I will never get over how weird it feels to have tragic and emotional chapters of your life where you just also still go to work, and the grocery store, and see funny videos online all while feeling such paralyzing fear and heartache
This is exactly why misandry does not and cannot exist. When people complain about things like 'oh feminism is why divorces are so unfair for men', they completely jump over the fact that that society is designed to view men as naturally more aggressive and hostile, its designed to see the woman as weaker and helpless. This isn't a flaw of feminism, this is the result of a substantial lack of it. Feminism highlights the way that men behave is bad simply because men are raised badly and we, as a society, need to raise them better - the "male loneliness epidemic" is caused by those men rejecting the feminism that exists for their own benefit. Misandry as a concept exists because people don't understand that the benefit of treating women and feminity better extends to everyone. Trans people come at the core of feminism and TERFs go directly against it by having convinced themselves that femininity is degrading and men are naturally threatening - the exact same things that feminism should be dismantling.
the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.