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June 14

I know right now nasasakal ka na sa mga ginagawa ko. Lately lagi nalang tsyo magkasama since nung grumaduate ako. I did my part lang nung nagaaral ka pa. To make you’re safe and walang proproblemahin. And alam ko may hangganan yun kasi matatapos din ang school year mo. And d ko na magagawa un next time. Sinulit ko nalang. You told me na papasama ka sa la salle para iprocess ang graduation mo. Sinabi ko last na muna talaga to. Ayaw ko na araw arawin. Ayaw ko magsawa ka saakin. For the last time natapos natin ang graduation mo. Wala ka ng iisipin and i did my part also. Iniiwasan ko lang na magkaroon ka ng hassle. Sabi ko after neto gawin ko naman ang sarili ko. Tapusin ko muna duty ko and ill do my review also. Pero didnt expect na makakapunta ako sa inyo nung friday. Ayaw ko kasi na lumala ang sakit mo. Siguro dahil sa mga napagaralan ko kaya concerned na concern ako. Takot ako na lumala ang nararamdaman mo. Sabi ko ulit last na talaga to. Madalhan lang kita ng pagkain at gamot uuwi na agad ako. D rin naasahan ang ngyari nung kinagabihan at pati ang knabukasan nun. And nararamdaman ko n ito na ata ang hudyat na sarili ko din naman ang intindihin ko. I chose my course hindi lang sa pansarili ko pati nadin sa family ko at sa magiging pamilya ko. I will become a father soon. I will start learning on things to nurture my own family. Gagawin ko ang mga bagay na hindi nagaa ng family ko. And hinding hindi ko gagawin ang mga mali na nagawa ng family mo. And same as you. Alam ko ganun din ang thinking mo. Ayaw mo matulad ang anak mo sa mga nangyari sayo. Yan ang nabobother sa sarili ko . Gusto ko mag simula ng pamilya na magkasama buo sng pamilya natin. Sa ngsyon Oo sobrang aga pa nga na magsettle down. But i know may pinanghahawakan akong assurance na we will be together soon. And first of all lagi si God ang center ng buhay natin. Para malayo sa temptasyon at problema.

I know na bobother ka sa mga sinasabi ko o pinapakita ko na ayaw ko umalis ka sa tabi ko o dito sa Pilipinas. Matagal na akong payag na kahit umabroad ka okay lang saakin. Kahit labag to sa kalooban ko kasi mawawalay ako sayo . Okay lang saakin . In the first place ayaw ko humadlang sa mga goals mo . Sa mga plano mo . Somehow tinake advantage ko lang yung mga words na sinabi ni tita. Umaasa na magkaroon pa ng chances kahit sa Pilipinas ka lang. I tried lang naman. I don’t know kung ano ang outcome kung positive man o negative. I should take it.

I have this weakness of myself. Lahat ng mga tao iniiwan ako. Lumalayo saakin. Tulad ng parents ko . Family ko. Also mga friends ko. Im tired of being alone in this world. Siguro nga ang kinalakihan ko is sobrang boring and ganon ang mga ngyayare. Introvert. Nagiisa. Pero sinanay ko na sarili ko. At binago ko na ang ugali kong yun.

Nung May, pinagisipan ko talaga dati. When you are in abroad na. I know for myself im still be consistent to you. Parehas naman tayo ng plano sa huli. And yun nalang ang panghahawakan ko sa huli habang nasa malayo ka. Gagawin ko nalang inspirasyon para magawa ko din ang mga plano ko habang ginagawa mo ang iyo. Alam ko magkakatagpo lang din naman tayo sa dulo.

5years or more. Maybe this time its a hard time to think. Kung gaano ka tagal na challenge ito. Pero this is not a game. Its about love, loyalty and consistency. Dito naman din masusukat sa isat isa. Kong gaano tayo ka totoo sa isat isa na handang maglaan ng oras o panahon kahit gaano katagal. Mahal padin natin ang isat isa. Hindi ako naniniwala sa destiny at tandhana. Nasa tao lang talaga kung tapat ka at totoo. Nagtatagal talaga.

Minsan naiisip ko lang mga plano natin and I know matutupad natin yun isat isa. Yung mga nakalagay na to do list mo . Dadagdagan natin yun at tutuparin isat isa.

Im always here to support your dream. Wag ka lang mapagod at magsawa saakin. Mahal na mahal kita. Kahit ano man ang mangyari. I give you all my trust. And I love you always and always and always.

Soon mahahanap mo din ang sarili mo . And cant wait till it comes. Naeexcite na ako. Iloveyouu.

Please tanggalin natin ang awkwardness. Mas dapat maging mature tayo harapin ang mga problema natin. Mas dapat maging open lang sa isat isa. Wag matakot na magsabi. And first unawain lang lagi at gawing center si God sa lahat ng desisyon at bagay.

We start our phase in adulthood. Nagsisimula na tayo. And problems dadating yan. Lagpasan natin un isat isa. Para sa future natin. Unahin muna natin sarili natin. Hindi matagal yun. Kayang hintayin yun. Hahahahaha No problems can hinder us. I love you.

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1 Corinthians 13:4-13New International Version (NIV)

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

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Hi . Im posting again. Great day kahapon. Una. Nakausap ko mommy mo. And we had a great talk. Nagshshare kami ng ideas. And also how to handle our future. Bi. Isa ka din dun sa napagusapan namn. Paano nga daw kita ihandle. Sobrang baby'ng baby ka namin. Ikaw ang lagi naming inaalala.

Your mom suggested you na pagisipan mo mabuti ang gagawin mo. Hindi solution para maging successful ang isang tao sa pag aabroad. You can start your success from the bottom. Not directly to the top. Your mom wants you to know the value of doing this. Hindi to parusa and hindi to kabayaran. She wants you to matured further. Malaman mo kung paano mag budget. Paano makuha paunti unti yung gusto mo. And paano ka maka settle down. Hirit pa ng mommy mo. Ayaw niya maranasan sayo ang lahat ng mga nangyari sa kanya. And she also said that mama needs you. Patanda ng patanda na si mama. Scientifically basis mama is on the moody session maybe due to menopausal stage due ro decreasing estrogen or early senior citizen. Siguro nga bi. Di mo pa nakikita ngayon yn kasi malaki ang gap ninyong dalawa. Maybe you think it is impossible kasi malayo ang loob mo sa kanya. Most of the time galit ka sa kanya. Konting saway o salita lang nila you are shookt nagagalit ka ns agad. Kaya you are blind on how to love mama.

Mama sometimes is seeking for attention. Literal na papansin. D niyo lang na rereverse psychology. Mas nauuna lang talaga ang galit niyo. Kaya d kayo nakakapagisip ng maayos. Mas ang naiisip niyo is ang lumayo sa kanya at iwasan siya.

Si mama mo at mommy mo na ang nag sabi. Nagsisisi sila sa mga ginawa nila sayo nung bata ka pa. Na sobrang hot headed sila sayo. They are making sorry sa mga nagawa nila dati. Nag labas ng lahat ng saloobin si mama. Pati nadin si mommy mo. And they regret it kung bakit nila nagawa sayo yun. And both of them doesnt want na mangyari ulit to sa next generation mo o sa magiging anak mo. Mahal na mahal ka nila.

You are graduate. May freedom ka to choose kung ano gusto mong gwin dito sa pilipinas. One and foremost. Sabi mo nga anti social kang tao. Edi paano yan yung sakop mo lng na trabaho is within inside a corner. And ikaw ang nagsabi na maliit ang kita mo dun. How can you conquer it without discoverinh something new. And there are people closes to you to guide your path. To keep you away from danger. I know you have anxieties. And it is painful. Alam ko yn kasi napagdaanan ko yan. For being alone to discover oneself. Mahirap. Nakakabuang. To have companion in life. The one that guides you. Mas better. Mas paunti unti mo ito matutunan. Life is not racing on your own. Its a teamwork. That is a family.

Sum it up . Goodluck sa kung ano mang desisyon mo sa buhay. Pagisipan mo ito mabuti. Wag mo pangunahan ng galit kaya ka nakakapagdecide. Think of what you should do. The advantages and disadvantages. Low or high stakes. We are now building our own family. Gawin mong hindi mangyari ang mga nangyari sayo sa past. Do your best. God has a plan for us. We only just wait kung kelan niya ibubuhos ang pagpapala sa atin. We need to strive more for us to be successful. Kaya natin to. Iloveyou

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5years tayong ldr

D ko alam kung ano ang feelings ko simula nung sinabi mo saakin na bigyan kita ng limang taon para gawin lahat ng gusto mo. Like im crushed into pieces. Kaso hindi kita mapigilan e. Pangarap mo kasi yn. Hindi naman din kita hahadlangan sa mga pangarap mo . Yun nga lang . Mamimiss kita. Isipin mo ba naman 5years. Well kaya ko naman na hintayin ka. Siguro pilitin ko nalang na tiisin kasi after din nun. Alam kong akin na akin na talaga kita. Sisimulan na natin ang pangarap natin sa isat isa. Papakasalan na talaga kita. Hinding hindi na kita papakawalan sa tabi ko . Sabay tayo tatanda na magkasama ang isat isa. Omg ayaw parin mawala sa isip ko ang pagkawalay sayo. Sana nga bago ka umalis. Mapapakasalan na kita kahit sa judge muna. Para kahit papaano alam kong akin ka na. Hahahahhahahhhahaha well plano ko talaga un. Ikaw ang papakasalan ko . Ikaw na gusto ko makasama habang buhay. D ako histerical na paranoid haa. I considered kung ano mga disisyon mo. Basta andito lang ako lagi sayo nakasupporta kahit anong mngyare. Huhuhu i will miss youu Balang araw mababasa mo din ito. Iloveyouu bibi ikaw na ang buhay ko. At seryoso ako sayo.

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Hirap kalabanin ang bored. Eto na naman tayo. Something issue again arise. D ko alam kung kailangan ba talaga to gawing issue or hindi. But para sa kanya issue nga talaga. Self-proclaim ako na gf ko siya. Am i to harsh na ba? Nasasakal ka na ba saakin? Siguro im to confident kung ano man talaga ang mangyayari. Siguro nga nakatingin lang ako sa good na mangyayari. D ko lang din inisip ang bad. What if . D nga niya talaga ako sinagot. What if napagod nga siya saakin what if d naman niya talaga ako gusto. Dumating na ngayon ang mga what if's ng buhay ko. Sobra na ba ako sa mga pinaggagawa ko? Im i worthy nga ba talaga para maging sayo? Ayaw kita tanungin this time na mahal mo nga ba talaga ako. Kasi i know wala pa ngang tayo . Kaya parang ang awkward din na tanungin ko sayo yun. D ko alam sa bawat bigkas ng mga letra sa mga labi mo na mahal mo ako miss mo na ako. Kung totoo ba ito. Kasi sa tuwing tinataboy mo ako . Lahat ng ito parang naging walang saysay at mapapaisip nalang ako kung totoo nga ba ung mga sinasabi mo. Lilipas din to ng mga ilang araw. At maging okay ka na. Mood swing kung baga. Alam ko madami kang issue sa buhay. Yung iba nalagpasan mo yung iba something to discover ko pa. Sana wag ka laging magalit saakin . Bawat maliit na mali ko nakikita mo. Maling move ko lang nalupunan mo agad. Sana ito kahit papaano mabawasan . Hopefully. Ang pagiging seryoso mo sa mga maliliit na bagay na akala ko kampante ako ibahagi sayo ngunit ayaw mo pala . Lahat naman binabago ko. Lahat ng ayaw mo sinusunod ko. D ko na inuulit. Kasi inintindi kita at mahal kita. Wag mong sabhin na lagi nalang kita inuunawa at iniintindi. Yun naman talaga ang dapat e. Alangan naman salubungin kita sa galit mo. Edi mas lalo tayong hindi magkakaunawaan. Nangyare na nga diba nung nagdebate tayo tungkol sa compatibility. And yet nag clash of titans lang tayong dalawa. So iiwasan ko nLang na mangyari ulit un. Imbes na kontrahin kita. Kakausapin nalang kita ng mahinahon at ako nalang ang magpapakumbaba. Sa bawat relasyon may isa dapat ang nagpapakumbaba para mas tumagal ang buhay ng pagsasama ng dalawa. Alam kong mas hahabaan ko lng ang pasensya ko. D din naman kita masisi kung ano desisyon mo sa huli. D ko pwedeng diktahan ang puso mo na mahalin ako. Sana sa huli kung ano man ang disisyon mo. Sana hindi mo ito pagsisihan at maging masaya ka. Sana buo ang puso mo sa pagpili kung ano ang mas nakakararapat sayo.

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and its finally okay. never talaga pumasok sa isip ko ang pagdating ng moodswing niya. nakalimutan ko ang upcoming menstruation niya. so yun btw naging okay na kami. and naging sweet na siya ulit which is lagi kung hinahanap. namiss ko na kashiii hahahahaha. iloveher truly . iloveyou Mahal ! mwuaah 

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if i could have any superpower i would wish for the ability to put my thoughts accurately into words

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Ang sabi ko hindi kita mamimiss. Hanggang kelan ito matitiis. 😭

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if you focus on the hurt, you’ll continue to suffer. if you focus on the lesson, you’ll continue to grow.

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looking forward to be in good terms. iloooveyou

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sobrang nasasaktan lang ako :(

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Hindi ko alam kung masasabi kong mahal mo ako o sadyang naging mahal mo ako kasi naging maeffort ako sayo.at napakaunconditional ng pagmamahal ko sayo. I don’t know kung mahal mo ako the way I am. pinipilit mo akong ilabas ang ugali na which is hindi naman ako. I am who I am. pinapakita ko na kung ano ako sayo ano ako sa family ko at ano ako sa friends ko at ganon din sa mga kilala mo. Eto ako. I dont how to convince you but this is the real me. hindi din naman kita masisisi sa mga naiisip mo kasi . sa nakikita mo sa isang relasyon ay taliwas sa nakikita ko. 

Im pursuing to perfect relationship. Oo walang perpekto na relasyon pero isa lang tong salita next to Godliness, Ayaw ko din naman magkaroon ng hiwalay at miserable na pamilya. mamahalin ko sila higit pa sa pagmamahal ko sa sarili ko. baka sabihin mo hanggang salita lang ako. Puro satsat nalang walang patutuo. Oo hindi pa nangyayare . kaya nga andun nadin tayo sa stage by stage on how to reach the fullfilment of life. Pasensya na pero ang pangarap ko kasi may makasama ako hanggang sa pagtanda ko na mahal ang isa’t isa with their different personalities. Walang parehas na ugali lahat ay unique. Sobra kong hinangaan ang mama at lolo ko. sila ang inspirasyon ko. Doon ko napatotoo and “till death do us part” 

Hindi lahat ng relasyon ay pareparehas. hindi lahat ng lalake/babae ay manloloko. Wag mo lang sana kaming ilahat. Kasi may kanya kanya kami na pananaw sa buhay. 

 “Love isn’t about affection, but to love is giving your whole life with a sacrifice.” Kasi kung mamahalin mo lang ang tao dahil sa gawa niya. Hindi talaga ito nagtatagal. kahit saan ka man magpunta at mag tanong . maraming naghihiwalay sa ganito. “minahal kita kasi mayaman ka, minahal kita kasi, pogi ka, minahal kita kasi ang effort mo saakin, minahal kita kasi ang bait mo saakin, minahal kita kasi ang perfect mo para saakin”. but what if, ito lahat ay naging baliktad? at hindi na satisfy ang needs mo. “mahal bat ka biglang nagbago, mahal hindi na ikaw ang dati kong kilala” mamahalin mo pa ba siya the way kung sino siya? i dont know kung nagets mo ang point ko . “To love a person is by giving a life to others with no measures.” itong qoute ko ay para sa babae at lalake.  

Bibi, MInahal kita higit pa sa tingin mo na ang imperfect mo para saakin. I love the way who you are. Ikaw ay ikaw. Kahit ano pa man ang ginawa mo mahal padin kita. At sana ganon ka din saakin. I will still be loyal and true for you until we were grey and old. :( iloveyou

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Pursue Complementarity, Not Compatibility

Compatibility.

Has any concept done more to hinder the development of love? We hear that once we discover our perfect physical and emotional match, we’ll taste ceaseless fulfillment, experience sizzling romance, and meet one another’s deepest needs. A world of bliss.

Compatibility.

Actually, this approach is fraught with pressure and flawed from the start. Tim and Kathy Keller said it well in The Meaning of Marriage [review]: “Physical attractiveness will wane, no matter how hard you work to delay its departure. And socioeconomic status unfortunately can change almost overnight.” In such relationships, cracks will show, and soon the “compatibility foundation” falls apart. So people rip up their marriages and start over again, believing they married a person they weren’t compatible with.

How tragic! The real issue before every couple is this: none of us is compatible. We’re sinners. That’s why we need something much better and sturdier as the ground of our marriages.

We need complementarity, not compatibility.

Complementary Love

We’re all confused today. Our sexualized culture has lost a script for love, leaving only consent and an eCard in its wake. In such a vacuum, compatibility seems promising as an organizing principle for wedded union. The biblical perspective, however, says the taproot of a happy, healthy marriage is gospel-shaped manhood and womanhood. Life in marriage simply doesn’t make sense without this vision.

Scripture shows us God creates the woman for the man after forming him from the ground (Gen. 2:7, 18). Eve is made from Adam’s own body, indicating both his call to protect her and a connectedness that transcends biology (Gen. 2:21–22). She’s his “helper,” and he’s to “hold fast” to her, which means he’s to lead in love and never let her go (Gen. 2:18, 24). Paul fills out this picture in Ephesians 5:22–33, the Bible’s preeminent passage on what marriage is and should be. By grace, a husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the church. By grace, a wife is to submit to her husband as the church submits to Christ.

Beyond Ephesians 5, Scripture demonstrates that the wife seeks to cultivate what Peter calls a “gentle and quiet spirit” while the husband lives with her in an understanding, self-sacrificial, tender way (1 Pet. 3:4, 7). If God wills, they raise children. They work together to build a happy home in Christ, and he spiritually leads his family, managing it well (1 Tim. 3:4).

Of course, the couple shares much in their marriage. They must extend forgiveness, stir one another to godliness, and mourn together when loved ones die. In these and other ways, they care for each other as every believer should. But their marriage is no gender-neutral laboratory. He’s a man; she’s a woman. As Gavin Peacock and I share in our new book, The Grand Design, God has given us a script for sex and love, one that’s true and good. We don’t know everything about the shape our lives are to take if we marry, but we know a lot.

No One Is Compatible

As stated above, no one’s compatible. Why? Because both spouses are sinners, and sin shreds even the most promising union. Compatibility might exist on paper, but as soon as two sinners start living together, it won’t in practice. Your average Hollywood couple looks so happy on paper—everything seems to match up. It’s a fairy tale! But then tensions creep in. Booming bank accounts and sexual attraction are great, but they won’t solve even the smallest issues that develop when two fallen humans unite in matrimony. Not even close.

Sexual differences matter, too. Modes of problem-solving, emotional expression, intuitional differences—all these and more often play into the strange alchemy that is the man-woman pairing. Though we all face challenges, there’s glory in the Spirit-empowered outworking of a complementary marriage. When the man feels like pulling away, he must remember it’s God’s will for him to cling to his wife. Headship in Scripture means leadership, and one of the most crucial aspects of godly leadership is repentance grounded in humility. Instead of sulking, he fights for his marriage, confesses his sin, and leads in reconciliation.

How unlike the world’s conception of manhood this is.

When the woman feels like lashing out or undermining her husband, she recalls that she puts the gospel on display when she chooses instead to honor him. Being a wife in Scripture means living—in big and small ways—for him, and ultimately for Christ. This is a glorious role, not a cursed one (see 1 Cor. 11:9). His leadership isn’t perfect, but she welcomes it. She strives to live out the family vision, and to bless her home and kids. Her work is vital. The helper, after all, fills a role the leader cannot.

How unlike the world’s conception of womanhood this is.

Where It’s All Headed

Such God-honoring complementarity best explains the beauty of a wedding. The bride walks down the aisle, and the man blinks back tears at God’s grace to him. It’s Genesis 2 all over again. But now the couple needs Ephesians 5—lived out by divine aid—to be truly happy. And beyond this, they and every member of Christ’s church need Revelation 21. Whether single or married, we’re all called to live as a man or a woman for God’s glory. Weddings are terrific, but they speak of a greater consummation—when all the bride of Christ comes home.

We must remember the future in tough moments: when the baby wakes up for the third time at night; when communication breaks down; when opinions strongly differ. We need a strong, self-sacrificial Jesus and his loving, submissive bride emblazoned on our minds. This is what we’re working toward, day after day, until we’re old and gray and the anniversary cake holds decades worth of candles.

Compatibility is great if you can get it, as Matt Chandler has said well. Good communication, specific care for one another, trying activities your spouse enjoys—such practices will help couples bond. We pray to grow together, not to grow apart, over the years. But ultimately, it’s not compatibility that will sustain and strengthen our marriages. It’s complementarity—anchored in Scripture, displayed most happily in Spirit-powered marriages, and fulfilled in the love of Christ and his bride.

https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/pursue-complementarity-not-compatibility

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Psalms 150 - Praise the Lord

Whatever God has gifted you with, give back for His glory and watch Him multiply that gift.

Every morning, God has given us many blessings. We always have ten thousands reasons to thank Him.

Wood while used and handled wears slightly. But when discarded or abandoned becomes useless. It is the same in life. Life withdrawn from life of service becomes useless. God created everything for a purpose: TO GIVE

We have so many things to offer to God. It can be your talent. It can be your time. All of us have an important part in God's ministry. God has been looking for you. God wants to add meaning and significance to your life. Give your life to the Lord. Let God put music to your life.

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