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Hot take but canes are not a limited resource. Most mobility aids aren’t but canes especially. Canes are $20 at a lot of stores like CVS, Walmart, etc. You aren’t taking that resource away from “real” disabled people (hint: you ARE a real disabled person) in fact buying more canes creates more demand and works to make more stores carry them for better prices. You aren’t faking being disabled or hurting disabled people, you’re working to make canes more accessible which is helping disabled people.

Get the cane.

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so the other day a castmate of mine was talking about having once been a little girl (at this point, i all but short-circuited because said castmate is a man in his mid-sixties and my brain had its little moment of “!!!!! trans person!!! and he’s OLD!!!!”) and being asked if there was a famous person he looked up to or wanted to look or be more like. and he said— again, as a little girl at this point— “santa claus!” and everyone thought he was weird for it.

and this story doesn’t read as well over text because you really have to see the guy. but he looks just like santa claus. he’s got the long white hair and the beard and the belly and everything. and i just. the amount of secondhand trans joy i experienced is truly insane. i’m gonna get old! i’m gonna get old the way i wanna get old! hey everybody you’re gonna get old; we’ve been doing it for years!

anyway shoutout to the santa claus of my cast and to every older trans person we love you so fucking much

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transphobes: going on T will make you infertile!!!!!! you'll never ever be able to get pregnant ever if you go on T!!!!! it will RUIN your uterus!!!!!!!!

literally every transmasc sex ed: Testosterone Is Not Birth Control we are literally begging you to wear condoms and be careful because you can absolutely get pregnant if your uterus is otherwise functioning. please for the love of God don't think T will keep you from getting pregnant because that's not how testosterone works

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nobody but your medical professionals needs to know your agab. the entire point of the trans community is accepting people as they are, regardless of the identity and/or body parts they were born with (or without). your agab is between you and g-d and you should not feel compelled to divulge it to strangers for "their" well being or safety. you are not obligated to tell it to a single soul. please know that you have a right to privacy, this is a matter of your well being and safety.

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"You cant use your cane because people will think you're disabled.."

Not gonna lie, I think nearly crying because it hurts so bad to stand might count as disabled. Not being able to write anything because our wrists are so weak might count as disabled. And just maybe, being in so much pain we might throw up because we've been walking for half an hour might just count as disabled. But lord forbid people look at us and think we might be a cripple.

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Are you looking for an awesome, queer art book?

Mine is on pre-sale now! I've written the Coffee Table Book of Pride Flags which discusses a multitude of queer identities and several subcultures/adjacent cultures (think leather and rubber communities) while showing off my collages!

If you've been following me for a while, you know that I've been creating pride flag collages since 2017 (or at least for several years). This is a culmination of that and will be out on October 1st, just in time for LGBT+ History month!

So many of you are part of the reason behind this book. Tumblr has been where I have learned about queer identities far and wide, including my own when I was a teenager (hello out there, ace Tumblr), and you have continued to educate me (most recently with people who use it/its pronouns). You're gems, and I'm really excited to share this with you.

SO. Where can you buy it?

Amazon or Barnes & Noble

The moment I know it's on sale at a small bookshop, I will tell you because you should support small bookshops far more than the big ones

Also, if you like it or want to read it and don't have the money (because art books can be more expensive), suggest it to your local library!!!! That way you and others can enjoy it even if you can't afford it.

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seeing a lot of posts by strangers & friends about how they let their guard down once in the past few weeks over COVID and they almost immediately got infected COVID has never stopped spreading through communities, has never gone below the levels that used to trigger mandatory isolations & business shut downs It's more infectious than ever, half of all hospital admissions are multiple vaccinated, as are good percentage of the dead. Vaccination doesn't stop the damage COVID does (which is what becomes Long Covid) nor does it prevent transmission & they used to significantly reduce chances of severe COVID/death in most people but that's not true anymore. We have very few therapeutics left that have to be used for longer & for less benefit. Vaccine immune resistance lasts for at best 4-6 months but begins waning after 1 month. If you're immunocompromised, the vaccines may not be providing any meaningful benefit. If you get COVID, you're immunocompromised for at least a year. If you get it 2-3 times, you're permanently immunocompromised.

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this has been on my mind after coming across a YouTube video where a lesbian discussed how she is ashamed to be a part of the lgbtq+ community. she took pride in being a “normal” gay and not like the “weird” gays. many people in the comments agreed, saying they were gay and happy to find another “normal” gay person.

so let me say this: know the rich history of your community. the leather lesbians, the butches, the drag queens, all of the people who you are denouncing…they are the ones who fought for your right to love. they are the very foundation of the queer community. without their contributions, you would not be able to even make a YouTube video about your queerness. It’s extremely disrespectful to identify those people as “weird” and “not normal” when they are the very people who have paved the way for your existence.

in addition, I’d like to bring in a point that I read about the other day. a lot of younger generations of queer people are toning down their gayness to be acceptable and comfortable for straight people. what I mean is that they dress “normally”, they maintain long hair, they are not vocal about politics, they do not show off pride flags. they also denounce the queer people with dyed hair, short hair, pride flags in their bios, loud political opinions, and other outwardly gay attributes as “weird”. be aware of the ways that “acceptance” has really become limited in the way that many people are only accepting of gay people who are not too gay to be considered “weird”. do not, as a queer person, actively contribute to this.

and finally, please remember that in a world where there is increased division, where more people are attacking lgbtq+ rights, where hate crimes are on the rise…the community is what you have. those “weird” and “not normal” gays are a part of the community that has and will continue to have your back. show some respect.

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I was incredibly tempted in Joann’s the other day. (Like, more than the regular amount)

[Image description: a photograph of bolts of fleecy fabric for sale. On the left is a white fabric with chaotic rainbow ice dye. On the right is a soft watercolor pattern in the trans flag colors. In the center is a rainbow gradient fabric stamped all over with white symbols. The symbols include: intersex, transgender, lesbian, gay, and bisexual or polyamorous. There are also plain circles, triangles, squiggles, and dots to fill out the space. End ID. /]

I don’t have a single project that uses fleece fabric, and my town has too many MAGA assholes to feel safe, so I settled for buying five yards of pure linen at 60% off.

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I love being a queer Jew. I love being Jewish and I love being lgbt and I love that there are communities and people who are just like me in all sorts of places. One time I just remembered that I’m Jewish and I literally could not stop smiling. Every time I see a queer Jew on the internet making queer Jewish content I just feel so, so happy. I’m upset about my identity a lot, and so those moments when it feels just so awesome and beautiful and amazing are the best moments every

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tbh the very concepts of “feminine” vs “masculine” are entirely man made constructs. just imagine…thousands and thousands of years ago when we were cavemen, do you really think they were like “look at this BLUE sky, it’s so manly and masculine!” or “look at the PINK flower, how feminine and girly!” of course not. because that’s stupid. and do you think they were like “you can’t play with this dirt! girls have to cook!” and “sorry bud you can’t sleep with your friend because he’s a guy and that is a SIN!” NOOOOOOOO.

like there’s nothing wrong with identifying as a woman or a man, and I myself identify as a woman, but I do wonder how much of that is due to the societal definition surrounding femininity. it will be interesting to see how my relationship to femininity and womanhood change as I reconstruct my definitions of those things.

anyways, I think that the increased exploration of gender identities is beneficial to EVERYONE. when we can accept that gender is a construct, we can more freely explore ourselves without worrying about fitting into the boxes of “feminine” and “masculine”

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every time I see those "you have to go Log Off and Be In the Real World to do Real Leftism & Anarchism" posts I just unfollow, mute, and am assured that this person is wildly ableist You can teach people online You can raise funds & support mutual aid online You can connect people & build communities online You can provide peer counseling & support online You can talk to people without being at deadly risk of COVID online You can locate resources for people online You can even create & build things online, like 3D printing designs, for others to use. In 2020, a street medic collective created 3D printable eyewash cups to help the hundreds of thousands of people being tear gassed. You can absolutely bet a lot of disabled, exclusively-online leftists & anarchists printed those out and got them to their local medical collectives & mutual aid groups. You can *talk to people* online which is huge if you're nonverbal/selectively mute or cognitively impaired or autistic or any other form of neurodivergence or disability that makes real-time in person communication difficult There's a raging, unmitigated pandemic & I have spent years trying to find enough leftists & anarchists willing to mask & be COVID-safe so they can include me and my skills & knowledge & willingness to help. That's been vanishingly rare because most of the so-called left & anarchist community is not just ableist but actively eugenicist. There's no difference between "online" and "offline," merely the extent to which any particular activity may be suited or hindered by being in person or electronic. If you cannot grasp that, you need to sit with your expectations because they're ableist & exclusionary. If your revolution or movement cannot happen unless it is exclusionary to the disabled, it is merely another kind of eugenics.

I don't get to be "in the real world" because y'all are violently exclusionary & have ensured there is not a single safe space left for the immunocompromised. My life is worth more than your little project & I will not throw away what is left of my health, of my life, to prove myself to y'all. You want more people involved in your project or movement? Make it inclusive of the disabled & exclusionary to eugenicists, to ableists, to bigots, to fascists, to whatever form of hate & prejudice that is keeping people from joining, which starts with examining fundamental principles, ethics, and practice. The most radical projects are mask blocs, which are mostly run by immunocompromised people with significant mobility and cognitive disabilities. They get their funding & resources online, and at great personal cost to themselves, distribute masks while the rest of y'all LARP around and ignore the pandemic. That celebrated food not bombs movement? They're not masking & they're not distroing masks. Those John Brown Gun Clubs? Same thing, only with more classism, more ableism. The drag brunches are endangering the very communities they claim to be protecting, & ensuring that we immunocompromised, disabled queers are shut out from our communities. I'm not impressed at all with "offline" organizing. Most of it is ineffectual & feckless and above all, deadly. It's been three years & y'all continue to refuse to center COVID safety & immunocompromised needs which means you're refusing to center other disability needs, and I strongly suspect you're allowing a lot more forms of prejudice to swirl around your social circles too. When you become too disabled to do anything "real" in the "real world," you inevitable come to us survivors of this viral holocaust, lamenting how useless you think you are, asking for our help & our ideas when we told you all along-- be safe & inclusive for disabled people & you would succeed. Instead you kill us "for the greater good" and never once stop to think of the cost of your projects, your beliefs, your goals, because you refuse to admit that you were, in fact, the problem all along, not the people forced to survive on the internet.

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really wish people had masks and respirators on in more disability art that was a really nice part of 2020 before the pandemic, I wanted to wear masks during epidemics but jobs never let me because it would "bother the customers" and suddenly, finally, there's are telling the society of the so-called west that wearing masks is good, normal, fine, to be commended as a fundamentally courteous act but otherwise remarkable and mundane, like the way we expect and are pleased people wear seatbelts, even in media, but we don't really comment on it unless someone isn't and we notice the tension created by the depiction of a lack of safety it was really nice when society finally decided that endangering people like me with disease that for them might initially seem mild but for us were debilitating or deadly i genuinely cried with grateful joy when I saw people punch those who refused to mask, who refused to be safe, who chose to be dangerous & violent to people like me because people finally understood for a moment what it was like to be like us i had allies! making art! and then as allies do they betrayed me once it became more convenient to pursue their lives and chose to join those being dangerous and violent to those like me I miss that giddy joy, that almost optimism that maybe things were getting better, because art finally saw and included me I wish I'd saved some of it cause it had certainly saved me

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little rant ahead. look, im all for supporting trans people, obviously, but can some of yall realize that not everything is a trans thing. this is mostly about the incredibly large amount of times ive seen people react to gnc people by calling them "eggs". like, can we not do that? first of all calling anyone an egg is kinda weird? trying to predict that people are trans as if you have some kind of radar for it to just immediately clock people before they even come out really reminds me of something..interesting..

anyway please let gnc people just be gnc without making it a trans thing. i ESPECIALLY see this happen with many fem gnc people, other people are SO quick to try and clock them as transfem. and like, maybe they are! but thats for THEM to figure out and decide on. honestly when people do this is just makes me trust them much less lol. people do this with masc gnc people too but i see it way less often. ive seen this happen with even PRONOUN nonconforming people, deciding to experiment and use different pronouns doesnt mean their gender changed and vice versa, cmon guys. let others experiment without immediately trying to pick out parts of their identity. thats just weird

also this is mostly about cis gnc people but ive seen this happen to other trans people too! mostly nonbinary people. which is weird! stop trying to clock people as transfem or transmasc not everything is in the binary! let nonbinary people be fem or masc! let transmascs/trans men be fem too! and let transfems/trans women be masc! let cis people be gnc! let gnc people exist as themselves for fucks sake! im no longer asking

[edit: RADFEMS GET OFF MY POST IM A TRANS WOMAN!!]

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It's a shame the rom-com industry hasn't made more/any plots centering on polycules because like... those would be some fuckin plots. Do you understand the sheer amount of shenanigans, coincidences, funny circumstances, misunderstandings, and heartbreakingly beautiful moments that could come from three or more romantic protagonists? The possibilities are staggering.

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I'm proud of you <3

I don't know who needs to hear this but Im proud of you- I'm proud of the person reading this, you're alive and I know that can be difficult, don't give up, there are people who love you and need you even if you don't feel its true- you are fighting and winning- you are amazing- please keep fighting you gorgeous/handsome/beautiful being.

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Story time!

I saw someone talking about their first pride parade & how kind the people there were, so I thought I'd share what happened to me! I had to go with my mom, and she has no idea that I'm trans (thank goodness she knows I'm pansexual). Before we left the parade, I met this drag queen & asked to take a video with her for my friend. The drag queen was so kind to me! I think she could tell I was really overstimulated & excited, so she just held my hand & told me how gorgeous I was & it was great! She asked me what my pronouns were, & I almost said "he/they," but I caught myself & gave my fake pronouns. After the video, my mom was walking a bit ahead of me, so the drag queen told me, "So I noticed that you were about to use different pronouns in front of your mom, right?" I had nodded and was like "oh shit" but all she said was, "Are your pronouns he/him?" I told her what my pronouns were & she gave me this big hug & was like, "I'm so sorry you can't be your handsome self around your mom, sweetheart. Just remember that you are a gorgeous, handsome boy & that you'll always have a drag queen who loves you if your mom doesn't, okay, honey?"

Long story short, go to pride parades!! The people there are usually so nice & it's usually tons of fun :)