and authorize my caretaker and his/her representatives to discipline me by inflicting physical pain or discomfort, insofar as it complies with the limits set out in the caretaker agreement and that there is no danger of causing any serious or long-lasting harm.

In particular, they may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- spank me on my bare/diapered bottom and/or my thighs (with hand, hairbrush or paddle; harsher devices such as tawse, cane or belt may be used only in extraordinarily severe cases)

- cause painful cramps by administering large enemas, suppositories or high doses of laxatives and by preventing me from relieving myself for a certain amount of time (additional ingredients may be added to make it more painful, e.g. glycerin, etc.; medical limits need to be observed)

- force me to remain in a used diaper until I suffer from diaper rash (proper aftercare required; long-term damage must be avoided)

- fill my diaper with things that cause pain or discomfort (e.g. stinging nettles, inserts with spikes, etc.)

- cause pain or discomfort by stretching my anal sphincter with large plugs or similar objects (either by repeatedly inserting them or by forcing me to retain them for several hours); damage to sphincter and colon must be avoided at all costs

8) I consent to be restricted in my sexual autonomy.

I hereby waive my right to choose under which circumstances and in which manner I may be subjected to sexual stimulation, and authorize my caretaker and his/her representatives to either withhold or inflict such sexual stimulation at their discretion.

In particular, they may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- prevent me from pleasuring myself and keep me in chastity (e.g. with a fitting chastity device or by means of restraints)

- prevent me from accessing my genitals and punish me for any attempt to stimulate them

- stimulate my genitals directly or indirectly (e.g. through a diaper) and use appropriate devices (e.g. sex toys, vibrators, etc.) to administer such stimulation

- administer anal stimulation and/or prostate massages

- bring me to the edge and leave me frustrated

- force me to orgasm several times in a row

- use sexual stimulation as an incentive to facilitate my diaper training (e.g. stimulation only in fully used diapers)

9) I consent to have almost all aspects of my daily life decided for me.

I hereby waive all rights and responsibilities in regard to the following aspects of my daily life and grant my caretaker absolute authority in these regards within the scope set out in the caretaker agreement and in accordance with the following provisions:

a. Appearance

b. Personal Hygiene

c. Sustenance & Diet

d. Fitness & Physical Health

e. Recreational Activities

f. Finances

g. Living Conditions

a. Appearance

I hereby waive the right to determine my outer appearance and the right to alter it in any way without permission of my caretaker.

This waiver includes but is not limited to the following aspects:

- Clothes & Accessories (including diapers & all baby gear)

- Hairstyle & Hair Color (including wigs, extensions, etc.)

- Makeup & Cosmetics

- Scents & Fragrances (including fragrant products like baby powder etc.)

I hereby grant my caretaker the authority to make any alterations that do not violate the limits set out in the caretaker agreement and vow to abide by them until he/she decides otherwise.

In particular, my caretaker and his/her representatives may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- dress and undress me (by force if necessary)

- diaper me and dress me in plastic pants and other baby gear (type and number of diapers and inserts is chosen by caretaker)

- force me to visibly wear certain items or accessories (even if they belong to the opposite sex or indicate my babyhood)

- expose any part of my body or my diaper (insofar as it does not violate any limit and is performed in a socially acceptable manner)

- have my hair cut, styled, dyed or otherwise modified

- have my facial hair trimmed or removed

- have my body hair removed and its regrowth prevented

- apply makeup, nail polish and other cosmetic products

- treat me with fragrant products or fragrant substances (even unpleasant smells are allowed)

However, none of these measures may be applied in any way that would violate the limits set out in the caretaker agreement, in particular the provisions concerning the right to maintain a professional appearance in all work-related matters and the safeguards required when in public.

b. Personal Hygiene

I hereby waive the right to provide for my personal hygiene and fully submit to the care provided by my caretaker and his/her representatives in this regard.

This waiver includes but is not limited to the following aspects:

- Diaper Changes (including clean up)

- Taking care of bodily waste (including soiled clothes and diapers)

- Diaper Checks

- Baths & Showers

- Dental Hygiene

- Skin Care (Creams, Lotions, Powders, etc.)

I hereby authorize my caretaker and his/her representatives to take all necessary steps to ensure my personal hygiene and vow to submit to their care without attempting to provide for it myself without their permission.

In particular, my caretaker and his/her representatives may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- check my diaper under any circumstances (even in public and without giving prior notice)

- change my diaper and properly clean my diaper area (even in public, provided that it takes place in a socially acceptable manner, e.g. in a public changing room)

- force me to remain in a used diaper until they decide that I need a change

- wash and clean any part of my body in any manner they deem necessary (by force if required)

- brush my teeth and apply other forms of dental care

- apply skin care products to any part of my body (type and amount is determined by caretaker)

- deny me certain measures as punishment, provided that there is no risk of causing any long-term harm (e.g. less diaper changes, no protection against diaper rash)

c. Sustenance & Diet

I hereby waive the right to choose how to sustain myself and grant my caretaker and his/her representatives absolute authority in this regard, provided that I receive all necessary nutrients to stay fit and healthy.

This waiver includes but is not limited to the following aspects and privileges:

- the right to choose which types of food and drinks are to be consumed under which circumstances

- the right to determine which amounts of which foods and drinks are to be consumed

- the right to choose in which state the food and the drinks are to be consumed (e.g. after putting the food through a blender)

- the manner in which food and drinks are to be consumed (e.g. via bottle/sippy cup; fed by caretaker; etc.)

- the right to determine which ingredients are used for the preparation of my food and my drinks (dietary requirements and medical limits must be observed)

I fully submit to my caretaker and his/her representatives in this regard and authorize them to ensure that I am sustained in a way that is suitable for a healthy adult baby.

In particular, they may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- prevent me from feeding myself (use of restraints is allowed) and feed me instead (by force, if necessary)

- make me feed myself in a babyish way (e.g. only using my hands)

- force me to eat and drink what I am given, regardless of the taste and the ingredients

- restrict may access to any other types of food and drinks than the ones provided by them

- enforce a diet designed to facilitate my diaper training (e.g. lots of fiber, fruits, foods containing large amounts of water, etc.)

- mix diuretics, laxatives or similar substances into my food and into my drinks to facilitate my diaper training and to erode my trust in my continence (this may be done without my knowledge, but only within the recommended dosages and not on a regular basis)

d. Fitness & Physical Health

I hereby waive my right to determine how and under which conditions I exercise, and grant my caretaker absolute authority in this regard. He/she may establish a fitness regimen suitable for my needs and enforce it with the means of discipline provided in the caretaker agreement.

In particular, my caretaker and his/her representatives may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- put me on a diet, until I reach optimal weight

- force me to work out and exercise the way they tell me to (this may even take place in public or in a fitness studio)

- check my weight, my BMI, my vitals, etc.

- discipline me if I start to slack off

e. Recreational Activities

I hereby waive my right to choose how I spend my free time and authorize my caretaker and his/her representatives to ensure that all my activities are suitable for the adult baby that I am.

This waiver includes but is not limited to the following aspects and privileges:

- the right to use entertainment items or media that are not suitable for a young child

- the right to decide which toys, which entertainment items and which media may be used under which circumstances

- the right to decide which activities I may or may not partake in during my free-time

- the right to choose where and when to partake in which activities

In particular, my caretaker and his/her representatives may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- replace all entertainment items, media files or toys that are not suitable for a young child with more appropriate alternatives (e.g. baby toys)

- install parental locks on all electronic devices insofar as they are not needed for work

- plan outings and outdoor activities without my knowledge and surprise me with whatever they have planned for me

- make me partake in babyish activities such as playing with baby toys, watching pre-school tv, etc.

- organize playdates with other ABDLs and their respective caretakers

- prevent me from going out without supervision

- prevent me from engaging in any non-permitted activities

- force me to engage in activities that I do not like (e.g. ballet, etc.) as if they actually were my hobby

f. Finances

I hereby waive the right to govern my own financial matters and to exercise control over my own property and authorize my caretaker and his/her representatives to do so in my stead, provided that they govern it with my benefit in mind.

This waiver includes but is not limited to the following aspects and privileges:

- the right to access my bank accounts or to use any other means of obtaining money

- the right to choose which amounts of money I may spend for which purposes

- the right to establish any contractual obligations with other persons

- the right to decide how my property is used and whether or not I may keep it or whether or not I have to dispose of it

In particular, my caretaker and his/her representatives may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- limit my financial recourses to a small allowance that barely covers my daily needs

- insist that I am too immature to buy things on my own and make me depend on them to get what I need

- take hold of my bank accounts and my money and prevent me from making any unpermitted dispositions in regard to my property (their powers are limited to proper maintenance and may not be used to my financial disadvantage)

- get rid of property that I no longer need and replace it with more suitable alternatives (if the items are valuable, they have to ensure that I receive proper compensation)

g. Living Conditions

I hereby waive the right to maintain my own lodgings and authorize my caretaker and his/her representatives to alter my living conditions in any way they see fit that does not violate the limits of the caretaker agreement or of this declaration and does not interfere with my professional obligations.

This waiver includes but is not limited to the following aspects and privileges:

- the right to live on my own and maintain separate lodgings

- the right to determine where I live and in which kind of lodgings I reside

- the right to determine how my lodgings are furnished and how they are designed

- the right to keep my own furniture (e.g. furniture that is not designed for a baby)

In particular, my caretaker and his/her representatives may do the following, to which I hereby consent until I expressly declare otherwise:

- find more suitable lodgings for my care and force me to move in with them

- replace my furniture with more suitable baby furniture in my size

- turn my room into a nursery

- force me to get rid of my previous lodgings

IV. Limits

None of the declarations listed above may be interpreted in any manner that would allow my caretaker or his/her representatives to either do or cause me to do any of the following:

- activities that may be considered illegal or indecent at the place of my residence or at the place where the respective action is to be performed

- activities that would reveal the nature of this relationship and anything relating to its contents and to my diaper fetish to people who may know of my identity, unless I have given express permission to do so

- activities that would reveal my identity to people who know about my diaper wearing habits or my diaper fetish, unless I have given express permission to do so

- activities that would risk to interfere with my career and/or my professional obligations, insofar as I am employed and/or pursuing a career

- activities that may cause any serious or long-term harm

- activities that are intended to be to my financial disadvantage and dispositions in regard to my property for which there is no proper compensation

V. Duration

All of these provisions and declarations shall remain in force and binding until I declare otherwise in accordance with the general provisions of this declaration.

_______________________ _______________________________

Place and Date Signature of the charge

The following is a corresponding declaration of the caretaker in which he/she declares to abide by all provisions and to respect the limits and responsibilities that come with the relationship.

Annex 2 – Declaration of Compliance (Caretaker)

I, ________________________, hereby declare that I have read and understood all my responsibilities as a caretaker and vow to properly take care of my charge __________________________ so that he/she may thrive and become a healthy and well-behaved adult baby.

I further declare that I have understood the extent of the powers granted by my charge and acknowledge that he/she may withdraw his/her consent regarding any part of these authorizations at any time and under any circumstances without any need for a reason or justification. In case of such withdrawal, I vow to respect his/her wishes and promise to refrain from any undue influence or force that may prevent him/her from exercising his/her right to end this relationship.

I vow to abide by all limits and restrictions stipulated in the caretaker agreement and in the corresponding declaration of consent and promise to exercise my powers and authorities with caution to avoid any risk of violating these limits.

Correspondingly, I vow to ensure that all representatives and all other parties involved in this relationship are subject to the same restrictions and that they maintain secrecy regarding the nature and the details of this relationship.

_______________________ _______________________________

Place and Date Signature of Caretaker

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imholdingit · 7 years ago

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The Daddy's Compendium To Interacting With His ABDL Boy

An ongoing WIP project by Young'N'Rebellious!

I’ve divided the following into 4 categories - Ideas (To be split into Fun Ideas and Punishment Ideas), Activities, Things To Say (To be split into Positive/Reassuring Things and Not So Positive/Teasing Things), and Advice & General ABDL Info/Knowledge.

Feel free to comment anything you feel needs to be added or is missing! Hope this helps somebody as much as it has my own Daddy! I will update this Compendium as I add more stuff and make new revisions! :) Credit to friends, followers, life experiences, myself & personal ABDL experiences, and most notably amazing sources like ABDL Dad’s very well written blogs and like-wise materials!

IDEAS: * Stand outside the bathroom whenever your little one goes potty if he’s not padded at that time, then ask him if he made it in time and check to make sure he did before praising or scolding him accordingly! * Act like your boy is too big for diapers until he gives you a -reason- to put him back in Diapers, Pull-Ups, or Training Pants! * Often ask your boy if he has to go potty, or if he “already went.” Whether he’s diapered or not (more ESPECIALLY if he’s not…) Even better if you can get away with it in public, and -always- ask before or when going anywhere. * If he has to go, ask him how bad and if its an emergency. * Ask him whether he wants to try and be a big boy or to just use his diaper or “have an accident”, give him the choice to try and be a big boy, then go along with it, whether he decides to succeed or to fail at it. * Before you let your ABDL boy rush out the door, have him stop and then check his clothes carefully. Fix the belt on his jeans. Adjust his diaper so that it shows just slightly above the waist and then pull his shirt down carefully over it. Give him a kiss on the cheek and tell him how wonderful he is and how adorable he looks. * If your little guy can’t wear diapers in the day, have him carry a Pull-Ups in his back pack. He might complain that someone might see it or find it. Assure him no one will ever notice. He may never even look at it, but knowing that it’s close at hand will give him a sense of security. * Instead of regular underwear, surprise your little with a pair of training pants! * Slip a pacifier into your boy’s pocket on the way out the door, imagine the blush when he reaches into his pocket and finds it! * If your boy wears a watch, take some diaper tape and attach it around the band. Call him later in the day and ask what time it is. If anyone knows that it’s no ordinary tape it will be him – you’ll hear the smile right through the phone line. * Most important of all, when your boy gets home give him a super long hug. Then say “let’s get you changed”. Don’t turn it into a big production… just “let’s get you changed” is enough – it says that Sunday wasn’t some special day all its own and that even though there’s a whole world of things to do he’s always his daddy’s little boy no matter where they are or what they’re doing! * Punish your boy for having a potty mouth, not just for having potty pants (if even…) * Pretend potty-train your boy even if you know he’s gonna use his diaper and have Onpurpsidents anyways. * Change your boy’s diaper when it leaks whether he wants it changed or not, and if he puts up too much of a fuss put him on time out! * Find ways to subtly make your boy feel little in public, it always makes their cheeks turn so red and adorable! * Set a Bedtime even when he wants to talk or play. * Try to get him to do something “little” (like ride a carousel for example.) Or have him do 2 random sporadic things a day that a cub would do impulsively and reward the behavior. * Punish your boy for sticking his tongue out. * Make your boy sit on Time Out in the corner and think about what he did in his wet or messy diaper or clothing. (with consent) * Bounce your boy on your knee * Give you boy discrete Diaper checks in public * Whisper loving things into your boy’s ears * * * * * * * *

ACTIVITIES: * Read a story to your little! * Feed you boy a bottle of milk (Preferably warm, maybe sweetened too!) * Take him to a Park to play * Teach him how to do something new * Let him help with something (Cooking, Laundry, etc) * Snuggling! * Take your boy to the mall * Watch Childhood Movies and Cartoons with him. * Go see a Movie with him. * Play games with him. * Put a puzzle together with each other (Not one with too many pieces though, that’s too hard and the smaller piece may be choking hazards! ;P) * Color pictures together * Catch bugs together * Go Fishing together * Pretend Potty Training (Play along and encourage them, whether they decide to succeed or fail.) * Give your boy a bubble bath * Build a blanket fort together * Go Hiking in the woods * Take a camping trip and let your boy enjoy nature as a little, free of worries, and pants! * * * * * * * * * * *

THINGS TO SAY: * Call your boy names he likes that make him feel little, blush, or embarrass him. * Remind him how little he is! * Often remind him how little you -think- he is * Tell him how much he means to you! * Remind your little what he needs your help doing! * Randomly ask your boy if he has to go potty. * Ask your boy if he can hold it or if its an emergency * Randomly ask your boy if he had an accident, even if you know he didn’t. * “Let’s get you changed.” * “Be a big boy and hold it, or not, daddy wont tell anybody and will get you cleaned up/changed.” * “I swear to god if you poop your pants…” * “Did you poop your pants?” * “Come here, are you wet again already?” * “You purposely didn’t make it didn’t you?” * “Its okay, accidents happen! Let’s go get you cleaned up/Changed.” * “You’re not going to bed without a Diaper on!” * * * * * * * * * * * * * *

ADVICE & GENERAL ABDL INFO/KNOWLEDGE: * Kiss him on the forehead * Tickle him! * Blow raspberries on their tummy! * Tease your ABDL boy but not too much or too harshly. * Smile at your boy a lot * Give him reassurance * Pat and touch their diaper a lot * Establish your own set of rules and consequences for him. * Don’t make cracks about body hair, it ruins the immersion and fantasy! * Don’t let or make your boy dress himself, that’s Daddy’s job! * Try to let him choose his outfit, I know Daddy needs his fun too sometimes but freedom to be himself and comfortable is an important priority. * Let your boy sit in your lap or on your leg/knee. * Punish your boy when he’s naughty or bratty. Time Outs are a great and reliable alternative to Spankings. Little Boys HATE Time Outs. ;) * Be stern but don’t overdo it, show you still care about them and are loving! * Baby talk your boy but don’t overdo it, just make them feel loved and cared for. * Light touching and eye contact is important to intimacy. * Give your little guy a safe, trusting, and caring space in which to express his little side. * Make sure your boy knows what he did if he poops or pees his pants, it makes them feel so little! * Most ABDL have had a rocky background and are full of insecurities * Make sure your boy leaves padded so that he doesn’t have an accident in public! (Not a noticeable one anyways… accidents still happen.) * Hold onto him, don’t expect him to hold onto you, he’s the young boy, he’s the insecure one who need’s your loving embrace and reassurance! * Check on him during naps and maybe give his diaper seat a reassuring rub. * If you wake up at night for any reason, check on your boy and rub his diaper a little and check it before going back to bed. * Change your boy as frequently as needed, maybe more if he enjoys Diaper changes a lot! * Check your boy’s diaper constantly (At least twice an hour), whether he needs it or not, it makes him feel secure and cared for! It also Keeps him reminded of what a little boy he is for not being able (or choosing not to) to keep his diaper dry or clean. * -Always- get your little dressed/changed for bed and tuck him in! Make sure his plushie is in his arms and his paci is in his mouth! Don’t forget to check under the bed and in the closet for monsters! Check his diaper one last time, just for the heck of it, and if he’s already soggy, tease him a bit so he falls asleep feeling little. :) *It goes without saying that little boys always want to act like big boys even though they need you to help them feel little! Your little boy might Smoke, Drink, Vape, or be a recreational drug user. You are NOT the police, don’t act like it! Decide together what adult habits and vices you are okay with and which ones your little is allowed to have during “Little time”. People often can’t let these vices go no matter how regressed they become so keep that in mind, don’t make your little feel ashamed or self conscious and ruin his immersion/fantasy because of these vices. * A lot of littles like remaining wet or messy for some time, so there doesn’t need to be a rush to change them unless it goes against your personal preference, smells exceptionally ripe, or they ask! * Some littles even enjoy leaking, and wear their dark spots proudly as badges! * It’s not just the diaper that connects him to you. There’s something incredibly powerful and special about being in his diapers, and it is an explicit and needed connection in his relationship to you. * Little boys like to try to be big boys and not tell you when they have to go potty, and they might end up having an accident. When they do, do not scold them but tell them you are proud of them for trying to be a big boy and then change their clothes and clean them up and if possible, put them in a clean Diaper! * Make diaper changes significant; don’t be a robot! Changing a diaper becomes like riding a bike at some point, but that doesn’t mean a Daddy should abstain from talking to their little, teasing them, or letting them help by holding the wipes (careful with giving them the powder though!) * Make eye contact and smile during diaper changes, this makes your boy feel reassured and safe, and reminds him you care and want to get him all cleaned up. * Sometimes little boys have accidents in their big boy pants around the house. If the carpet or furniture gets wet, don’t be angry with your boy! (Unless he did it on purpose!) Remind him that he was a good boy for trying to hold it like a big boy. After you change him, just wipe up or dab the wet spot with a clean damp towel and turn a fan on in the room. The wet spot from his accident will air dry overnight and the moving air from the fan will prevent the area from smelling like a urinal/bathroom. * Do not display unsettledness over furniture or floors, you don’t want your little to feel like you’re prioritizing a couch or strip of fabric before him and his emotional/core needs… * Diapers were not designed to be soaked. No matter WHAT a daddy does he should never get angry at his son for a wet couch, carpet, or clothes. A boy should know that it’s safe and right to use his diapers in what ever way he needs to, and creating any shame around leaks will will make it tougher for the little guy to feel that he belongs in his diapers or might make him nervous to use them.YOU should have asked him if he had to pee and if so how much. And YOU should have known how wet he already was, It’s not his fault so bare no anger. * When cleaning ups leaks, place paper towels over the wet spots before smiling warmly and taking your little to change and THEN wipe or dab up the wet spot all the way and let it air dry! You don’t want your little to feel as though you’re more worried about a couch or rug than them, that can easily make a little feel less important and self conscious. * Sometimes, a wet spot on his bum while in public might be a little embarrassing, but daddy should both provide reassurance and have back-up plans in place – a sweater wrapped around the boy’s waist if it’s serious, a reassuring pat on the shoulder and diapered bum for those “maybe people will notice or maybe not” moments, and a spare pair of shorts or jeans in the diaper bag if it’s a longer day out. * Whenever you take your baby boy anywhere, always bring a bag or backpack with 2 spare sets of clothes and at least 2 fresh diapers, a spare pair of shorts or jeans, as well as wipes, clean hand towels, and powder! You should be ready to discreetly change your little boy anywhere at any time. Even if you don’t use the travel bag, he gains reassurance and feels more little just from you having it around! * Moderation is key, drowning a little in affection all the time can tend to become a chore for both of you after a while, but everyone has their personal limit! * Make sure your boy has his Paci or Stuffy during diaper changes! Or at the very least ask them where they are. * Your boy has a literal list of Core Needs that need to be met. Its both of your job to find out what they are and how to meet them! *If more needs are going unmet than are being met it can affect them negatively emotionally, causing depression, anxiety, or even turning the relationship toxic. * Part-Time Daddies with family, friends, and jobs have it rough! Most ABDL boys long for a full time, living together companion who can be there day and night to respond to their mood shifts and needs as they go in and out of phases and different emotions. Not someone for whom they are their “secret life”, but someone for whom they ARE their life, an equal partner, without shame, secrecy or the closet. Someone with whom they can set them self free with and truly be them self with 24/7/365. Someone who brings out their favorite things about them self and isn’t ashamed of those things. * Not every day will be a walk in the park. If every day was the same or predictable, that would be the same as flat-lining. Hiccups are a sign life; Disagreements happen, fights are a thing, and growing pains are common. Never forget that beyond all these roles are two human beings trying to grow closer. Always keep adventuring and be open to experimenting & experiencing. -Always- keep communicating. The goal should be to integrate the daddy/little dynamic into your life together. Trust in yourselves to find a balance that works for both of you! * Remember that being in a relationship with a Little is as valid and meaningful as any other type of relationship. The Daddy not only has to be the keeper of ALL of his boy’s needs, but also treat him with the unconditional love, respect, and trust as you would -any- relationship. * Remember the ABDL community is a small one, and your Little Boy may want to have other Little friends, as well as other older friends. Remember not every relationship MUST be monogamous to be healthy. Talk honestly with your Little Boy to learn each other’s boundaries regarding interacting with other Littles or Adults. Work together to decide what is right for YOUR relationship, be flexible, never judgmental, and always love your little unconditionally. Remember wherever he might go play and no matter what he will -always- love you the most and come back to be with you! * If your living situation is such that you don’t have your Little Boy living WITH you, remember that even out on his own doing every day adult things, that he still needs to know you are his Daddy and you love him and are there for him! Make a plan with your Little Boy on days you aren’t together to be in touch by voice or text or IM in the morning, at mid day, and at night. Make a schedule that works for you both. NEVER go to sleep for the night without having talked with him, and sleep with your ringers on. ALWAYS be reachable for each other! * * *

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