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Anyone know any way of

stopping NSFW/Porn blogs from following me or reblogging my content? It’s exhausting trying to block them all, might have to get rid of this tumblr if I can’t find a way around it.

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Excellent article!

Crossdressing With Your Girl

I’ve been asked a lot recently (and in the past) about how to approach your partner about crossdressing. People have asked this with both male and female partners, however I���m mostly going to talk about girlfriends as I get asked a lot more about them.

I’ve covered this before in a fair amount of detail; today I’ll briefly go over how you should tell them, but importantly how you should act towards them once they know.

Telling Your Girlfriend

There are a few ways to do this, and it mostly depends on how well you know your girlfriend:

1. Just tell her, she won’t have a problem.

2. Ask her about crossdressing, it’ll give you an idea on how she’ll react.

3. Probably shouldn’t tell her, you know she’ll hate it.

If your girlfriend is quite liberal, pro-lgbt and doesn’t believe in gender stereotyping, chances are she won’t really care about your wearing dresses and you can go with option 1. Obviously you will need to have a proper conversation with her, but she won’t actually mind.

If you can’t tell whether your girlfriend with mind or not, take option 2. Ask her about seeing a drag show or watching Ru Paul’s Drag Race, or joke about wearing a dress. She’ll most likely give an opinion on it which will help you in deciding whether you should mention crossdressing or not.

If she is heavily against LGBT and loves you being a ‘manly man’ , go with option 3 (and consider leaving them for their updated mentality). A lot of the time if your girlfriend is like this then she probably won’t appreciate a guy that’s so in touch with their feminine side. I know it’s not nice to hear, but unfortunately not everything can be solved in a simple way.

What Your Girlfriend Will Ask

Once your girlfriend knows it’s very unlikely that she’ll shrug her shoulders and not ask any further. One thing to remember is that she will ask questions; this doesn’t mean that she has a problem with it, she just wants to understand fully what you’ve just told her.

I’ve told 5 girlfriends about my crossdressing and, despite they’re individual reactions, they have all asked the same questions afterwards. 

1. ‘Are you sure you’re not gay?’

Ladies, Gentlemen and everyone in between; allow me to introduce one of the biggest misconceptions around crossdressing.

It isn’t often that I tell someone about me crossdressing and the don’t ask me if I’m gay. Obviously I don’t take it as an insult (after all, nothing wrong with being gay) but it is something I correct them on.

However, when your girlfriend asks, it’s an entirely different matter.

Tell her how you feel about your sexuality, and be honest. I can imagine for the majority of my followers that this applies to would be either bi or straight, but if you’re not 100% sure you need to let your partner know. It also greatly helps to reassure them why you’re dating them in the first place, and that if you didn’t find them attractive, both mentally and physically, then you probably wouldn’t be dating them.

2. ‘Do you want to be a woman?’

Again, another question asked by every girlfriend who knew, although this one is more understandable.

Let me get this out there now; crossdressing does not equal transgender. They are two different things and should be treated as such.

Just like the sexuality question, give them an honest answer about your gender identity. When I told my current girlfriend about crossdressing I also told her that I felt like a combination of both genders (which I now know is genderfluid) but that I’ve never felt a need to transition.

3. ‘Is this a sexual thing?’

Here it is, the question I just laugh too.

Every girlfriend has asked me this and every girlfriend seen me give this look:

I don’t crossdress for fetish or sexual pleasure. I understand that people do and as long as they’re not harming anyone else or being overly perverse then that’s no problem, but it isn’t me.

However, the reactions from my girlfriends after I’ve answered are what surprised me. 

Two answered with exactly what I expected: “OK good, I don’t think I’d be into that.”

Two said something along the lines of “Well, I’d be willing to try it if you wanted…”

One however come straight out with “We’re trying it, go get your makeup on.” Didn’t see that coming…

Regardless of how your girlfriend responds, tell them why it is you crossdress. For some of you it might be a sexual thing, or it might be that you (like me) appreciate women’s fashion and the art of looking feminine. Whatever your reasons, just tell them exactly why. It’ll make them feel more comfortable about you crossdressing.

Ok I tried to keep this one brief and I think I sorta kinda succeeded maybe probably not. Still tried though, that counts for something.

Thanks for having a read! The magazine is still going ahead and I’m hoping to have the first issue out in September (finger’s crossed); if anyone is willing to help with anything just drop me a line and let me know.

I’ll be posting tomorrow with a photoset of the above outfit. Until then, don’t forget to ask me any questions you have and to like and reblog the post!

- Jessica Blaise x x

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Back after a short break - my Sparkle experience.

Hi guys,

Had a bit of a break from this as I’ve been super busy with work. Had a little while now to put my thoughts together on the time I had at Sparkle in Manchester the other weekend. 

For those of you that don’t know, Sparkle weekend is a weekend put together by Sparkle- the National Transgender Charity. The transgender aspect of this encompasses all non binary identities, such as myself. I booked into a hotel not too far from Canal Street where the events were taking place. Had a bit of a nightmare on the drive up and paying for parking, but I got there in the end. I’ve been out in Manchester in girl mode loads of times before so I’m fairly comfortable- it’s a young, liberal city with a great LGBT scene and I’d highly recommend a visit. Went out in the evening with a couple of friends to the bars and clubs along there. Now, one thing I tend to find at these sort of events is they usually have an older crowd than I usually hang with, and this was no exception. This can result in a few things- it’s usually a bit harder to make friends as I have less in common with people, and the musical choices tend to be a bit odd. We bar hopped a bit trying to find something vaguely danceable, ended up in G.A.Y which provided all the tunes I needed. 

Saturday was the day of the ball- one friend went home for personal reasons, so I had an afternoon to myself which was fine, I tend to enjoy my own company. Went to the sparkle site and had a chat with the LGBT foundation who were very helpful, I wish we had that kind of facility in Nottingham. This did leave me to go to the ball by myself, but I’m gutsy enough to do that sort of thing, even if it did mean walking down the road in all my finery. (One little girl did think I was a princess though, which was nice!) I got loads of compliments on my dress (I wore my blue Jovani fishtail one). I made a few new friends at the table, but the venue was so warm I had to get some air. Wigs definitely aren’t designed for warm weather. Having a FIRE dress is a great conversation starter, I befriended 3 young ladies who were there to support that charity, and had a great time dancing to camp hits! 

Sunday I took part in the Miss Sparkle Pageant, and some of my friends came to cheer me on! I didn’t win (I mostly blame this on nerves and forgetting to smile and resting bitch face taking over, the winner was fabulous though and well worthy of the title) but I had great fun, I think just by being on stage and proving that I exist was enough for me! So overall I had fun, not sure I’d do the friday night again as it wasn’t quite unique enough, but I’d definitely do the ball again. 

I’ll type up my thoughts on what I learned over the weekend in a bit.

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Having a ball!

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Out in about in Manchester

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All ready for Sparkle this weekend in Manchester! Got this dress back from the tailors, they’ve done a great job. Admittedly now it’s pretty tight and I can now no longer go up stairs, might be a time to get a stairlift… Love the colour of this dress, it’s from Sherri Hill and I totally didn’t get it in a sale. Ahem.

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This is all wonderful advice.

Rearranging Myself For Comfort

So I’ve been getting a lot of people asking a variety of questions over the last few weeks; I’ve posted some on here and others have been direct messages. A lot of them, while different, all seem to follow a theme; tell me if you can spot it:

- ‘What would you recommend when going out dressed up?’

- ‘Everything is uncomfortable, what should I wear?’

- ‘Should approach my partner/friends about crossdressing?’

Spotted it yet? All of these questions are, at their basic form, about being comfortable as a crossdresser.

During every crossdresser’s life, they’re going to fell uncomfortable; this could be either physically, mentally, or both. I’ve felt it, you’ve probably felt it, everyone feels it.

Is it because crossdressing is something that’s seen as unnatural? As though you’re doing something taboo or forbidden?

Nah.

Let’s be realistic for a second here. We’re living in an age where fashion saw the boundaries of ‘normality’ and waved while they went sprinting right past; a man in a dress, no matter how feminine or masculine they look, is nothing surprising any more.

I’m gonna try not to sound like a bitch here, but it’s not them, it’s you.

So Why Am I Uncomfortable When Dressing Up?

1. Because That Dress Ain’t Right On You

I’ve said this so many times before, but I’m gaining hundreds of followers every week so I’ll say it again for all you newcomers (Hi there by the way).

Dress for your body, not what you want your body to be.

Dresses aren’t magical; they don’t just magically give you curves and hide your shoulders. If you’re going to wear a tight dress that starts just above the cleavage and stops just under the hips, you better make sure you’ve got the body to support it (go look at @abbycatsuk, she’s a perfect example of how this look can be pulled off).

Certain looks (like the short, tight dress one) is such a hard look for crossdressers; even experienced gurls, myself included, have difficulty making it work. It isn’t because you’re not good at crossdressing, it’s because these dresses aren’t made for everyone. There are a lot of actual girls out there that would struggle to wear something like that.

Instead, you should wear something that compliments your body type. @isabelladecarrington has made several great posts about this and, quite frankly, puts it much better than I could. It’s worth reading her work if you want to know how you can dress for a more feminine figure.

If you’re after the TL;DR version, don’t wear something short that will cling to your body unless you’re 100% confident it will work. Instead, try a skater dress, I’m yet to meet a gurl who doesn’t look natural in one.

2. Because you’re hiding something.

I’ve struggled a lot with this. Not just with my current partner but previous girlfriends and even friends. Hiding as a crossdresser, for some people, isn’t a choice but a necessity. However, for others, we hide it simply because we’re nervous of the reactions from those close to us.

When I told my friends I knew there wouldn’t be a negative reaction. I realised later that I struggled to tell them because I had made it into a big deal in my head.

This made me extremely uncomfortable. Any time we met where fashion or makeup was talked about, I felt like I couldn’t join in because I would out myself. At the same time I wanted my friends to know, but I felt I couldn’t tell them only because I had kept it hidden.

It felt like a bigger problem than it should have been because I had kept it a secret for so long…

Unsurprisingly, there’s an easy way around this.

If you feel uncomfortable around people because they don’t you crossdress, just tell them.

So many people don’t really care about it these days. In fact, in a lot of circles, it’s finally getting accepted as something that is simply a hobby, no different to collecting stamps or gardening.

The benefit to this; my friends ask me about Jess all the time. I get asked on a regular basis whether I’ll be going to social events as Jess or not, and sometimes Jess has even been requested to make an appearance.

This might not be a problem if you crossdress as a fetish, but for those of you who feel crossdressing is a part of who you are, it’s certainly worth a try. Worse case scenario, you find out who your real friends are.

3. Because you think people are staring at you.

Let me tell you about the first time I went out as Jess. I was wearing 6-inch platform heels and towered over practically everything and everyone in London (I was asked to change the batteries on Big Ben, I politely declined). I like to think that everything else looked on-point, but being that tall made me stand out.

I got a lot of stares from people when I first left the car, especially from an elderly drunken gentleman who couldn’t figure out if I was a man or an Amazonian. I had a few wolf-whistles and several sexual comments (probably out of jest, but I’ll take it regardless).

After a couple of minutes, I completely forgot I was even wearing a dress.

Confidence can really help here, and I can’t express how much better it was to be surrounded by friends at this point, but after not very long I stopped thinking about everyone else and just how happy I was to be out. People might have still been staring, but I was no longer caring.

The upside of this is that I only got compliments, not insults (to my face at least). Several people came to tell me about how they loved my outfit, some asked about my heeled boots and several people were shocked when they heard my voice and had simply assumed I was just hella tall.

The thing is, the people who don’t like it won’t make themselves known. The people who like/love it will go out of their way to let you know. The first step is the hardest, the rest is just a cat-walk.

Yeah… I’ve gone and dragged this on again haven’t I. 

For those of you who are curious, I’m still contemplating starting the Crossdressing Magazine. I didn’t get as many responses as I wanted but it’s clear that it’s something many of you are interested in.

Regardless, here’s a picture for those of you had the patience to read through this essay of a post (much appreciated).

Yep, those are the tower boots.

I’m going to post a photoset of this outfit tomorrow, so keep your eyes peeled for that. Until then, thanks for reading! I hope this has helped a few of you.

If it has, make sure you reblog for your followers too!

- Jessica Blaise x x

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I really like the necklace with this look.

Emily is ready for the office! I’ve wanted to a look like this for so long! So proud of this look, I can’t wait to go out in it!

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My Makeup Routine

First thing is a really good shave. I go against the grain a little with the razor to get it really close to the skin, it makes stubble much easier to hide. After that I moisturise to keep the skin hydrated and soft - it really helps to have nice skin before applying makeup.

Next is a primer to help the foundation sit- I currently use a Sephora photo ready primer as it’s cheap. I’ve got a mac one for special uses. On top of this I apply an orange colour corrector to hide the blue of the stubble, then use a sponge to even it out. I then powder this with a setting powder to seal it.

The foundation I use here is Mac Pro full coverage foundation which is a creme foundation, very opaque. I use a sponge to apply this, trying to get a good coverage and even out the skin tone, to create a blank canvas. Once this is on, I use a buffing brush to smooth it all out (this step is important).

Usually I go for the brows next - that could be a whole other post. Powder first to remove moisture, then I use Anastacia Beverly Hills dip brow and a small angled brush to draw them in, and elongate the tail.

I do contour in two stages -wet using a stick, and dry with a powder. The stick I have has light on one side for highlight, and shadow on the other, this one was from Etude House which is Korean. I draw where I want to shade/highlight then carefully blend with a sponge.

2nd part of contour I usually do later.

For eyes I first prime with urban decay primer, to help the shadow stay. For this one I used the urban decay Naked 2 palette, I’d recommend that. Use a round brush to apply gold on the lid, then a darker colour into the crease, then blend with a Mac 217. A lighter colour on the browbone and inner corner of the eyes too. Used a bit of gold under the eye too.

I use Maybelline gel liner, I find this is a really good drugstore level product. It takes practice but is worth it.to do the wings. Kohl pencil on the lashlines, smudge the lower one slightly.

Now I go for the second lot of contour - starting with shadow and building that up where I want to minimise areas - in my case the jawline. Big tip for blending - my MUA friend told me to blend like into like, so powder into powders, creme into creme. For this I use a light powder to act as a lighter tone to blend into. I apply highlight on top of this, mostly on cheekbone. After this blending where needed with a soft brush. (notice how much I mention blending? This shit’s important).

I put blush on next, this one is a mac one, using a blusher brush. I avoid too much, it’s just to add a bit of colour.

When I’m happy with my face shape, I apply a layer of powder. This sets it, and helps get that airbrushed type look.

Lips are the last thing, this is a Mac retro matte lipstick, I didn’t use lip liner here but I should have really to help get a better line. I seal this by pressing a piece of kitchen towel on them to get rid of any excess.

Also lighting is really important, there was lovely soft morning light here which is great for photos. It’s much harder to get a good look using artificial light.

Hope this helps any of you who are wondering what to do with makeup. The above takes me about 45 minutes, would take longer but certain things such as contour are pretty much in memory.

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I love this skirt! Anyone know where it's from?

Dove Cameron for Tigerbeat

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I would to totally be interested in this.

Crossdressing Magazine

Quick question:

If I were to start an online Crossdressing Magazine with a subscription fee of £2 a month, would people be into that?

Answers:

- Yes

- No

- Yes, but for … price.

I’d be really grateful if people could take a couple of seconds to answer this.

Pretty Please?

Here’s a picture for your trouble x

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The De Carrington Dressing Guide Part 3

Hey y’all, it’s part 3 of my guide to helping those that want to look elegant and well dressed, rather than a pile of soiled laundry. For those that missed them: Part One Part Two

Proportional Representation 

Today I’m going to be talking about proportions. That is, looking like everything is the right size and you don’t look gangly, squished, or a nightmarish combination of the two. 

So let’s get out some candles, stand in front of a mirror and whisper the words ‘Shazza and Bazza’ 3 times.... and as if by magic, our glamorous models appear. 

First up, let’s look at where the waist sits. On Shazza, our female model, the elbows and the waist are roughly in line with each other, but on Bazza, the elbows are noticeable higher than the waist. 

Bazza’s male torso is also noticeably longer than the female figure. 

How can we even this out?

Creating a waist

On my outfits I will almost always have a waist. Without this the torso has no definite ‘end point’ and will look longer. Even a simple belt breaks up the mass of the torso, and helps create more of an hourglass silhouette. Without a defined waist there is a much greater risk of looking ‘barrel-like’.

(a belt creates more of an hourglass figure and shortens the torso)

If we shift the waist up to closer where the elbows are, we can create a more feminine figure. The effect is also accentuated if you use padding and or corsetry. (Dresses with built in boning are also great for this.)

I’d also recommend tucking your top into your skirt as well, to create the contrast between the two, again creating that important waist. 

If you have the guts to try it, or rather, lack of gut, you can also use a crop top to make the torso seem a bit shorter. 

(a crop top can shorten the torso)

Do these things:

Wear clothes with a defined waist

Use a belt

Tuck your shirt in

Wear the waistband a little higher than you would in boy mode

Wear dark colours on the top half

Eat sensibly and exercise

Don’t do these things:

Go for empire line dresses

Wear anything that looks like a tent

Wear horizontal stripes that will make your torso seem broad

Wear a baggy top and tight skirt

Binge on pies

Hemlines

Right, this is one of my gripes with a lot of people that want to try and appear feminine- wearing a skirt that is far too short, especially tight ones. This will make you look very top heavy! It’s also trashy and not very classy, more Wednesday in Bognor than weekend in Paris. But here’s a simple rule to avoid looking like something that’s escaped from a 1980s Bon Jovi video..

Your skirt’s hem should be lower than your fingertips if you stand with your hands by your side.

Easy as that. This can make it harder to find skirts that fit, as we’re generally taller, but if it doesn’t fit, don’t buy it, or give it to a shorter friend. 

(I don’t go any shorter than this)

With other lengths of skirts there’s less rules, though generally I’d avoid anything that hits between your ankles and mid shin, that’s prime frump territory. 

The most flattering length on myself I find is just below the knee, as it seems to show off my frame and height, though someone shorter would probably look a bit swamped by some of these looks. Generally if you wear something below the knee I’d suggest heels, but with some more streetwear orientated looks you can get away with flats if you have cool shoes.

That’s it for the moment. Shout me if you have any questions or areas you might want me to cover.

Keep it regal

IdC

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DeCarrington Dressing Guide Part Two

As promised, it’s part two of the DCDG! Want to look more like an elegant lady and less like a dumpster fire? Then read on.

In part one, I talked about some basics between male and female shapes, which I’m going to go into a bit more detail on today.

Shoulders to Hip Ratio 

Take a look at these two below. I’ve used ‘lines’ on a ‘computer’ to draw a line down from where the edge of the shoulder would be, more or less in line with the clavicle. (Apologies for the shutterstockness, I am too poor to spend money on stockphotos for the purpose like this)

As we can see, on the male figure there is a clear space between the line and the hips, whilst the wider hips of the female character do not have this. What we need to do is either make the shoulders appear smaller, or the hips bigger, or ideally, both. So lets look at options.

Making shoulders appear smaller.

If we think of the male torso as being an “inverted v” shape, this is what leads to top heaviness in looks i.e. too much going on up top, not enough below the waist (THAT’S WHAT SHE SAID) So to neutralise, this, we use the opposite shape with clothes. That is, less towards the shoulders, and more towards the waist and below.

Of course I don’t mean literally, or we’d end up looking like this:

BACK ON TRACK Remember that bit from part one about dark colours receding? Well, that’s what we’re going to use here. Using dark colours on the top half will create the illusion of them being smaller, especially if you are wearing a lighter coloured skirt for example. One thing I do often is to wear a black skinny jacket, to hide arms and shrink my top half.

Certain necklines will work better to minimise chunky shoulders- V necks make the torso appear longer, as do most plunging necklines. Halter tops are great too (90s revival is in at the moment) and scoop necks soften necklines. Just make sure you shave your chest though! 

There are definitely shapes to avoid though- bardot tops are everywhere at the moment, and sadly these are a no no if you have broad shoulders, the visible skin will make your shoulders look broad. Same with wide boat necks. Strapless dresses will also make you look broad, which can make finding prom dresses a pain! (You can hide them with a bolero or shrug though.)

Look for these things:

V necks

Halter Tops

Wide straps

Diagonal sleeves

Kimono sleeves

Narrow lapels and collars

Long necklaces

Avoid these:

Bardot tops

Strapless tops

Wide necklines

Thin straps

Ruffled/detailed/embellished shoulders

Shoulder pads

Wide collars/lapels

Strapless dress? Use a bolero to hide them shoulders. 

Making the hips appear wider.

Once, again we can use optical illusions to alter our silhouettes. Have you heard that a short person should never wear horizontal stripes? Well, that’s cos the’ll make things appear wider, which is ideal for us. Horizontal striped skirts have this effect. Perfect!

Certain skirt shapes will be better too, skirts with a bit of volume are much easier to style then pencil skirts. This is another article in itself! 

There is another weapon though:

Padding

To push the shoulder to hip ratio to a slightly more workable one, what you can do is use padding. I usually wear padded boyshorts, as they help give me a bit more hip and bum. If I’m wearing a pencil skirt I’ll often put a little bit of extra foam padding in them too to create curves.

There’s also stick on silicon hip pads you can get, but they’re pretty pricey so I’ve not tried them yet. (Maybe I should get an amazon wishlist and put some on it!) 

Using a combination of the above, plus if you are lucky with genetics, you may be able to break some of the above rules, but generally I stick to the above.

Next time I think I’ll look at creating a waist, and proportions. 

Keep it Regal

IdC

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DeCarrington Dressing Guide Part One

Alright baes,

Some of my acquaintances have asked me to put together a guide on how to dress in girl mode, as female fashion can be a bit overwhelming at first. (I’m always personally quite surprised when guys wanting to appear female have no idea what kind of look they want to go for and haven’t taken an interest in makeup or fashion, as this is a huge part of the appeal for me.)  Basics - Male v Female Shape

Ok, first up, unless you’re some kind of teenager, chances are you’ll have a body which has very different proportions from your average high st mannequin. Have you ever heard the expression ‘Dressing for Your Shape’? This is essential if you want to avoid looking like a rugby player in bad drag.

Using the magic of google image search, let’s have a gander at a male vs female shape. 

Even with their frankly terrifying blank expressionless faces, it’s apparent which is the male and which is the female. (Even as a non binary, we still tend to have the physical characteristics of our assigned gender.) What we need to do is be clever, and minimise things that will highlight the male body, such as the broader shoulders and lack of hip, and accentuate areas that will give a more feminine shape, like creating a waist. Also padding helps, but there’s only so much that will do. A bit of colour theory

How can we minimise areas with drastic and dangerous DIY surgery I hear you ask!? Well, fear not, there is a way of doing this. And it’s using colours and patterns. It is based on how some colours make things look smaller. 

Black and darker colours recede- which means they will make areas feel smaller. This is perfect when it comes to hiding larger areas that we seek to minimise. Lighter and brighter colours draw the eye and gain attention, and away from those parts of the body that may give the game away. Got it? Good. Let’s put this into practise by looking at each area of the body: Shoulders - You want to hide them if possible! Dark colours here, a long sleeved black top is ideal here.

Torso - Again, dark colours. Males have a wider ribcage, which will be concealed. Corsets can help of course, but not particularly for day to day wear, unless you’re like a Victorian Ghost. 

Waist - This is one thing guys usually lack - a waist. What we have to do is create one, it also helps break up the longer torso. Brightly coloured or snazzy belts are great.

Bottoms - This is the best point to counteract top heaviness, so a brightly coloured skirt is ideal for that! Avoid something dark and tight, which will make your lower half disappear.

Here’s some examples of outfits using a dark top and coloured bottom. Notice the contrast between the two also creates a waist.

That’s it for now. I’ll be going into more detail over the next few weeks. If there’s any questions you have, please ask me! Laterzzz

IdC

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Absolutely agree with this - drag has been very important to me in helping me find my identity. Drag is for everyone.

drag queens are not transgender women. drag is based off the man in a dress trope and is inherently transphobic. drag is a performance, not a gender identity. transgender women are not drag queens.

sorry to burst your bubble by telling you you’re wrong but… you’re wrong. drag shaped the lgbt community from the beginning and isn’t based off of transphobia. maybe you need to do some digging into lgbt history. you can be a trans woman and a drag queen at the same time, because drag is a form of art. most of the people who do drag are a form of nonbinary or trans women. some trans men do drag, cis women can do drag, it’s art.

take violet chachki for example, identifies as nonbinary and uses any pronouns, jinkx monsoon, nonbinary (uses they/them), jiggly caliente, trans woman, carmen carerra, trans woman, adore delano, genderfluid + countless others who still do drag and identify as drag queens.

peppermint self identifies as a trans woman who is also a drag queen. you’d know that if you watched drag race which i doubt you do based on how uninformed you are. she came into the competition out as a trans woman who is proud to be a trans woman and a drag queen and blur the lines and mix the two. if you don’t like that, take it up with her on her twitter @/peppermint247, not me.

“check your lipstick before you come for me”- jiggly caliente