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EDUCATE YOUR SONS!

We are no longer tell women what to wear, how to act, or what to do in order to fix an issue that is caused by men. If a woman wants to wear a short shirt with a crop top, she can! This does not mean that she is looking for the attention or validation of men. This simply means she wanted to wear a short shirt and a crop top because she felt like it. Stop blaming women for the actions men choose to take. 

I know April is sexual assault awareness month, but that doesn’t mean it should only get talked about in that one month. This is a topic that should be talked about continuously year-round. Educate boys and men on the importance of consent . How it doesn’t matter what a girl is wearing, it doesn’t mean she is asking for sexual interaction. Teach them that consent cannot be given if someone is under the influence. Teach them that no means no, but so does “I’m uncomfortable, I don’t want to, maybe another time, I’d rather do X, etc.” 

https://www.instagram.com/p/COTdXQXsLuC/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet 

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YES! Support all women!

To be a feminist, doesn’t mean you can pick and choose when you want to want equality for women. If you support straight women, you should support women of the lgbtq+, sex workers, women of different cultures, yes all women! Everyone deserves equal rights and opportunities, not just who you think fits the gender norm.

This TikTok does a great job and keeping the topic light-hearted even though it’s a serious topic. It gets straight to the point in a fun and uplifting way. She dancing in the video but added words to the screen addressing the topic when she could have just posted the dancing video by itself. This is what I love to see! She is using her social media platform to share something she is passionate about in a positive way!

She supports all women and I support her!

https://www.tiktok.com/@the.sisofficial/video/6929598657960496389?sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6957733562771867142&is_from_webapp=v1&is_copy_url=0 

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Please get your facts straight

Because just believing us isn’t good enough, here are the facts! Yes, overall both individuals have stuff that makes things hard for one another, however, women face problems that men don’t have to worry about! We face problems that men don’t even think about having. We live in a society where it is designed for the success of men. You might think it’s not that big of a deal, but the fact that a car’s safety features are designed for men, and to best accommodate them, is a thing is a huge problem. Women are more likely to get hurt in a car accident simply because they have a different body structure than a man. No, that’s not fair. There needs to be a solution to this problem. Whether it’s building a safety feature that accommodates both men and women or making an alternate choice of cars for both men and women that will best suit their body type. 

And cars aren’t the only problem, this is just one example mentioned in the video. This problem is that the norms in our society are built off of men. Their body type, their language, their thought process, this is all considered to be the correct and normal way. This is not the case. We need to change the way the norm is viewed. Something inclusive that can be beneficial to everyone!

https://www.tiktok.com/@mrvdk/video/6888789760144428294?sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6957733562771867142&is_from_webapp=v1&is_copy_url=0 

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I wear what I want!

Women can wear whatever they want! Yes, WHATEVER they want! That doesn’t mean they can wear whatever they want, it fits society’s beauty standards. If a woman chooses to wear something that is more revealing, that is great! If a woman chooses to cover up, that is great as well! The same way a crop top might bring some women confidence, is the same way hijabs, burkas, and other cover-ups might bring other women confidence. No one should feel like they are being judged for wearing what they choose to. 

As women, they tell us we are free to do whatever we want, but then they judge us when it’s not what they want. NO! This is my body, I get to choose how I want to display it! You will not criticize how I choose to live my life!

https://www.instagram.com/p/CNaS7Oxs2OA/?igshid=pei3qrob2t1p 

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“We all run the same race”

This picture does an excellent job demonstrating the barriers that women have to overcome on their career journeys. Everyone has the same opportunity, however, some paths are harder to walk than others. Women have been placed with the responsibilities of cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, and taking care of the children when in reality, none of those things are things only women need to do. They are essential jobs that have to get by everyone, of all sex and gender, to survive in life. Society has put the expectations on women and I’m over the double standard. Women are expected to compete and succeed in a society that is not meant for them to thrive in. When are men going to take some of the responsibilities without complaining or having to be asked?

It is time to change the gender norms. No reason for them to not have the exact same responsibility that women and mothers have. If a man has a child, he should bear the responsibilities of a child the same way the women have to. 

https://www.instagram.com/p/CNpVfbOptI4/?igshid=1aan1tozpx2j8

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The disrespect.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CC7RNgvl6DS/?igshid=17as8wbingeft

Apologizing to the man? For what?? You didn’t do anything to him? This is so irritating. The fact that these men felt the need to apologize to the man and not the woman is frustrating. They didn’t see the problem in what they were doing until seeing that she was with someone and even then, saw it as disrespectful to the man.

This is not an uncommon occurrence. Men see women as sexual objects or someone’s possession. Boyfriend or not, women should not be catcalled. This is a disrespectful way of letting a girl know that you find her body attractive. Sexualizing her for what is on the outside. I don’t know why men think this is okay but it’s dehumanizing. We’re not pets that you can call to get our attention, nor something we should answer to.

Women are more than just our bodies! Please keep your dehumanizing comments to yourselves.

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Education is a powerful tool.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CMpwlJzsXWq/?igshid=19a45n3mvsgmk (the poem in the caption)

Everyone learned something from somewhere. Men who choose to bash and talk bad about women were once taught that from someone before them. When are we going to make a change in the way men are learning this information. Men have made up their own assumptions of women for too long and everything needs to be retaught. 

Women are talked to as if we are the problem so we have to change our behaviors. We have to wear more clothes, we shouldn’t get so drunk, we should watch where we walk home at night. Why do we have to change our behavior when it’s men who are the ones in the wrong and violating women. 

This poem is so honest and true. It’s time to acknowledge the real problem and do something to change it. The goal to for women to not have to live a life in fear the same way men don’t. Change starts from the top, and we demand to be heard. 

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Call us crazy then!

https://www.instagram.com/p/BuRaz4UgSB_/?igshid=vv47cou0ab50

Why is it that men are allowed to show emotions in sports but women get backlash for it? Why are women looked at as “crazy” when we want to be able to do the exact same thing a man does? When we fight for equal opportunities, that’s overstepping boundaries. NO! We just want equality. 

We as women have been against odds for as long as we can remember, but yet still fight to get what we want. We’re going to keep fighting and testing societal norms until the change we want is made. We are no longer living in the times when women didn’t have any rights. 

This video reminds us as women to keep going! Keep fighting if the odds are against you! Keep fighting if people talk about you! Keep fighting even if everyone says you’re crazy! You’re not. You’re a strong, independent woman, and THAT is what they are afraid of!

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NCAA, Do Better!

https://www.instagram.com/p/CMlmJNHDIor/?igshid=ek6f8kjluuhb 

This has to be a joke. Someone, please tell me this is a joke. You have got to be kidding me! So just forget Title IX then right? I wouldn’t be surprised to see something like this from the professional league but from the NCAA? This is straight-up disrespectful.

For those that don’t know, NCAA is the organization in charge of college athletics. Title IX is an amendment that gives women the opportunity for equal rights when it comes to funding in sports. And yet, this act was as far from equal as possible. How does men’s basketball have an entire weight room for their lift and women’s basketball was given one set of dumbbells and some yogas mats? NCAA’s argument was that it had nothing to do with money and everything to do with space. This was not the case, they had more than enough space as you can see.

Once these posts went viral, many companies, such as Dick’s sporting goods, donated weights, equipment, and everything they need to compete to the best of their ability. Nice to see that other people care about women’s sports. NCAA, do better. 

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Nike doing the damn thing!

https://www.instagram.com/p/CMZEIfdhFIS/?igshid=1mffweioqqygk

Yes, Nike!! Yes! Yes! Yes! The brand we all love oh so much is promoting moms in sports! We live in a society where women athletes are looked down upon once they are pregnant. But why? Women’s lives do not have to stop when they have a kid. If they were an athlete before, who’s to say they can’t still be one during and after? 

Nike does a great job of uplifting motherhood through its brand. They define what it means to be an athlete. Someone who moves? Someone who gets it done no matter what? Someone who listens to their body? Someone who deals with the pain and pushes past it? Someone who earns every win? According to Nike, a mother that does all of these things is a mother that is an athlete. 

It’s so cool to see a post like this. You can truly see how far women have come from where we used to be and we’re not done yet!

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Silence kills.

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This article, “The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action” by Lorde is an article about the danger of silence. Lorde is right in her statements. Women say silence for many reasons and not all of them are good ones. Yes, some women staying silent can be for their safety and well-being. If this is the case, yes women should stay silent. However, if a woman is simply staying silent because of her fear of rejection, change, being wrong, etc. then as a woman it’s time to overcome that fear. We can make a change, that’s what we were born to do. We were given mouths, a voice, and reasoning for a reason.

This article is talking about how women should still speak on their gut feeling even if they are unsure of the outcome. This example reminded me of when I was younger and had something I wanted to say to someone in my life. What held me back was the fear of how I thought they were going to respond. The best advice I got at that time was to do it scared. Just because I’m scared, doesn’t mean I shouldn’t do it. So I did it, and I did it scared. 

All of the stress I was putting myself through was released once I spoke on what was weighing on my heart to that person. And what do you know? Looking back now, that was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life. As a woman, I learned that we have to stand up twice as much as men. Once for ourselves, and once for the ones that are not quite ready.

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How can I ruin sports for men today?

https://www.picuki.com/media/2501080561528688317

Yes, everything we do is to make men mad. What else is there to do with our lives? Every morning I have a group facetime with all of my friends that are girls and we ask each other how we can make men’s lives so much more difficult through sports. Yeah, you see how ridiculous that sounds. We don’t plan our lives around you guys, y’all are not that special.

Women in sports have been an issue for a long time and are still a problem today. Whether this is women on tv talking about sports, or women actually doing sports themselves. Men act like the world revolves around them and that is far from the case. Women don’t care enough! Why are we going to go out of our way to make you uncomfortable or mad? We are simply doing the same things men do. The only difference is we get judged for it. Why are men allowed to be commentators on sports that they have never played before but when a woman does it, it’s wrong. One of the women in the video even mentioned having a straight face on tv. Why does that irritated men? They do it all the time. Women aren’t allowed to express emotions that take them out of this perfect little box that men put them into. What does one’s knowledge of the game have to do with their physical ability? Exactly, nothing! Just because a woman never played the sport, doesn’t mean she didn’t put in the hours and work in for her to have a full understanding of it. 

I love videos like this. It brings awareness and understanding to the problem at hand. It puts it into a perspective that maybe men didn’t see it in before allowing them to acknowledge the problem.

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Girls and boys are equal??

Yeah, sure we are. We live in a society that is known for equal opportunities, or at least that’s what they want you to think. What is equal about the society we live in, please enlighten me because it’s definitely not equal for women. Look at this picture alone. Let’s start with the fact that this is a textbook. YES, A TEXTBOOK! The big bulky books they use to teach grade school kids and adolescents before entering the working world. 

From a young age girls are taught they are inferior to men. It is their job to learn how to cook and clean so they are able to take care of their partners when they get one. It is their job to have a home-cooked meal ready for your partner when they come home from work. Don’t forget the house needs to be cleaned while you are also in charge of taking care of the children.

These people of higher status are telling us one thing, but then history and reality are telling us another. There is proof this men and women are not treated equally and yet we still have media and people with status telling us we are. We, women, are put into little boxes and are expected to stay in our place, why? Because you said so? I don’t think so. We want equal opportunities, equal pay, equal connections, everything. Whether it takes 10 years or 10,000 years, we won’t stop fighting until we get it.

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Yes, I play like a girl!

Yeah, this is what we’re not going to do. We are not going to discredit women in sports! Last week this athlete from Florida State University softball, one of the best teams in the country, made an amazing play. She jumped up, caught the ball, and tagged the runner midair in between her legs. The athlete was recognized by some of the best players in the game of both softball and baseball. One of these players was Javier Baez from the Chicago Cubs! The best of the best! If one of the best players in the game can acknowledge a great play regardless of the sport or gender, so can everyone else. 

This screenshot is just a couple out of many more comments saying the same thing. “Softball isn’t a sport.” “Pretty good for a girl.” “She got lucky.” Looking at one of the comments, “Great play but...” Why the but? What is the reason behind it? Why do men feel the need to put women in sports down? Women will put just as much time, energy, and effort into sports and will still get overlooked. A woman can be better than a man in a sport and it will still be downplayed. “She’s only better because women’s sports are easier.”

No! Accept that women are no longer just housewives that wait around to take care of their partners all day. Yes, we play sports, yes we compete, and yes are good at them as well! Get used to it because we are here, and are here to stay.

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Yes, I’m a slut, and what??

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/us-news/womans-brilliant-response-right-wing-13025860

You will call anyone a slut! According to you, I’m a slut because of what I wear, how I act, and the number of sexual partners I’ve had. That’s crazy cause none of those even tie into one another. In this video, this girl gets called a slut for the way she dressed, but yet she’s a virgin. Tell me how much sense that makes. She got called a slut for fully embracing her body without the opinions of others. 

These are the labels placed on women that are created by men. Men place these false, judgemental stereotypes on women to belittle and categorize them. Words like slut, hoe, whore, etc. can not be compared because they are strictly opinion-based. A man can say a woman is a slut because she has one sexual partner, while another man will say she needs to have at least 20 sexual partners before she is considered a “slut”. On top of that, if a man has a lot of sexual partners he is praised, but if a woman has the same number of bodies as her she is shamed for it. IT’S SUCH A DOUBLE STANDARD. But that’s a topic for a different day. 

The best part about this video is the girl reclaiming the word slut. She is taking it and giving it a completely different meaning than what men consider it to be. In this case, she is saying everyone a slut because of how meaningless the word is. To be a slut means that you “own your body.” Do whatever you want unapologetically, and in the eyes of society, that means you’re a slut. 

So yes, I am a slut. I’m a slut because I own my body, do whatever I want with my body, and am not sorry for it.