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We heal from your blood, poor fragile creatures…

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psychotic women are so inconvenient for abled feminism 

lmao you all like to shout about how you can be rational and aren’t delusional or crazy 

like what about those of us who are???? does that mean we deserve to be hurt and oppressed? hmmm

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My feminism will ALWAYS include trans women, sex workers, women of color, disabled women, fat women, intersex women, poor women, neuroatypical women, and all the other women who are often neglected

Reblog if yours will too (and feel free to include anything i missed)

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Stunning Australian street art shows the world the true face of LGBT people

Australian street artist Astrotwitch launched “Queer the Streets" last year based on the idea that, as they wrote on Tumblr, all the “queer community needs is simply for more people to know that they exist.” Their works are incredible — and every one has the potential to create a change.

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When [an abusive man] tells me that he became abusive because he lost control of himself, I ask him why he didn’t do something even worse. For example, I might say, “You called her a fucking whore, you grabbed the phone out of her hand and whipped it across the room, and then you gave her a shove and she fell down. There she was at your feet where it would have been easy to kick her in the head. Now, you have just finished telling me that you were ‘totally out of control’ at that time, but you didn’t kick her. What stopped you?” And the client can always give me a reason. Here are some common explanations: "I wouldn’t want to cause her a serious injury." “I realized one of the children was watching.” “I was afraid someone would call the police.” “I could kill her if I did that.” “The fight was getting loud, and I was afraid the neighbors would hear.” And the most frequent response of all: "Jesus, I wouldn’t do that. I would never do something like that to her.” The response that I almost never heard — I remember hearing it twice in the fifteen years — was: “I don’t know.” These ready answers strip the cover off of my clients’ loss of control excuse. While a man is on an abusive rampage, verbally or physically, his mind maintains awareness of a number of questions: “Am I doing something that other people could find out about, so it could make me look bad? Am I doing anything that could get me in legal trouble? Could I get hurt myself? Am I doing anything that I myself consider too cruel, gross, or violent?” A critical insight seeped into me from working with my first few dozen clients: An abuser almost never does anything that he himself considers morally unacceptable. He may hide what he does because he thinks other people would disagree with it, but he feels justified inside. I can’t remember a client ever having said to me: “There’s no way I can defend what I did. It was just totally wrong.” He invariably has a reason that he considers good enough. In short, an abuser’s core problem is that he has a distorted sense of right and wrong. I sometimes ask my clients the following question: “How many of you have ever felt angry enough at youer mother to get the urge to call her a bitch?” Typically half or more of the group members raise their hands. Then I ask, “How many of you have ever acted on that urge?” All the hands fly down, and the men cast appalled gazes on me, as if I had just asked whether they sell drugs outside elementary schools. So then I ask, “Well, why haven’t you?” The same answer shoots out from the men each time I do this exercise: “But you can’t treat your mother like that, no matter how angry you are! You just don’t do that!” The unspoken remainder of this statement, which we can fill in for my clients, is: “But you can treat your wife or girlfriend like that, as long as you have a good enough reason. That’s different.” In other words, the abuser’s problem lies above all in his belief that controlling or abusing his female partner is justifiable….

Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (via seebster)

THIS BOOK SAVED MY LIFE AND I CANNOT RECOMMEND IT ENOUGH EVERYONE ON EARTH SHOULD READ THIS *except abusers

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i know a lot of people are gonna be grossed out by this but this is the realest shit ive ever drawn

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"Vi är en skål för alla kvinnors ära. Vi är inte kvinnor, vi är neutrum. Vi är stjärnor utan svindel.”

Foto: Hedvig Jenning Styling: Hanna Kisch

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Silvana Imam i röda ögon svart kostym

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gotarevolution:

What I couldn’t say in public is a series of images exploring anonymous confessions and secrets from all ages of people. The confessions and secrets are posted and left in public places for people to view.  

i. “Some days I miss being a drug addict. At least then my life had purpose.” ii. “I’d rather go to their funeral than their wedding.” iii. “I lied. I do love him.” iv. “I fucking despise myself.” v. “I still regret telling my parents they’re the reason I tried to kill myself.”

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I will destroy you in the most beautiful way possible and when I leave you will finally understand, why storms are named after people.

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Mysteries of time Unfolding in cosmic dreams Leaving life and death meaningless Before the revelation of infinity

Wintersun

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Parks and Recreation Merchandise: http://bit.ly/1nsXYqC

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PSA did you guys know there’s an equivalent to the word “phallic” ?? 

Yonic: resembling of vulva/labia/vagina 

Yonic, from from sanskrit word Yoni 

flowers are yonic, fruit is yonic, i’m so excited that this word exists i literally have only ever heard the word “phallic” until now. YONIC!!

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PHOTOS: Transgender Elders Show Us The Meaning of Survival

In the many years that Jess T. Dugan, a Boston-based trans photographer, has spent capturing images of gender-variant people, she says she’s consistently noticed a striking absence in both art and social sciences: imagery of older trans folks.

"And," Dugan explains further on her website, “those [representations] that do exist are often one-dimensional.” So Dugan set out to fill this gap, teaming up with social work researcher Vanessa Fabbre since fall 2013 to develop the evocative photo project, “To Survive on This Shore.” In the recently released collection, diverse trans elders ages 50 to 86 are pictured at home or in meaningful spaces, gazing unapologetically into the camera, as if asking the viewer to look deeper into their unique context and life story.

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"Black History in Its Own Words"