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Of Blorbos, D/s, and Vulnerability

I have noticed in my time in fandom that there is a common thought process that goes like this:

"Blorbo is my fave. I want to see Blorbo in situations that make them sexy and vulnerable. Therefore I'm going to make a fanwork about Blorbo getting railed / bukkake'd / facefucked / etc."

This leads to a situation where the character who is everyone's blorbo has 23948 fics about them getting railed / bukkake'd / facefucked, while the characters who are not so much blorbo tend to get cast as tops/doms who are there to facilitate the railing / facefucking / cumshower upon the blorbo.

I don't think there's anything wrong with this, of course. I am not here to pass judgment on other people's preferences. But to me there is an interesting, and incorrect, embedded assumption in this fandom logic, which is that the best way to get your blorbo all vulnerable and sexy is for them to be the bottom or sub in a scene.

This certainly can be the case. A sub might get vulnerable because they have a hard time trusting people and trusting the dom makes them feel pretty raw. A bottom might feel vulnerable because the societal gendered implications of bottoming might make them feel insecure. Maybe there's some internalized slut-shaming feelings that make several people's cum on their face feel like an indictment of their moral character.

However, as someone who doms in the kink scene IRL and more often writes dom and top POV in my fic than sub and bottom POV, I feel obliged to point out that domming and topping can also put your favorite character in a very vulnerable and sexy position that might be fun to explore in fanwork.

I often see fanart of bottoms crying, shaking, and overstimulated from a scene. I assure you that the same thing can happen to tops. I often see fic where subs struggle with feelings of shame and dirtiness because of their enjoyment at being degraded. I assure you that it can feel just as shameful and dirty, if not more so, to enjoy degrading others; it can be a real emotional struggle to reconcile yourself to having fantasies like that. I often see fic where a sub feels afraid and vulnerable because they're not sure whether they can handle whatever sexy torment is in store for them. I assure you that doms can also feel afraid and vulnerable about whether we can handle doing those same torments, however much we want to do them. Sub drop scene with delicious hurt/comfort aftercare for your fave? The same thing can happen with dom drop.

I completely understand the draw of wanting to put your blorbo in situations that will make them vulnerable. For me, though, that is never going to mean by default that I'm going to depict my fave bottoming or submitting. It means I'm going to put them in all kinds of situations.

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i missed every part of you

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I'm serving as a mediator for some folks and, since I have to be mindful of what I say and do to any of the involved parties and because it has been a long fucking day,

THIS IS SO STUPID. EVERYONE IS SO STUPID. IT'S A GODDAMN BASIC MISCOMMUNICATION AND EVERYONE IS IN THEIR FEELINGS AND MAKING WILD ACCUSATIONS AND IT'S ALL SO STUPID. I HATE EVERYONE INVOLVED.

IF ANYONE USES A POP PSYCH BUZZWORD AGAIN I'M GONNA THROW A TABLE AT THEIR FACE.

I WILL NEVER ACT AS A MEDIATOR AGAIN. I WILL BE THAT HAG IN THE WOODS WHO SHOUTS AT PEOPLE TO EITHER GET THEIR SHIT TOGETHER OR GET THE FUCK OFF MY MOUNTAINSIDE.

"hey what do you do for fun" I FIND PLACES AS FAR FROM OTHER LIVING HUMANS AS POSSIBLE AND PRETEND THAT MY SKIN IS BEING SLOWLY REPLACED WITH MOSS

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Relationships that have real king/lionheart energy, that whole “I have sworn myself wholly to you, I am your sword arm, I am your dog” to someone else’s “you are the one person in this world I can rely on, and I am both bolstered and burdened by your absolute faith in me” vibe, but it’s in circumstances that are like. so low stakes. Manger of a movie theater/the one usher who doesn’t smoke weed at work.

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Gillian Anderson photographed by Nick Haddow.

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Fuuuck, humaning was more difficult than usual today. I kept forgetting to let my reactions show on my face, or to let my posture and stride relax, or to let people talk more than was strictly necessary to get something done without sharply interrupting them. 😓

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Texting my boyfriend the important questions

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sexy vampire!!! i'm falling in love!!!! so just bite me baby and drink all my blood!!!!

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SHOVES ZACKSEPH COWBOY AU IN YOUR FACE.. 2 VERY straight men?! GULPP..

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“𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙞𝙣 𝘿𝙤𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙤 𝙘𝙞𝙩𝙮.”

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FINAL FANTASY VII REBIRTH (2024) dev. Square Enix

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Local paper: "[Local conservative high school] presents theatrical adaptation of the Addams Family! Everyone loves it! Isn't the cast adorable in this photo!"

Me, bullied in said school for being goth and the bullies also assuming that goth = queer, which was a punishable offense in 2005 whether or not you were actually out:

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resting bitch face 😠

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^Photographer: @lillianliuphotography Model: @theresafractale Make-up: @ladyfreakshow​ Hair: @iamdhair_stylist Designer: @lindafriesen.couture

^Photographer: @topheroriel Model: @micaburton

^Photographer: @agnieszka_lorek Model: @theresafractale Designer: @lorysunartistry

^Photographer: @maria_lipina Model: @normila17

^Photographer: @defotograafsanne Model: @modelsensi Make-up and costume: @candymakeupartist

^Photographer: @anniebertramphoto Model: @theresafractale Dress: @maria.heller.designs Earrings: @vespermoth Crown: @nomenjewelry

^Photographer: @thewitchinghourphotography Model: @tee.pimentel

^Photographer: @anniebertramphoto Model: @theresafractale Dress: @feuillemorte.costumery Halo: @mywitchery Earrings: @vespermoth

^Photographer: @simplysavannahart​ Model: @shiennegh Designer: @itisknown

^Photographer: @anniebertramphoto Model: @theresafractale Korset: @royalblack_couture Make-up: @isabellakiefer_makeupandhair

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