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Losing my mind at this van that's formatted like a fucking meme

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big fan of this image

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I'm So FAB

Yesterday, I spotted someone saying the quiet bit out loud while relitigating the utility of terminology referring to sex-assigned-at-birth: That they used 'AFAB' as shorthand for 'anyone perceived as a woman'.

So we did it, everyone! We found the mythical AFAB transfem, and apprently I was her all along. Round of applause, let's all pack it in and go home.

For anyone paying even the slightest attention, however, it becomes pretty obvious why this is absurd: plenty of trans women are perceived as women, and the assumption or idea that we aren't stems from an unexamined belief that our 'maleness' is always evident or perceptible. We Can Always Tell in pseudoprogressive jargon.

This, here, is the fundamental issue with sex-assigned-as-birth, as queer communities and putative trans allies use it: 'AFAB' and 'AMAB' are considered to be more homogenous, meaningful categories than they actually are. 'AFAB' means 'women and diet women' to many, and 'AMAB' just means 'men and those playing dress-up'.

I've stated this in longer terms elsewhere, but I'll just be blunt: 'AFAB' is considered to be a relevant category even by many trans people because they want to talk about reproductive exploitation. They conceptualize misogyny as synonymous with the process of being regendered, of presumed gestational capacity and the way patriarchy lays claim to the reproductive autonomy of such individuals while marking them inferior.

This synonymization leads naturally to presuming 'AMAB' to be an equally-relevant category, because surely trans women, due to not experiencing this reproductive exploitation, share something fundamentally in common with cis men, whether in terms 'socialization' or societal treatment? Surely, the unsaid subtext goes, trans women are women-but-less, because the misogyny trans women experience (if people even admit that trans women experience misogyny at all) is of this lesser, less severe kind?

These assumptions are both disappointing, infuriating, and lie at the core of a lot of erasure inherent to transmisogyny. Cis men oppress, exploit, violate, beat, and otherwise thoroughly exclude trans women, making it known that trans women (and even many queer cis men) do not have a claim to the same kind of manhood that they do. Our affinity for and claims towards womanhood may not be honored with recognition, but they are punished with violence, and the idea of 'AMAB' being a meaningful grouping at all is ludicrous.

Meanwhile, the obvious remains unstated: while this supposed commonality in reproductive exploitation is the rationale underlying the presumed relevance of 'AFAB', not everyone assigned female at birth can gestate. Yet, there are not lengthy debates on the womanhood of such individuals, or whether they're subject to misogyny---no one entertains the idea that you stop experiencing misogyny when your tubes are tied, or you experience menopause.

So perhaps it's obvious that reproductive exploitation, while central to how we organize sex-castes, is not the be-all-end-all of who is subject to misogyny and womanization, and perhaps we should stop reinforcing the idea that sex-assigned-at-birth fully describes the kinds of patriarchal violence one experiences. We can be more precise, more inclusive, more feminist, and less essentialistic all at once.

You just have to stop clinging to cissexism.

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I find it really funny that any time a game has a trans woman as a playable character it immediately becomes a symbol of transfemininity to people (Celeste, Bridget from GGST), but the one time this didn't happen was with Fear & Hunger. I like to imagine the reddit r/traa community collectively came across Marina and were like "omg yes! another awesome transfem character i can't wait to check out the ga-"

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this is racist on its own but i think what always gets me about these types of posts is (and i realize this is a very surface level observation but) you never see people on here say "western live-action dramas are the high school girls in underwear medium" people will critique riverdale or pretty little liars or supernatural or the such individually but the issue is almost always attributed to the specific piece of media or the writers and not the medium as a whole despite the fact that a large amount of these examples do in fact do the same things people constantly act like are unique flaws of anime (misogyny, sexualization of high school characters, romanticization of underage characters getting with overage ones, ect.) it's all just very blatant

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⟢every empty spaces post⟣

Doll: Miss we need this girl to Become

Witch: Did you try the Stillness Drug?

Doll: This one did try the Stillness Drug! Witch: Only stupid entities try the Stillness Drug. You are stupid.

Angel: I gave patient Religious Guilt Drug! Witch: You are a trauma metaphor. Angel: I'm sorry. Very confused tgirl: I have blood from my nose that is dripping

Hound: That's bad :(

Tgirl: Also I was bitten by moths due to my poor self esteem

Handler: You need Agency Drug. Also I have not spoken in a while

Witch: No! Agency Drug will kill her. She needs moth bites to live.

Doll: *Shocked* Hound: *Shocked* Angel: *Apologetic*

Witch: More moth bites! Handler: I forbid this. Witch: I don't care. Doll: *Gets moths* Witch: *Makes moth bite serum* Tgirl: This one feels better. No more nose blood! Thank you miss!

Witch: I am very smart. Spider: I, too, am in this post. Angel: I'm sorry.

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The Dungeons & Dragons paladin is objectively the funniest class because at first glance it seems like an artefact of an earlier age of the fantasy genre for which contemporary inspirations are thin on the ground, but then you dig into its thematic core and realise there are contemporary popular media characters who almost perfectly fit the mould, but like 80% of them are deeply unwell teenage lesbians.

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carla: sipping u. im sipping u. im drinking u up im sipping u im sipping u and there's nothing u can do about it

handler water: what

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Blåhaj Girl Summer 🏖️

This months patreon postcard alongside the two other blahaj stickers. You can get them in the mail by joining the werewolf tier before the end of the month!

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Every time I sleep with my boyfriend I imagine him as a woman instead. What do I do?

lock in

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your genitals don't define your gender. i do. you're a girl. get on estrogen immediately

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"Reinventing the Gender Binary"

CWs: Rape, fetishization, impregnation by assault, dehumanization, transmisogynistic degendering, misappropriating the language of racial justice, objectification, and worst of all, "infighting". I'm going to do something stupid---post about transfeminism on Tumblr again. The following is transcribed from two Bluesky threads:

I have a story.

About how "transfeminists reinvented the gender binary". About how "every trans person is subject to transmisogyny". About how "we're all faggots, deviants, perverts, so why demand specificity?" It begins with a transmasc individual saying "chicks with dicks" isn't offensive.

See, this individual identified as a chick with a dick. Or a man with a vag, depending. They revealed a lot about themselves over the course of the argument with a trans women. They were 19, married, a parent, and never availed of any transition care. They didn't consider this term dehumanizing.

When the trans woman they were arguing with told them that they didn't have the authority to deem whether a term fetishizing her was dehumanizing or not, they got very nasty. Trans women did not have any special claim over 'chick with dick', and to say so was to practically misgender them.

So justified, they talked about how trans women *are* just a sexual identity, a kink identity, and we did not have any special authority over transphobia or transmisogyny. Unlike them, who experienced real oppression. This is where they strongly implied that they had been impregnated by assault.

That's deeply traumatic, and violent, and something no trans woman will experience. So therefore, of course, we have no epistemic authority over misogyny. Or transphobia. Or sexual assault, and fetishization. Our suffering is always going to be a subset of "real" misogyny, see. Because no wombs.

This individual is young, and they do not know they are a TERF. Trans identity, to them, is a mask, a way to "escape being gendered". Oppression to them is intrinsically linked to reproductive exploitation, which is synonymous with misogyny, and trans women don't experience that. We costume.

Every time I hear someone say that "we've reinvented the gender binary", I sigh deeply. We never needed to reinvent it. Trans women, in the midst of the most queervoid-y of spaces, have always keenly been aware that our claims of oppression and experiencing misogyny are rarely believed.

You can say this was a young individual---but where are they going to learn better? Who is going to tell them that trans women's oppression isn't a costume, isn't a stigma for a kink, is more than just a mask we put on? That we are, meaningfully, women? Even without the wombs?

The gender binary is already there. The queervoided social spaces always cease to be queervoided when a tranny walks in, because these spaces recognize true trans people yearning to be free from (re)gendering and oppression, and "male pretenders who want to be gender I wish to escape, the freaks".

I am not the one who made the gender binary important. I am not the one who tolerated TERFs in my spaces, who encouraged the uncritical adoption of naturalized sex split from gender, and promoted a model of misogyny intrinsically tied to reproductive injustice.

I am the one who is offal.

Trans women are women who cannot be reproductive exploited, and we are too tainted to be allowed to be men ever again. So we are trash. Even to queervoids, because their "beyond the binary" ends at the threshold of a tranny demanding respect.

You think you are beyond sex? You think you have eliminated the need to divine what kind of gendered violence an individual is subject to?

I don't believe you.

I don't believe you, because I have seen gendervoids enact this violence on trannies, time and time again.

I don't believe you are beyond gender.

[Red, in a different post]:

I don't believe you are beyond gender.

I don't believe you are beyond gender.

YOU MARK ME AND MINE IN THE SAME WAY THE CIS DO, IN THE SAME WAY OUR MOST DEDICATED EXTERMINATIONIST FOES DO, AND YOU HAVE THE SHEER, UNREPENTANT, UTTER GALL TO PRETEND YOU ARE IN ANY WAY MORE ENLIGHTENED THAN THE GUTTER OF THE PATRIARCHY YOU EMERGED FROM?

You are not beyond gender.

Fuck your pronouns. You treat a tranny like this, your gender is fucking "sexist". Piss on your "gender abolition". It's worth nothing.

I will, in fact, be even blunter:

Trans women are not trying to say transmisogyny is "the worst oppression". We gave up on trying to stress the severity of it a long time ago. We are, at this point, trying to communicate that we *are oppressed at all*, to people who refuse to believe it.

I have seen fifty-year old men pull out the "I was a woman longer than you, tranny" card. I've seen people of every identity and experience go "I'll always be more of a woman than you, tranny, and don't you fucking forget it." Trans women are surveilled, scrutinized, targeted, and not believed.

The most gender-enlightened of us all refuse to deign to recognize trans women as meaningfully impacted by misogyny, as anything but second-class citizens of womanhood and feminism, as meaningfully oppressed because we are woman-gendered, sure, maybe, but we are not FEMALE.

And we notice that.

Then when we notice that even fellow trans people are more willing to self-regender to talk over us than BELIEVE US ABOUT OUR OWN LIVES AND OPPRESSION, or GRANT US THE PRIVILEGE OF SPEAKING AS THEIR EQUALS IN THE STRUGGLE AGAINST PATRIARCHY, we are called "divisive".

Fuck that.

Hear me, here and now: You will get nowhere but a singularity of a "gender-enlightened" movement collapsing in on itself because for all the yearning for a post-gender existence, no one is willing to grant the tranny the dignity of womanhood, to admit that she, too, suffers AS a woman.

If you want to tie the core of misogynistic oppression to reproduction and deem transness as nothing more than "gender-play", fine. I wish you luck.

Cassandra has spoken.