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PREDICIENDO MI FUTURO

It does not matter what kind of family one belongs to. It is all equal as long as there are caring and acceptance. You may be from a joint family, same-sex partner family, nuclear family, it is all the same. The relationships we have with our members make our family strong. We all have unique relations with each family member. In addition to other things, a family is the strongest unit in one’s life. Having a family is a blessing not everyone is fortunate enough to have. However, those who do, sometimes do not value this blessing. Some people spend time away from the family in order to become independent. 

In the future If I will be given a chance to have a family I will give my best to be a good parents. I will apply all the lessons that I learned from our subject which is the Developmental Psychology class taught by Ms. Sheena Marione T. Nazareno, RPM. Moving forward, I just want to have 2 kids but if God give me more, that could be a big blessings. And for me, I will get married by the age range of 28 to 30. 

 I will study well and hard to achieve my dream job first, I’ll work in the rehabilitation facility. Second, In the Mental Hospital. And lastly, If I didn’t get that two job I will work on in the Industry and push Industrial Psychology. I think the job that  even if I am not paid and would still be willing to do that will be assessing/working at the Home of the aged or in the Bahay Ampunan (Orphanages). For me, It is really satisfying working on that field because you tend to love them and at the same time you will share your love and care to others and most especially you will have a new family that has different and amazing life stories from a different family. And you will become instrument to inspire them and to keep them going amidst of the struggles that they are experienced in the past.

On my retirement if God still allow me to live. First I need to withdraw all of my insurances and I will just remain the Memorial and my St. Peter so that if I will die my family that left will not having a hard time to look for a money just to prepare for my wake. Going back, after I will withdraw all of my insurances I will continue to support my family and relatives and most especially I will continue to travel around the world just to see and feel my hard work on the past years.

prediciendo mi futuro (predicting my future)

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LOVE OF MY LIFE

Dear Mama&Papa,

I hope you guys are doing well!

 It is really amazing living in this world and I really appreciate and give thanks to my parents. Thank you for the support, whether it be financial or emotional. Thank you for believing in me even when I have doubted myself. Thank you for giving everything we need despite the struggles we faced. No words can describe how much thankful I am to be one of your children.  I would also like to say sorry if I become someone whom you've never expected me to become. But trust me, I am still the son that you guys have known.

 I'm really sorry for the unlawful actions. It makes me feel awful when you're mad or disappointed with me. I know that I made a mistake. That kind of behavior is disrespectful and mean and I promise not to do it again. I know that you love me and want what's best for me, and I'll try to remember that the next time I get mad. I want to be able to tell you how I feel, but next time I won't do any actions that can cause heavy in your hearts because I know that it's wrong.

 I don’t wanna take too much time of this because I am not really open and expressive to the both of you but rest assured you can feel my sincerity when I take actions. Again, thank you so much and sorry for everything.

 Love, 

 John Mark A. Lomantas

Your Favorite Son

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THE FUTURE'S PLAN

I know that I am the one who is shaping and making path with my future. But it is really scared to think that after graduation you will be one of the unemployed and that is one of the challenging as a fresh graduate. But for me, after graduation I'll enroll to review center and take BLEPP and get the RPm just like maam Sheena on her last name and that's really amaze me. Of course, I am really scared to face the future because we really don't know what our future holds I will just keep my mind focus on the present that can shape my future and also somewhat excited because new journey of life has gone and another journey and battle is opening that needs to fight and win it.

In facing our future we need to have a goal that is part of the growth process in becoming an adult. What’s often underappreciated, however, is what it takes to achieve those goals. And also,You can’t know everything, nor can you anticipate every possible circumstance before working on your goals. Succeeding in important life goals involves acknowledging, allowing and even accepting that you’ll make errors, mistakes, fall short on some aspects, perhaps undershoot the mark.

And I always like and believe on this quote"Having an aim is the key to achieving your best.” – Henry J. Kaiser

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Mi Vida De La Escuela Secundaria (High School Life)

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According to the famous quote,” High school it may be annoying/awkward/irritating/etc., But admit it, you’re going to miss it when it ends’’.

I always adhere or agree with the quote above because I really miss it.Going back to my high school life at Daniel R. Aguinaldo National High School, it was really a roller coaster ride because I can say that it was really fun and somewhat frustrating. HS life thought me how to become independent because during this journey no more parent that sent me to school I need to go to school alone and budget my allowance. Also, along the way I met circle of friends that become family. We go together in lunch and even going to restroom. We shared  a lot of memories that’s for 4 years in High school life.

But what most I like during my High school life was the award and also the responsibility I was President when I was Grade 7 meaning to say I lead to my classmates about the progress in our classroom and also trusted student of our adviser. When I was Grade 8 I was the president also and I run for SSG officer all over the campus and luckily I won it and another responsibility and duty and needs to fulfill but it was really satisfying. When I was Grade 9 I was the president of the section and at the same time Grade 9 representative and it was really tiring because after school we need to stay to school to check the cleanliness of each classrooms of grade 9 but still happy with my co officers.Lastly, When I was grade 10 I was the president and also where I met my lifetime friends become family that even up to now we still keep in touch and even our adviser he’s also member of our team. But Above all along the leadership I manage to be on the Honors list despite of the influenced of peers and pressured of being student leader.

And that’s all about my high school life. Thank you for giving time to read.  Mi Vida De La Escuela Secundaria (High School Life) 

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OCEAN: ME, DURING ELEMENTARY YEARS

When I was in elementary, as what I have mentioned on my previous article I am really  curious, open to trying new things, and  focused on tackling new challenges. I asked my elementary classmates about this one. And yes they said I was the founder of all our adventures moments during our elementary days. And they said I was really on going person. In line with this, I am also very oc, in where I spends time preparing, finishes important tasks right away, pays attention to detail and enjoys having a set schedule. I want to make things organize so that the things will go smoothly in accordance with my plans even up until now I have that traits. Also, I am really sociable, I asked my elementary closest friends about this and they said that I  likes to start conversations ,  enjoys meeting new people ,  has a wide social circle of friends and acquaintances, finds it easy to make new friends, feels energized when around other people, and say things before thinking about them. Again even up until now I have this kind of traits and I verify this one to my family and my college closest friends. I also have this personality when I was in my elementary years that I had a great deal of interest in other people, feels empathy and concern for other people, and  enjoys helping and contributing to the happiness of other people. And my best, favorite and memorable memory during my elementary years, that was our foundation day on the morning we spent at school joining the activities and so on. And after that we planned to go to jack’s ridge since that is the nearest resort to our school (GSIS Heights Elementary School). And all was agreed to join (Please see the attached photo above) from our school to jack’s ridge we walk until we reached our destination along the way we shared laughs and jokes that we can treasured. And I can say that that was my best, favorite and memorable memory because that was the first time to go outing without my family.

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VENTUS MEMORIAE(Favorite Memory)

Memory refers to the processes that are used to acquire, store, retain, and later retrieve information. There are three major processes involved in memory: encoding, storage, and retrieval.

Childhood memory refers to memories formed during childhood. Among its other roles, memory functions to guide present behavior and to predict future outcomes. Memory in childhood is qualitatively and quantitatively different from the memories formed and retrieved in late adolescence and the adult years.

Focus on the photo below, this is one of my favorite memory and I can still recall about what happened on this day. This was was on March 2013, this is our Elementary graduation I was so happy, excited, and nervous during that time it is because it is our biggest day of our life. This day we cried and we laugh a lot because we felt that we gonna separate our journey and afraid of that we might not see each other anymore. These two people besides they are my closest friends among my classmates. We shared secrets, our parents knew each other, we are outgoing, sportsmanship, we cared to each other, and they are smart I am smart also but not the same to them. This is one of my happiest moments of my life. Because we are looking forward on our Junior High School journey. More responsibility and of course we will take it accordingly. And now, that we our on our 20′s we still get in touch to each other together with my batchmates. And we are looking forward to our success and more memories.

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PARENTING STYLE

In modern society, many aspects of life have become increasingly similar around the world one of the rare exceptions to this is probably the way we parent our children. When it comes to family life, everyone strives to figure out how the relationship between parents and children can become ideal. Positive parenting techniques work well for raising children with discipline and good moral values, and are every parents’ dream. However, it is not an easy feat. And it is important to know that the parent child relationship is a two-way street, in other words, it is actually a partnership between a parent and their child.

Permissive parenting style- a style of parenting is high in nurturance and low in maturity demands, control, and communication.

Authoritarian parenting style- a style of parenting that is low in nurturance and communication, but high in control and maturity demands.

Authoritative parenting style-a style of parenting that is high in nurturance, maturity demands, control, and communication

Uninvolved parenting style- a style of parenting that is low in nurturance, maturity demands, control, and communication.

Among these four parenting style, my parents parenting style is the Authoritative parenting style. My parents, when I was a child they are all looking for my betterment and as I grow they are choosing the best for me. My parents are  authoritative parents and they have high expectations for me\us, they also give me\us  the resources and support we need to succeed. They listen to me\us and provide love and warmth in addition to limits and fair discipline. And I believe that this approach to parenting avoids punishment and threats and instead relies on strategies such as positive reinforcement. And I will follow this kind of parenting style because it shapes a child to become a better person.

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TEMPERAMENT: THROWBACK ME

What Is Temperament?

Temperament is a child’s early-appearing variation in emotional responses and reaction to the environment.

Going back to my childhood journey, I asked my Mom, Dad and Grandma about my temperament among the all temperament they do have the same answer and that is Easy Child/ Easy temperament. According to them, when I was a child I was an easy going child. I can adopt to any changes without any circumstances. And my regular bodily functions, I am positive approach to new situations, adaptability, positive mood and non-intense reaction to stimuli. Also, they said that I am outgoing child even though I didn’t know that person I still go to that person without hesitation. I miss those moments!

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Mary Ainsworth’s Attachment Patterns

In psychology, the theory of attachment can be applied to adult and child relationships including friendships, emotional affairs, and adult romantic or platonic relationships and in some cases relationships with inanimate objects . Attachment theory, initially studied in the 1960s and 1970s primarily in the context of children and parents, was extended to adult relationships in the late 1980s.

Four main styles of attachment have been identified in adults:

         Secure attachment

        Avoidant attachment

        Ambivalent attachment

        Disorganized attachment

Once a child has developed a clear attachment, at about 6 to 8 months of age, several related behaviors also begin appearing. Stranger anxiety and separation anxiety, attachment behaviors that are rare before 5 to 6 months, rise in frequency until about 12 to 16 months, and then decline.

There are four patterns of attachment, including:

         Secure attachment

Children who can depend on their caregivers show distress when separated and joy when reunited. Although the child may be upset, they feel assured that the caregiver will return. When frightened, securely attached children are comfortable seeking reassurance from caregivers.

       Avoidant attachment

Children with an avoidant attachment tend to avoid parents or caregivers, showing no preference between a caregiver and a complete stranger. This attachment style might be a result of abusive or neglectful caregivers. Children who are punished for relying on a caregiver will learn to avoid seeking help in the future.

         Ambivalent attachment 

Child shows little exploration and is wary of stranger. Greatly upset when separated from mother, but not reassured by mother’s return or her efforts at comforting. Child both seeks and avoids contact at different times. May show anger toward mother at reunion, and resists both comfort from and contact with stranger.

         Disorganized attachment

 These children display a confusing mix of behavior, seeming disoriented, dazed, or confused. They may avoid or resist the parent. Lack of a clear attachment pattern is likely linked to inconsistent caregiver behavior. In such cases, parents may serve as both a source of comfort and fear, leading to disorganized behavior.

The central theme of attachment theory is that primary caregivers who are available and responsive to an infant's needs allow the child to develop a sense of security. The infant knows that the caregiver is dependable, which creates a secure base for the child to then explore the world.

Among the four patterns of attachment, best matches on my attachment style is secure attachment. I asked my mom, dad and grandma about this four attachments and they said that I am suitable or fits me the secure attachment. They said that when I was a child I tend to  depend on my mom that show distress when separated and joy when reunited. I may be upset but I feel assured that my mom will return. And when someone or one of the family member scolded I always run to my mom and ask for help.

At the present, I still adhere to that attachment style which is the secure attachment. I just observed that I felt attach to my mom up until now and when she’s on grocery or in the market and left me at home I really felt upset but when the moment she arrived joys in my heart. And also when I do have a problem I always run into her.

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