jay-the-muppet

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I work retail, and have for many years now. I'm not an easily fazed person and have a Talk No Shit, Take No Shit mentality. However, I also have a pretty intense anxiety disorder on top of other mental health issues and when I started 6+ years ago there were some customers who got to me.

So, to all the workers facing Karens and Kens out in the wild, here's my advice - cry.

If you have the type of relationships with your coworkers and managers that will support you, don't try to hold it in. Cry like the overworked, underpaid peon you are.

Nothing terrifies an asshole Karen like the indisputable proof that their actions/words are affecting you as a real live person. They feel perfectly entitled to cuss out a cashier over a wrong order/no cash policy/ face mask mandate but when that person starts to cry and asks them why they'd say such mean things? A whole other story, my friend.

There's no way to make that situation look good to the manager they demanded to speak with, either. My manager literally got a security guard fired for being so verbally abusive he made one of her employees cry.

This strategy has multiple benefits -

1. You're not standing there trying to pen up your emotions, crying is a great physical release for negative emotions and you may very well feel somewhat better afterwards.

2. The person who precipitated the situation is forced to not only see you as a person with feelings, but also has to confront the fact that their abuse has consequences beyond themselves.

3. It can actually give your higher-ups leverage to address these situations. 'They yelled at my employee' is one thing, but 'They yelled at my employee until they were in tears' is a waaaaay worse offense. A good manager can use that. Hell, it can get a security guard fired!

tl;dr: We live in a capitalist hell but we can work the system and cry at work to shame awful customers

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Why isn't "too scary" a good enough reason to never drive a car

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i know all about allistic people. they really love loud sudden noises and bad textures

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when you get a puppy, you don't really think about them getting old one day, you don't think how one day their fur will turn grey and they won't be able to jump on you anymore when you come home, they won't be able to jump on the couch, they won't bark as much because they won't hear as well as they used to, their eyesight will worsen, the walks you take will become shorter. their legs will get weaker until they can't keep them up anymore. they don't really understand what's happening to them because inside, they're still that same puppy you brought home all those years ago. but you know and it hurts. you don't think about those things, you don't think about having to say goodbye one day. and maybe that's for the better, because the love they give you while they're here is worth all the pain they leave once they're gone.

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i like when you watch a video essay from 5+ years ago and they make a joke/apologize for how long the video is and the runtime is like. 35 minutes. when we now live in an era of 3 hour intricate breakdowns of bad kids shows being everywhere.

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tumblr is basically a gay bar in a mental institute

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Today a very friendly Golden Retriever came up to me and I said "hey buddy :D" and the owner asked "do you know each other?" like his dog had a social life he didn't know about

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You ever go to the store and see two men and just decide, yeah those two are probably gay

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Sorry for the unexpected pivot, I said my piece and I want to try and keep this blog more light hearted

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Small shaggy horses adapted to harshly cold climates are so woefully neglected in historical/fantasy media

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So-called "free thinkers" when their friend has to pee

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GIRL WITH A DOLL'S HEAD. Capels, West Virginia, 1968, from the Appalachia series "The Troubled Earth" by Arthur Tress

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once i figure out how to do anatomy and facial expressions and proportion and foreshortening and basic perspective and color theory and composition then youll all be sorry

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youre not “bad at art” you just need to find a character to latch onto to where you draw them 1 million times and you improve dramatically

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nothing scarier than being a fan of a fic and then becoming mutuals with the author. like hi shakespeare. big fan of your fake dating au